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Loft Life: Opposites attract, but... 
Sep. 27, 2013 9:47 am 
Updated: Feb. 26, 2014 1:01 pm

I think it is a testimony to God having a sense of humor that to a person, we seem to choose someone as a mate who is our direct opposite in many important areas:

I like cool crisp September weather and hate hot humid. My honey likes hot, humid summer weather, and the minute he sees 40 degrees F. on any gauge, he instantly goes into what I refer to as his annual winter depression.

“But, it’s not even freezing, I say. “But, it’s gonna be,” he replies. I think he relives his South Dakota ordeal of feeding the critters in sub-zero weather.

He says, “We should move to Florida,” and I say, “How about Maine. He says, “How about New Orleans;” I say, “Alaska!” We have for some reason agreed that someday it will the desert--so hot and not humid. We’ll try it. I love Montreal.

On the same note, my sweetie piles up about six blankets (only three in summer) and I am kicking off my half’s three and swinging my leg out on top of the sheet to get cool--we’re still talking winter. They turn the heat on in our manufacturing building loft--central boiler room furnace--so we don’t even need to turn the heat on ourselves. He comes home and 20 seconds upon entering the apartment, he makes a bee-line for the thermostat to turn it up. I think the shivers runs in his family--maternal side.  

Then there’s noise. He likes it. I like calm. He likes motorcycles. I like to go slow. He likes motors. I like quiet. He likes rock music (he is 90 percent deaf, so I think the drumbeat is all he can perceive). I like Chopin and Jewel’s


He likes the smell of gasoline. I don’t think I even need to say, I don’t.

When we eat in a restaurant, I call him a fat magnet. He will peruse a menu filled with healthful choices, and opt for anything with sausage in it. And, even though he has agreed to our going more plant-based, he tries my quinoa casserole with roasted veggies and mozzarella cheese or goat cheese, and he says, “It’s really good. Needs sausage.”

This is by no means an exhaustive list. For instance, I can’t tell you the joy it brought hubby dear when I signed us up for a Groupon shooting lesson. He is a sharpshooter, and I never held a gun in my life--being a city girl. He grew up on a cattle ranch in South Dakota. Guns are just part of ranch life. 

But I will never forget the light in his eyes when he watched me hit the target--with pretty good success for a first-timer. Maybe I’ll give you the whole story in another post. 

Suffice to say, we actually have very little in common. But after almost 32 years, we are more in love than on the first date. He says, “We live in amazement.”

So I ask you, Isn’t this proof of God’s sense of humor. This opposites thing forces us to compromise, which I suspect is the heartbeat of love and the path to unity. Left to ourselves, we would be, well, selfish.

So in the end, it’s a good thing we are paired with one who brings out our complete other, and who forces us to consider that the preferences of another are valid and valuable too.

I just wish we could move to Montreal. I would be okay with the six blankets.   

Sep. 30, 2013 2:43 am
Love your story, Marjorie, and I'm glad that your opposite has made you happy. That doesn't always happen. Thanks for sharing!
Sep. 30, 2013 5:26 am
Marjorie, I share your dislike of hot, humid weather. My wife shares your husbands dislike of the cold. We're still in our adjustment period, having been married only 23 years. By the way, your husband is right about that casserole. Sausage would make it better!
Sep. 30, 2013 11:08 am
thanks for your comments. Hilarious Doc. And yes, Bibi, it does take some serious compromising which not all can do.
Sep. 30, 2013 5:49 pm
Oh Marjorie - I soooooo understand every word of what you're saying. I agree with you - God does have a sense of humor in who He pairs us up with for life. And since I do believe in "until death do us part" marriage - then God has a really good long belly laugh where it comes to marriages like yours and mine. My hubby did move to Florida (where I was born & have lived all my life) - to gain the everlasting warmth - - I would gladly move to his Tennessee to gain the cool temps. We are both meat lovers - but he will only eat a filet mignon while I would rather chow down on a ribeye. He won't touch anything green while I would graze on as much green as red. He is low profile and a "sit on the back row" type while I am the "Lee Iococa" of lead, follow or get out of the way personality - - but it works if as you say you allow the other to complete you and you learn to value the other half of you and appreciate the side of you that exists in another body. After 28 years of "two being one" I have have learned that when I need the voice of reason, I turn to him - when I need calm in the midst of the storm, he is my anchor - and when I am my worse enemy, he is unconditional love. Are we opposites???? Of course we are - - and I wouldn't have it any other way! God Bless my husband - - and for all the other couples who have an opposite as your life partner - you are blessed too!
Oct. 1, 2013 8:55 am
luv, how beautiful is THAT! Thank you so much.
Oct. 1, 2013 6:19 pm
How sweet was your blog! We are heatwise exactly the opposite of you two. We had the perfect bedroom last place we lived. Deck door open in winter (2nd bedroom door) and him with no covers plus me with three! We agree and agree to disagree. I will always remember the night we had a big fight and then he sighed and hugged me and we kissed and I told him "There's not a chance in hell I could possibly hang out with someone who isn't exactly as stubborn as me." Aah life is ever entertaing... Joy for your love!!!!
Oct. 1, 2013 6:21 pm
Oops! entertaining.
Oct. 3, 2013 11:09 am
redly, Thanks so much. I was born in Boulder--and those nights might even have ME with 3 blankets. :))
Feb. 26, 2014 1:01 pm
this is a very beautiful tale of love and romance.
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