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LEFTOVERS...a good way to deal with grumpy husbands 
 
Nov. 12, 2009 3:49 pm 
Updated: Nov. 19, 2009 2:29 pm
"Well, YOU can just eat leftovers!!"  was the snide remark that never made it out of my mouth as I slammed the door on my way to "find some sanity".  Some days, the saint you just hailed on Monday turns into an unidentifiable irritation by Thursday...how does that happen? 
 It is his responsibility to do the dinner dishes...usually he does them the next morning but today it was but bugging me since i really want them done the night of dinner.   All I said was "I think we need another system for doing the dishes...having again come home to last nights dinner dishes still on the counter at 3pm....  I thought I was calm, I thought I was using the Dr. Phil approach...apparently not because that comment led to an interesting response from my already frazzled husband. 
It was just too much for me and I had to go for a drive...cry...call a friend....go for a walk...buy a sprinkler and eat some ice cream.
After I had accomplished all that, I felt better.  In talking with my friend...owner of an equally grumpy husband on occasion, I was able to realize once again that I cry, he gets mad.  Just different ways of dealing with life, that I have only known for 28 years but somehow forget.  We've had a lot of stress with his Dad and my Dad dying so close together and I guess it's legitimate that we will have a few melt downs for awhile.
Anyhow, gracious as he usually is, he apologized...........I still gave him leftovers.
 
Comments
Nov. 12, 2009 4:08 pm
He's lucky he didn't get a can of dog food. An old friend of mine had a Mom that did that to her husband when she got mad at him. I bet your left overs taste gourmet anyway!
 
Nov. 12, 2009 4:14 pm
I always do the cooking in our house, so I always do the dishes. I tell my husband, "Don't worry about the kitchen. If the kitchen is a mess, it's probably my fault. Just clean the rest of the house." That usually works for me. My husband hates doing dishes, so I give him an alternative.
 
cocojo 
Nov. 12, 2009 5:23 pm
but my husband hates cleaning the rest of the house too!
 
Gitano 
Nov. 12, 2009 5:33 pm
hmmmmm... your gonna hate me, I make the dinners (and the mess) and hubby cleans up - immediately afterward, don't have to ask and sometimes have to fight him for the dishcloth! His motto - YOU made the mess - I get to clean up! I don't mind, even if he does need a lifejacket when he does the dishes (the floor doesn't need washing when he's done as it is spic an span by then!) I just give him a big ol' hug and open another can of beer for him! ;)
 
Nov. 12, 2009 5:52 pm
Coco, I just got your post bout the prep store. That was soo nice of you.:) I am thinking of the city college and a culinary course.It is a really good class, close by, Cheaper! They cover a wide range of topics, bread(yeast,quick), pastry, etc. I know there is a ton of stuff I could learn. I'm sure I would be in the middle of the semester, might have to wait till next one starts. I have waited this long, I am in no hurry.:) BTW, My hubby does the laundry and is the bread winner, well most of it, and the kids and I take care of the dishes. I eat a lot of leftovers and I do not mind. When they start to pile up in the fridge, I make Mystery meat taco's/burritos/ enchiladas. HEE Just change the leftovers look like something else and they eat it up and think it was the first time!! Well, gotta scoot to RE. Thanks again Coco, BTW, try that cake I have on my blog, really good! MMM See ya, Patty
 
Allee 
Nov. 13, 2009 9:29 am
Your husbands clean??
 
Nov. 13, 2009 3:48 pm
Hey Coco, what is shakin? I just drained the can of fruit in the measuring cup and it happened to be 2/3 of a cup so I just used that in place of the water! I am soo glad you agree with me about the college. I really want to try it and I think it would be a blast to do! thanks again and for giving my nutty cake a shot! If there is something that needs to be tweaked with it, let me know! I hope you have a Fab weekend! Say do you watch Survivor? I am hooked and I am becoming crazy for the conniver(Russel). He should win! Take care, Patty
 
JOAN 
Nov. 15, 2009 9:32 am
My significant other decided to "help" by getting the cobwebs around the ceiling. He brought in the shop vac and went at it. Pretty soon the house was in a foggy haze of dust. When I said something he said he'd just cleaned the filters, popped his ear muffs he uses for shooting back on and plowed in again, slamming, banging and shoving furniture around in the process. What can you do? I just let him go, then said "Thanks honey", and proceeded to air out the house and dust everything AGAIN after he marched off to his shop to play.
 
JOAN 
Nov. 15, 2009 9:41 am
I should have said happily marched off to his shop... he equates slamming, banging and generally making lots of noise with cleaning... as if that will scare the dirt away.
 
cocojo 
Nov. 19, 2009 2:28 pm
Joan...yeah, my husband slams and bangs around too....what's that all about??!!
 
cocojo 
Nov. 19, 2009 2:29 pm
Joan...yeah, my husband slams and bangs around too....what's that all about??!!
 
 
 
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Loving life at 50ish. Kids are gone and I'm focusing on my career! I enjoyed running a chocolate truffle business for 3 years and now teach adults and children about chocolate. I also teach hands on cooking classes at a local cooking school and am writing my first cookbook! Please visit me at my blog www.allrecipes.com/cook/givethemfood
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when I was teaching myself to cook way back in college, I made these wonderful oatmeal raisin cookies for my roomies....only problem was I forgot the flour! The cookies became one big mass that overflowed the cookie sheet and made a huge mess in the oven!
 
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