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Celebrating Life with Paula

Celebrating Recovery 
 
Mar. 27, 2014 10:50 am 
Updated: Apr. 1, 2014 7:14 pm
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Last week at my mother's house was wonderful! She is so much better. I am seeing improvement day to day. She has had no pain for almost a week now and is beginning to fix her own breakfast and do her own laundry. She is eating more, doing more, and walking with more stability even though she still uses a walker. I can see the light at the end of a very long, dark tunnel.


I still prepared evening meals. After all, I had made out the menu and brought all the food with me, so I made dinner for Mother, my husband, and me. I still like trying new recipes, and Mother is up for eating them. Of course, my husband has always been a willing guinea pig.


I made BBQ sandwiches with some pork tenderloin my sister had cooked, accompanied by Restaurant-Style Coleslaw II and Cheesy Twice Baked Potatoes.


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Another night I prepared Savory Apricot Chicken with Vegetable Rice. I must have lost my mind for a bit this night (he he) because I honestly never realized I had used peach preserves instead of apricot preserves until we were discussing this recipe after dinner! Now that was a scary thought, but it was a happy mistake. I just can't imagine this tasting any better! I served it with Greek Carrots and the vegetable rice (my vegetable I added was English Peas).


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The third new recipe I tried was Bow Ties with Sausage, Tomatoes, and Cream. This was such an easy dish to prepare and very tasty! Served with a fresh salad, it made for a quick evening meal.


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The physical therapist is the one who suggested she start making her own breakfast and doing her own laundry. It has been really difficult to watch her struggle to do things that were so easy for her for so many years. I just want to do them for her, but I know that's not in her best interest. She is so proud, too, that she can accomplish these things. She has even gone into the kitchen and starting fixing her lunch some days. She's faithful to do her exercises everyday. She is quite aware that these exercises are what have strengthened her and allowed her to not be housebound or in a wheelchair.


We went on our very first outing this last week; that is, somewhere besides the ER or a doctor's office. We went to a small specialty boutique to purchase a birthday gift for a friend, then to Hobby Lobby just to a certain section to look for a new flower arrangement for her house, and then to Piccadilly for lunch. Not too taxing, and the warmer sunshiny day really brightened her spirits, especially since this was the day my daddy had died 8 years ago.


Thank you all for your concern for my mother over these last three months. I believe she will be able to live independently  if she continues as she is now. I do realize, though, that my sister and I will need to be more hands on. We will need to do her housework for her as well as provide some meals. We will also need to check in rather frequently and pick certain days to just be with her. She has agreed to give up driving, so we will be taking her to the beauty shop, grocery store, and church. I'm not sure when all this will begin, but we'll know when it's time. Our lives will certainly change once again as we all adjust to this new day-to-day routine. But it's a blessing to still have our mother with us.

 

 

 
Comments
Mar. 27, 2014 10:58 am
hi paula! it sounds like your mom has really began a great recovery! i know what you mean when you say you want to do more, but she needs to do it. very sweet that she wanted to get out ( and was capable ) of getting out of the anniversary. your mom is a tough one making breakfast and doing the laundry. when she starts complaining about not being able to drive will be the next hoop ya will have to jump thru. great news paula!
 
Paula 
Mar. 27, 2014 11:00 am
Well, I have finally figured out how to insert photos (I switched from blogger to wordpress), but I don't like the font now. Gonna have to figure that one out. ~sigh~ I really wish AR would make blogging easier.
 
Paula 
Mar. 27, 2014 11:05 am
Gary - I know that you know! You've been where I am and more. So far, I have been very blessed because Mother has not complained or criticized once. Not once! I also know that the driving issue will be worse if I don't make myself available to help her on a regular basis. So I'm hoping and praying it won't become an issue. (Call me Pollyanna?) We'll see.
 
Mar. 27, 2014 11:47 am
You and your sister have done a wonderful job! Your mother must be so proud of you both. As I get older I worry about the day I can no longer do for myself, so I know you lifted a huge worry from her mind. Your menu is making me hungry! I hope all the progress continues so you can take some time for yourself.
 
Mar. 27, 2014 11:48 am
Paula you and your sister are amazing daughters. You are lucky to have such an easy going and appreciative Mom. She sounds like a wonderful women, well she has to be right she raised you. So happy she is getting better and able to enjoy life again.
 
Mar. 27, 2014 11:53 am
Paula - I am glad your mom is doing well! Good work!
 
Staci 
Mar. 27, 2014 12:23 pm
Paula - it really sounds like your Mother is doing quite well. She is truly lucky to have such caring and capable daughters nearby. Keep up your good work!
 
Mar. 27, 2014 12:46 pm
Aloha Paula, I am so happy your mama is improving. It is so hard to watch our parents struggle when we depended on them for so long ourselves. I applaud you and your sister for stepping up to the plate!
 
Bibi 
Mar. 27, 2014 12:57 pm
Wonderful news, Paula! The love you all have for each other comes shining through. May your mother continue to thrive under the watchful care of you and your sister.
 
Mar. 27, 2014 2:17 pm
It is difficult watching parents age and finding appropriate ways to help. You and your sister have done a wonderful job. I am glad you have a sister who is willing and able to share the load. Best wishes for your mother.
 
Paula 
Mar. 27, 2014 2:51 pm
BigShotsMom - My mother has said over and over, "I never thought I'd get like this and need so much help." That statement has amazed me. We all are going to die. If we're lucky, it will come very quickly. Otherwise, we may end up needing lots and lots of help. I have already begun to think about the things I need to do as I get much older or if my husband dies before I do: downsize, get rid of stuff I don't use, declutter and streamline, just to name a few. We need to plan for the time we can't take care of ourselves.
 
Paula 
Mar. 27, 2014 2:52 pm
Joey - As I've told you before, you have inspired me with the way you've taken care of your mom.
 
Paula 
Mar. 27, 2014 2:53 pm
Mrs. J - Thanks so much. But I have to remember, my mother has done much work too. She had to want to get better and do the things we all asked of her.
 
Paula 
Mar. 27, 2014 2:55 pm
Staci - I think all the time about people who don't have children nearby. When things like this happen, it becomes very difficult to get enough care. I'm afraid too many old people are just left to die.
 
Paula 
Mar. 27, 2014 2:56 pm
Mauigirl - Yes, watching the struggle has been really difficult. Everything takes twice as long and is twice as hard. I think strength comes in the struggle...for all of us.
 
Paula 
Mar. 27, 2014 2:57 pm
Bibi and Marie C - Thanks for your well wishes. I am very grateful my sister and I can share the load.
 
Mar. 27, 2014 7:07 pm
Glad to hear Mom is doing better and kudos to you and your sister!
 
Lace 
Mar. 28, 2014 7:00 am
I've enjoyed your beautiful, heartfelt blog. All the best to you ladies!
 
Lela 
Mar. 28, 2014 7:15 am
Paula, I think all the loving care you and your sister have a lot to do with how your mom's progress is coming along. The coffee in the lovely tea cups is something to look forward to each day. I don't know what I would of done if I didn't have my 3 brothers. They helped tremendously when my parents had health issues. Well wishes for your mom's recovery.
 
Paula 
Mar. 28, 2014 8:38 am
Magnolia Blossom and Lace - Thanks for reading!
 
Paula 
Mar. 28, 2014 8:41 am
Lela - You're right. I think older people who don't have someone looking out for them and being their advocates live a shorter, less fulfilling life. I think the medical profession just writes them off. And, yes, I am really thankful I have a sister to help share the responsibilities. And the lovely teacups? That's for another blog! :)
 
Mar. 30, 2014 7:43 pm
Paula, isn't that funny how strength comes out of the challenges of dealing w/ things being more difficult to do? For it's that bit-by-bit strength that keeps us going and wanting to do more. I am so happy for all of you.
 
Paula 
Mar. 31, 2014 3:58 pm
So right, still emeralds! Thank you.
 
Apr. 1, 2014 7:18 am
Paula, you seem to have been handling all of this with such grace and love. It is a blessing that your dear mother is improving and can still be a part of your life, thanks to you, your sister, and the support of hubby. I know what the commitment is, as I have been care taking my husband who continues to battle cancer. At one point he was in a nursing home, couldn't walk, or spell his name (Tom). He's now able to enjoy some quality of life being in the comforts of his own home. Glad I was able to check in and hear how things were going. Take good care of yourself - that's important!
 
Maggi 
Apr. 1, 2014 3:47 pm
Paula, I had read this a couple days ago & just realized I hadn't commented. You and your sister are to be so admired for your love and patience. Three of my sisters live out of state and I feel they got cheated as they were not able to help my mother as I was...and it also left great memories for my kids.
 
Paula 
Apr. 1, 2014 7:09 pm
Cookin'Cyn - I'm so sorry about your husband's health. I know it's hard to be the constant care giver with no break from it. Blessings to you.
 
Paula 
Apr. 1, 2014 7:14 pm
Maggi - You're right about the memories. There are things my mother and I have talked about and laughed about that wouldn't have happened had I not been taking care of her. I've also seen her dependence on the Lord and her faith in a way that truly makes a difference. These are things I will always remember. Plus, my own daughter told me she has seen me in a different light too. (So I have to remember to always make an effort to demonstrate that love and patience you wrote about. After all, my children are watching me too.)
 
 
 
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About Me
I'm a wife, mother of 2, and grandmother of 6. I love to cook. I especially like to cook new and different recipes. I don't like to have the same meals week after week. My husband has decided it really doesn't matter whether he likes a new recipe or not because he won't see it again for a very long time anyway!
My favorite things to cook
I like to cook entrees and desserts. I like preparing good, down-to-earth cooking. I also decorate cakes, mostly for the grandchildren now.
My favorite family cooking traditions
Holidays bring out the traditions: chocolate chip cheese ball; crockpot chicken and dressing; and broccoli salad, sweet potatoes and butterscotch pie handed down from past generations. Another thing that must be tradition in my family: we all make new recipes when we have company! My mother, sister, daughter, and I all do this. My daddy never understood why we would risk making something we had never made before. Actually, none of us has ever served company a new recipe that didn't taste good.
My cooking triumphs
Cake decorating: wedding cakes, bridal and baby shower cakes, birthday cakes: Little Pirate, Cinderella, Elmo, Strawberry Shortcake. My friends call me Betty Crocker. When my daughter got married, she had a bridal shower where the guests were asked to write something on an apron. My best friend told her if she needed a recipe or help in the kitchen to ask her mother. If she needed a good place to eat out, ask her.
My cooking tragedies
A 4 tier huge wedding cake that fell apart at 2:00am. Thankfully, I still had time to salvage the cake.
 
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