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November Musings Part I 
Nov. 7, 2013 3:45 pm 
Updated: Nov. 11, 2014 6:26 am

November is far from my favorite month.  The days become so much shorter unless you are a morning person; the weather is unpredictable day to day, but leading inexorably to the snow and cold of winter.  Personally, I much prefer May with its promise of summer.  But I am basically an optimistic person so I look for the good things November brings.

There are two holidays in November, which are intertwined for me and many others.  The first is Veteran's Day and it makes me sad that we have so much hoopla over Halloween and just sort of gloss over Veteran's Day as another money maker for retailers.  Originally called Armistice Day, it commemorated the end of WWI.  In 1954 President Eisenhower was instrumental in renaming it Veterans Day to encompass WWII and Korean War vets.  In 1971 some bureaucrat decided to tidy the calendar and move holidays to make long weekends.  That seemed to be when the respect diminished.  Then we had the country's distaste for the Vietnam war and those vets just got shuffled along, out of sight, out of mind.  Fortunately, good sense prevailed in 1978 and it was moved back to November 11th to be commemorated in the US along with UK and Canadian Remembrance Day.

Several of the men in my family served our country despite being the world's most unlikely warriors.  They did it because at the time, it seemed to be the right thing to do.  My son is the only one still living and with his usual, nonchalant attitude doesn't see himself as anything special.  I disagree.  While ALL my children are special, he went halfway around the world to have people he never met try to kill him and he them.  I understand war in a philosophical sense, but my head and my heart do not - particularly when my first born is involved.  I want the world to spend part of just one day reflecting on what our Veterans have done for us and at what cost.

Instead of shopping the mall how about taking those few extra dollars and making a donation to Wounded Warriors or Team Rubicon. 

Thank you on their behalf.

Nov. 7, 2013 3:55 pm
Nov. 7, 2013 4:02 pm
bless you BSM!!!:-)
Nov. 7, 2013 4:05 pm
Well said! Hubby and I are involved in the ownership of a restaurant. We honor veterans on this day by allowing them to eat for free. These men and women are definitely special in my book! Tell your son "Thank you" from me.
Nov. 7, 2013 4:12 pm
Very nice BSM. I served in Desert Shield/Desert Storm and the thing I'm most proud of is when we were welcomed home, the Vietnam vets were FINALLY recognized in a positive way for their service and sacrifice.
Nov. 7, 2013 4:30 pm
Great blog!
Nov. 7, 2013 5:14 pm
Gary! I knew you would agree.
Nov. 7, 2013 5:15 pm
nanny129 STAR, I thought you might be a Vet. Thank you.
Nov. 7, 2013 5:16 pm
Well done Mother Ann! I'm sure it is appreciated.
Nov. 7, 2013 5:22 pm
duboo, my son served during Desert Storm.....OMG, I'm old enough to be your mother! Hugs to you and I am so glad you made it back intact. Thank you!
Nov. 7, 2013 5:23 pm
Magnolia Blossom, yours are still in, right? Thank you!
Nov. 7, 2013 5:23 pm
You are SO right! I wish the military were highly paid - it disgusts me that so many of them actually qualify for food stamps! Where would ANY of us be if not for them??? They deserve so much more...Our respect is the least we can give.
Nov. 7, 2013 5:27 pm
Well done BigShotsMom, and well said. My dad served in WW11, thank your son and all who served and serve. @ duboo, thank you.
Nov. 7, 2013 6:12 pm
I have to say this, my biggest beef is that they put out the Christmas stuff before Veterans Day. It irks me to no end that they do that. Give the Vets the day that they deserve.
Nov. 7, 2013 7:07 pm
Thanks BSM. Great post and a solid reminder of what we too often forget.
Nov. 7, 2013 10:13 pm
Scootersandi, I couldn't agree more! Something is wrong with this country's priorities. We fritter away billions of dollars on armament the services don't need or even want, uniforms that are not appropriate for modern warfare and pay the people who actually serve a mere pittance.
Nov. 7, 2013 10:17 pm
Hi, Manella, my dad served in WWII also, my husband in Vietnam, and my son in Desert Storm. We were so blessed that all came home in one piece. Yes retailers have gotten ridiculous - they may as well leave it out all year long.
Nov. 7, 2013 10:18 pm
Hi Doc, nice to see you back. I hope I don't come off preachy, but this means a lot to me.
Nov. 8, 2013 4:24 am
I want to go to the Veteran's Day Parade in Birmingham! It is quite impressive. But if I don't get there, our town will have a tribute ceremony for the veterans down at the courthouse. This past week, I was part of a singing group that sang songs to honor our veterans at a nursing home. I have two children now serving in the miitary, one is deployed, the other will go out the Spring.
Nov. 8, 2013 5:09 am
Excellent blog! Well written as it should be to honor those that served and are still serving.
Nov. 8, 2013 5:53 am
You aren't being preachy at all in my view. I needed to hear that message. The last person to be military in our family was my dad. He's been gone a long while now. We forget the sacrifices our warriors and their families make to do a very difficult job. It doesn't matter how you feel about war in general. I may not agree with the way these young men and women are deployed, or with the way they are used. The fact is that, by their existence, they provide a great service to our country. They are poorly paid, the benefits aren't overwhelming, and they get lip service for respect. I think you were spot on in your post.
Nov. 8, 2013 11:58 am
Great blog! Thanks for sharing... we don't always stop and think, or even say THANKS to the many who have served!
Nov. 8, 2013 3:26 pm
Hello SueB! My thanks to your children and to you. I know how hard having kids in the service can be on the mom. How nice that you entertained in the nursing home. I know it was appreciated.
Nov. 8, 2013 3:26 pm
Thank you Cat. This blog comes from my heart.
Nov. 8, 2013 3:28 pm
Doc, I agree. Sadly our service people are simply pawns in an eternal game of chess.
Nov. 8, 2013 3:32 pm
Hi Stevie. No we don't think about it unless it affects us personally, but I think that is human nature. The returning service personnel of my son's generation have gotten more respect than his father's.
Nov. 8, 2013 8:47 pm
I can not step away from the fact that I am so moved, humbled, and appreciative of every word that you have written. It brings me to tears. My family has run the span of it all. My Grandfather was wounded on the Beach of Normandy, two of my Uncles served in the Korean War, and my Father, who will only speak on certain occasions, was in Vietnam. I have several friends that served in SouthEast Asia during the initial Gulf War. Sadly one of them has passed away from an illness that was unexplained. Which brings me to the present. Through my job, I encounter every Veteran. And I could not be more proud to give back just a smidgeon of what they have all given to us. Everyone, take the time and reflect on this blog post. Give what you can, and if you can not, send a Christmas Card to our Wounded, if there is a Veteran's Home in your area, see if you can help out by volunteering your time if they need it, and at the least... When you see a Veteran.. Whether it be in Uniform, With a hat decorated with medals, or a Random Person on the street proudly displaying a tattoo showing which branch of Service they belong to...Just say THANK YOU.. It will mean more than you can even comprehend.
Nov. 8, 2013 10:02 pm
Anissa, thank you for the excellent care you take in dealing with the needs of our Vets. I wish both my father and husband had had someone like you to help them deal with the VA bureaucracy it is so much more than shuffling papers for you.
Nov. 9, 2013 6:24 am
Agreed BigShotsMom! A great reminder of the many who have sacrificed for the sake of our freedom. I too have children who served this great nation! On Monday, we will honor all those who have and are still serving by supporting and attending my little town's Veteran's Day Parade and luncheon. In a town of just 50,000 it is the largest celebration west of the Mississippi. With your state, New York being the largest in the country. Well done! Thank you!
Nov. 9, 2013 6:49 pm
Hi Candice, I live in an even smaller town than you! We have only 30,000 at normal times but still have about 20% unable to move back yet. Like last year, our celebration will be modest, but heartfelt. Thank your children for me.
Nov. 10, 2013 6:37 am
Thank you, BigShotsMom!! I must say something ugly in order to make my point. As I was making my way through the Philadelphia Airport, burdened with luggage in both hands, a young man jumped in front of me yelled, "Murderer" then spat in my face. Courageously, he ran away as a few people laughed at the scene. This was during the Vietnam debacle and feelings for the military were extremely negative. It was years later that the civilian population fully realized that the military is the pawn of civilian politicians and feelings turned around. Because of that instance, I didn't display any military outwardly except around those that knew me. It was only a few years ago that I began wearing hats or tee shirts that display an USAF theme. The first time I was thanked for my service was in a check out line at Lowes. I had lots of small items in my cart and the young man in back of me had only one item so I told him to go ahead of me. He saw my hat and held out his hand and said, "Thank you for your service, sir!". My eyes did well up. I believe that young man's smiling face will be impressed in my brain as my casket get lowered to my final rest. To be appreciated for the work I did was a huge medicine for me and healed a lot of anger that I held for those decades after Philadelphia. That's how important a simple thank you can be to a service person or a vet. Again, thank you for this!
Nov. 10, 2013 9:11 am
"Thanksgiving is a day when we pause to give thanks for the things we have. Veterans Day is a day we pause to give thanks to the people who fought for the things we have." I honor all Veterans and to the Vietnam Veterans I simply say, "welcome home brothers and sisters".
Nov. 11, 2013 10:13 am
Mike and bd, I had both of you in mind when I wrote this. My husband was a Vietnam Vet. I know firsthand the insults and ugliness you were subjected to.. He stopped attending family gatherings because the animosity from some other anti war people was too hard to deal with civilly. God bless you both. I am so happy you made it home and are thriving.
Nov. 11, 2014 4:08 am
To update from last year, both of my military children are now serving in the US. One is scheduled to be deployed in the Spring.
Nov. 11, 2014 6:05 am
It's good to have them home Sue. Thank you for their service and your sacrifice.
Nov. 11, 2014 6:26 am
Thank you BSM!
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