Do You See What I See? - Grandkids and Cooking are a natural go together. Blog at - 263904

Grandkids and Cooking are a natural go together.

Do you see what I see? 
Jan. 12, 2012 4:18 pm 
Updated: Jan. 26, 2012 1:19 am
I asked the hubby to get a lid for a pan that I was going to cooking in. Now, understand that the lids are on  a roll out shelf on the bottom of the cupboard. There were many lids there, but I showed him the pan I had in my hand and asked him to retrieve said lid. I saw it right there, a little to the right of his hand. I asked him to get it because he was walking through  the kitchen and yes, I was being lazy and asked him to help. Well, the following conversation started. Him, this one? Me, no, the other one? Him, oh, you mean this one? Me, no I said the one next to it. Him, no you said the other one. Me, can't you see the size of this pan and figure out which one? It's not rocket science! Him, well miss scientist if you want a different one, then get it yourself! And I did. I reached around him, pulled the lid out and put it on the pan. His reaction was,,,,wait for it. "Oh,,, you meant that one, well why didn't you say that  one in the first place?" So, I have this heavy pan in my hand and the lid,,,I mean,,,come on,, it would have been sooooo easy to smack it on the side of his head. I did overcome that,,that,,you know. But,,,add injury to insult,,he says this,, "Honey, if you need me to do anything for you while you are cooking, just ask, I'm here." Ok, so now I question my own decision in marrying this guy. Granted, we've been married over 30 years, but come on. Anything like this happen to you,,?? Am I the only one??
Jan. 12, 2012 4:53 pm
As soon as I started reading... I though, "yup, that's my life". My dear husband opens the fridge, and asks for something, that is right in front of him. I guess it's my fault for not telling him to open his eyes when he's looking for something ! Oh, I could go on and on...
Jan. 12, 2012 4:57 pm
I have 4 adults and one almost adult and all do the same. I am in a "frig he**".
Jan. 12, 2012 4:58 pm
Jan. 12, 2012 4:58 pm
hi ibbiz! remember it goes both wife can't cook worth a flip...botulism babe. but yeah, she's a babe. we are newlyweds, only married 29 years. but i am guilty of where is it would bite me.
Jan. 12, 2012 5:07 pm
(I be buzy)(Debbie is my name), Hubby can cook scrambled eggs, if pushed,,,really hard. His mother taught me to cook all the classic southern foods that I know how, I have learned more and all the "boys" from the family come over, when I get in the cooking mode. Their wifes, friends, girlfriends, don't cook this. In fact, I think I am the only one in this family carrying on this tradition, I am trying to pass it on to my daughter and son. Daughter is getting it, since she lives with me, but the son is falling by the wayside of fast food.
Jan. 12, 2012 5:09 pm
He He He He.... I'm not laughing at you I'm laughing with you!Isn't this is a right of passage when you' ve been married for a while?
Jan. 12, 2012 5:16 pm
I have definately been married awhile and he should have at least learned something from me? Or is that in my mind? When I "pass", I can see him asking someone to make the plain old chicken I always bake. Well, the plain old chicken has a blend of my own seasonings that I use. Good Luck Charlie on that one! Maybe I should start that cookbook I have been wanting to do?
Jan. 12, 2012 5:51 pm
We've been married for nearly 4 years. Both of us are better than good cooks. However, only one of us is good at finding things and that I concede to my wife. Then, there's the issue of watching how much and what is being added to a recipe. Too often I'm called to the kitchen to taste something to see if the ingredient(s) is (are) correct.
Jan. 12, 2012 6:03 pm
I can relate, but I also know it we were in the garage and he asked for the "triangulated bi-valve wrench with the sceptre head" I'd be passing them one by one til I hit the right one. C'est la vie!
Jan. 12, 2012 6:17 pm
That should read, "...we've been married for nearly 45 years."
Jan. 12, 2012 7:07 pm
Ha! I've got nearly 48 years total with my guy. He empties the dishwasher for me and STILL doesn't know that I place the dishes in the dishwasher in the same position all the time. But he's a dear and a keeper. I learned a long time ago to keep my mouth shut! He'd do anything for me, but he knows naught!
Jan. 12, 2012 7:33 pm
I guess this is something that usually happens, but it is happening all the time. Honestly, I am almost afraid of asking someone here to get something out of the cupboard or frig or help me in the kitchen. Maybe a conspiracey...yes, I see it now. Oh, they can't find, see it. Oh, please..
Jan. 12, 2012 8:20 pm
I'm so lucky that my husband (26 years) will clean, help and even cook if I ask him to. I never ask for help cooking, but I ask for the rest a lot!
Jan. 12, 2012 10:00 pm
Mine's pretty good at knowing what matches what all around the house, AND he does the vacuuming and all the yard work. Vehicle washing, too, even mine. What he doesn't do is load my dishwasher or wash clothes. He so completely sucks at both tasks that I just won't allow it. I think he planned it that way.
Jan. 13, 2012 1:24 am
One of the reasons why, no one is allowed in my kitchen when I'm cooking. Some help is more of a hinderance. Its often easier and quicker to do it your self. I find it painful to watch my very clever husband work in the kitchen. Great Blog!!!
Jan. 13, 2012 7:13 am
LOLOL! This reminds me of a conversation Mangel and I had last summer. She'd been baking all day and she mentioned how the DH had wandered in and began opening cabinets in search of dinner. I thought mine was the only one that would do that. Wander in opening cabinet doors and the fridge then expect a steak & potato dinner just to fall out. After 20 years of living in the same house, I would like to think he could finally remember where things are in the kitchen. The teen studiously avoids knowing where anything is so he won't be called on to help. Possibly my Mom was right, I didn't train them right. More likely it was something BigShotsMom shared with me, the problem is linked to the Y factor! Great Blog!
Jan. 13, 2012 7:56 am
I roared laughing. Thank you so much for a good belly laugh. Reminds me of "Who's on First". My pot and pan cupboard is such a mess. I can't bend down very well to see into it. I need to have roll out rack installed. My granddaughter is 6, she runs out of the room with her hands covering her ears when I tell her I am going to get a pot and lid out of the bottom cupboard. Half the time they fall out and clang on the tile floor. Scares her. I have to use my long bbq tongs to get into the rear. I really need to swallow mypride and buy one of those grab it things.
Jan. 13, 2012 9:15 am
I always wonder about my hubby-don't send him to find anything in the house, but when we go camping he has a built in compass. Interesting!
Jan. 13, 2012 11:04 am
I think it is called "selective remembering". He can recall every statistic of every football game ever played but can't remember our childrens birthdays and half the time he forgets their names. We only have a grown son (Daniel) and a grown daughter (Kathryn). He calls them every other name he can think of in the family and finally after about a dozen tries he either gives up or gets it right but by that time, he forgot what he wanted to say to them.
Jan. 13, 2012 3:08 pm
I added another "difficult" task for the hubby today. I said in very simple words. "Honey, while you are at the store, getting your beer, could you please pick up a bottle of "Hidden Valley Ranch Dressing"? I even told him to call me from the store to make sure he bought the right one. Guess what?? He calls me from the parking lot after leaving the store and tells me that I should be proud of him because he got the "Kraft Onion Parmesan Dressing" I wanted. What can I say?? I said, "Thanks dear, come on home now". He is on the way,,,I am not sure what to do. I think it should be allowable to slap him on the head and make him go to bed without supper! HOW much direction do I need to give this guy! But,,,he bought me a candy bar that I tend to like also...arghghghghgh, the agony of it all!
Jan. 13, 2012 3:17 pm
I constantly remind my DH that he is darn lucky he's cute. I love the times I specifically leave the dishwasher open so he can deposit whatever dishes he's still working on into it easily. Somehow those dishes still land on the counter, ABOVE the open dishwasher. Yes, dear, you're darn lucky you're cute.
Jan. 13, 2012 3:34 pm
Thanks for sharing. My husband usually remembers what to get but often grabs the wrong thing off the shelf and brings that home....*sigh*
Jan. 13, 2012 3:35 pm
aw com'n on he remembered it was a dressing of some sort...
Jan. 13, 2012 4:22 pm
Maridele I think we are married to the same man! My husband and I have been married 18 yrs. When we first married, we moved into an appt. We had a trash can a foot in front of the toilet. Every morning my husband would read the paper on the potty and throw the plastic sleeve on the floor in front of the trash can. Drove me crazy! I pointed out how ridiculous that was and he always remembered to get it in after that. Now our son is just as bad. He will be standing next to a trash can and throw a wrapper on the couch or floor. I'm always right there reminding him not to do that. I have to say my husband is pretty good about getting the right thing at the store when I ask. Cat hill my husband walks around opening the fridge and pantry looking for a meal to fall into his hands too. The man won't even open a tupperware unless I've showed it to him before had and let him know what is in there. That drives me batty! I am going to start using the good thing you are cute line. I like that!
Jan. 13, 2012 4:37 pm
Ibbz, I sympathize with you. Sent dh to the store many years ago to get chopped broccoli from the salad bar since I didn't need very much and was running short on time getting ready for the party we were hosting. He came home with cauliflower, ugh. He knows a lot more about veggies now I am happy to say.
Jan. 13, 2012 4:37 pm
I wonder if any reader of this post has a husband as cool and clever as the husband my wife has? If so, please speak up! This husband bashing is outa control! There's gotta be another like me!
Jan. 13, 2012 4:43 pm
Thankfully my husband does NOT cook. He really has an excellent palate - but cooking wise . . . let's just say he is "challenged". Several years ago I was so sick I couldn't cook all day - - finally by dinner time hubby came to my sick bed and handed me a grilled ham & cheese sandwich. I took one whiff and nearly "heaved" - and said "Can't you smell that the ham has spoiled and is bad meat? I'm already sick . . but are you trying to kill me?" And he said "yeah - but I cooked something - isn't that good enough?" - - - Gotta love him!
Jan. 13, 2012 4:44 pm
oh btw - - do I see what you see? OH YEAH!!!!!!
Jan. 13, 2012 4:46 pm
No Mike - - they discontinued making your model. LOL
Jan. 13, 2012 6:36 pm
I got the last model after Mike before they were discontinued. Mine will not only bring home the right items, but will call first if he can't find it or isn't sure. So, there are two perfect husbands out there and I got one!
Jan. 13, 2012 6:45 pm
Mike, should I check if they have any spare parts of your model? Just a thought for any of the ladies out here that may need an upgrade??
Jan. 13, 2012 7:06 pm
ok, where is the addy for that model number to order replacements parts. Mine has a few I would love to replace.
Jan. 13, 2012 7:18 pm
I know those spare parts are around somewhere cuz the doc has been adding some, lately! I'll ask for the name of his supplier.
Jan. 13, 2012 8:46 pm
Sugar, hold on to your model!!! I think he is the last original in the order. I think Mike is stock piling all the spare parts for later use,,hehehehe. I really could use a couple of these for the old brainpan of this man. I think a few cogs have come loose..
Jan. 13, 2012 9:18 pm
I just have to add this. I am not kidding about this blog. I am relating to you day to day what is happening in my life with this,,,family of mine.. After a wonderful dinner I made tonight, if I might add,,it was great. Pork tenderloin, stuffing, potatoes, noodles salad, crescent rolls, and more,,the hubby gets the munchies a few hours later and has the nerve to say, "I'm hungry, what can I eat?". I'm about to kick him out the door into the snow,, but hold myself back and say to him, "We have pork loin, stuffing, potatoes, salad, crescents, beans,,,and",,he finally stops me and says "no, I mean something to munch on". OK, I am not hitting him at this point,, but it is in my mind,,,I tell him we always have cheese and crackers. OH, he says, yes, that is what I want. Where is it? Now, we have had different crackers on a little traveling counter in the kitchen for about 20 years and the cheese is in frig.. I tell him this and yes,,,he says,,,"Where are the crackers again?", no really, can't I plead that it was self defense?? I show him the shelf and he says, oh, ok. If I have to show him the frig to get the cheese I really am going to have a problem!! oh, ok, I am trying to vent,,,hummmmmmmm, hummmmmmm, yoga isn't working. Thank goodness he is getting sleepy from all the food he has ingested! One of us needs a break of something.
Jan. 13, 2012 9:40 pm
Mike, my husband is just like you! He's the best and he's super cool. I have no complaints. :-)
Jan. 13, 2012 10:47 pm
My husband is great in every way, he just needs to stay out of the kitchen!!! I am sure I have wrote about these stories. The way he puts groceries away makes me shake my head. I have found cartons of eggs in the freezer along with sprayed whipped cream. He also has a habit of opening things like chip dip and then putting it in the cupbard. Until, he accomplishes putting things away, I get nervous about him cooking. I let him cook us a meal when we first met. I had some very expensive filet mignon in the freezer and all sorts of other stuff. I told him to make anything. (I was hoping for a grilled steak) That night I got ramen noodle soup with Kraft singles and a cut up filet mignon mixed in it! Uggh This man is an electrical engineer, so regardless of it all. I hope our kids still get his brains. ; )
Jan. 14, 2012 2:48 am
I think most men have something missing in their radar, and don't know how to be aware of things that are "woman's work"! This seems to work for them, (as long as they get away with it, or you continue to do it for them-GUILTY!) Being in the service teaches them to be aware of what needs done, and to do it well. Interesting memory: I was helping my nephew clean his room when him mom was sick. I showed him how to organize his dresser drawers, how to fold the clothes neatly, putting them away in designated spaces. Today, at age 35ish he still has organized, neat dresser and desk drawers. Moms, train your boys! It's easier than teaching grown men (and making them pout) to hang up bath towels to dry, pick up socks, use the back door with muddy boots,...
Jan. 14, 2012 5:37 am
I guess, after reading all this husband-bashing, I’ll have to either step up and try to defend men, or else turn in my man-card! I, as an exception to the rule, (evidently), have been doing all the cooking for many years. For about the last year, I have had to do all the cleaning, too; not very well, I must admit, but better than nothing. This is besides taking care of all the work that goes with having a house, like the usual mowing, shoveling, gardening, etc. But, I’m not complaining about it. We’re not married, but better than thirty years ago we decided that we had found the partner that we wanted, and, while we never stood in front of a judge or preacher, we still believe in the “till death” clause in the marriage vows. And yes, I DO gripe a bit, but That doesn’t change the fact that we’re still together, and plan to stay that way. (And I don’t think I have to ask her permission to say so, either!) Besides, Ladies, what would you do if you didn’t have us to pick on? And I’m sure that your men have SOME good points, or else you wouldn’t have kept them this long, would you?
Jan. 14, 2012 5:37 am
Loved the update! About snorted my coffee cause I have had the SAME conversations and I swear I did try to train the DS for the poor woman that will live with him someday. Seriously, I think bootcamp did more in 1 month in teaching him how to be neat than I accomplished in 18 years.
Jan. 14, 2012 5:47 am
LOL, ibbz, you are too funny! And a saint for not following through on the thoughts you had while holding the pot and lid! That visual had me lol-ing! We have all been there once or twice! Ah, I'm gonna go kiss my guy now - he is always at my elbow helping me. He tries, bless him......
Jan. 14, 2012 6:23 am
Cliff, goad you are talented in the helpful around the house niches! You are commended for your attitude and energy! As for me, I love him, warts and all (I'm sure he says the same thing!). Besides, I don't want to "break in " another one!
Jan. 14, 2012 6:24 am
..."glad", not "goad"! (Freudian slip?!)
Jan. 14, 2012 6:33 am
Great blog! DH opens the fridge and pokes around and then says ""where is. . ." and I say "it's on the bottom shelf of the door, towards your left." After a few seconds of hearing things bump around he says "I cannot find it" so I go right to the spot and he says "oh, I did not see it"! Dr says his vision is near perfect! Yesterday sent him to get scripts at drug store for his own parents. I explained that they don't always get the meds right (I hate auto refill!) so detailed the 3 meds and who they were for. Sure enough, they gave him an auto refill we did not need and did not give him the new rx the doc had ordered today. Came home with 3, I told him to get 3, they gave him 3. He saw no problem until I asked the nurse if I could take care of it the next day, nope if the doc ordered it, she had to give it. Made DH go out in the snow with very specific instructios again and he thought I was being pis*y. Love him to bits but I think he could use new eyes and ears if anyone finds spare parts!
Jan. 14, 2012 6:39 am
Just thought of this, we moved into this house 10 years ago. By the sink is a double switch, one for the disposal and one for the light. He ALWAYS turns on the disposal when he wants the light. And he NEVER runs the disposal when he shoves food into it!
Jan. 14, 2012 8:14 am
You are not alone! My DH couldn't find his nose if it wasn't attached to his face (and he's had practice finding it for almost 75 years)!
Jan. 14, 2012 9:14 am
One thing I've learned in my marriage, is to let my husband be good at what HE's good at. It works to complement both of us since we're good at different things. I make sure to let him know what I appreciate in him in order to encourage more--he takes out the trash, keeps our checkbook balanced, and he cleans up after I make crazy kitchen messes. I know I don't like to do what I'm not good at, so thankfully he picks up my slack in those areas, and vice versa ; )
Jan. 14, 2012 9:34 am
Well, I'll have to admit after all is said and done,,,I do love the rascal,,most of the time. He has his moments and I remember many good things he has done for us and family and friends. After 35 years of marriage he still at least tries to open doors for me, and he helps me on with my coat, even in a restaurant. He is the best grampa the girls could have and a pretty good husband and father. All in all, I am very lucky to have him. (Also, I don't have the energy to try to retrain him or train another)! ;)
Jan. 14, 2012 1:30 pm
Hhhhmmmm, JMO, but aren't you being a little dramatic on the idea of marrying him? Kinda mean doncha think? I mean really, after 30 years, the lid was the straw that broke? LOL. Sorry, but men are Simple, they need to know Exactly which lid you want. The silver one with the holes in it or the red one. Btw, I just read your last post above and love all the good things you realize about him, dispite his few flaws. Take care and remember, he's only a man:)
Jan. 14, 2012 4:43 pm
LOL! I won't go into specifics, but my dear hubby really is legally blind... and yet, he can see... what's in front of him... once he focuses on it for a few seconds; yeah, make that around a minute. However (LOL!) we've had similar conversations. His biggest problem is that he can't see for looking. I've learned over the last 14 years, to put food in the fridge according to how likely he is to want whatever it could be. Except for the pickled herring... I hide them son of guns (out of site, out of mind philosophy), and after about a month or so, I throw them out. Which takes unbelievable stamina on my part... I can't stand to look at the jar, let alone touch it. And when he asks me where his pickled herring is, I tell him I threw them out... and he goes and gets another jar the next time we go to the grocery store. This scene is repeated several times a year... and I roll my eyes in the check out and let him have the nasty looking stuff. If he loves them so much, why doesn't he finish off the jar? This is a question that has no answer as far as I know. I loved the original post and all the responses. Its nice to know I'm in good company sitting on the 'male logic' flat rock.
Jan. 14, 2012 5:13 pm
I keep telling myself, "He is only a man, he can't help it",,,ok,,,,I guess some men are from the muddy end of the gene pool and some the the clear. You, my dear reader, must decide which one your "dearest" is from and make allowances. :)
Jan. 15, 2012 10:28 am
I can certainly relate to this story. I have two teenage sons and it is like they walk around with their eyes closed sometimes. They are very good cooks themselves, but in order to avoid this from happening while they are cooking I also taught them to lay out everything they will need to work with before getting started...
Jan. 15, 2012 11:25 am
Here's a retort all you husband bashers gotta love. ... Part of my job was to call in service people whenever a problem went beyond the scope of our own capabilities. I once called in a team of electricians for tedious and lengthy job of overhauling a control panel. The lead electrician was becoming irritated by his helpers inability to find the correct items he wanted. He finally vented his frustration with, "You can't find anything! I'll bet you have to wear diapers!"
Jan. 15, 2012 12:00 pm
Carmen, I am trying to teach my grand daughter that when cooking, make sure you have everything before you start. But guess what I didn't do yesterday when cooking our Mexican Fiesta supper? I forgot to check to make sure I had some Taco seasoning. So, in the middle of getting everything ready, I came to AR found the recipe for seasoning mix, which we then had to make to continue our Fiesta. Talk about brain problem. I am not perfect, I am more of a pain to my hubby than he is to me to be honest. Sometimes though, he just makes me, just,,,I can't explain.
Jan. 15, 2012 12:02 pm
I am not a basher, I just think that sometimes he doesn't think about certain things the way I do and it is frustrating. He is still romantic even after all these years, sometimes. Then when he has an opportunity to be, be blows it. But I do sometimes also, so we do compliment each other most of the time.
Jan. 15, 2012 6:14 pm
lol, sounds like my house! He stands at the fridge, door open & stares...I ask what he's looking for, he tells me and I tell him the exact spot...he can't find it! So I hobble to the kitchen, reach past him & pick it up...he never saw it...nope, it's not just you!! They are all this way! And next time you need help, you're better off to just do it yourself in the first place than subject yourself to the grief!!! good luck!
Jan. 15, 2012 6:38 pm
Neeniejan, that is my thinking at this point. All I had to do was bend my big bu** over and grab it. But, no, I thought, the hubby always says he will "help" me in the kitchen, oh my. Oh, has this ever happened to you. He asks, "Where is the cheese I like?", I say "On the second shelf, a little to the right". He says, "Where? I don't see it, someone moved it". I get up, wobble into the kitchen am about 2 ft. from him and he says, "Oh, it's ok honey, don't come in, I found it by myself". Oh, OH, that is one time that I really think I should be able to hit him with something big and hard...My bad..
Jan. 15, 2012 8:34 pm
After over 30 years of marriage, I have found that the only thing that works in my kitchen is to keep him out of it. Otherwise, I will go crazy searching for things he put away from the dishwasher (honestly, dear, did you not see that ALL the spatulas were in this one drawer????) not to mention tearing my hair out over what he used to store the leftovers. It was either a divorce from the marriage or a divorce from the kitchen. The latter has worked for the last twenty years. I highly recommend it! :-)
Jan. 15, 2012 11:47 pm
I think I have the perfect husband. We have been married for 20 years and for the first 15 I thought he was totaly unable to do anything useful in the kitchen. Five years ago I fell and shattered my femer and it took a long time to heal. He took over and kept the house clean and put three good meals on the table. I still have a lot of pain sometimes and he is willing to do whatever needs to be done so I can stey off my leg.He not only cooks and cleans, he will also clean the litter box and change the bird cage. Think I will keep him.
Jan. 15, 2012 11:48 pm
I think I have the perfect husband. We have been married for 20 years and for the first 15 I thought he was totaly unable to do anything useful in the kitchen. Five years ago I fell and shattered my femer and it took a long time to heal. He took over and kept the house clean and put three good meals on the table. I still have a lot of pain sometimes and he is willing to do whatever needs to be done so I can stay off my leg.He not only cooks and cleans, he will also clean the litter box and change the bird cage. Think I'll keep him.
Jan. 16, 2012 7:42 am
I always say that if the "missing" grocery item in the frig was any closer it would bite him:)
Jan. 16, 2012 9:00 am
Mystery and Kat, you definately keep those winners.
Jan. 16, 2012 9:01 am
Oh Maui I am there with you. I have told him that also.
Jan. 16, 2012 4:09 pm
I have had to delete 3 users for spamming this blog. Is there something I can do to stop this?
Jan. 16, 2012 6:26 pm
I must confess that I am the one who is occasionally "memory-challenged". ;) Please realize that after many, many decades of remembering everything for everyone else, I can no longer remember anything for myself. LOL I am the one who will ask "Where did I put whatever-it-is?" My DH sweetly gazes at me and says, "2 inches away from your right hand." He is a dear heart, he truly is. :)
Jan. 16, 2012 6:32 pm
They are all the same one, ibbz. Spammers for sure but ultimately scammers promising big money. LaztCash% has been pirating our comments for several weeks. Kinda points out that they aren't too well off themselves because they cannot afford to be ethical.
Susan Bean 
Jan. 16, 2012 8:22 pm
I have enjoyed so many things I've read here. Learned alot of things and had alot of good aughts . It's been nice to find out I'm not the "only one" out here that does or doesn't do this or that. That's really the best thing of all. Enjoy yourself ,have some smart laughs and read it.You'll feel better for the experience.
Jan. 17, 2012 7:14 am
Oh ha ha ha My husband, bless his heart, decided (on his own) to re-organize my big shelves in the garage that are exclusively for my kitchen gadgets. ie: processor, blender, crocks, bread machine, salad spinner, cake totes, grill pans, cast iron and so on. I don't use these items every time I cook and I certainly don't have room for them in my kitchen. I have these items in their original boxes so everything stays nice and clean. Granted to someone else the shelves may not look "organized" but they are orderly for me because those are my tools. I know which ones I use most. Hubby put them in order of size so the shelves looked neat. I had them organized as to what I use often in the front for easy access and the lesser used items pushed to the back. Heavy items are on the bottom and things I can grab from the top shelf on my tiptoes are lighter for instance the paper products. He put my cast iron things on the top shelf and then started taking my brand new bread machine out of the box so it would "fit better" on the shelf. Until that moment I had been pretty cool about the whole situation thinking I would just put things back the way I like him when he left for work Monday morning. I mean why argue? But my new bread machine? He was tossing the box it came in? Grrrr I actually raised my voice and that is unusual for me. I bellowed, Honey I keep those things in their boxes so they stay clean out here in the garage. They need to stay clean because I use my tools for FOOD!!!! My husband is a contractor/carpenter by trade who owns his own business. I whipped opened the back of his truck and said, Hmmmm? This is so unorganized let me do it for you. Honey, I know you have your tools the way you like them, where you know where they are, the most used are easily accessible but to me it just looks like it needs to be organized my way. He conceded. I thought that was that. Nope, I peek in the garage later to see him marrying my Ball Mason Jars into three boxes so he could throw boxes away to make more room on the shelf. These jars contain all my homemade pickles, homemade jellies, jams and my pickled peppers. He decided to marry them all into fewer boxes and throw away the boxes that I use to store them in. I have written in Black Scripto Marker DO NOT TOSS THESE BOXES right inside them. I screamed, Don't you dare throw away those boxes! He said, You don't need them if there aren't that many jars anymore. I had to explain to him that the missing jars are not missing they are open in the fridge or at my mothers or at our neighbors. They are cleaned and returned I use them again so I need the boxes for storage. I asked, So after throwing away my boxes Mr Wizard where do I store the empty jars in bags? What about when I do pickling? Where do I store them now loose on the shelf now that wouldn't be organized. My point? I would never mess with my husband's job never mind appointing myself foreman. I would never mess with his tools because I don't know what his job entails. I love you Honey but stay out of my things. :) Actually we haven't had a tiff since last Winter. I suppose we had a case of Cabin Fever that day.
Jan. 17, 2012 7:49 am
I made a comment about something like this earlier here. Men and women sometimes don't think the same way about the same thing. You were perfectly within your right to ask him to leave your things where they were as they were in the order YOU wanted, not him. Hope he got you the appropriate boxes you need and left you to arrange things as you liked.
Jan. 17, 2012 7:50 am
Thanks for letting me know Mike. I'll just keep banning every time I see a post like that.
Jan. 17, 2012 8:27 am
ibbz My husband has an overwhelming number of good qualities. That day he certainly wasn't "seeing" things, that is my way anyway. :) Great Blog!
Jan. 17, 2012 1:20 pm
Wifey gets some pleasure from asking me to go get something and I can't locate it. Of course, i realized a long time ago that this is her own way of amusing herself. Just about the time I figure out where she keeps things she "reorganizes" the cabinets. I'll be unable to locate things for a while......then when I can locate things it's time for another "reorganization". She enjoys me being lost as much as I enjoy observing her antics.
Jan. 17, 2012 1:46 pm
KC, I'm sure it's all in your imagination. Us women wouldn't do that to you men. Oh, really, I mean, I just don't think we are capable of doing something like that. Are we ladies? ;)
Jan. 17, 2012 2:24 pm
Left brained? Right Brained? Wasn't there a popular book defining the distinct difference in the thought tought processes, something like: Men are from __ and women are from ___? Men think more in boxes, like: (focus)open this thought/task box, deal with this, put it away, then deal with another thought package...multi-tasking is not the strong suit, if I remember correctly, at least according to a very bright male friend, who said that's the way he thinks.
Jan. 17, 2012 2:25 pm
(Proof-reading what isn't on the screen would help) "thought" (not thought tought) Cooking dinner calls...
Jan. 17, 2012 2:27 pm
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus!! Yes, when I worked at the library that was a really popular book!
Jan. 17, 2012 3:27 pm
Ok, so the symbolism is sort of clear, (men are aliens, women are goddesses), I can live with that!
Jan. 17, 2012 9:11 pm
He has a 150+ IQ but will insist he doesn't know how to run the dishwasher. I might have beat him with a dishmop by now but he had the good sense to hire us a housekeeper. Now he only annoys me on weekends. But I love him and he looks hot in a tuxedo!
Jan. 18, 2012 7:04 am
It happens to me all the time.
Jan. 18, 2012 9:34 am
ooohhh my goodness....that happens to me with everything in the house...ask and it shall not be granted you lol
Jan. 18, 2012 4:05 pm
Dax, a tuxedo?? I've never seem him in a good fitting suit! He actually wore a "powder blue" suit to our wedding. Can you tell we were on a budget and he borrowed it from his uncle! We're talking 1976 people. My mother made my wedding dress. My 8 yr. old grand daughter will fit into it in a few years,,man,,I was young, skinny and apparently hot!! Ok, I got off track somewhere, was I responding to something important, darn, time to go back and read things again...
Jan. 19, 2012 9:26 am
LOL that is so funny! It sounds like my son! My husband on the other hand was banned from the kitchen and is not even allow to heat up anything on the stove top! This happened because he tried to put the stove on low....and get this he wanted to heat the bbq chicken I had made the night using the tupperware container it was in on the stove top on low! And that is just one of the stupd things he's done in the kitchen! So my hubby is not alloweed to touch my kitchen or at least not without seriouse consquences.
Jan. 19, 2012 10:08 am
Besides my boys husband is the worse can't find a gallon of milk in an 90% empty refrigerator!
Jan. 19, 2012 11:38 am
Hey, I think our husbands are brothers! Maybe sons too! Tupperware on the stovetop? What was he thinking? I"ve "mistakenly" left a plastic container on top near the vent from the oven and was cooking a roast in oven at the time. The smell coming from the stove was not the wonderful smell of roast, but that plastic, melting all over top and into the burners,,arghh, what a mess. It wasn't my fault,,I didn't see it there behind a pan that was in front of it. That is my story and I'm sticking to it..;)
Jan. 19, 2012 11:39 am
I really didn't see it, because it wasn't just one pan but a stack of dirty ones! My bad..
Jan. 19, 2012 12:43 pm
That convesation has happened in our house several times with wife to me - me to wife - wife to kids - me to kids.
Jan. 19, 2012 2:55 pm
Doug, if you mean my original post, yes, it seems to be a universal conversation. I think that it has been recorded that the "incident conversation" occurs every 13 seconds in the world.
Jan. 26, 2012 1:19 am
my roomate's aunt makes $83/hr on the laptop. She has been without work for 8 months but last month her pay was $8682 just working on the laptop for a few hours. Read more on this site...Nuttyrich . com
Click to Change your Profile Picture

Home Town
Wisconsin Rapids, Wisconsin, USA
Living In
Kenosha, Wisconsin, USA

Member Since
Apr. 2009

Cooking Level

Cooking Interests
Baking, Frying, Slow Cooking, Asian, Mexican, Italian, Southern, Kids, Quick & Easy

Gardening, Hiking/Camping, Camping, Walking, Fishing, Reading Books

Subscribe Today!

In Season

Gourmet Chicken
Gourmet Chicken

We have over 150 different ways to take chicken from everyday to gourmet.

Springtime Salads
Springtime Salads

All the tenderest leaves, baby vegetables, and early fruits are ready for the picking.

Spring Sale! Only $5.99
Spring Sale! Only $5.99

Great recipes and cooking tips! For a limited time, get a year of Allrecipes Magazine for $5.99.

About Me
My name is Deborah, please call me Debbie. I've been married for over 36 years to the same man. We have 2 children (girl and boy) and 2 grand daughters, one from each child. At the moment we have a gecko and a cat as housemates.
My favorite things to cook
I love cooking fried chicken in my cast iron pans. Any type of pasta dish is always a happy cooking time. I enjoy cooking fish and shrimp whenever possible. My family also enjoys my cornbread, biscuits, beans and greens, they eat almost every bite, so I know they like them.
My favorite family cooking traditions
Family insists that I make my "famous" potato salad for Easter, Christmas, Thanksgiving, actually any time is good for them.
My cooking triumphs
A castle cake w/moat for my grand daughter's 7th birthday made of Rice Krispies, frosting and a ton of toppings. It stood over a foot tall with the towers on top. She loved it, that is what matters to me.
My cooking tragedies
I tried making "meat muffins" and the fat from the ground pork overflowed the muffin tin, dripped on stove and caught fire, which in turn caught the meat on fire, which in turn caught the towel that I was holding while trying to get the pan out of the oven on fire, which in turn caught my pants on fire when I dropped it, which in turn burned my hand and arm when I tried to retrieve it, then I had to pay the landlord extra for the burned spot on the tile in the kitchen. I don't make meat muffins any more.
Argentina  |  Australia & New Zealand  |  Brazil  |  Canada  |  China  |  France  |  Germany  |  India  |  Italy  |  Japan  |  Korea  |  Mexico

Netherlands  |  Poland  |  Quebec  |  Russia  |  SE Asia  |  United Kingdom & Ireland  |  United States