The Adventures of Heart Girl and Kidney Boy
Jan. 20, 2011 10:47 am
Updated: Feb. 3, 2011 10:43 am
I met my boyfriend seventeen years ago. I was lying on the beach with my best friend outside of her family's cabin. She was checking out the life guard, all tan and muscular. Not my type...I have always loved dorks. So here comes this dorky dude on
his skateboard, all skin and bones, big floppy curly hair. Too much of a dork for me (I do have a threshold after all), but he sat down beside me and he made me laugh. We spent the rest of the week together...going swimming, riding bikes...one night we sat
on the merry-go-round and talked for hours. Then, at the end of the week he kissed me (our first kiss!) goodbye, and I was gone. We wrote for about a year...then it was over.
Years and relationships went by. And then he found me on Facebook (oh the wonders Facebook creates!). I had had a child, and so had he. I had made mistakes, and so had he. Obstacles had to be overcome...but we finally made it to each other. After seventeen
years, we finally got together last May.
I am Heart Girl. I have a heart condition that can only be fixed by open heart surgery and they only do it when it becomes totally necessary- for two reasons: it is risky, and the results don't last long. I am in my early 30's, and, provided I am lucky,
this would mean the procedure would have to be repeated many times over.
My boyfriend is Kidney Boy. He is in Stage IV renal failure. He needs a new kidney real quick. Clearly I can't give him one of mine, but I really wish I could. Something like this really makes one realize who is willing to step up to the plate...and, sadly,
many are not willing.
So, what is the point of all of this? There are several points. Young love, for me at least, turned out to be undying love. Following your mind instead of your heart can sometimes lead to devastation. It took years for me to reconnect with my boyfriend....and
it may be too late now. We may not have much time. But I will enjoy every minute of it. That boy made me laugh back then, and the man he is now makes me laugh every single day.
Never knowing what could have been is NOT worth it!