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How rude the world has become. 
 
Jan. 3, 2012 6:48 pm 
Updated: Jan. 13, 2012 1:27 am
I was shopping at a store today with my 8 yr. old grand daughter for a new bookshelf for her room. We were clearing out some old books and her shelf literally fell apart in our hands. We set off shopping at a few stores. Found a really cute "cookie jar" which we bought, but finally found the perfect book shelf for her room. It was the last one in the store so we had to grab it, it was on sale. It was one of those that you have to put together so it was heavy. Had to have a dolly to get it to the car. Only 2 women were working the store so we were at our own to get help to get it into the car. Well, no man would actually make eye contact for me to ask for help, as usual. We manuvered it around the car and almost got it in the back seat, but it didn't fit, so we slid it out back onto the dolly. We finally managed to get it in the back seat with moving the grand daughter into a seat on the opposite side of the car and leaning part of the box on her seat and the floor. This took some time. All this time a car was parked behind ours as if waiting for someone to come out of one of the stores. I noticed there was a man in the drivers seat and was tempted to ask him for help, but decided not to, you never know. So, as driving out of the lot after finally getting the box in the car, I noticed that the man in that car was a friend of my sons whom I have known for many years. This young man sat there watching us for all that time. I took the time to honk and wave to him as we left the lot, and I know he saw me then and acknowledged me. I was quite hurt as I have befriended this boy when his parents didn't understand him and he needed someone to talk to and he came to me. My son happened to call me awhile after I got home and I told him about the incident. Well, I guess his "friend" was on the phone to him when it happened and had called after we had left and told him that he "saw us at the store". This shows to me the callousness of young people today. Even if you didn't know me, would it have hurt you to help a struggling old woman and child with a helpful hand? Don't ask me to help the young when they don't even attempt to help anyone else. My rant for the day. I did make it home to make a wonderful pork roast with potatoes, onions and carrots. And the collard greens with bacon and onion with homemade biscuits. I had to take my frustration out, so I used it in cooking.
 
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Jan. 4, 2012 2:57 am
It scares me that manners seem to have gone by the wayside of late. I work in a busy doctor's office part time and the other day a woman came in with four children (even though only one of them needed to see the doc) and took up five chairs, leaving no empty seats. A few minutes later an elderly man came in, walking cautiously with a cane. He stood by the wall, waiting. Now if the children were never taught to give their seat to someone who needs it more than them, you can't blame the child - but THE MOTHER???? She just sat there too, not offering a chair to this elderly man. After two minutes passed I politely asked if one of the children would kindly give a seat to the elderly man. The mom looked at me in a HUFF, then told one of the children "I guess you'll HAVE TO give up YOUR chair honey, or the lady will get mad!" Suddenly I was the bad person! Still can't believe it!
 
Jan. 4, 2012 7:05 am
It seems like the world has become a negative place but it still has many kindly folks in it and a simple nod from any of them can offset a whole day of bad experiences. Don't let this one act of thoughtlessness ruin even a tiny part of your life.
 
Jan. 4, 2012 7:36 am
Maybe, I'm the odd one but I made a point of teaching my kid to be respectful to older people. He would have helped you and he certainly would have given up his sit at that Dr's office. For that matter, I would have given up my seat and if I'd seen you struggling with a huge box, I would have helped you. Mike's right don't let one person's thoughtlessness get to you-cause what comes around goes around!
 
Jan. 4, 2012 8:17 am
I agree with Cat! I would do the same thing, it comes naturally! .. and I'm only 22! We arent all rude and uncourteous.. Its just the way some kids are raised.. We were taught from a very young age what our mum deemed basic manners.. giving up your seat to an elder & volunteering to help people who seem to need it. As my mum would say, respecting elders and showing mercy to youngers..
 
Jan. 4, 2012 8:34 am
I hate to tell you my experience with an older gentleman at Costco yesterday. I walked up to the carts and was trying to pry apart the stubborn carts. After a minute of two, a man about 70 and looked in good health (I am close to 60) started tugging on the cart with me. It finally broke loose and he grabbed it and walked into the store with it. I was so flabbergasted. Another man behind me started to help me pry the next carts apart and he said he couldn't believe what he had just witnessed either. Impolite people seem to transcend any age group.
 
Jan. 4, 2012 8:36 am
I do think sometimes that people are afraid to get involved, and only help when asked.
 
Jan. 4, 2012 9:00 am
I agree with most of the sentiments here but also believe that sometimes we should try to presume innocence. Perhaps the young man was in his own little world, talking on the phone, waiting for someone, and never even noticed what was happening with you. At the least, I would try not personalize his actions. It doesn't sound like you recognized him until the end so maybe the same is true of him.
 
Jan. 4, 2012 9:17 am
Sadly though you can not blame the youth for their behavior only ourselves. After all who raised them? But I agree and it's not just the youth that behave this way. Sadly the elderly are pretty nasty here in FL. Especially the "snow" birds. They come down here and act like they own the town...or should we say a good bit of them. They will take your cart out from under you. push your children to the floor (and when this happend secruity happened to be there and took care of the old man for me or I would had knocked him on his scrawny old wrinkled butt) they jump in line in front of you and will refuse to move. They will not yeild to pedstriastins and pretend they don't see them just like the pretend your not there when they wnat over and don't even bother with the turning signal. The ill manners and behaviors always starts wtih a decline in grammer, speech, education and the way the society dresses. So this has been in the works for a long time! I even had our neighboor get mad at me because I asked him to move his car off of my property so I could leave!
 
Jan. 4, 2012 9:59 am
mauigirl that's funny, I'm sure not at the time for you, but I have seen that too.
 
Amanda 
Jan. 4, 2012 10:58 am
I agree with Cuppycake, not all of the younger generation are rude and inconsiderate. A lot of it has to do with how a person was raised, not just their age. Please don't let one or two bad apples spoil your opinion on an entire generation of people.
 
covergirl 
Jan. 4, 2012 11:43 am
I was in line at the grocery, halfway thru my order being rung up and a man who obviously was a snowbird from above out states northern border shoved me aside and said "I only have 2 things here so I am going through". It soon became clear to him that my order was in progress and he met with a very frosty reception from me and the cashier. He huffed and puffed and got really mad and stormed off to another line. Who are these people, and if you don't like the way we do it here, go home already and don't come back. There I feel so much better now.
 
Jan. 4, 2012 12:13 pm
Never heard of a "snowbird", But snowbird = http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Snowbird_(people)
 
Jan. 4, 2012 12:14 pm
I want to move some where it is 69F all year long.
 
Jan. 4, 2012 2:35 pm
I'm sorry you had a bad experience. I have been fortunate, I guess but I have never hesitated to ask someone when I need help - even if I don't know them. It has been my experience that there are polite young people and rude ones, but the same is true with elderly and middle aged people.
 
Jan. 4, 2012 3:55 pm
It'a oh so hard not to be angry at the way kids seem to be brought up these days. But these kids sound like Sunday-schoolers compared to NJ idiots. Trying to fanagle a box (in my case a Christmas tree of all things) only to turn around, and my purse was taken from the cart!
 
ibbz 
Jan. 4, 2012 5:24 pm
I was a little concerned about putting this blog up, but now I am glad I did. Just to the response of people lets me know that I am not alone in not having the capacity to understand peoples actions. I brought up my children to be kind, helpful people. My little grand daughter that lives with us was with me on this trip is the most giving, generous, kind, child I could ever want to meet. She goes with me to 2 local shelters for the homeless in our city. We bake goods, bring in items that they are needing, when we can. She actually asks when we are going again so she can give them something of her own or makes things to give. I am being truthful here. Parents, teach your children kindness and giving, not "gimme".
 
Jan. 4, 2012 6:05 pm
See, ibbz, you aren't alone and this is just what I think, what you put out in the world you will get back! You just may not get it the day you could have used a helping hand but the day you need many hands. Have you seen mauigirl? I want to look like that at 60!!
 
ibbz 
Jan. 4, 2012 6:26 pm
So sorry Sunflower. Isn't it so sad that we need to be so concerned about even 2 seconds about not looking at our carts and things are taken. Where are the parents that teach their children to respect others possessions.
 
ibbz 
Jan. 4, 2012 6:31 pm
Sunflower, I am so sorry that happened to you. I guess a heads up the next time you take your eyes off your purse. How sad has this world become. Wrap your purse around your hand, never let your eye stray. Where is the world of trusting people. Gone with the way. So sad.
 
Jan. 5, 2012 2:40 pm
A snowbird is a FL term for the people that come here and live during the winter months! They are the ruddess, nasties people on the planet! WEll at least most of them are but not all! I really don't get it because I can bet they do not act that way up north!
 
Jan. 6, 2012 5:35 pm
I agree that manners and being courteous are in short supply across all ages. Keep in mind that this does not encompass everyone! There are still good people out there, though they do seem few and far between! I get so irked by people caught up with their electronic gadgets-phones, MP3 players, tablets, whatever!-they drive poorly, block the aisles at the grocery store, and hold up sales at the register. (Sorry, had to add my own 2 cents!)
 
Jan. 13, 2012 1:27 am
Its sad when people are not willing to help, I often just think that some of the younger generation really just don't think. But luckily not every one n the world is like that!
 
 
 
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My name is Deborah, please call me Debbie. I've been married for over 36 years to the same man. We have 2 children (girl and boy) and 2 grand daughters, one from each child. At the moment we have a gecko and a cat as housemates.
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Family insists that I make my "famous" potato salad for Easter, Christmas, Thanksgiving, actually any time is good for them.
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A castle cake w/moat for my grand daughter's 7th birthday made of Rice Krispies, frosting and a ton of toppings. It stood over a foot tall with the towers on top. She loved it, that is what matters to me.
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I tried making "meat muffins" and the fat from the ground pork overflowed the muffin tin, dripped on stove and caught fire, which in turn caught the meat on fire, which in turn caught the towel that I was holding while trying to get the pan out of the oven on fire, which in turn caught my pants on fire when I dropped it, which in turn burned my hand and arm when I tried to retrieve it, then I had to pay the landlord extra for the burned spot on the tile in the kitchen. I don't make meat muffins any more.
 
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