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Will She Stay? 
Jun. 3, 2011 7:32 pm 
Updated: Aug. 9, 2011 7:31 pm
It may be happening. After 44 years of marriage I may have found another girlfriend. All these years without having one have my confidence level very low as to how I can keep her happy. I had a couple girlfriends right after my wife and I were married, but they didn’t last long. Unlike the others, this one is quiet and very well brought up and behaves herself wonderfully. She keeps her blonde hair short, has big dark brown dreamy eyes and there is a nearly perfect smile about her that seems to never go away.

She has left her current man three times and each time came straight to me and sat with me on the deck. Tonight she came again but this time her man was close behind trying to get her to come back. She sat down beside me then watched him approach.
As he came on the deck, he said, "Dammit, Mike!. I just can’t keep her at home! She always comes straight to you. I guess I just don’t have the time to spend with her that she needs. I’m considering that I should give her up because of it. I know you like her a lot and being retired you will be able to give her the time she needs. Would you consider taking her for me?"

"She’s a great lady and I’ll be happy to take her!"

"I haven’t made up my mind for sure, Mike. I’ll let you know."

Even if he doesn’t give her up, she knows I’ll be here for her.

With that, they left for home and I was wondering about my sanity and whether or not she and my wife would get along. They are both easy going and laid back so I think they’ll get along OK. I may need to do more of the housekeeping but that isn’t a problem.

My newest girlfriend is an eleven month old golden lab. Maybe, she’ll stay with me.

No! Unlike Cat Hill, I won’t call her a fur baby. Men don’t have babies! Duh! Men have buddies. So, she’ll be my fur buddy whether or not she gets to stay here.

We spent the Memorial weekend with our son and daughter in law helping them get a couple of major projects whittled down to more manageable sizes. The sun was very hot but there was plenty of shade to rest in and plenty of cold drinks to cool off with. We finished those projects just in time to pack our luggage and return to Michigan.

The container plantings are doing very well. Nice, strong and healthy plants in each of them- except the swiss chard. The black squirrels have taken all of that from us. The lettuces are fantastic! We have already had three pickings from it and it is only a few weeks old. The late lettuce is also coming on strong, too. I may have to make a third planting to get the maturity correct with our usage.

Saturday or Sunday, I’ll be planting the conventional garden in a new spot. Still don’t know where that will be but by Sunday evening it will be done. I have a lot of pepper plants for blending and drying as well as for freezing.

Today, I put up the chive blossoms and stems in the freezer. When they blossom again I’ll get another batch in the freezer and that should make my years supply.

For those that haven’t seen my Friends in the AiR post, have a look!
Jun. 3, 2011 8:31 pm
Ahhh - Mike, I think that Golden girl has won your heart - she is yours. We got our black lab at 14 months old. I have a feeling she was a bit of a naughty girl - but they never told us that. She has been an absolute blessing - never been 'naughty' well - except for tearing up her plastic food bowl, once - and there was a bit of a run in with the low voltage lighting wiring - but only ONCE. She will be 4 years old this month. Her previous owners used to come visit - but they last time they came Komi totally dissed them - she is our girl. I think your wife will love her too....because you love her as well.
Jun. 3, 2011 8:50 pm
I meant to say - the reason that Komi's previous owners gave her to us is that they weren't home for her - she was alone all day - with us she has company all day - she is helping to raise the grandkids and reminds us daily how much we are loved and needed, :)
Jun. 3, 2011 9:21 pm
So?? What is the update on the new girl?? Hate these cliffhangers!! UGH!!
Jun. 3, 2011 10:11 pm
Oh Mike, I think she will be great fun for you!! Congrats to youand your new Gal:) hope her and Mrs. Mike get along OK.
Jun. 4, 2011 2:42 am
Oh Mike, your lover you!!! that's a sweet story! Glad you have some company. ;-)
Jun. 4, 2011 3:33 am
What a charmer you are! Have fun with this new gal in your life!
Jun. 4, 2011 3:35 am
Your blond buddy would be good company on your walks and I am sure she certainly would appreciate the excersize and attention. Sounds like she is meant to be with you.
Jun. 4, 2011 3:50 am
Ha! That girl knows a good thing when she sees it! :)
Jun. 4, 2011 4:08 am
What a sweet story! I think dogs can have soul mates much like people do. We found our soul mate in a golden retriever 11 years ago and she is one of the loves of our lives. She is sure to be loved by your wife as well, as long you don't let her in your bed!
Jun. 4, 2011 4:49 am
A girlfriend and a wife in the same house, well that will keep you on your toes! LOL! Hey you know how we women are! Once a baby always a baby to us, well, to me anyway :) Did you see I put your Haiku on "Gardens"? Quite the writer you are!
Jun. 4, 2011 5:21 am
Mike, I'm pretty sure my kids would call you a "playa" :P I'm a firm believer that people do not pick their pets. A true pet will pick its people. Sounds like you have been picked.
Jun. 4, 2011 5:33 am
That's the sweetest love story I've ever heard! I'm glad you've got a blond buddy to hang with.
Jun. 4, 2011 5:35 am
That's the sweetest love story I've ever heard! I'm glad you've got a blond buddy to hang with.
Jun. 4, 2011 6:46 am
What a wonderful story! Once we retire, one of the nicest parts is having our "buddies" w/ us all the time. Even though your wife is there, you will find yourself talking to her!! Glad she found you!!
Jun. 4, 2011 7:15 am
Awwww loved this Mike. I have been married for 40 years to a keeper. He too has a girlfriend....and she sleeps with him every night.YIKES! This avatar is the culprit and we had to trade up to a king size bed to accommodate all of her 10 lbs. It seems she likes to stretch out sideways pushing us both to the edge of the bed:) Enjoy your retirement kid.
Jun. 4, 2011 7:16 am
BTW his previous gf was a 105 lb brindle lab/dane and she was not allowed to sleep with him. Seems this one has gotten her way:)
Jun. 4, 2011 11:29 am
love it Mike, only you could get away with 2 girlfriends and no pitch forks. The 2 furry pals on the yard are mine, they keep me safe and are very supportive. Hope you share the name of your new bomb shell
Jun. 4, 2011 12:06 pm
Baking Nana, that pup sees me on the deck from her yard, looks around to seee where her boss is and- if she thinks she can get away, she'll bolt over to me. I never fed her or enticed her- it's something she always does.
Jun. 4, 2011 12:10 pm
Lobster, there won't be an update until later this week. Her man really likes her and is having an inner tug of war between keeping her or giving her away. We are neighbors so he should be able to see her very often. I'd even accept being her "sitter".
Jun. 4, 2011 12:13 pm
Patty Cakes, the Mrs will very likely get along with the pup very well. She's so well behaved and quiet- the pup, too!
Jun. 4, 2011 12:14 pm
Miss7up, she has been good company when she sneaks over here.
Jun. 4, 2011 12:17 pm
Charmer? Me, sueb? Maybe. Hmmm.
Jun. 4, 2011 12:20 pm
She would be fun company on the walks, Janet. There's only one trouble spot where a dog owner has two Rotwielers that roam freely. They are both a couple of sweethearts but I don't know how they would react with another dog.
Jun. 4, 2011 12:21 pm
Hi, Jan! Yup! That's me! A good thing!
Jun. 4, 2011 12:27 pm
Hi, Carrie! I'm very glad for you that the biopsy came out benign for you! What a huge relief! Cogratulations! I know I've already said it but I'm sure you are thrilled to hear it time and again!
Jun. 4, 2011 12:31 pm
Hi, Cat! I did go to the Gardens post and saw that you added "our" Haiku. Remember, we emailed it back and forth playing with the thoughts? I'm selfish enough to accept the credit, though. ;)
Jun. 4, 2011 12:34 pm
LOL!, Candie! A playa! Keeping within this context, I'll accept that and let it stroke my ego!
Jun. 4, 2011 12:41 pm
Thank you, luv2cook! It does get lonely during the day, around here. A blonde buddy will fit in easily
Jun. 4, 2011 12:43 pm
chris k, my wife has already caught me talking to the pup. What amazed her was the dog listening intensely.
Jun. 4, 2011 12:46 pm
Hi, Mauigirl! There will be no sleeping in the people beds for this pup! She'll have her own bd nearby, though.
Jun. 4, 2011 12:49 pm
Redneck gramma, her name is Lela. If she gets to stay here I'll likely find another name for her.
Jun. 4, 2011 1:51 pm
Mike - not only do we talk to our lab - she understands English. We started having to spell "walk" and "bone" - now she knows what "B O N E" spells. :) I like the name Lela.
Jun. 4, 2011 3:31 pm
Our son has a Boxer Mastiff/ German Shepherd mix that learns words quickly, also. They cannot say or spell "snack" or say or spell "treat". Also, he will use only one area of their yard for his business and will make sure they pick it up before he will go inside. He knows when the outside is wet that he must wait on a rug for his feet to be wiped off before he can go further into the house.
Jun. 4, 2011 4:02 pm
Oh Mike! I hope your new girlfriend gets to move in with you! My husband has 2 girlfriends here, and they are my best friends. One is a 12-1/2 yr. old. chocolate and the young one is a 2-1/2 yr. old black lab. My parents have our chocolate's litter mate and he's my mom's boyfriend. Labs are fantastic animals, but then - all dogs are fantastic to me!
Jun. 4, 2011 4:25 pm
Well, Mother Ann, it's hard to say if she'll move in or not. Her human is very attached to her and that is why the decision is so difficult for him. I may offer my services as a "dogsitter" to help both of them and provide some company for myself.
Jun. 4, 2011 4:52 pm
Maybe a Ménage à trois would be the best solution for the short term. I know that for us - Komi's previous owners loved her - cared for her - groomed her but we took her camping and had her sleep inside - she has kids to play with and constant companionship. They come visit and Komi is glad to see them - but she is our girl. It could be the best of both worlds.
Jun. 4, 2011 5:34 pm
Her human is a neighbor so it won't be difficult to adapt plus she won't have to adjust to a different set of rules all at once. I think the pup will have it made regardless of what developes.
Jun. 4, 2011 5:55 pm
She is a lucky girl! Cindy Lepp can give you some fashion pointers, she gets Marley dolled up on occasion. Lela may end up in joint custody and get twice the love.
Jun. 4, 2011 7:34 pm
Ah now wait a minute, sir. That was the very first one. You changed it when I told you it wasn't a traditional Haiku. I decided WhoCares. I liked the first one that you did with absolutely no help on, the best. It goes so well with that photo. So what job did you really have before you retired? LOL :) BTW my furbaby :) is resting against the back of the computer singing. All the positive waves his blog generated have helped him I think!
Jun. 4, 2011 7:46 pm
What a charmer you are Mike. Sounds like your "new" girlfriend has it bad for you... running away to come see you. hehehe! But, seriously, I love how our pets love us unconditionally. What's that Randy Newman song?... "You've Got A Friend In Me." That's how animals are. No matter what, they stay our friend.
Jun. 4, 2011 7:48 pm
What a charmer you are Mike. Sounds like your "new" girlfriend has it bad for you... running away to come see you. hehehe! But, seriously, I love how our pets love us unconditionally. What's that Randy Newman song?... "You've Got A Friend In Me." That's how animals are. No matter what, they stay our friend.
Jun. 4, 2011 10:23 pm
OH Micheal, You are Naughty! LOL. Love it:) Were you a snake charmer in another life? Watch out snakes! LOL
Jun. 5, 2011 4:28 am
Mike, dogsitting is a great idea. When my daughter got her cocker spaniel puppy she took it to Grandma & Grandpa's house for "doggy daycare" while her & her husband were at work each day. It was perfect - she wasn't lonely and it gave my parents something to do all day....
Jun. 5, 2011 5:22 am
I believe she would let somebody use her for dress up, BigShotsMom! But it aint-a-gonna be me that does it to her! She is a very patient and esy going girl- but very strong willed, also.
Jun. 5, 2011 5:27 am
Well, Cat, I discovered there are two accepted forms of Haiku. The traditional Japanes with it's rigid structure which deepens the thought process and there is the American Haiku that has slightly less structure but broadens the use of verbs and adjectives. The traditional Japanes Haiku is the only accepted artform worldwide, though.
Jun. 5, 2011 5:33 am
I may write a blog post about that very charactoristic, Candice. I have thought about it in the past but have refrained because of it's graphic nature. Given the success of Cat Hill's current post, I may go for it.
Jun. 5, 2011 6:56 am
tee hee, giggling Nana said menage a trois.
Jun. 5, 2011 11:09 am
Hi Mike! Hope you get to keep your new girlfriend at your place. Regarding your chives, mine have blossomed also. What do you use the blossoms for and how far back to you cut your chives. I've got a dehydrator, I was going to dry the chives. Thank you!
Jun. 5, 2011 11:39 am
Wow, Mike, you really are back to prime health aren't you? Nothing wrong with mixing it up a little--hubby has two girlfriends and I have two boyfriends and we all share the same home. I call them "the kids" but hubby gets cranky when I refer to him as their "daddy" (has to be a guy thing:) Whatever happens, she's as lucky to have you as you are to have her!
Jun. 5, 2011 11:40 am
BTW, my ancient dehydrator is chugging right along turning out apricots and pineapple slices for "Hubby Snacks" during summer school:)
Jun. 5, 2011 12:12 pm
Yes, yes... please do write up a blog about it. I'm sitting here waiting. (tapping fingers waiting I might add) LOL!
Jun. 5, 2011 6:14 pm
A snake charmer, Patty Cakes? Not that I recall. Might give it a try, though.
Jun. 5, 2011 6:29 pm
I might be giving it a try, Mother Ann.
Jun. 5, 2011 6:33 pm
I don't speak that language, Redneck Gramma.
Jun. 5, 2011 6:40 pm
Hi MB! The chive blossoms I cut the florets off an freeze them on a cookie sheet. When thoroughly frozen I put them into a zip bag. I use them as garnis on salads and mashed potatoes. Freeze your chive stems just like the blossoms. If you dry them they'll lose most of their flavor. Freezing is the only way to presrve them. I was going to dehydrate mine also, then I remembered the commercial chive that were dehydrated and tasted like straw and I also read not to dehydrate them.
Jun. 5, 2011 6:47 pm
Hi, Mangel!I just wrapped up pineapple slices and blueberries. My wife will put the blueberries into her granola and the pineapple slices willbe a snack item for the granddaughters.
Jun. 5, 2011 6:49 pm
OK! OK, Candice!
Jun. 6, 2011 3:27 pm
Frankly, I don't give _____. LOL! I liked what you wrote and it fit. It made me happy to think a picture I took made someone else want to write something about it. How cool was that? I can't believe you dehydrate all that. Too cool! I did another batch of oregano today.
Jun. 7, 2011 1:10 pm
My Oregano looks bad. I want to say it's mildew because of all the wetness we have had. Looks more like a blight of some kind. I'll cut all of it down and see what grows back.
Aug. 9, 2011 7:31 pm
Mike, you and your friends sound like such loving and caring folk. I am not an animal lover nor have I ever been able to grow my own food, two facts I desperately hope to change before this life is over. My top priority has always been caring for the poor humans, the animal created to care for all living things, seems to me to be the most used and abused. If you and the lovely people you correspond with could help me gain a new perspective, I would surely appreciate every bit of help offered. I have always been an emotional shipwreck, but I refuse to give up on trying to glean the most from what life has to offer. Peace and love, virtual non-entity.
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At age 16, I began cooking when my mother was injured in an accident that kept her off her feet for five weeks. At first, my repertoire was fried hot dogs with pork and beans, boiled hot dogs with macaroni and cheese or pizza from a box. After a couple weeks of this, my younger brother was the first to protest and demand variety and my dad was quick to support him. That was my first cooking challenge, learning to plan a meal. About that time, mom returned from the hospital and from her bed, began teaching me things like roast beef, fried chicken, stews and all the sides and trimmings. In 1967, I married and my wife designated herself as the cook and this continued until 1999. It was then that I (voluntarily) began cooking again. At some point, I realized that I was having fun and began searching for recipes that were more challenging and interesting. I found AR and used it's recipes for a long time before registering and later becoming an active member.
My favorite things to cook
Soups. How can I go wrong? They are a great way to use up leftovers and those veggies that are approaching the end of their usefulness. They are always an original recipe. Roasts and steaks are favored, also. Getting the right "doneness" and choosing appropriate sides for a tastey and attractive meal is a continuing and always evolving menu.
My favorite family cooking traditions
If creating impulsive menus and recipes is a tradition then, (I guess) we have a tradition. A new tradition is developing. I have a fruitcake recipe that, I believe, is near perfection. I make it just before Thanksgiving so it is aged enough for the Christmas/ New Year holidays.
My cooking triumphs
Without a doubt, my own recipe for a Reuben Sandwich. It has been a demanded item for many years and I shared it in my AR blog. http://allrecipes.com/Cook/13101603/BlogEntry.aspx?postid=204609
My cooking tragedies
Too many. I have been able to throw them out and have something new before my wife gets home. Most of the time, anyway.
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