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I must confess...

The Adventures of Heart Girl and Kidney Boy 
 
Jan. 20, 2011 10:47 am 
Updated: Feb. 3, 2011 10:43 am
I met my boyfriend seventeen years ago.  I was lying on the beach with my best friend outside of her family's cabin.  She was checking out the life guard, all tan and muscular.  Not my type...I have always loved dorks.  So here comes this dorky dude on his skateboard, all skin and bones, big floppy curly hair.  Too much of a dork for me (I do have a threshold after all), but he sat down beside me and he made me laugh.  We spent the rest of the week together...going swimming, riding bikes...one night we sat on the merry-go-round and talked for hours.  Then, at the end of the week he kissed me (our first kiss!) goodbye, and I was gone.  We wrote for about a year...then it was over.

Years and relationships went by.  And then he found me on Facebook (oh the wonders Facebook creates!).  I had had a child, and so had he.  I had made mistakes, and so had he.  Obstacles had to be overcome...but we finally made it to each other.  After seventeen years, we finally got together last May. 

I am Heart Girl.  I have a heart condition that can only be fixed by open heart surgery and they only do it when it becomes totally necessary- for two reasons:  it is risky, and the results don't last long.  I am in my early 30's, and, provided I am lucky, this would mean the procedure would have to be repeated many times over.

My boyfriend is Kidney Boy.  He is in Stage IV renal failure.  He needs a new kidney real quick.  Clearly I can't give him one of mine, but I really wish I could.  Something like this really makes one realize who is willing to step up to the plate...and, sadly, many are not willing.

So, what is the point of all of this?  There are several points.  Young love, for me at least, turned out to be undying love.  Following your mind instead of your heart can sometimes lead to devastation.  It took years for me to reconnect with my boyfriend....and it may be too late now.  We may not have much time.  But I will enjoy every minute of it.  That boy made me laugh back then, and the man he is now makes me laugh every single day.

Never knowing what could have been is NOT worth it!
 
Comments
Jena 
Jan. 20, 2011 11:13 am
What an amazing story of love Puck. To love unconditionally and in turn be loved unconditionally is simply the greatest gift life can give you. How blessed you both are to be with each other. If the miracle of your love can happen there are other miracles waiting.
 
Carrie 
Jan. 20, 2011 11:15 am
Puck, this is so sweet! I am really glad you didn't delete it ~ you never know, you could inspire more people to check off the donor box on their driver's license or even get tested as a living donor! I hope your boyfriend finds a donor very soon and he gets his transplant! As for your heart, I hope it keeps on ticking just as intended and never gets broken! I will be thinking of you and him and envisioning the perfect solution! xo
 
Jan. 20, 2011 11:38 am
So glad you didn't delete it. Very beautiful story. I hope the bf finds a donor soon!
 
Jan. 20, 2011 11:58 am
Thanks for sharing your touching story. No one knows what tomorrow will bring. We only know that our life is a vapour and that it will quickly vanish away therefore we are to enjoy each moment to the fullest and that appears to be what you are doing Puck. May God continue to bless you and your loved ones! Remember - God specializes in miracles and there is a miracle in the making for you!
 
Jan. 20, 2011 12:00 pm
Puck- My prayers are with both of you. Miracles do happen, and I pray that is the case for you and Kidney Boy. I met my husband for the first time 25 years ago and we dated for 4 months before he had to report to basic training (Navy) as he had inlisted. We stayed friends and 6 years ago when he retired from the Navy he moved back to our hometown and we got together one night and have been together ever since. Now married 4 1/2 years. He brought with him a daughter, who has now given me two adorable grandkids! My signature saying is "never say never". I never thought I'd get married, have a daughter, have grandkids, have dogs (we have 2). Good luck and best wishes to both of you for a long a happy life and a solution to your medical problems. It is so worth it to reconnect and see where it goes. Hugs- Tracy
 
Jan. 20, 2011 12:21 pm
Oh, Puck, my heart goes out to you, no pun intended. But it just hurts to read this beautiful blog. Carrie is so right everyone should check those donor cards!
 
Beverley 
Jan. 20, 2011 12:26 pm
Hi Puck My son has a similiar story to yours. He suffered from a heart condition. He found the love of his life, a girl who is beautiful inside and out. They were togeather 4 years and suddenly just before Christmas we lost him. I know that he wouldn't of changed a thing. He was truly happy an had expenienced true love. I will pray for you and your sweetheart.May you have many many years to share your love.
 
Keri 
Jan. 20, 2011 12:35 pm
Puck, I'm really glad to see you didn't delete this blog! It's so touching to read your story and hear how you've reconnected with your true love. Isn't Facebook amazing?! I will pray for medical successes for you and Kidney Boy. Great big hugs to both of you!!
 
Keri 
Jan. 20, 2011 12:37 pm
I also wanted to add a small note to Carrie's comment. Even if people have elected on thier driver's license/ID to be an organ donor, the family has the final say in whether or not the organs end up being donated. Make sure you tell your family members in no uncertain terms that you WANT to be an organ donor and that you EXPECT them to authorize that donation in the event you meet an untimely death!
 
Anissa 
Jan. 20, 2011 2:27 pm
So glad that you did not delete this. True love always finds a way. I somehow have a feeling that your love for each other and the smiles and laughs every day will get you both through this tough time. Keeping you and your guy in my thoughts and prayers..
 
Jan. 20, 2011 3:04 pm
Oh my Puck! That's a heartbreaker. I'm so thrilled that you found each other, even if you did have to go through some messy stuff first. I bet neither of you would give up your children to go back and start again. " Young love, for me at least, turned out to be undying love." Me too :D.
 
Puck 
Jan. 20, 2011 5:04 pm
Wow! Thank you everyone! I am truly touched. I thought I should delete this, as I thought it was ridiculous. I had just wanted to rant...but I accidentally posted it. Thank you all :)
 
Puck 
Jan. 20, 2011 5:12 pm
Oh, and I will respond to each one of you...I am just too worn out to do it right now
 
Jan. 20, 2011 6:26 pm
What a great story Puck & I wish you both a long & happy life. Thanks for posting!
 
Jan. 20, 2011 6:42 pm
Nice Blog, Hon. I hope you are OK. Will talk to you later sometime. Hang in there, and stay healthy. Love ya! Toni
 
Jan. 20, 2011 9:53 pm
Awesome blog,inspiring in so many ways,thanks for sharing.
 
Jan. 21, 2011 7:51 am
Sounds like someone in Hollywood needs to rread your blog. It is a wonderful story. More importantly though, is he a Steelers fan too ?
 
Carrie 
Jan. 21, 2011 6:20 pm
Beverly, I am so sorry to hear of your recent loss. It is wonderful that your son was so very happy when it was his time to go. Blessings
 
Puck 
Jan. 21, 2011 8:19 pm
Jena- you are so right! Loving someone unconditionally and having it reciprocated truly is a blessed gift. One not to be taken for granted! Thanks!
 
Puck 
Jan. 21, 2011 8:25 pm
Thanks Carrie! It is amazing what has happened in BF's family since this has happened. His dad was all set to be his donor- they had a date set and everything. But during some of the final testing, the doctors discovered his dad's heart isn't healthy enough to donate. But without having gone through this process, he would not have known and would not be able to be proactive about it as he is now. His uncle has gone on a diet to lose weight so that he can potentially donate- he has lost 50 pounds so far. So some good things have come out of this whole thing!
 
Puck 
Jan. 21, 2011 8:28 pm
Thank you Nurse Ellen :) I hope he finds a donor soon too! That is something I pray for every single day.
 
Puck 
Jan. 21, 2011 8:33 pm
Amen to that Butterflykisses! Life truly is fleeting, and should be lived to the fullest by everyone! Thank you for your well wishes :)
 
Puck 
Jan. 21, 2011 8:39 pm
SadieDoggie! That is such an incredible story! So very cool! "Never say never" indeed! Life is a funny thing sometimes, all sorts of twists and turns. The possibilities are endless! Thanks for sharing your story :)
 
Puck 
Jan. 21, 2011 8:47 pm
BigShotsMom- that was pretty funny about a pun not being intended! Lol! Thank you for stopping by!
 
Puck 
Jan. 21, 2011 8:55 pm
Oh Beverley, I am so truly sorry for your loss. How terribly hard on you and your family. I am so happy that your son was able to find his true love and have the happy times he and his wife were able to share with each other. You and yours are in my prayers as well...may you find the strength to get through this.
 
Puck 
Jan. 22, 2011 4:10 am
Keri- I would have deleted this blog if you hadn't suggested I hadn't. It really was a skeleton to me, and I had wanted to flesh it out more, but DD distracted me and when I thought I would go back and edit it, I published it instead. There is a lot more to the story really. Thank you so much for your support- it means a lot to me. And you are absolutely correct about organ donation. People need to make their wishes very, VERY clear. The law is strict, and a grieving family can be (understandably) unpredictable. It was firmly suggested to Kidney Boy to make up a will, and he willed his heart to me, with a lawyer's help and everything. But, if it were to come to that, his parents still have the right to do with it whatever they deem appropriate. They know his wishes, so that is awesome...but everyone, EVERYONE, should make it very clear to their loved ones what they would like done in that terrible situation. Of course, I believe our adventures have just begun, so I very optimistic!
 
Puck 
Jan. 22, 2011 4:13 am
Anissa! Thank you for your thoughts and prayers! I agree with you 100%- laughter is so very important in this life! In fact, I wouldn't want a life without it...
 
Puck 
Jan. 22, 2011 4:18 am
Sarah-May...I am glad your young love turned out to be wonderful as well! Life is a funny thing sometimes. And you know, Kidney Boy and I often say how had we stayed together then, we probably wouldn't be together now. We each had a lot of growing up to do to get where we are now. We found our way back to each other by the grace of God, at the perfect time :)
 
Puck 
Jan. 22, 2011 4:20 am
goodeats- thank you for posting! I appreciate it so much!
 
Puck 
Jan. 22, 2011 4:23 am
Toni! I love you girl! You crack me up every day- hearing your laugh always makes my day. We WILL meet one of these days in person, not just on the phone, and then look out world!
 
Puck 
Jan. 22, 2011 4:25 am
nabila- thank you for posting! Your kind words mean a lot to me :)
 
Puck 
Jan. 22, 2011 4:30 am
Doug! You funny so and so! Kidney Boy was a Lions fan before I got a hold of him if you can believe that! He had a healthy hate for da Bears though. Now he is a firmly planted Steelers fan. He still is not anywhere as near into football as I am, and I had to teach him a lot, but I like that since I can mold him into my way of thinking lol ;)
 
Jan. 22, 2011 5:54 am
Sweet story, Puck, and it didn't need to be fleshed out. I love your title, too. Best wishes to you both.
 
kat 
Jan. 22, 2011 5:56 am
Beautiful story, glad you didn't delete!
 
Jan. 22, 2011 6:00 am
No, you should not delete this. It is so touching. It is amaizing how you two met and I would have to say it was fate! I'll be praying for you and your boyfriend. I know someone will be a donor so you two can have your happiness. May God bless you both.
 
Kathy 
Jan. 22, 2011 6:36 am
Oh...Puck. You made me cry this morning. What a beautiful love story. I pray that you both have many years together...a lifetime. Have faith that a donor will be found. With all that you both are going through, you two are truly blessed to have "found" each other. God Bless!
 
Kathy 
Jan. 22, 2011 6:37 am
Oh...Puck. You made me cry this morning. What a beautiful love story. I pray that you both have many years together...a lifetime. Have faith that a donor will be found. With all that you both are going through, you two are truly blessed to have "found" each other. God Bless!
 
Jan. 22, 2011 6:43 am
What a sweet love story! Saying prayers that both of your health issues improve. ♥
 
Jan. 22, 2011 6:49 am
What a wonderful love story. You could focus on the negative things in life but instead have chosen to focus on that which brings your life meaning. I wish you MORE of all that life offers.
 
mis7up 
Jan. 22, 2011 6:54 am
Prayers. Puck, I'm praying for y'all both. And it's a similar story when it comes to my hubby and I....Our running joke is that I bought him on E-bay. But in shorten verison. I was going threw a divorce soo was he. He was in Iraq, and the guy I was dating was sent over too. One day I happened to chat in a room with others and my hubby was on, and we struck up a convo...and friendship began. After a few months...silence. Then the guy I was dating had a change of heart and went back to his ex....well relationships later and ended up a few years later. I had been on a dating site and was giving up on the whole thing, when a friend said, give it one more month on the site...I did, I renewed my membership and the very next day, this guy seeks me out. I decided to give it a try. A couple months after we started dating, brought me to his home and I noticed a photo of 2 little girls and I'd seen it before. And after a bit, figured out...it was my friend from Iraq...And we've been together ever since. He tried to find me when he came back state side and it took a few years, and when I asked why he stopped communicating, it was because he was wounded in Iraq. So I am blessed he found me, but at the time when he found me, he didn't realize it was me. And I told him, that night when we figured out our past, that he was mine because I had to buy a online dating subscription, for us to chat...so I bought and paid for him.....you cherish everyday with each other. And God Bless you two.
 
BevF 
Jan. 22, 2011 7:36 am
Puck that is truly a love to be cherished. However now knowing of yourt heart condition I am even more concerned that you didn't go to the ER yesterday much earlier then you even posted to us. If I were you I would talk to my cardiologist on Monday or before if you don't feel better and tell him everything that happened. Your electrolytes could still be dangerously out of balance. That is what happened to me 2 weeks ago and put me in the hospital with a heart arrythmia that was too rapid even for my pacemaker to keep up with. I don't mean to sound "preachy". Just very concerned. ((( Hugs )))
 
Jan. 22, 2011 9:41 am
Glad to hear you are feeling better. Like BevF, when I read your post last night, I was very concerned with how the dehydration could put a strain on your heart. We'll continue to pray for each of you. Thanks for letting us know you were ok.
 
sueb 
Jan. 22, 2011 12:13 pm
Your story is touching! I hope and pray that you'll have quite a while together. Life has no guarantees, and we have to deal with the deck we've been given. Live and love like there's no tomorrow because we don't know what the future holds!
 
Jan. 23, 2011 8:16 pm
puck, their is nothing wrong with your heart...maybe too big! you are wonderful i wish you and your boyfriend all the love i can bestow. my wife was seriously ill and i know about the mircales that happen. i've been blessed...i hope both of you will be too.
 
ri2 
Jan. 25, 2011 5:16 am
Delete this! Goodness!! This blog is lovely and just so honest! The ring of truth in every your every word is just so touching ... and ofcourse is and will be an inspiration for all of us here (everyone we'll share your story with). My prayers are with you and Kidney Boy always. Miracles do happen, reconnecting with your long lost love is infact a miracle in itself ... and I'm sure more will happen to you and yours! Until then laugh, be merry and hang in there!God bless! :)
 
ri2 
Jan. 25, 2011 5:17 am
Sorrry that should have been 'Delete this ????' Missed the question mark(s) .... sorryy!
 
J. Dub 
Jan. 25, 2011 8:09 am
A very touching story of your life. My father also needed a kidney transplant which was donated by my cousin. An amazing gift. He is doing very well today and that was about 5 years ago. I hope your boyfriend receives the same amazing gift. We should all enjoy, savor, and appreciate everyday we have with our loved ones. I'm glad you do, Puck. God bless!
 
eyeballer 
Jan. 25, 2011 7:35 pm
That is a really cool story, I do wish you both the best. Also though I just wanted to let you know that some states have changed their donor registries to be actual consent registries that are binding and do not require the next-of-kin's consent. You should definitely still make your wishes known to your loved ones but now even if you don't they can't overturn your decision (in some states). I work at an eye bank and was relieved when here in Missouri the registry was changed to a legal consent registry instead of an "intent" registry. Take care of yourselves and hope you both get the miracles you need!
 
Puck 
Jan. 26, 2011 12:23 am
Thank you Marianne! Some of our friends and family were surprised, but we really do refer to each other as Heart Girl and Kidney Boy- lovingly of course!
 
Puck 
Jan. 26, 2011 12:24 am
Thanks Kat! I am glad you took the time to read my ramblings :)
 
H.B. 
Jan. 26, 2011 3:57 pm
this was a very touching story! thank you for touching my life in such a way!!!!!
 
Jan. 26, 2011 5:26 pm
What a touching story, prayers for both of you. And let us all remember what a gift becoming donor is...
 
Jan. 26, 2011 7:20 pm
Your "ramblings" are pretty on target. Glad you didn't delete. Good luck to you and Kidney Boy.
 
Jan. 26, 2011 9:17 pm
That's very touching, thank you so much for sharing it. I wish you two the best.
 
Puck 
Jan. 27, 2011 7:53 am
I think it was fate too luv2cook...it must have been for all that time to have gone by and all the events that occurred! Thanks for taking the time to read :)
 
Puck 
Jan. 27, 2011 8:07 am
Kathy, thank you for your prayers! We are both definitely keeping the faith that a donor will be found soon. No giving up around here!
 
Puck 
Jan. 27, 2011 8:21 am
Thank you Shanon K! I appreciate your prayers- we can use all we can get :)
 
Puck 
Jan. 27, 2011 8:25 am
KANANICOOKS, you are so very right- why focus on the negative? Of course, everyone has bad days, but every day there is always something to be truly grateful for. Focusing on that leads to a much happier life. Thanks!
 
Puck 
Jan. 27, 2011 8:34 am
Wow mis7up! That is truly an incredible story! Thank God you listened to your friend and renewed your membership! Isn't it so strange how things work out? You two were obviously meant to be together when the time was right. I am so happy you two were able to reconnect and I wish you much happiness as well :)
 
Puck 
Jan. 27, 2011 8:48 am
Bev F- when you are right, you are right. I should have gone to the ER. I took your advice and talked to my cardiologist, and he was none too pleased with me. And you thought you were being preachy, geez! I get in that mindset sometimes that I shouldn't bother going to the doctor/hospital because everything will end up being fine and I will feel like an idiot who wasted valuable time. Well, my doc set me straight on that- he said "I don't know about you young lady, but I would much rather feel like an idiot and be alive than prove I am an idiot and be dead" lol. (I guess I got him pretty fired up). Anyways, thank you so much for your concern and for your advice. Had I taken it and gone to the ER I probably wouldn't still be feeling sick! I don't feel nearly as horrible as I did though, so I am getting there. Thanks for caring so much about me :)
 
Puck 
Jan. 27, 2011 9:01 am
Hi bigcountry! Thanks for your concern as well! I definitely feel better now than I did last week, but it has not been a fun several days. Thank you for your thoughts and prayers :)
 
Puck 
Jan. 27, 2011 9:07 am
Amen to that sueb! One never does know what the future holds! You really learn a lot when you are in love with someone who is very sick. Petty arguments aren't worth having, you can never tell someone you love them too often, etc. It turns out all those old cliches are right!
 
Puck 
Jan. 27, 2011 9:12 am
Gary! You made me tear up, darn you! You are so very sweet and kind! I know how much you and Clair went through and your story really gives me a lot of hope. Seemingly impossible mountains can indeed be climbed! Thank you so much, and God bless :)
 
Puck 
Jan. 27, 2011 11:37 am
Thank you ri2! I too believe in miracles, they happen every day. You are right, reconnecting with Kidney Boy was certainly one, and hopefully not the last! Thank you for your prayers! Seeing you on the Buzz always brightens my day (or night, as it were!) :)
 
Puck 
Jan. 27, 2011 11:43 am
J Dub, thanks for sharing! I am so glad your cousin was able to be a donor for your father- that really is an amazing gift! I can understand how scary it must be to undergo a surgery like that, and donors truly are incredible people. Such a selfless thing to do!
 
Puck 
Jan. 27, 2011 11:50 am
eyeballer, thank you for that information. I did not know that, and I don't know if PA is one of those states. I will have to check it out!
 
Puck 
Jan. 27, 2011 11:53 am
Thank you H.B. for stopping by to read it :)
 
Puck 
Jan. 27, 2011 11:55 am
Right on LMP! Becoming a donor is indeed a gift! Thank you :)
 
Puck 
Jan. 27, 2011 11:56 am
Thanks for taking the time to read it Magnolia Blossom! I appreciate it :)
 
Puck 
Jan. 27, 2011 11:57 am
Lindsay- that you for reading and thank you for your well wishes :)
 
Leslie 
Jan. 28, 2011 8:54 pm
Wow Puck! That's beautiful. I hope all works out for both of you and can spend many more years together.
 
Dmseck 
Feb. 3, 2011 10:43 am
I happened across your blog on Jan 20th, so I began saving "favorite cooks" and say a prayer for the two of you each day. I'm not much on coincidence, so I guess I was supposed to find you that day. Blessings and good health to both of you! And GO STEELERS!!
 
 
 
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About Me
I live with my boyfriend and my daughter in our cozy little house that we all love(except my daughter, who is 13 and likes nothing). We have three dogs, a cat and two turtles. Up until recently we also had a pet mouse (the daughter's), and I have since learned the perils of joking around about a pet's demise.
My favorite things to cook
I love to cook things that produce the biggest smiles. So, for the BF, that would be corned beef and cabbage. For DD it would be pierogies. For a dear family friend, it would be my marinara, for I have never received such raves...ever!
My favorite family cooking traditions
There are many. Two favorites I have loved since my earliest memories: on Thanksgiving, orange jello salad; on Christmas, red jello salad. They bring such memories! Sometimes simplicity is the key to happiness.
My cooking triumphs
I am a huge (HUGE) football fan. Let's just say I have the NFL Network and I use it often! Anyways, I went to a Steelers game a couple years back (tailgaiting begins no later than 9:00 a.m.). Oh what a day! But I STILL made dinner that night. Nobody can remember what the heck it was, but we all loved it! (I am still searching my cookbooks for it).
My cooking tragedies
See the above triumph. Same type of day (football), except I got "confused" and instead of checking my watch for the date and smelling the milk, I smelled my watch and looked at the milk!!! Bad milk, bad next day. Lol! I don't go to football games anymore...
 
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