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GIVE THEM FOOD...and other ways to cope with life

Nov. 1, 2009 4:32 am 
Updated: Nov. 18, 2009 3:23 pm
Well, it's been over 3 weeks since I posted.  We are back from Canada where my Dad passed away peacefully on October 24th.  Thanks for all your thoughts and prayers during this difficult time for my family.
Usually we only spend a few days back in Ontario but this time we were there for 2 weeks.  I had forgotten how beautiful October in Canada is.  The sun shines brightly and maple trees are everywhere giving big shows of red and orange and yellow.  The air is crisp and the city is always alive with a melting pot of cultures.  Such a different experience than the mid west.
Of course, this was a time of lots of tears as we watched my Dad live his last few days in this world.  I am grateful for wonderful health care in a province where the family doesn't have to worry about how to pay the bills of a dying loved one.  We got to spend lots of time with Dad in the Palliative Care Unit...a quiet place where private rooms have large picture windows with views of beautiful fall leaves.
As everyone that has lost a parent knows, even as you go through this experience, in the midst of it's pain there is also a powerful rebirth of family connections.  It was good to be with family I rarely see.
My Dad was not a religious man but I believe especially in his last year with us, he developed his own relationship with God. I had a precious 10 minutes alone with him where I talked to him about God's mercy and love. I prayed for him as he lay semi conscious but awake enough to indicate that he heard me.   He may not have understood all the theology but I know in his last hours, he accepted God's love for him and was peaceful about his journey to his new home.  Dad died with no struggles  at 1am with my sister holding one hand and my mother the other.
I have had a long relationship with God but I am not a sensational Christian.  I am not one who seeks outward manifestations of God working, but I must tell you that on the way to the hospital the night that Dad died I looked out the window and up through the heavy fog of the night and asked God to assure me that He had my Dad  with Him.  I immediately had a vision of Dad bowing before the throne of God, dressed in his hospital gown, his body frail and stick thin.  The arms of God swooped in around him and as they totally covered him, they transformed into 2 large white wings.  As the white wings opened, I saw my Dad turn around, arms stretched out, as he stood there tall, strong, handsome and smiling.  No more sickness, no more weakness....fully restored in his new body, waiting for the rest of was a quiet peace in my heart that he was at peace in his new home.  It was such a gift to me, I was overwhelmed with gratefulness.
I think that a lot of us "Christians" can get caught up in our "formulas" of how we interpret scripture.  In the end, I have decided that there are only two  things  that I know for sure. "Anyone who calls on the name of Jesus will be saved."  and God's character is one of mercy and love.

"and He shall wipe away every tear from their eyes,and there shall no longer be any death,there shall no longer be any mourning or crying or pain; the first things have passed away........I am the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end.  I will give to  the one who thirsts from the spring of the water of life without cost.  He who overcomes shall inherit these things, and I will be his God and he will be my Son."  Revelation21
Nov. 1, 2009 6:00 am
I am so sorry for your loss. Your blog brought tears to my eyes as I remember the death of my mom and my conviction, still as strong today as it was then, that my mother was in God's arms, safe and painfree for the first time in many years. It really was with a glad heart that I said good-bye to her, knowing I would see her again. You wrote so beautifully of such a painful subject. God bless you.
Nov. 1, 2009 6:08 am
So sorry for the loss of your dad
Nov. 1, 2009 8:27 am
This is not an easy time. Lost my Dad 5 years ago and my Mom 1 year ago and miss them every day. I too know that I will see them again and when going through struggles in my life it is a comfort to talk to them and know they are watching over me. You always write such beautiful blogs but this one will touch many hearts! Thank you for sharing so beautifully a very difficult time in your life.
Nov. 1, 2009 8:52 am
Coco, I'm so sorry to hear of your dad's passing but at the same time, glad that you and the rest of your family can now move on. Those painful days prior are so hard on the survivors. There is a sense of helplessness and mourning of not only the family member dying, but that little piece of themselves that is forever changed. You stated your feelings beautifully. He's home now and watching over you and all of those he loved. That in itself offers comfort. Blessings to you and your family.
Nov. 1, 2009 8:52 am
Coco, I'm so sorry to hear of your dad's passing but at the same time, glad that you and the rest of your family can now move on. Those painful days prior are so hard on the survivors. There is a sense of helplessness and mourning of not only the family member dying, but that little piece of themselves that is forever changed. You stated your feelings beautifully. He's home now and watching over you and all of those he loved. That in itself offers comfort. Blessings to you and your family.
Nov. 1, 2009 8:53 am
Oh brother, sorry about the double post.
Nov. 1, 2009 11:49 am
Thanks for sharing that!
Nov. 1, 2009 12:57 pm
Beautiful post, thank you for sharing. I said goodbye to a close friend this week because of swine flu. She too stood before the throne and was made new. I agree with the two things you know for sure.
Nov. 1, 2009 1:34 pm
Coco, I'm so sorry you've lost your Dad. Thank you for sharing your vision with us, it moved me to tears but happy tears. You've been through a lot since I've started reading your blog. The upcoming months will be difficult with the holidays coming up. I hope you can keep up the connections you made with your family to fill some of the gaps left by those you have lost. I'm glad you were there for your parents and yourself. Again, sorry you've had so many life and death experiences so close together. Have strength.
Nov. 1, 2009 4:10 pm
Thank you all for such kind words. I know a lot of you have had this experience of losing a parent and your words bring comfort.
Nov. 1, 2009 9:10 pm
Coco, blessings. I just came on this and tears are streaming. God is; and He is in the business of restoration. Your vision of a restored dad waiting for the restoration of the family...and the world...beautiful.
Nov. 2, 2009 3:52 am
cocojo so very sorry for your dad's passing, i feel your pain,you & your family are in my prayers, good wishes to you
Nov. 2, 2009 4:28 am
I'm so sorry for your loss - what a beautiful blog. It brought tears to my eyes
Nov. 2, 2009 4:56 am
I am glad you had that time to be with your dad and the rest of your family. May God bring you peace and comfort in the weeks to follow. Glad you made it back home safely. ♥
Nov. 2, 2009 8:14 am
Thanks for sharing that with us. It was beautifully written and so very personal. I still miss both my parents terribly as we were the best of friends. But when it was their time, I loved them enough to let them pass with my blessings so they wouldn't need to suffer any longer. It's tough and you'll be in my meditations. Blessings to you and your family.
Nov. 2, 2009 5:35 pm
I never thought that writing a blog would introduce me to such lovely people. You have all been so compassionate through these last few months....thank you
Pat D 
Nov. 7, 2009 7:09 am
I am deeply saddened to hear of your Dad's passing. Thank you for sharing so intimately your journey with our friend, Jesus. I too lost my Dad in the fall of 2004. My treasured moment was when I walked a Labrynth and received the message, be still and know that I am with you always. My heart was touched and the panic was gone. Jesus brought me peace. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your precious family (s).
Nov. 8, 2009 1:27 pm
Pat D...thank you also for sharing your story...we all have to walk this path at some point and it's good to get comfort from others who have been there.
Nov. 16, 2009 9:39 pm
I've thought of you often but haven't had the time to stop in until now. I am so sorry to hear of your dads passing but I loved your vision. Tears are rolling down my face as I type. Thank you for sharing and for sending comforting words about those who call on the name of the Lord. I, too, know your dad's with Him. God bless you, Ivory
Nov. 18, 2009 3:23 pm
Ivory...thank you for your sweet words.
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