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Living In: Rochester, New York, USA
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OT- Update on the "chore of cooking" that I commissioned my kid to do.

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Last updated: Jun. 26, 2013 7:21 pm
Posted: Jun. 26, 2013 3:41 pm
 
Answered by: Lindsay
Jun. 26, 2013 3:46 pm
Wish I had been around this morning to participate in the discussion. So, here is the update. She has never recieved allowance. Honestly, she has been way too spoiled, and way to difficult to get to do anything helpful. Well now at age 13 she has some friends who have money in their pockets and she is valuing money more. I have been completely overwhlemed with my life and my responsibilites. So I told her she has to cook two nights a week. She was allowed to pick which two regular nights. She picked Sunday and Wednesday (for whatever reason). She hates cleaning up and doing the dishes after dinner. I mean HATES. So I told her when she cooks, I will clean the kitchen up and do the dishes. There is also a monetary reward if she does ALL her assigned duties. So, she woke late, and I had to remind her to get the crock pot going. Now it's nearing dinner and I remind her about her menu, which includes salad. She asks if I am making the salads. Oye! (to which I tell her no).
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Lindsay
Jun. 26, 2013 3:48 pm
It's going to be rough. She's really struggling with learning responsibility. Drama is her middle name. LOL
 
Lindsay
Jun. 26, 2013 3:50 pm
Ok, one more comment, then I am going to HOPEFULLY be eating this concoction she made. She has very limited cooking skills and has been pretty resistant to learning. Told me when she grows up and leaves the house she will eat fast food or hire someone to cook for her. I told her she better plan on getting a good job then! Ha ha. She is coming along however in learning to read recipes first, all the way through. She now does it half the time, versus never. Also is learning more about cooking by doing it herself. It is a skill she will need and I am glad she will get it now.
 
Volleyballmom
Jun. 26, 2013 5:02 pm
Keep going Lindsay. The rewards will be great in the end. Give a man a fish and all that. My mother did the same with me at that age. Only trouble was I made many mistakes and my parents would laugh resulting in my fear of cooking. Im sure they werent thinking at the time and werent being facetious but I thoroughly disliked cooking til I was in my late 30's. Moral of the story, cook the ground beef before you add it to the shepherds pie! Honestly, how was I supposed to know? Lol
 
Answered by: duboo
Jun. 26, 2013 3:51 pm
As a father of twin girls, now 20, I will promise you that it will get better in time. When they left for college, I was appreciative of my quiet house, and when they returned (as friends!) I adored the people they became. Not every day is a step forward, but most are. My girls are both home from their second year of college and like to be with us and help us. Sometimes, time apart, time to grow up on their own is very necessary. A few bruises even. It will get better. I promise.
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Thisni Caza
Jun. 26, 2013 4:18 pm
Well state, duboo, and I completely concur. Hang in there, Lindsay. It is important that she learn these skills. When I got married, I had made exactly one meal in my lifetime. I didn't even make my own bed or wash dishes.
 
Answered by: Semigourmet
Jun. 26, 2013 4:52 pm
I a boy the rest of my siblings had girls. by son was sooooo lazy that two steps to get food ready was too much. he ate cold everything and well, I use the term ate loosely he inhaled and still does, (28 years old now) admits that he doesn't aste most of what he eats as it goes down too fast. LOL! but he actually does the cooking in his relationship. and Likes it! WOW talk about shaking it up!! if he can do it there is hope for your daughter yet! Hang in there mom!
 
Answered by: Lindsay
Jun. 26, 2013 7:21 pm
Thanks everyone. Such heartwarming and encouraging stories. Her dinner completely flopped tonight. I think she was crushed. It smelled great, but was not good at all. Both grandma and I wre supportive, telling her it wasn't her, and that in reality some recipes aren't good. We just moved on and didn't make a fuss. Tonight she and I had some hard work to do moving our stuff put of garage and into a storage unit. We both worked really hard, sweating our butts off. On the way to the sorage she says in a meek voice (which is unusual) I have an idea we go.to the beach after we unload, but Idoubt we will.I said sure, great idea. It was sunset and we got frozen custard. There happen to be a huge free. Concert ending. We talked like human beings, enjoying one and other. She told me she had a great time and we should go again. Thank god for these times, they make the hard ones bearable.
 
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