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What we have is a failure to communicate. Once again. 
Jan. 24, 2012 7:10 pm 
Updated: Jan. 27, 2012 10:57 am
I am walking into the kitchen after putting dinner on table for family and hubby always praises my food and then I hear a familiar voice saying this, "I was watching you in the kitchen". I turned and looked to see who said this, of course I knew it was the hubby. I said,, umm, ok. He replied with, "I was watching your behind",, but he said the other word that has 4 letters starting with b. I looked at him and he said, "it was nice". OK,,now I am staring him in the face waiting for an explanation,,and he finally gets that he has passed that little place where when he says something I don't understand and it irritates me. He starts to stutter and says that "it looks like I may have been exercising or something because my behind looks rounder". OK, I can easily reach for any pan in the kitchen once again, but he has that deer in the headlights look and tries to explain?? He explains that he was just trying to compliment me because he knows that I have been trying to walk more and get in a little better shape than I am in, goodness knows, I need it. I said that last part not him. Some time ago there was a comment about a "flat bottomed boat",, I got a new set of glasses out of that comment,,so I think he was referring to that. Now I'm thinking about a whole new set of dishes to go with the glasses. Hubby is not a real big talker so for him to say this was something for him, he just needs to ,,,think before he speaks? or just not?? The man is good about eating anything I put in front of him most of the time. What a trooper! However, his way of giving me a compliment needs some work. Granted we have only been married, what is it,,,over 30+ years,,so I am giving him the benefit of the doubt ?  I've added a few of pics I have taken of the foods I have cooked recently.
Blackeyed peas and turkey
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chicken nuggets
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Spinach Dip in a Bread bowl.
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ibbz rolled corn tortillas
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Taco Dip I
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Jan. 24, 2012 7:36 pm
Oh, ibbz, don't you just have to love those guys? What would we do without them? Or with them? Or.... Anyway, I just love that you were actually able to post photos on a blog! And look at all that delicious food!
Jan. 24, 2012 7:45 pm
Oh, without them might only be a dream,,with them,,,a nightmare??? OH well, they are here and we must try to understand their ways,,as strange as their language is to us.. ;)
Jan. 24, 2012 8:27 pm
Oh ibbz, he's trying soooo hard! Lol - "Please forgive them for they know not how stupid they sound." :D
Jan. 24, 2012 9:46 pm
lol!! It sounds like he's out of practice!! Maybe you need to stop by the library & pick up a copy of a book about complimenting women then leave the book where he'll "find" it - duct taped to the TV screen, on his pillow, on the closed toilet lid :D
Jan. 25, 2012 6:12 am
I think any effort, however it bombs, should be appreciated! Guys can be so clueless but it sounds like he is trying. My husband has said some pretty hilarious and unintentionally offensive things over the years ('Lipstick just makes you look worse') (trying to cheer me up when I was feeling unnatractive- 'Honey, there are a lot of women that look a LOT worse than you do.') HAHA His heart was right he is just clueless!
Jan. 25, 2012 6:40 am
Mine always just says 'nice butt'. He was trying to pay you a compliment. Give the man a hug and a kiss!
Jan. 25, 2012 7:13 am
LOLOL! Mine doesn't even go there anymore with "compliments".
Jan. 25, 2012 7:38 am
Onenight,just before a date, something terribly upsetting at the time (don't even remember what it was now) happened and I was sobbing my heart out when date arrived. He comforted me, patted my back and when my sobs started to subside, said "OK honey now, you just run upstairs and put on some makeup and you will feel much better". I wailed back at him "I am wearing makeup already"........oops!
Jan. 25, 2012 9:45 am
Caroline, I totally agree. It's true they do try,, and Virginia, if I bought a book like that I'm sure he would ask what to do with it.
Jan. 25, 2012 9:46 am
CICI, clueless at times doesn't even come close. Sassy, I think that is what he was trying to say, but telling me as I am serving dinner and not to my face, but to my butt!
Jan. 25, 2012 9:47 am
Cat, it might be better if mine just didn't try any more. But then again, I would have the nice gadgets and things in my kitchen. ;)
Jan. 25, 2012 9:48 am
Oh covergirl, again, he probably didn't think that statement through at all.
Jan. 25, 2012 9:51 am
I can insensitive sometimes myself I know. I try to do things for him special at times and he does also. In fact the man can pick the most wonderful greeting cards for any time. He really goes all out on Valentines day and gets the mushiest one he can find.
Jan. 25, 2012 12:29 pm
I hope my husband is still looking at my behind after 30 years! He doesn't have the gift of complimenting well...in fact his foot is in his mouth more often than not, but I wouldn't trade him for the world!
Jan. 25, 2012 12:45 pm
Believe me, my hubby has a lot to look at on my behind. But his heart is in the right place when he tries to compliment me. He is tall and thin and I am short and fat. Opposites attract I guess. He is from the Miss. and I am from WI. He is from Mars, I am from Venus.
Jan. 27, 2012 8:13 am
My Sparky has evolved into the complimenting king after about the 20 year mark. He truly is a silver tongued devil these days. Maybe Sparky could coach him. LOL! I think my favorite thing he has always done in the kitchen is the pat on the bu##. It has always felt comforting for some reason. Love him for some of those little idiosyncrasies.
Jan. 27, 2012 10:57 am
Oh Maui, that would certainly be a blessing. It is hard to decypher his "compliments". I am still trying after all these years, but I am getting closer.
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My name is Deborah, please call me Debbie. I've been married for over 36 years to the same man. We have 2 children (girl and boy) and 2 grand daughters, one from each child. At the moment we have a gecko and a cat as housemates.
My favorite things to cook
I love cooking fried chicken in my cast iron pans. Any type of pasta dish is always a happy cooking time. I enjoy cooking fish and shrimp whenever possible. My family also enjoys my cornbread, biscuits, beans and greens, they eat almost every bite, so I know they like them.
My favorite family cooking traditions
Family insists that I make my "famous" potato salad for Easter, Christmas, Thanksgiving, actually any time is good for them.
My cooking triumphs
A castle cake w/moat for my grand daughter's 7th birthday made of Rice Krispies, frosting and a ton of toppings. It stood over a foot tall with the towers on top. She loved it, that is what matters to me.
My cooking tragedies
I tried making "meat muffins" and the fat from the ground pork overflowed the muffin tin, dripped on stove and caught fire, which in turn caught the meat on fire, which in turn caught the towel that I was holding while trying to get the pan out of the oven on fire, which in turn caught my pants on fire when I dropped it, which in turn burned my hand and arm when I tried to retrieve it, then I had to pay the landlord extra for the burned spot on the tile in the kitchen. I don't make meat muffins any more.
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