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GIVE THEM FOOD...and other ways to cope with life

Aug. 28, 2009 3:52 pm 
Updated: Aug. 30, 2009 9:22 am
Tears rolled down my face as I savored each sweet comment left on my blog.  Thank you all so very much for taking time to share  your memories of losing your parents and to offer such words of encouragement.  Each entry touched my heart. I am overwhelmed.

We are all individuals and yet we all walk the same path at some point.  Friends make it bearable.  Thank you for showing me friendship.

"Pleasant words are a honeycomb,
Sweet to the soul and healing to the bones."
Proverbs 16:24
Aug. 28, 2009 7:17 pm
miracles happen! i'm a witness to one now. may you be blessed as well!
Aug. 28, 2009 7:36 pm
sorry to intrude again. but after after having life shuffled and dealt from the bottom of the deck, i kept a more personal journal. one detailing the details, our "connections", and shared experiences. i suggest you begin one. keep your faith! miracles happen!
Aug. 28, 2009 8:11 pm
Dearest cocojo, my thoughts are with you in your darkest hour. I lost my mom to leukemia almost 7 years ago, but it seems like yesterday. I was blessed to have her in my life for 33 years. I was lucky that she met my fiance but she never met her twin grandchildren, even though I know it is her spirit that I see in my 18 month old daughter. Just as my mom will always live on in my heart and in my fondest memories, so will your dad. Keep his memory alive by carrying on his traditions and sharing with others what he has taught you. I truly believe that God is setting a place at His table and that your dad will be called by Him to go home. I've learned that we grieve for ourselves as we are watching the ship leave the dock carrying our loved ones. Take solace knowing that there are loved ones who are lovingly waiting for him on the other side and that one day we will be reunited with them. I pray that his last days on earth are peaceful and that his suffering is minimal. I will also pray for you and your family that you find the strength to endure. Blessings to you, cocojo.
Aug. 28, 2009 8:12 pm
The man above my head knows of what he speaks! He is the definition of a true man. I lost my mother when I was 15 yo, I'll be 44 yo next month. I can't tell you what I would give for her to be here so I could punch her in the face! She committed suicide and I was angry for soo very long I can't tell you! I am truly sorry to here about your Father I will pray for him and you to help get you through this difficult time in your life.God Bless you and your dear family.
Aug. 28, 2009 8:25 pm
I've been thinking about you tonight. Know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I haven't lost a parent yet, but I just can't imagine. Keep your head up and remember that these funny people you have come to know through AR are here for you!
Aug. 28, 2009 8:43 pm
This week has certainly been emotionally charged for everyone it seems. Coco, Charlene has stated quite eloquently what most likely will be an inevetible outcome. Please take comfort in that and know that your dad has had a good life, he raised you to adulthood, he got to see his grandkids grow up. As hard as it is, this is life. Miracles do happen, and if it does turn around, we are in awe of a gracious God who isn't ready to recieve your dad yet. If he does pass, remember, his work here on earth is finished. You are in my prayers.
Aug. 29, 2009 12:29 am
The only thing harder than losing a parent is watching that person disappear into suffering. My father was ill for a long time and I, like you was now nearby. I keep him in my prayers, that he may not suffer and I keep you in my prayers, that you find solace.
Mel K 
Aug. 29, 2009 4:29 am
Cocojo, Special thoughts of you this morning. Praying that you have rested and thanking God that you know others care and are lifting you and yours in prayer. Blessings, Mel One Day at a Time" Each day a battle, each day a victory... Each day -- one day at a time.
Aug. 29, 2009 1:20 pm
This is one of those times it sucks to be a grownup. You have my permission to wrap yourself in a quilt and cry while you are waiting. Cry for the happy times, cry for the miles that separate you, cry for the times that you won't be able to share. Empty your tears now, so that when you need to be strong for the rest of the family, you will be ready. I've been there too. That's why I quilt.
Aug. 29, 2009 2:09 pm
Such great words of wisdom from those above & all so true. I watched my father die from cancer when I was 13, my Mom was here w/me when she died almost 10 years ago. I hope she found some comfort in her last years,as we couldn't communicate due to her Alzheimer's. Prayers are coming your way.
Aug. 29, 2009 2:15 pm
Cocojo, I just wanted to add my two bits. I have lost my grandma, who was like a mom to me and my father-in-law and my dad. It's so hard to watch them go. Nothing prepares you except for feeling the love of God close. But, facing this also makes us face our own mortality as well. What really happens? What is Heaven like? How will he just 'let go'? I am praying that you will have something happen that will be a treasure in all of this for you for the rest of your life. This happened to me with both of our dad's and there's not enough words here to tell you. Let yourself feel what ever you need to and please be kind to yourself too. The strawberry sauce sounds wonderful! I will be praying for you and your family. If you can, video tape him and some of his stories while you have the chance. Love, Lori
Aug. 30, 2009 9:22 am
cocojo - I'm so sorry for what you're experiencing. I lost my mother to cancer 15 years ago after an 8 year struggle - she was never able to meet my children. I also lost a 16 year old student to liver cancer (yes 16) about 6 months after my mother passed away. What a nice tribute to your father. It's never easy to lose someone you love, and cancer is so cruel. Remember to take care of yourself and remember all the good things about his life.
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