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Dear Addie: A Mother's Day Thank You! 
May 5, 2013 7:48 am 
Updated: Jun. 5, 2013 10:13 pm
tyle="font-family:Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif">It's been such a long time since I first met you.  Can I say I knew you very well?  No, not until you and a certain someone were in 9th grade.  I got to hear so much about you back then.  Even as a teenager you impressed me.  And then when I needed you most, you were there.
Hard to believe it was 2 years ago that I was urged buy a dear friend to get on Facebook so I could keep in touch with my Navy bound son.  Who was one of the first people I tried to "friend"?  You.  You asked if you knew me and I told you yes.  That wasn't quite true because you only knew me as your one time BFF's mom.  Still you accepted me.  I was quite grateful that you kindly helped me navigate FB and get through that difficult time.  Trust me, sending an only child off to the military takes a whole lot of help.  Not only did I need you but a whole host of friends.
Then the boy came home and I figured our "friend" time was done.  You're young.  You have your friends, school and work.  Yet, we still found time to chat.  Then a boyfriend came along and we didn't talk as much.  I'd think about you every so often and bounce a msg to you, just to say "HI".  You did the same, just to keep in touch.  When you asked for advice I tried to give you my best.  When you needed an ear or shoulder I gave it and you did the same.  When you came home for Christmas, I invited you to lunch.  I confess I rather wondered how our visit would go.  After all my son keeps pointing out how ancient I am and you're so young but I knew you were just the one to give me some much needed help.  And you were, generously giving of your time and expertise.  We had a great visit and shared a nice meal.  We even exchanged gifts.  No, I haven't had coffee or cocoa in your cup.  It sits on my kitchen window sill and reminds me of you.  I wish you lived closer so we could go thrift store shopping and then have lunch.  Like I once did with my mother and sister.  I so miss those days but Mom is no longer here and my sister has moved away.
Even though they say blood is thicker than water, on a day when I felt less than loveable and quite angry with the world, you proved the saying doesn't have to be true.  Adopted Dear Daughter, thank you so much for the lovely card and all that it said!  With much love, Addie, I'm afraid you are stuck with me dear!
May 5, 2013 7:54 am
What a great tribute to both of you. Yes, we're told "blood is thicker than water" but I truly believe that "love is thicker than blood."
May 5, 2013 8:05 am
bd.weld, thank you! She is a remarkable young lady!
May 5, 2013 8:05 am
And yes, you are so right! Love is thicker than blood!
May 5, 2013 8:27 am
Our friends come in so many different ages, don't they! What would we ever do without them!?! Nice blog, Cat!
May 5, 2013 8:28 am
Cat Hill, what a wonderful memory, she sounds very kind. Very happy your son is home safe and sound.
May 5, 2013 8:35 am
Thank you, Marianne! Yes, what would we do without them?!
May 5, 2013 8:37 am
manella, she is a keeper! I'm glad my child is home too. I was thinking about you this weekend and that dip :)
May 5, 2013 8:53 am
What a sweet story, Cat! She sounds like a wonderful young lady and can't help but think you may have had a part in that!!
May 5, 2013 8:56 am
What a beautiful tribute! This was a joy to read. Thanks, Cat!
May 5, 2013 9:03 am
Wow, 9th grade, (6 years ago). Though that may seem like just yesterday for you it seems so long ago for me. Those will forever be cherished days. It was never that I didn't know you, I was just unaware of the name. lol. "Ryan's mom" had always seemed fitting enough. I was (and still am) glad to help in anyway possible. I can not imagine the hardship you faced sending your only child off to the military. Though I do understand the strain little communication has on a relationship. Sometimes I spend hours rereading letters and wondering whatever happened. But instead of worrying about it; I keep looking forward, I cherish what once was and continue to be thankful for you. Boys will come and go in my life, its just the stage that I am in. However the bond that we have formed is something that will forever be treasured. Though our physical interaction has been very limited we are still fortunate enough to have some remarkable memories. As you are very aware, I don't make it home very often but anytime I am there I would be honored to spend time with you. I would love to join you a "girls day" with thrift store shopping and lunch. Blood is thicker than water but blood isn't what makes a family. Family is the people who are around when it seems the world has walked away. Family knows your flaws and loves you anyway. In my book, we are FAMILY. Thank you for everything. I know that you have a child of your own with problems of his own. Yet, whenever I need a shoulder, and ear, encouragement or just some motherly advice you are always there. I know that this is a fortunate thing that not many people have the benefit of enjoying. lol. Even when you say exactly what my mom has already said I appreciate it. Sometimes hearing it from you makes it easier. No matter where life takes me I promise to always keep in touch. To you Mom, With Much LOVE, Addie
May 5, 2013 10:05 am
Cat, you are a lucky mama to have such a sweet girl in your life. And addy, you couldn't have picked a better adopted mom. Such a sweet and loving testament by both of you. Nicely written Cat, and I believe you truly have the daughter you didn't give birth to.
May 5, 2013 10:10 am
What a beautiful relationship you two have. And how fortunate that you both cherish it. Thanks for showing it off to us.
May 5, 2013 10:21 am
Nah, mickdee, I didn't have anything to do with that. Addie is who she is and that's what made me wish she was my daughter for real!
May 5, 2013 10:22 am
ahh, Maggi, thank you! She deserved to have her thank you shared because she is such a great girl!
May 5, 2013 10:26 am
Pass the kleenix! Avon, I am lucky to have her in my life and I don't think I could care more than if she were my own! Maybe it's better this way since I can give my best Mom advice without smothering her :) And when she has children I get to spoil them!
May 5, 2013 10:28 am
BigShotsMom, she means more to me than some family I do have! I'm glad you liked our story may it not end for many years!
May 5, 2013 10:29 am
Addie, I made you cry this morning but you have me crying now! ((Hugs)) sweet one!
May 5, 2013 11:48 am
Stop making me cry! 1) I look horrible with puffy, red eyes. 2) I'm a grumpy old man. 3) My family thinks I'm weird when I'm sniffling at the computer. Beautiful memories and memories to come.
May 5, 2013 12:19 pm
Very touching, thank you for sharing your special bond with us.
May 5, 2013 12:32 pm
Ah, Doc! I look worse with puffy eyes :) I told Addie this morning I couldn't wait for her kids to come. Her reply, "I would like to be married FIRST!) She is one of the most sensible young women I have ever met!
May 5, 2013 12:33 pm
Thank you, Baking Nana! It is amazing how some people so touch our lives.
May 5, 2013 12:50 pm
Sometimes I think you and I have this psychic connection. Friday driving home the phrase "blood is thicker than water" popped into my head for absolutely no apparent reason and my thought to that was not necessarily. You need water in order to live. So glad you have this gal in your life.
May 5, 2013 1:00 pm
Magnolia Blossom, sister from another Mrs. & Mr., I know we do!! Cause you put up with me! I was thinking that phrase and trying to think what would come next. bd.weld had the second part I couldn't think of but you are right we do need water to live so we can love!! This is the little gal I SO wish would become my DIL! Deep sigh!
May 5, 2013 2:34 pm
Cat: Thanks for sharing a glimpse of your extraordinary friendship.
May 5, 2013 2:41 pm
bikerfamily, you are welcome! I'm glad you enjoyed it. Sometimes it's nice to be reminded how much friends can mean to us :)
May 5, 2013 2:49 pm
So sweet and touching, Cat! From Addie's response above, she sounds like a very mature and sweet young lady. I'm glad you both have each other as friends!
May 5, 2013 4:09 pm
Mi, she is all that! I'm hoping she gets to come home in time for the roundup!
May 5, 2013 4:45 pm
Wow, Cat! I gotta join Doc in the "men ain't supposed to cry" dept. Maybe I'm just more tuned in in these later years. ... You and Addy have a very special connection that too few people are aware of and even fewer can accept. Both of you are blessed to have that bond. I think you should frame that card and a copy of this blog tucked in back of it so that (perhaps) someone in the distant future will discover what real friendship is and open their hearts.
May 5, 2013 5:48 pm
Oh Mike! Yeah, yeah like I wasn't teary when I saw her card or when I did the blog or when I read her post. Oh right, I'm a girl. You are right I need to make a copy. Just to remind us of where we have been, how our present was and where we hope to go!
May 5, 2013 6:34 pm
How truly wonderful. Such a special gift to find a home in another persons heart. Happy Mother's Day!
May 5, 2013 6:52 pm
Cat - what a wonderful blog! This story could be my story with my adopted family I have that proves only too well that family isn't always blood. You and Addy definitely share a very special bond! Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful friendship!
May 5, 2013 7:19 pm
WFDM?, she is such a sweet girl how could she not find a place in mine :) Now if we had been Mother & daughter it might have taken a LOT more time to get here because I am sure we would have butted heads. I think it is a Mom thing LOL!
May 5, 2013 7:24 pm
Mother Ann, Magnolia Blossom & bd. weld had the best points about "blood being thicker than water". We need water to live and love is thicker than blood! I did think about you and your connection with your adopted family this morning as I was writing, how in a way it was so similar to our story. A blessing indeed!
May 6, 2013 2:18 am
Sometimes, it's easier to love the ones in our heart who did not "spring from our loins!" My "Addie" is my son's fiancee - who I have loved as his gf, and xgf (= When they broke up, I cried and cried. She and I kept in touch - and she even stayed in my house, and we went to Tom's Farms, and to s concert at the Greek Theater (= When they became engaged, she said, "Now we can be friends forever." I said, "Ppffftttt! We've always been friends! We never needed him!" LOL! She frequently is my "favorite child!" [Though, as previously stated, not sure that'd be the case if we were blood-bound ;)]
May 6, 2013 2:28 am
The last time they were broken up, Taylor Swift's "We Are Never, Ever, Ever Getting Back Together" was her theme song. She listened to it over and over every morning. She and her niece and nephew went to AZ for babyxray's baby shower last summer. Her then four year old nephew would sing along with Taylor - but he sang, "We are never, ever, ever getting back togeDDer!" With 2 "D"s, as opposed to the "th!" Every time I hear that song, I hear him sing, "We are never, ever, ever getting back togedder!" LOL! We all went out to breakfast right before they got back toegther this last time, and her nephew broke out in song - the expression on Lyss' face was priceless (= They were not together when she graduated from college last summer. I went to her graduation, made the cake for her party, then spent all day with her family, and went out to dinner with her and the kidlets. It could have been awkward, but her family was so kind and welcoming to me!
May 6, 2013 3:55 am
Friendship can't be measured! Some people are in your life for a short time, others seem to be there forever! The old adage "it takes a friend to be a friend" is just as true as it ever has been. I love your coffee mug! As we are tossed around in the sea of life, if we just stay calm, we can weather many problems that come our way. Friends are one of the best ways we can survive all the challenges that come our way! Thanks for being a friend!
May 6, 2013 5:09 am
Barb aka TheBagLady, I remember you telling me about your trip to the baby shower. I read back over what Addie posted and the point she made about me saying the same thing as her mother but hearing it differently from me, struck home. She is frequently my favorite child too! While the girls might not be "with" our boys, they are certainly with us!
May 6, 2013 5:12 am
sueb, Addie got the mug for the saying because I needed to hear that :) You are absolutely right about friends being one of the best ways we can survive all the challenges of life! Thank you for being a friend!
May 6, 2013 5:42 am
[I was hurt that I don't get to be a bride's maid, because I am the mother of the groom - I think my head is big enough to wear two hats (=]
May 6, 2013 8:42 am
What a lovely, heartfelt Mother's Day thank you from you to Addie! Addie's response to you is so touching. Just a wonderful example that true friendship and love should not be bound by age! I am a firm believer that God always has a reason for allowing people to enter our lives. Thank you for sharing Cat Hill! Happy Mother's Day :)
May 6, 2013 8:54 am
Shearone,, thank you I'm glad you liked our story! I believe what you've said also. I hope you have a Happy Mother's day as well! Addie's already made mine!
May 6, 2013 8:56 am
BTW, Shearone, Congrats on the front page photo! It's a great looking picture!
May 6, 2013 8:56 am
May 6, 2013 11:18 am
That's lovely, Cat Hill. A beautiful reminder that family doesn't have to be by blood!
May 6, 2013 12:44 pm
wisweetp, thank you. Family is who and what we make of it :)
May 7, 2013 12:39 am
Cat, when my friend got married last year, she gave me a bracelet with a charm on it, which read "Sister of my heart." Addie is the daughter of your heart (= And, now I know what I need to get Lyss when she and manchild get married in January =D
May 7, 2013 12:40 am
[even though I'm not a bride's maid - *just* the mother of the groom ;)]
May 7, 2013 3:51 am
What a perfect idea, Barb! Yeah, *just* the mother of the groom!
May 7, 2013 8:09 am
I am very new to this whole blogging thing but as I just read over what everyone has had to say, I just want to say, THANK YOU! Cat means more to be than words could ever express. But as I sit here, so much younger than most I am honored to know that people appreciate my maturity and what I am capable of instead of the usual constant judgement based on my age. Again, Thank you all. It means ALOT!
May 7, 2013 8:32 am
Ah, Addie, you have always impressed me from the very beginning :) (((HUGS)))!!!
May 7, 2013 8:38 am
Thanks Mom! ((Hugs))
May 7, 2013 9:52 am
There is never too much love-I'm happy you two have such a strong bond-true friends are priceless.
May 7, 2013 1:47 pm
goodeats, you are ever so right! I find sometimes when I'm not in the best of moods I think of my friends. Things we've done, things we are going to do and things we hope to do and it cheers me up!
May 7, 2013 8:47 pm
Reading the blog and everyone's posts... my heart is happy. So much goodwill here! Thanks Cat and Addie for reminding us all that love is all around!!
May 8, 2013 4:38 am
Rohnda, I'm glad you liked the blog! It made me happy sharing it :)
May 8, 2013 8:36 pm
Cat, this was a beautiful blog. Both of you girls are very blessed. I wish more people knew how very important it is to tell folks in their lives how very special they are.
May 9, 2013 4:47 am
Toni Jo Fire Eating Pro, Addie is a special young lady and when I got her card, I just had to tell her in a big way what she has meant to me! Thanks for enjoying our story!
May 9, 2013 12:29 pm
Just lovely and so touching! One never does know with whom she will form a bond, and you two clearly have a very special one! It is so wonderful that you cherish it so much! :)
May 9, 2013 12:47 pm
Puck, I do cherish the relationship and her! You are so right you never know when you will find someone that becomes so special in your life!
May 10, 2013 7:32 am
Dearest Cat, I read this amazing blog you wrote a few days ago. It touched my hearts so. Isn't it amazing how we can bond with another human being? You have found a true gem in that girl! I know that these bonds transcend blood and miles. Thank you so much for sharing this heartwarming part of your life with us. I just love you sweetie!
May 10, 2013 9:30 am
Ah Candice, thank you! I often wondered what it would be like to have a daughter with Addie I get my chance to find out :) I'm so hoping she gets to come back for the roundup and her birthday!
May 10, 2013 5:56 pm
There have been several friends in my life who feel as close as family! Great blog! You are 2 lucky ladies!!!!
May 10, 2013 11:41 pm
May 11, 2013 4:16 am
Hi Shanon K! What would we do without our friends? they make life so much better! Thanks for stopping by!
May 11, 2013 4:17 am
Yes, mauigirl, it is!! :)
May 12, 2013 7:55 am
OMG, soooo Sweet!! Chokes me up:) Such lovely words for someone you adore! U are both Lucky! Thank you Cat, for sharing something so intensely personal with US, I for one am Honored!
May 12, 2013 12:12 pm
Ah, thank you Patty Cakes! Addie made my Mother's Day and then my son presented me with a hatful of morels & 2 wildflowers and said Happy Mother's day! It's been a great day!!
May 12, 2013 12:40 pm
What a heartwarming story. I hope you stay in touch FOREVER!
May 12, 2013 1:17 pm
Have never those before! How u gonna cook em?
May 12, 2013 1:26 pm
I read what you wrote about being DIL, she is ALL READY part of your heart!:) Could not be closer Even with a license :):)
May 13, 2013 5:12 am
lutzflcat, I'm glad you liked our story. Our friendship has developed despite the distance between us and our ages so time shouldn't be slow us down at all :)
May 13, 2013 5:12 am
patty cakes, a mushroom blog will be coming up soon!
Jun. 5, 2013 10:13 pm
Very sweet, brought tears to my eyes!! I just came across your blog post today and even though Mothers Day is over I couldn't wait to read it. Super touching, goes to show no matter what the calender says everyday is a good day to be grateful. Thank you for sharing such a warm and touching story with us.
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I live in the middle of the U.S. in a farming communtiy. Gardening, reading and cooking are the things you'll mostly find me doing. I also enjoy horseback riding & my many pets. A husband & teen, I have 1 of each.
My favorite things to cook
Bread & BBQ are 2 of my favorite things to cook. I do enjoy a food challenge. Last year it was curing my own brisket for Corned beef & pastrami & porkloin for Canadian bacon. This year sausages & scratch cakes.
My favorite family cooking traditions
Bread and brittle. I learned to bake bread with my Mom. It was her favorite thing to make. My Aunt made the best peanut brittle ever. She'd stopped making it in the later years but when I told her how much I enjoyed her brittle, she opened the vault ,gave me the recipe & handed over the brittle torch to me.
My cooking triumphs
Anything that turns out the way I wanted it to or exceeds my expectations! Like my homemade bratwurst.
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Let's not go there! I prefer not to think about my kitchen disasters besides my child can gleefully recount all of them.
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