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I took a walk 
Apr. 9, 2013 6:27 am 
Updated: Apr. 9, 2013 6:07 pm
As far as days go yesterday was not five star stellar post it in the papers kind of day. It started off bad and while it looked like there might be a turn around and the day end up being an okay day, but no it ended as bad as it started. So bad that I went to bed early only to sit straight up in the bed somewhere in the middle of the night realizing I did not give Mom her meds.
    Monday dawned bright and beautiful Bill had the day off and we were headed to the shore or somewhere cute and quaint to walk , have lunch and just in general enjoy the first summer like day of the season. Nope not to be his phone rings and he has to go to work. A small argument rises, I am mad he answered the phone and he well he is Bill and perfect so I only have myself to be mad at because after all I handed him the phone. So as I step out on the back deck to have the last word I notice it is already warm enough that you don't even need a jacket. I decide that I will go to the shore myself, maybe even call ShoreCook and see if she would like to have lunch. I'm just firming up the plans in my head when I hear CRASH BANG BOOM! I go look and sure enough Mom has fallen. Her walker is on the other side of the room and she is pulling herself up hanging on to the dresser,going to help her I ask why she isn't using her walker. Her answer was simple enough she didn't know she needed a walker. There go my plans flying right out the window. Mom is up like 3 hours earlier then normal and is not thinking to clear so I will be staying home with her. All settled  in her chair her meds taken breakfast done she is happily knitting ,what she is knitting she has no idea but she is happy and that is all that matters. I get up to go to the kitchen and mom looks at me and says something incredibly mean and nasty. I know it is the dementia doing this but it has been going on for a few weeks now and I am running out of ignore it power if you know what I mean. 
 I decide I just have to get out and have some me time no Mom, house or yard work no thinking about anything at all. After thinking about it I can't go far or be real long so it is off to the state park for me. I fix Moms lunch set it up for her put the TV on a good movie that was just starting and pack the dogs in the car and aim for Smithville state park with one of the best walking paths ever. I was being brave bringing the 2 dogs with me because they can be a hand full and it has been a while since they had been on a leash. I didn't need to worry we get out of the car and they start to yank my arm out of its socket in their excitement, a good strong tug from me and a voice that meant business when I said if you pull me 1 more time this walk is over and we are back in the car was all it took they walked like gentle men the whole 2 miles. What a perfect day for a walk,warm but not hot the sun bright and beautiful not a cloud in the sky and the air smelled so fresh. A wonderful spring day. Not too much was blooming yet still there was plenty to see. I think the trees look so pretty all covered in buds,the red buds are my favorite. Taking the dogs to the waters edge to get a drink I couldn't figure out why they were backing up and pushing me away from the water until I took a closer look and saw the little Gardner snake on the edge of the water its little tongue just flicking away. The turtles sunning themselves were like little clowns the way they were acting. On the last leg of our walk I saw up ahead what I thought was a big dog from where I was I was thinking I was looking at a chow. You know those big beautiful dogs that look like teddy bears. It wasn't a Chow it wasn't even a dog. It was a turkey fanning his feathers. I tried to get a picture of him fanning his feathers but he was done with that when I at last was close enough to get a photo, and yes the dogs just sat and let me get the picture. Feeling much better I head for the car with lunch on my mind. I make a quick stop at WAWA's and get water for the dogs and a sandwich for me. Back in the car I am thinking of a nice spot to go and eat my lunch when it dawns on me I wanted to have lunch at the beach so go have lunch on the beach. That is exactly what I did I had lunch on the beach.....in my back yard. Madeline's sand pile is called the beach. The view is good and it is in the sunshine so I am happy sitting in the sand eating my chicken salad hoagie with out the seagulls hovering over me. 
  Sounds like my day has turned around right, me too I think so as well the kinks are out of my neck and stomach has untwisted. I drive back up to the house just as Bill comes home. Kisses hugs happy to see each other into the house we go and Bill thinking of me trying to help and be supportive proceeds to tell Mom off for the way she has been treating me making her cry and putting the kinks back in my neck and the knots right back in my stomach. Mom goes to her room Bill goes outside I stand alone in the living room thinking as soon as dinner is done I am going to bed and I did pretty much just that.
  Today has dawned bright and beautiful and as soon as I finish this I am on my way to the shore for that walk along the beach. At least that is what I tell myself anyway.
The snake
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funny turtles
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Hey guys wait for me
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The boys
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Tom Turkey
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The beach
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Apr. 9, 2013 8:29 am
Oh Joey, I have a lot of days like that recently. I just try and think that tomorrow will be better. It is a one day at a time for me. Sometimes it is one minute at a time. God will never put more on us than we can handle. He gets real close though.
Apr. 9, 2013 9:35 am
Char I hear you. I do pretty good at ignoring all that stuff and just go about my day it just doesn't always work that way. I am thankful for such a nice park so close to go to and find some peace and renew my strength.
Apr. 9, 2013 9:56 am
Oh, Joey. I feel for you with all the responsibility you have on you. I know it must be hard, but I respect you so much for taking on the care of your mother. Continue those walks on the beach as long as you can to clear your head and get some "me" time. Sometimes just a little time alone helps the perspective.
Apr. 9, 2013 10:59 am
Yes Paula you are right Me time almost always restores me to a calmer happy person.
Apr. 9, 2013 11:25 am
Joey, You need help. http://www.state.nj.us/humanservices/doas/home/sadcfact.html.....I know you have tried but tell them you have no means of getting there, nor anyone to stay with Mom while you are out of the house and that you need a MSW to come to see your situation and do an intake.
Apr. 9, 2013 1:21 pm
Thank you BSM I wrote it down as you said it lets see if it works.
Apr. 9, 2013 5:01 pm
Hey Joey such a moving story. Totally hit home as having been through it. My wife worked part time for an organization called home instead they offer all types of services and are non contractural you can have some one watch mom when you need a break. This co. Is on SC but you may find similar in your area our local rates are about 18-25 per hour depending on services and ins. Covers in most cases good luck and god bless
Apr. 9, 2013 6:07 pm
Grumpygrandpa thank you so much for the information.
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I am married I work part time in a flower shop. have 1 grandchild and 1 son.I like to cook,sew,make soap and I love the ocean.
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I love making fried foods,it is not so healthy for you but the flavor and juciness of fried food can't be beat.
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Hands down has to be the Thanksgiving meal.The whole thing from the turkey to the pumpkin pie.
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Gravy! I am now the Queen of gravy but that wasn't always so.Lumpy was the least of my problems.For years I would buy the gravy in a jar,not any more I got determined and I mastered the art of gravy.
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