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Cooking a memory in life! 
Jan. 20, 2013 8:07 pm 
Updated: Feb. 19, 2013 5:13 am

 I have been cooking as long as I can remember. As a kid I helped my sister in laws,grandma, aunt and stepfather cook every thing from rabbit stew to chocolate pudding. One thing I learned as a child was if my mom was doing it don't do it that way. Other then Thanksgiving turkey mom was a terrible cook. That didn't matter because I was surrounded by wonderful cooks and they all were happy to share their secrets with me.

      In my mid 20's I married a man of simple taste. When I say simple taste I mean plain. Jar tomato sauce was better then homemade, Salt, Pepper,& garlic Powder were the only spices allowed, and meat loaf on Mondays was what was expected. Boy oh Boy did that bore me. Still I stuck it out for 22 years and well pretty much just stopped cooking, well I cooked but not really, out of a box ready in 30 minutes kind of stuff nothing that required thought or planning. I loved cooking growing up and truly missed it, but every time I tried to step it up a notch life would get less then happy in my house so I stopped trying and then eventually I just stopped cooking.

         My poor son he was the normal teenager that came out of his room only for school and meals.He never came out of his room for all of high school. Well he came out for school and to fix what ever frozen food was in the freezer for his dinners, but he had no idea what a dinner table or a family dinner was and had come to the conclusion his mother could not cook.

     After 22 years and our sons 18th birthday I found myself free and clear to play in the kitchen once again and no one to play for. My son had a job in one of the best seafood restaurants in the city and my husband was now my ex.The kitchen in the house I was living at the time was awful, small,dank,& dark but I started playing a little here and there and so enjoying the results. Gravy a long standing hard to figure out concept was starting to actually be gravy. I was once again making red sauce from scratch and Mac&Cheese no longer was coming from the little blue box. My son missed all this because he was busy at work, dating and being an 18 yr old young man.

     A year or so after the split between Jim and I, I met and started dating a guy I fondly called farmer Bill. He had a charming smile, an engaging laugh, and the most beautiful blue eyes. He also had a kitchen that to me was huge and ever so bright, with counter space and windows. I loved hanging out spending time in the kitchen just creating what ever I could think of. There was also a garden that was by a city girls standards big (about an acre). 

     When the fall came and I was still there I was in heaven playing in that kitchen canning, freezing and drying out the garden goodies.

       One day Billy(son) was out at Farmer Bills house and I fixed dinner for us all. As we sat down to dinner Billy says where did get this delivered from. Bill laughs out loud and says "your mother made this." My son pauses for less then 30 seconds and says " My Mom never cooks!" That was almost 7 yrs ago and I still laugh when I think about that dinner.

     Through the years Billy has come and cooked with me and Bill and enjoy a dinner here and there, as well as the holidays. Billy and I cook side by side and enjoy each others company as we share recipes and new ideas with each other.

     My Mom is now here living with me and Farmer Bill. Sunday night dinner has been restored. It is a wonderful thing to cook side by side  with my son and cook a quilt of memories to last for years to come. Even better is the Sundays when little miss Madeline my granddaughter is in the kitchen helping as well.

     There is a song with the words" isn't strange how a melody can sound like a memory". Well isn't strange how a recipe smells like a memory.Some of my fondest memories of my Grandma are of her in the kitchen frying chicken and her pretty pink apron. I can only hope I leave memories like that for Madeline.

Jan. 20, 2013 8:45 pm
Oh gosh - You are making memories, daily. Your Madeline will always remember as well as the rest of the family. Very nice blog, Joey, great food for thought.
Jan. 20, 2013 11:41 pm
I enjoyed your blog very much. Your last paragraph is very touching. Thanks for sharing. My orange ribbon friend! :)
Jan. 21, 2013 3:43 am
Sunday dinners has always been a long-standing tradition at my house. As a kid it was the only meal my father insisted was just "for family" and no friends allowed. Mom always made potroast or chicken or spaghetti. Dessert was something more special than canned fruit or pudding or jello. When I married, Sunday dinner tradition was carried on, however, as my kids grew older we insisted that friends were allowed. That change in tradition came about because I discovered my kids had friends who did not know what a diningroom table was or that you could actually enjoy a meal with others. Now my kids are grown and gone, but we still have quite a few Sunday dinners. Last night was spaghetti & meatball Sunday with my daughter, son-in-law, and our "adopted" family. There was much laughing and eating going on here last night! I enjoyed your blog - Madeline is definitely going to remember these fun times with you in the kitchen.
Jan. 21, 2013 4:35 am
Thank you everyone, it felt so good to write again and I live for the Sunday night dinners.
Jan. 21, 2013 6:39 am
Touching blog! Funny how kitchens can make such good memories.
Jan. 21, 2013 7:20 am
The fondest memories are made when gathered in the kitchen. Great blog Joey!
Jan. 21, 2013 9:47 am
Hi Joey!!! How is the round up plans coming!! I hope to make the next one!! I am a neighbor (Cherry Hill) but just can't make it this year with wee ones!!! PS - we love seafood .... Can you share where you son worked???
Jan. 21, 2013 3:03 pm
Great blog Joey! Sounds like you got a winner in Farmer Bill. (And he got a winner in you.)
Jan. 21, 2013 5:14 pm
Smell is the sense most apt to evoke memories. Sage stuffing and Chantilly perfume bring me right back to my Grandmother's minute kitchen that produced a never ending flow of wonderful food. Years from now Madeline will have similar memories too.
Jan. 22, 2013 7:20 am
Heather I am still pushing forward and it looks like a day trip for a lot of people. A few will be weekenders. I am excited about it. It is true the kitchen no matter how small, big, fancy,or plain always has the best memories. Thank you I am glad you all enjoyed reading this and that it made you think of your own happy memories.
Jan. 22, 2013 8:50 am
I'm glad you're able to be back writing, Joey. It's good therapy for you and enjoyable reading for all of us.
Jan. 22, 2013 9:42 am
I'm glad you're happy now. Cooking is such therapy and it takes me right back sometimes with my Mom in the kitchen and the lovely smells she always produced. My Dad, too was an incredible cook. Nice memories.
Feb. 7, 2013 4:44 pm
Hi Joey, we met today in a store in Lumberton of Rt, 38. I enjoyed your blog, looking forward to trying the recipes and hope to run into your again. Mary
Feb. 19, 2013 5:13 am
Mary you are at one of my favorite stores so I know I will see you again.
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I am married I work part time in a flower shop. have 1 grandchild and 1 son.I like to cook,sew,make soap and I love the ocean.
My favorite things to cook
I love making fried foods,it is not so healthy for you but the flavor and juciness of fried food can't be beat.
My favorite family cooking traditions
Hands down has to be the Thanksgiving meal.The whole thing from the turkey to the pumpkin pie.
My cooking triumphs
Gravy! I am now the Queen of gravy but that wasn't always so.Lumpy was the least of my problems.For years I would buy the gravy in a jar,not any more I got determined and I mastered the art of gravy.
My cooking tragedies
Well I had many many gravy tragedies but I have had more baking bloopers then gravy.I can't seem to manage a cake from scratch,you can either use it as a clay brick or as saw dust on the floor,so I leave cake baking to others.
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