LEFTOVERS...a good way to deal with grumpy husbands
Nov. 12, 2009 3:49 pm
Updated: Nov. 19, 2009 2:29 pm
"Well, YOU can just eat leftovers!!" was the snide remark that never made it out of my mouth as I slammed the door on my way to "find some sanity". Some days, the saint you just hailed on Monday turns into an unidentifiable irritation by Thursday...how does that happen?
It is his responsibility to do the dinner dishes...usually he does them the next morning but today it was but bugging me since i really want them done the night of dinner. All I said was "I think we need another system for doing the dishes...having again come home to last nights dinner dishes still on the counter at 3pm.... I thought I was calm, I thought I was using the Dr. Phil approach...apparently not because that comment led to an interesting response from my already frazzled husband.
It was just too much for me and I had to go for a drive...cry...call a friend....go for a walk...buy a sprinkler and eat some ice cream.
After I had accomplished all that, I felt better. In talking with my friend...owner of an equally grumpy husband on occasion, I was able to realize once again that I cry, he gets mad. Just different ways of dealing with life, that I have only known for 28 years but somehow forget. We've had a lot of stress with his Dad and my Dad dying so close together and I guess it's legitimate that we will have a few melt downs for awhile.
Anyhow, gracious as he usually is, he apologized...........I still gave him leftovers.