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Celebrating Food a Sick Person Will Eat 
Jan. 22, 2014 6:32 pm 
Updated: Jan. 26, 2014 2:44 am

This blog concentrates on celebrating life...choosing to focus on the good in life. But I must admit, it's been more than a little difficult to celebrate since the new year began. My mother has been sick and has required 24/7 live-in care. She fractured a vertebra in her back and has been in tremendous pain. This 87 year old mobile woman, all of a sudden, couldn't walk, sleep flat in her bed, get out of a recliner under her own strength, or walk without a walker. She had been totally independent, but overnight became dependent on my sister and me to help care for her. At her age, when she gets a major illness, she goes downhill very quickly. 

She is now on the upswing, and I am very grateful for that. In fact, I celebrate that! She is about to start receiving all sorts of therapy to regain her strength and mobility, and hopefully, become independent once again.

What I want to write about today is the food I made for her. Providing her meals was a huge challenge for me. She felt so bad that she didn't even want to eat. She found soup easy because she could suck it through a straw, so that was what she wanted. She also has false teeth issues, so she needed extremely tender meats if she was going to eat. 

I appeased her desire for soup by serving it for one meal a day. She loved Creamed Squash Soup and TOMATO SOUP I

Photo of tomato soup 

I also fixed Chicken Spaghetti, FAMILY'S FAVORITE MINI MEAT LOAVES, and BAKED TERIYAKI CHICKEN. I made sure I chopped the chicken very finely for the chicken spaghetti, and I used boneless chicken thighs for the teriyaki chicken. 

Photo of teriyaki chicken  

Last week on The Buzz, I asked for suitable recipe suggestions for her and got so many great ideas. I'll be trying a few of them over the next few weeks, assuming she'll still need my care. I'll be sure to update my blog and let you know how they turn out.  

Jan. 22, 2014 8:59 pm
From BigShotsMom: you have really been busy. Good nutrition is so important for her recovery and you seem to have found the balance between what she needs and what she wants. Clever of you to include your photos by way of links.
Jan. 23, 2014 6:24 am
Lela Here-Hi Paula! what wonderful meals. I am glad to hear your mom is getting better. I was looking at the teriyaki chicken and it looks delicious. I see the blog is still not working for photos and avatars are still missing.
Jan. 23, 2014 7:14 am
BigShotsMom - Thanks for reading and replying. Yes, good nutrition has been a concern for me. She eats so very little anyway that I want to get some protein and veggies in her diet.
Jan. 23, 2014 7:16 am
Lela - That teriyaki chicken was delicious! And it was very easy and quick to fix since I used boneless chicken thighs. I cooked it at 350 for only 30 minutes though.
Jan. 23, 2014 7:22 am
manella here Paula, very happy to hear your mom is getting better, it's not easy seeing your parent like that. My dad was working in his garden last August and in Oct. he was put in a long term care home. In a snap your life can change. Happy to say he is doing so much better now he walks to the dining room for meals. He is active in the recreation part, only bad thing I live 3000 miles away. He will be 92 tomorrow, I plan on going out to see him in the spring. Paula take care of your self also.
Jan. 23, 2014 7:25 am
judy-nanny here- good news for your mom- so glad you and your sister are there for her- it is a priviledge that some never have- all your meals sound wonderful and i know they are helping in her recovery-- prayers for you all:-)
Jan. 23, 2014 7:31 am
Candice here: Paula, your Mother is so very blessed to have two daughters to care for her. You are so right about making sure that what she will eat is nutritious and delicious. Left alone, the elderly doesn't each much. My own dear Mother would've lived on Nutter Butters. I'm so happy to she's getting better. Will you please share your Creamed Squash Soup? That sounds just so yummy!
Jan. 23, 2014 7:42 am
I have had a similar experience as yours. I would sometimes prepare my mother guacamole or simply mashed fruit such as an apricot. She would say it tasted like it was fresh out of the garden. I would also mix yogurt into a chilled cream pie. You can't hardly beat the nutrients from fresh avocado and apricot, so remember keeping things simple can be delicious and nutritious. Most of all take care of yourself. Take care of you; emotionally, physically and psychologically. You don't have as much to give of yourself when your drained. Don't forget to get plenty of me time and don't feel guilty about it, its necessary for your overall health.
Jan. 23, 2014 7:47 am
oops, that was MsPenny at 7:42
Jan. 23, 2014 7:49 am
Hi, Paula ~ I'm going thru the same thing with my Mother! She's 83. I just wanted to tell you, you;re not alone! My Mom eats very healthy ~ will pass along the good ones! Take care.
Jan. 23, 2014 7:49 am
Jan. 23, 2014 7:54 am
Marie C here: Your mother must feel blessed to have two devoted daughters to take care of her in her time of need. I hope she heals quickly and can resume her independent life.
Jan. 23, 2014 8:05 am
Manella - Yes, life can change in a snap! I can easily see how elderly parents can be independent one minute and going into an assisted living or nursing home the next. We are really trying to help our mother stay in her own home for as long as possible.
Jan. 23, 2014 8:09 am
Judy, Candice, Marie C - I am so thankful I have a sister to help with my mother's care. I take one half of the week, and then she takes the other. That way we can go home and take care of our own homes, get the laundry done, go grocery shopping. We end up taking so much with us to her house - groceries, spices, cleaning supplies, a packed suitcase, etc. It's like moving every time!
Jan. 23, 2014 8:12 am
MsPenny - That half week off is me time. I use it to cook and take photos (my therapy) and just to generally recharge. I love smoothies and thought green smoothies would be so good for my mother. She hates them! I don't know if it's the idea that it's green or the yogurt or what! But she tried three different ones and said, "It's yucky." Ha!
Jan. 23, 2014 8:14 am
Taylor - For some reason there's comfort in company. Sorry you're going through the same thing, but would love some of your ideas too for getting nutritional food into your mom.
Jan. 23, 2014 8:20 am
Semigourmet; How sweet of you to add the recipes and photos of those recipes for the buzzers that suggested them. Great Blog.
Jan. 23, 2014 8:20 am
sorry should have posted From Semigourmet.. first comment on a blog. But glad to hear you mother is doing better!
Jan. 23, 2014 8:51 am
From Bibi: For my husband and me, all our parents are gone now, and we remember well what a toll their final illnesses took on the caregivers. Your family has really had some very difficult health challenges. They are lucky to have you, with your interest in health and good nutrition. I'm glad to hear your mom may be on the upswing, I know that is an encouragement to you and your sister! Let's all hope for a good outcome.
Jan. 23, 2014 8:58 am
Semigourmet - I love The Buzz, yet even moreso, the buzzers...uh...recipeeps sounds better, doesn't it? Ha! I am in debt to all the wonderful people on here. If not for them, I would never have made homemade bread and cinnamon rolls! They have helped me out for years when I got stuck or got in a cooking rut or had no idea what to do next. This time is no exception! They have come through with some great ideas that I can't wait to try out on my mom.
Jan. 23, 2014 9:03 am
Bibi - Yes, we have had some difficult days, especially over the past year. Our granddaughter is doing very well right now. The last MRI showed no sign of cancer and she has been done with her year long treatment for maybe 2 months now. Please continue praying for a miracle there. I am so thankful that these two illnesses did not coincide! I've been able to be available for both and didn't have to choose.
Jan. 23, 2014 9:04 am
Mrs. J - Thank you so much for your good wishes.
Jan. 23, 2014 11:13 am
Paula, this is from MsPenny, in regards to the smoothies, that sounds like a wonderful idea, but she maybe thinking give me those old fashion favorites that take me back to the good old days, like chocolate malt or strawberry milkshake, bread or rice pudding, meatloaf, or broccoli, rice and cheese casserole. Old classic recipes that are tried and true that make you think, I remember when ...maybe something her mother or grandmother prepared for the family.
Jan. 23, 2014 1:23 pm
MsPenny - one of her friends made her bread pudding, a favorite of hers. You may be right about her wanting familiar foods.
Jan. 23, 2014 4:08 pm
Hi Paula, Please keep blogging with the good ideas and recipes. As you read, many of us are at the stage of life where we are assisting our parents. My 85 year old mother is still in her own home, but as you say, change happens quickly. She does not have much interest in food and I try to bring her leftovers from our meals. She recently had mashed cauliflower (Faux Mashed Potatoes) for the first time. I put cheddar cheese in them so they were a beautiful "buttery" yellow. She loved them. I also introduced her to quinoa, which she likes. (From Indiana Peggy)
Jan. 24, 2014 5:11 am
Indiana Peggy and emeralds - Thanks for your encouragement. I've discovered that my mother has been cooking things that are easy and take very little time. I see that, like IP, I am going to have to be much better about taking leftovers to her.
Jan. 24, 2014 6:39 am
(Lela:) Hi Paula, thanks for the tips about using boneless thighs. I am going to the store and will try the chicken teriyaki.
Jan. 24, 2014 8:16 am
Lela - I think you will really like that chicken teriyaki. And the sauce was good served over brown rice!
Jan. 25, 2014 6:40 pm
Magnolia Blossom - your Mom is very lucky to have you and your sister. Wishing her a quick recovery. Be sure to take care of yourself too.
Jan. 26, 2014 2:44 am
Mauigirl....wishing your mama better health and all of you a healthy and happy 2014
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