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I Won’t Continue... 
Jul. 10, 2010 5:08 pm 
Updated: Jul. 16, 2010 11:22 am
... this subject after the final post-op report. Bloggers (like me) have blindly caused problems here at AR by consistently writing of subjects that are not food related. I rode the waves for a while thinking that it was really alright until a couple members (who I greatly respect) mentioned in another blog, they wished people would stop blogging about non-food issues. I’m sure they don’t mind a call for help or an amusing story from anybody once in a while. It’s those of us who consistently write non-food postings.

I’ll leave this blog standing for people to refer back to because my intention is to have an account of how cancer has affected me for people to read and be encouraged by the comments. What the AR group has done surpasses what could have been done on other sites.

As I see it, there may be as many as four more posts, then I’ll not add any more. I’ll still be around to comment and encourage as the All Recipes gang has done for me. I’ll write a blog whenever I accidentally create a food that is worthy of AR. I am an accomplished cook but I can’t hold a candle to many at AR, so my entries will be few.

I had written a posting about organic gardening and it got very out of hand- to the point I shut down the blog and under the title of the blog I apologized to those that were pointlessly attacked. I was fairly angry that I was compelled to do it. I still don’t understand why a few people who disagree feel they are validating their point with name calling or condescension instead of making their point and moving on. Anyway, this anger caused me to act in much the same way as those I have just now criticized and I became a problem myself. When I caught myself I immediately backed out of my own mess but the harm was done to two people, The blogger- StephW-an-F for disrupting her post and the commenter, ChefSuzie. I offer my apologies to each of you.

Don’t forget to keep encouraging SouthernGma and Kira Glock and her family.
Even if you have posted before, post again. This is going to be a long fight for them and we cannot forget them. You can also leave messages in the guest book at Caring Bridge. http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/gmaandkira/guestbook< The website suggests to return often and write more encouragement. SG has postings there that will update you on Kira.

 I don’t like to edit my posts after comments have been posted, but it is certainly necessary now.

First, nobody was mean or intimidating me nor anybody else. Two people- who I respect- were only stating what they believed and their remarks were well written and non aggressive. I made this decision only because I had seen same or similar remarks several times before and their remarks just punctuated what it seemed I should do. The two people in no way should be regarded as less than good people.

Secondly, I had no idea my writings were impacting so many people in a positive manner. I originally posted around 5:00 Saturday afternoon and at 5:00 this afternoon there was are 63 comments telling me I am not doing the right thing to quit this blog. You made me think back to Goodeats who is fighting her own cancer battle and Love/Hate Cooking who lost her husband. Now, in this post, there is Candice, WhatsForDinnerMom, DesertOlive,Cindy Lepp and Becky Dodds who have their own cancer battles and they are encouraging me to continue posting about mine and then ScrappySusan (another survivor) told her story. I am having a rough time getting myself to accept the fact that this blog is more important than I ever believed it could be. I would never let anybody down because I didn’t follow through in a situation and I won’t start here. I’ll keep the blog going.

My surgery is Tuesday and I don’t know when I’ll be back with another posting in this blog. UofM Medical Center will be instructing my wife and me with a whole bunch of stuff that I will be passing on.
Jul. 10, 2010 5:44 pm
I haven't followed your blog, so I'm not aware of an *backstory* (I rarely think to check the blog section here), but do what YOU want. If you find solace in blogging about your experience, then keep doing it! Some will like it, others won't...who cares?! Everyone has the option to click and read or just keeping on scrolling by....
Jul. 10, 2010 5:47 pm
Oh Mike, there will always be nay-sayers; such is true of life, and not just here at AR. Truthfully, like any forum, people can pick and choose what they want to read about, and if they don't want to read your blog they certainly don't have to. Some people just have too much time on their hands, and aren't happy unless they're "stirring the pot". I say screw 'em. Write what you want, and ignore the negative. Your experiences are yours, and you're free to write about whatever you wish. I love your blogs.
Jul. 10, 2010 5:52 pm
Mike - do make a post as to where we can all get in touch with you. Remember we just want to BYD (brighten your day). BTW, I just posted a blog that quite frankly isn't really cooking related, although it does mention 2 different types of fruit. Hope I don't get the back of my hand slapped.
Jul. 10, 2010 5:57 pm
I've been following your blog. I just hate when people complain about our blogs.. if you don't like it, just keep your mouth shut and your fingers NOT typing.. that's my opinion. Some of us really care about how you are doing Mike, and I look forward to hearing all how you are doing. Love from Pensacola!
Jul. 10, 2010 5:59 pm
Boy, I just read that.. I wasn't referring to you Mike about keeping your mouth shut & not typing.. I meant for all those complaining on blogs.. Please forgive.
Jul. 10, 2010 6:17 pm
The way I look at it is I PAY for this blog! NOw initially I was concerned that someone may not think it to be alirght to post aobut things other than food but everyone encouraged me to write about what ever I wanted to! Not because it was a food blog or not but because they all just liked learning about each other and encouraging and supporting one another. As crazy and sick as this world is now a day it is very hard to find like minded people or even people with similar interest. This place offers me both while I'm living in the most anti social enviroment I have ever seen and never before had heard of! Who cares if they don't like it? If they don't they can pay for my post and yours and so forth. So don't worry about it!
Jul. 10, 2010 6:28 pm
Hey Mike, I've not read your blog as I am new to the blog scene. But, here's my thoughts on the subject. BLOG ON BROTHER! As a mother of a very young daughter who has battled breast cancer, complete bi-lateral mastectomies and chemo for the last 18 months, I can say with complete confidence that there are some of us who do truly care. (even if we don't know you personally) And, during the worst of it, I wish I had known about AR Blogs. I've cooked up many meals to freeze for my sweet daughter and her family and would loved to have gotten some encouragement and good recipes for freezing via this Blog site. Everything is connected. One thing leads to another thing. Sickness and food, like happiness and food go together well. And, if it is the compassion we bring to one another through blogs and food that helps gets us through it all, then again I say....BLOG ON BROTHER, BLOG ON!!!!
Jul. 10, 2010 6:44 pm
You know, I agree with the others above. Unfortunately, out of sight, out of mind. Horrible, but true. We recognize each others names and then think about what they have been posting lately, whether it's thinking of starting a business that serves fair food or someone that needs support for a sick little girl. While folks are out there blogging or on RE for food/nutrition issues, sometimes personal issues pop us. Whether it is someone's health, or just a case where someone needs advice or needs to vent, they have established a relationship with folks on here. What to do? Look for AR folks that you recognize here by "name" and then try to find them on some other blog site by perhaps another name for OT topics? Having to switch between multitudes of blogs to find out if "so & so" is on-line today for food-related items or health-related items? Oops, wait I'll be right back I have to find the other blog. Sheesh!
Jul. 10, 2010 6:45 pm
(Sigh) I meant "pop up".
Jul. 10, 2010 6:59 pm
Last year I was blogging regularly (just returned) and I found that the mix of food and life was just great. There's something about the people on AR -- theyre not just cooks; they become warm hearted friends who support, laugh with and enjoy one another. I was amazed as I found myself getting involved and wanting to share my stories too. PLUS, there are so many wonderful cooks that I often didn't have any good food ideas to share!!
Jul. 10, 2010 7:43 pm
Been in the garden most of the day, on Twister(young horse w/bad attitude) the rest of the day. Am tired and stiff and sore but am I to understand just because a few don't like your non food blogs (BTW, I think of you and SGma and others daily and count on your blogs to keep in touch) you must stop blogging? Cancer has taken several people in my life and RA isn't much better. I would ask you not to stop telling your story, selfish maybe but I'm always looking to learn from others journeys and I also garden pesticide and herbicide free. Besides my most foodiest( I'm sure it's a word) blog I did was with someone else, it just went up and it has octopus in it and some less unusual stuff, well sort of it's a twist on grape leaves. You have my email so if you aren't blogging, I for one, would appreciate an update on your life's journey. I certainly will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Jul. 10, 2010 8:35 pm
dear mike i have never replyed to a blog,before,but now I am so P##sed off you, have been one of my favorite blogers where will i go now to learn things,please keep us quiet little people, who admire you from afar, in the loop don't give up
Jul. 10, 2010 8:45 pm
Oh Mike, I am deeply saddened by this... I hope you reconsider. I am sure there are many people who read your blog and benefit from it, albeit silently, than there are who post their comments. This site is here for you to use as you see fit, to blog about what is important to you - and not to be regulated by anyone other than yourself. I will miss your blogs Mike, know that you and your family are continually in my prayers. I will be thinking of you as your surgery date approaches..... Jan
Jul. 10, 2010 8:47 pm
See Mike - Faye, typed hers faster than I did! Thank you faye for illustrating my point! :)
Jul. 10, 2010 9:32 pm
Yikes, Mike! So sorry that anyone treated you that way here. The Allrecipes Family here has been my backbone since my hubby was dxed with stage 4 cancer in Jan. He is doing well and I'm so sorry that I didn't find you sooner to support you! Carry your blog over to Caringbridge, but keep posting here too! Here's ours : http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/danlepp/journal
Jul. 10, 2010 9:34 pm
Just breaks my heart...but it does take all kinds, doesn't it? &hearts; Take care of yourself and God bless!
Jul. 10, 2010 9:38 pm
Please please don't let this stop you! Many people read this and don't comment, you may be helping more people than you know!
Jul. 10, 2010 9:42 pm
Mike- You pay for your blog...so write whatever you want!!! You story has been both sad and encouraging. Take the support and delete the negative comments. I would love to continue being a member of your support group and loyal readers!!!
Jul. 10, 2010 10:00 pm
Mike, before you stop blogging on this topic, please do 3 things. First, consider that you are educating us by sharing your experience. Second, consider that you are providing an opportunity for many of us to become our best selves. Go read a solid year of GDerr's chronicle and see the responses. Third, consider this site as a giant kitchen. Families talk about everything under the sun in the kitchen; they laugh, argue, cry, prepare food and eat. But the food isn't the sole focus, it is part of life. You have paid your membership fees and you are entitled to blog on any subject you like (common sense prevailing) if a person prefers to focus only on food she is free to bypass your blog or any other that isn't food oriented. A few naysayers should not rule the realm for the rest of us. Thank you for trying to be gracious, but please continue to blog your feelings and condition.
Jul. 10, 2010 10:00 pm
Yep Mike, use that delete button! I just don't get people that think they are both in charge of what's posted as well as REQUIRED to read something they don't want to read. Have you been tying people down and beating them until they read your blog? If so, shame on you, but I know that's not the case. Actually I rather appreciate those small folks that openly stir up so much trouble. I think it's rather generous of them to hold up their "I'm a pathetic excuse for a person" sign in such plain view so we know!! Please don't go anywhere and continue to write what's in your heart.
Jul. 10, 2010 10:13 pm
Mike, I won't admit to reading every single one of your blogs, because that would be untrue, however I have read a fair few... I thank god because I am one of the lucky few, last year I found a lump in my breast by accident, I went for a check up about something totally unrelated with the other one! (How crude that sounds)As routine they check both, I had mammograms and ultrasounds, on both of them... The lump I have is about the size of a golf ball, as I said I am one of the lucky ones and it isn't cancerous, I have to go for check ups every 6 months to make sure that it remains that way! But the question I often ask myself now is if I didn't know it was there, how many other people are out there who are also unaware? Your story is important!!!! If just one person is saved by your blog, does that not make all of it worth it? Don't stop your "work" is too important!!
Jul. 10, 2010 10:23 pm
Mike, Don't You DARE Let anyone on here push you away from blogging!! We are free to talk about Whatever and like the ladies above said, if there are those who don't like it, let Them keep walking by. Believe me, I have had my hands slapped for Not walking by as well and I learned my lesson. Well, sorta LOL You are doing people a good Service by telling us about your struggle. Maybe someone Really needs to hear what you have to say:) What if someone needed a tip on how to get through their day and you weren't there to help them? What would they do? Please Please do not leave. God Bless you and hugs to you and your constant desire to help others. Square your shoulders and Keep blogging Baby!! &hearts;Patty
Jul. 10, 2010 10:25 pm
Mike, I sincerely hope you will reconsider. I so enjoy your blogs, and look forward to them. Don't let the select few stop you! So many people are inspired by your blogs and I'm sure you are helping and encouraging so many along the way. Whatever your decision may be, I wish all the best and hope you will keep blogging!
Jul. 10, 2010 10:27 pm
Mike, I'm new to AR and haven't really had a chance to get into the blogs yet. But, I want to go back and read yours. I'm a cancer survivor x2. I've survived a horrible case of Dengue Fever. I'm currently well on the road to recovery from PTSD and major depression after being in the Middle East. It's been a tough road and my support network has been limited. If you have found a network here on AR to support you as you go through this, don't give it up because someone with no empathy or compassion doesn't like your blog. As others have said, no one is forcing them to read it. Stay here with your friends and keep writing. What's important is reaching out to and receiving from the people who care about you. And it sounds like you have a lot of them here. My best thoughts and wishes to you.
Jul. 10, 2010 10:38 pm
I agree with BigShotsMom and if you enjoy blogging keep doing it; there are many who are regular readers. I myself stumble here now and then but I do think you should write about what ever you want. Yes there are a few bad apples here and that's typical of any public forum, but there are a whole bunch of good ones here as well! Good luck to you regarding your health! :)
Jul. 10, 2010 11:32 pm
I agree with most above Mike. You pay for your blog, no one is forced to read it and the majority of us (I believe) like the non-food interaction here on the AR/RE. My husband jsut commented that I seem to have more firends here than in real life! It's probably true! Hang in there -- we will support you!
B L 
Jul. 10, 2010 11:34 pm
I too, hope that you will reconsider. When people are rude or seem to unfairly attack others, it is difficult not to try to shut it down. I don't know the story, and won't go digging for it, but I truly believe that if a few people feel that blogging should be reserved for food-related topics, they are most welcome to read only the food related topics. You know sometimes it's true that the 'squeaky wheel gets the grease' and oftentimes people have learned that the more noise they make, the more often they get their way. This is often a pure and simple bullying tactic. Please consider that by 'folding up' you may be catering to the desires of a few outspoken who may not represent the AR community at all. It is perfectly reasonable to have a great deal of respect for someone, but not agree with all of their views. We each have a voice, and I believe that anyone who plunks down the membership fee may blog about anything (pg - rated, I imagine) that his/her heart desires. If people strictly discussed cooking and recipes here, what a boring place it would be indeed. I pop in and out as my hectic single-mom-full-time-student schedule allows, and it is the people, the very kind, funny, talented, and interesting people that draw me back in. It's great to share a love of food and cooking with such a diverse group. But food is only part of it. Fellowship is the 'main course'..... From what you wrote, your intentions are very sincere and honorable, but I hope you won't silence your voice, even if you feel you may have made a mistake in a response. We are all human and are bound to make a mistake here and there. And, if you didn't, which is what I suspect, then all the more reason to keep on keepin' on. Be blessed in all your activities :) You seem like a really good person. I am very interested in what you have to say.
Jul. 10, 2010 11:50 pm
I honestly do not think you should stop blogging about your journey with cancer. It is easier to ignore those who cause stuff around here and take the higher road and do what you want.....really!
Jul. 11, 2010 12:03 am
Stop by the AR Recipe Exchange and say Hello. Mike! You'll see a bunch of familiar faces, it's real time questions and answers! Anyway, here a post I wrote about your blog, it disturbs me.... http://allrecipes.com/Recipe-Exchange/Recipe-Request.aspx?requestID=184972
Jul. 11, 2010 12:04 am
Jul. 11, 2010 1:05 am
Well, I haven't followed this at all...but I don't know how organic gardening could be unrelated to food.
Jul. 11, 2010 2:59 am
I like it when people blog about topics I'm not real familiar with, like cancer. I want to know that if I would ever be affected, that I could count on some support (even though there are folks who think that I'd be a disgusting menace) when I'd have issues to contend with! I don't read all the blogs that appear on AR, nor do I have the ability to blog here, but there are topics other than food that affect my life! I hope I have the ability to know when to speak, when to listen, and the ability to know when I need to be reprimanded for not looking at an issue from all sides! Please know that I'd like to see more of your blogs!
Jul. 11, 2010 3:22 am
Right on, BL. You said it beautifully. And again, write on, Mike!
Jul. 11, 2010 3:41 am
Hi Mike! First of all, I'm not an avid blog reader, but I do skim over them daily looking for a good read. As a supporting member, YOU have paid for several perks and one of them is blogging. In my opinion, there are enough food related areas on this site to keep most people quite happy. Usually, it is the "non-food" blogs that catch my attention. For those that complain - check out the blog tags: Health, Hobbies, Lifestyle, Family, Household Tips, Decorating. I guess I don't have to say anymore. Keep on blogging!!
Jul. 11, 2010 3:45 am
Mike, please do NOT stop blogging. There have been numerous blogs that have little or nothing to do with food that have been wonderful reads. Some have been informative, entertaining, heartwarming *OR* heartbreaking. The nice thing is you can hit that delete key and even ban certain people from commenting on your blogs. I wrote a blog once that was very controversial - it received over 500 comments and really got some people hot under the collar. Only 499 of those comments are showing up today because I deleted at least a dozen. I was appalled that people would have the audacity to comment on my blog and even call me (and others) names. I ended up banning a few people from *ever* commenting on my blogs. I don't need invisible people to bring me down. I agree that I don't know why people feel obligated to read/comment on blogs that aren't of interest to them. I also agree that we are *paying members* and, with the exception of keeping it clean, are allowed to blog about what WE choose. Please don't let a few mean-spirited individuals spoil your blog.
Jul. 11, 2010 4:02 am
Mike, I'm sorry I have not read your blogs. It seems like all the comments that are coming in that you have a tremendous amount of support. Just remember there will always be some that have nothing better to do than complain!
Jul. 11, 2010 4:30 am
Mike, so many others have expressed what I want to say! Please keep blogging, we have lost so many of my favorite blogs because a few people have left terrible comments. It's hard enough for me to get on here and I don't want to keep having to link to other sites to read my favorite blogs. You are in my thoughts and prayers and I hope you feel all of our support.
Jul. 11, 2010 6:01 am
Love from Kentucky too....keep on keepin' on! It's what we do.
Jul. 11, 2010 6:02 am
I don't very often get to the blogs, but I definitely would have defended you from those mean-spirited people who leave comments that hurt the spirit. Please don't let the minority win over the majority! Keep on!!!!
Jul. 11, 2010 6:04 am
Being a member since 2006 I have definitely made AND lost friends on AR. Same story as if it were offline too. Sort of beyond my control what others think or how they will perceive things. I basically had to quit fretting because there was nothing more I could do. We should be able to blog what we want, heck...I paid to be able to blog. Right!
Jul. 11, 2010 6:22 am
I rarely read (& much less comment on) blogs, Mike. There will always be people that try to tell you that posts & blogs unrelated to food shouldn't be allowed on AR. Your blogs touch on a subject more important than just food. If YOU decide that you want to quit blogging for YOUR own reasons, that's a different matter. Please reconsider letting them have power over you by giving into them. Besides, isn't that the point of having the power to block their posts to your blog?
Jul. 11, 2010 6:29 am
Mike, I hope you stay and continue to blog. There's no disclaimer that your blog have to be food-related, and frankly anyone who says so should be ashamed of themselves. I didn't see anyone popping up on GDerr's blog while his wife was recovering from her stroke. And there are other people here who are dealing with cancer or have loved ones who are, who would not only be a great support to you but would also gain from your input, too. I'm sorry you had to experience the dark side, but those people have a right to express their opinions...and the rest of us have the right to ignore or respond. Things get out of control, but you have to put it in perspective. Someone complaining about non-food posts vs. someone chronicling their fight with cancer (something many, many of us have or will be touched by somehow, some day)...ignore the pettiness, and please keep blogging!
Jul. 11, 2010 6:31 am
I came back to read more comments, Mike, and I have to say that BigShotsMom hit it squarely -and quite profoundly-on the head! #1 you are educating others with your experience. For me, personally, I have been thru cancer with my mom first and then my dad. Mom is fine with that now but my dad was not quite so fortunate. My dad was quiet and reserved, he did not share things as deeply and openly as you do. My mom said nothing at all about her cancer. So you help me sort a lot of that out, Mike. You help me understand and heal. How do I thank you for that? #2 - I quote BSM again, you give us an opportunity to become our best selves, you allow us to care, have compassion and extend a place in our hearts to you. We give of ourselves to you but it is us who receives the gift. And #3- this being our "kitchen" a room in our homes we all gather and share joys, accomplishments, worries and hardships. Sometimes over a celebration dinner and others over a cup of tea. Occasionally we have "guests" in our kitchen we CANT WAIT to show the door but it does not prevent us from letting our friends back in. Right? We are your friends - your cyber family- and we care about you. Please don't shut us out Mike....... we need each other...... &hearts; Jan
Jul. 11, 2010 6:42 am
Keep on blogging Mike. You have a talent in writing and your attitude encourages me.
Jul. 11, 2010 6:59 am
I appreciate your blogs and admire you for sharing your journey. I don't know that I have commented, but like countless other members rest assured you are being read and inspiring lots of us. Please continue. We look forward to hearing of your progress & being educated. Prayers and support are sent from the total AR community and we hope you understand we really do care. Please have a wonderful day. Blessings to you and all those you hold dear. Maggi
B L 
Jul. 11, 2010 7:01 am
Just getting around to reading all the comments. Love the metaphor of the big kitchen. That's exactly what AR is..... please don't stop inviting us into your kitchen for a cup of tea via your blog :) I have had opportunity to read some of your blogs and they are quite a service.... thank you so much for sharing your journey. Best of luck and health to you and yours.
Jul. 11, 2010 7:06 am
Oh Mike, it truely saddens me to read your blog. I certainly do not want to upset you; but you are fighting the fight of your life right now and don't need this issue to cloud your judgement. You have apologized and that is good of you, it feels good to correct something and get it off your chest, however I don't think it is necessary to stop blogging. I have never blogged before in my life; and now I have found this great outlet. I blog when it is something that interests me and if it doesn't I pass on them, I don't care if it is food related or not, it is my choice whether I participate or not. I have noticed that some people think they are an expert (on everything), and they can be aggressive, they are quick to jump all over other people, repeatedly. On the positive I have received some great recipes, participated in some great blogs, laughed and cried over reading some blogs, connected with people across the world. We all have a story, our lives count, our opinions count. I could tell you a story about myself, I think we all can, we are all human and I think we all care, or I hope to think that we care. I am interested in knowing how you are and the journey you are you on. You are sharing and educating us on your journey, we can all learn something from this, please let us decide if we want to read it or pass it by. I had a very stressful business that I sold last year, and I went away to recoup for a few months, when I came home I literally hid in my shell like a crab. I have attained recipes on this site for years, but I finally had the time to sign in and save them, and then started reading blogs. This has been like therapy to me, I enjoy reading and being able to participate in conversations. I lost my mother 14 years ago to stomach cancer, and she didn't share her journey, she tried to protect me from the inevitable, she was always positive and fine, she knew how much it was going to hurt me when she would be gone. She talked to her friends, that was her outlet and her therapy. I am sure that the majority of people reading this will agree with me; we are all brought together for a reason. I believe that more positives come out of this site than negatives. We want to read, know and help. I hope that you reconsider. Sorry for the rambling.
Jul. 11, 2010 7:16 am
Please do not let the rudeness of others stop you from blogging. The comments above have said it all. You are certainly entitled to write what you want. I recently became a supporting member and don't recall seeing anything "official" about having to only blog about food. Some of the most interesting. enjoyable and even inspiring blogs have nothing or little to do with food. If it pleases you keep blogging.
Jul. 11, 2010 7:23 am
And I can't help but add: I certainly don't respect the few small minded individuals who don't respect our right to journal our life experiences. We all have the option to choose what we write or read. Please, Mike, carry on!
Jul. 11, 2010 7:28 am
Mike - I don't always comment but I do read your blogs and I agree with those above who encourage you to continue blogging your journey. You are in the fight of your life and you have many here at AR who have your back! Prayers and good wishes from California!
Jul. 11, 2010 8:00 am
I hope you know that have enjoyed your blogs from the start *and* I've enjoyed your enthusiasm and kindnesses toward other bloggers, including me. I don't want you to stop blogging about *whatever* you like, but I fully respect your decision and will continue to enjoy whatever you share with us. All the best, Mr. Harvey.
Jul. 11, 2010 8:06 am
Mike: It appears you have lots of support here. Don't let yourself be influenced by a very small percentage of negative people. If sharing your experiences feels like the right thing to do, then please continue.
Jul. 11, 2010 8:17 am
I do not read blogs very often and unfortunately have not read yours. BigShotsMom nailed it. Keep blogging, it is your right. There a a few and I mean very few people on here that seem to enjoy hurting other peoples feelings or they just don't stop and think before they respond. I now just choose to ignore those posts. I must say AR buddies are fabulous, they are there whenever you need them. Wishing you the very best.
Jul. 11, 2010 8:32 am
hi mike! don't be discouraged about negative comments, we all get them. i blog about my wife. the very first blog i wrote about her, i was terrified, crying, sitting on the couch at 3 in the morning. i did not want to call anyone and have them see me that way. i'm a decent enough cook, no recipes accepted yet, but who cares. there are much better cooks here i'm positive of that. but as i said in my first blog, i have found this site to be a group of kind, caring and compassionate people...and they still are. good luck mike, don't let pettiness stop you from being here.
Jul. 11, 2010 8:34 am
Hi Mike- I'm apparently like a lot of people here. I rarely read blogs. But I don't want the few who do read blogs and think they are the "Blog Czar" and can dictate "who" needs to write "what." But I also understand how people can ruin an enjoyable thing for you. If these people have ruined it for you then stop because you want to. It's obvious by all the comments that your blogging is enjoyed by a great number of members. Keep doing what you enjoy and I wish you well.
Jul. 11, 2010 8:35 am
Your blogs have reached out to soo many of us you can not stop now!! I RARELY write food related Blogs, (I write what I want to write!) Some people love em and some hate em........ do I care what the "Haters" think? I think not!!! If others don't like the non-foodie blogs they can pass on by, nobody is MAKING them click onto the Blogs! KEEP BLOGGING MIKE HARVEY!!!
Jul. 11, 2010 8:51 am
Mike,your blog is food related. There is food for the stomach and more importantly there is food for the soul and mind. We as human beings need both! I hope you don't add to the wins of the nasty few, we lost WW and hopefully we get to keep you. Stay and talk WW into coming back!
Jul. 11, 2010 10:30 am
For goodness sake, reading comments/blogs is like reading a book. If you don't like the first few lines, paragraphs, whatever, just close the book and find something else!!!! Bloggers have interesting stories to tell, food-wise or something to get off their chests. If we don't want to read, we just go on, not trash the author! We all choose what we want to read, not what others want to write.
Jul. 11, 2010 11:58 am
I found allrecipes because of the food based "theme". I stayed because of the people. While I respect your decision, I hope you reconsider. There are many of us here that follow your story and have come to care about you.
Jul. 11, 2010 12:10 pm
You know...I have never once blogged about food. And I haven't ever had a trouble causing troll leave a comment. I imagine they pick their targets and stick to them. I guess my opinion is that you should just block the trolls from being able to comment on your blogs (I believe Witchy Woman knows how to do that), and continue to write whatever you want! I am not sure that I have ever read your blog, but obviously A TON of people have and sincerely enjoyed it, or were comforted by it. If you truly have no desire to blog here anymore, then no one can change your mind. But, if you are stopping purely in response to the trolls, I would rethink your decision. Who cares what negative little trolls think/say?? Tell 'em all to go to "you know where"! Good Luck Mike!
Jul. 11, 2010 1:13 pm
Mike - please be sure to post back. As you recover, you can let us know what you are "up for" in regards to food. I know folks here have tons of suggestions if you need a special diet. When you're finally up to it, some chocolate chip cookie recipes. You know, that special scent that will drive the little woman wild. (Wait a minute - I guess that means this will really be a food blog; hence no problem.)
Jul. 11, 2010 1:34 pm
Hi, Mike. I think I talked to you once on a blog about Paul Harvey when he passed. You keep on blogging about whatever the heck you want. Just hit "delete" on the buttheads. Wishing you nothing but the best in your health battle. Prayers from Midland.
Jul. 11, 2010 2:05 pm
{{{{Mike}}}} I hugely admire your strength and courage in sharing your acount of the daily stuggle cancer patients deal with. I admit, I have never read your blogs til just now, but I read through them with a tear in my eye and just a little choked up... I beat ovarian cancer in 2003, it came back again last year and we have stuggled to get it managable. Without too many details, chemo didn't work this time but mangaged to give us some control. My appt at the end of July will tell us the next step. My point is this.....You are helping sooooooo many people here. Think of folks in areas who have no access to support groups or extended families and feel so alone, like absolutely no one else knows what they are going through or feeling. Folks who are frightened by the "Big C" Its Not neccessarily a death sentance anymore. We live....we survive. We see more, enjoy little things more, take less for granted. I wish when I was first diagnosed that I had someone, somewhere who knew what we deal with every single day.. You are doing a good thing here Mike, not just for other cancer patients, but the wives, husbands and families. Every little way that makes us more empathetic and humanizes this disease helps us all. I believe it even helps the naysayers who left the comments. Whether they believe it or not. Everyone everywhere is affected by cancer, It touches us all in some ways.........Please continue your blog and get through this stage in your life. Continue to share. I don't post much at all but it is like a family here on AR, Just ignore the odd disfunctional member,, delete or block them. They are the small percentage who will never be worth losing any sleep over. We need people like you in this world. Don't let anyone push you around...Stand up for what you believe in and what you know in your heart is right!!!!.......Susan in Ont Canada My rant for the unjust is hereby completed...LOL
Jul. 11, 2010 2:59 pm
Yeah!!! What BigshotsMom said!!!!!!!!!!!
Jul. 11, 2010 3:05 pm
Perhaps, maybe, it is possible, that those comments and what happened there became an opportunity for us to tell you just how much you mean to us....... everything happens for a reason. Let this be the "bless" in the "mess" and make something positive out of it. Keep blogging Mike. :) (and for those who prefer food related topics - it is the same as if you have a cake that didnt turn out perfectly and you post for suggestions on how to salvage it and you are given the cake balls recipe. There you go! ;)
Jul. 11, 2010 4:14 pm
I love What's For Dinner Mom's comparison with hanging out in the kitchen. That really is what AR is like. I stood by the door for awhile, looking in, then decided it was a good family kitchen and joined the clan. I've enjoyed sipping my tea with everyone. I read your blogs, Mike, and am glad you're going to continue. Just reading all the comments illustrates the need which your blog fulfills. Cancer is a scary and, oftentimes, lonely experience. To have someone willing to discuss it openly somehow makes it alright for us, as well. I ache for everyone going through this experience now and wish you all the best. You need all the support you can get and an outlet that enables you to feel normal about your fears and concerns. This goes for family and friends, too. I had Cervical Cancer in the 80's, as a single parent with 3 toddlers. I assumed at the time I wouldn't survive and I was so worried about what would happen to my children. But I did make it. I was so happy when I hit that "5 year" cancer-free mark. My dad survived Thyroid Cancer in the 90's. Then I took care of my mother for a few years as she fought her illness. I survived 2 bouts with Melanoma Skin Cancer, then held my father's hand when he succumbed to Lung Cancer 2 years ago. This is a disease that affects everyone in one way or another. You're brave, Mike, for sharing your journey and allowing us to share it with you. There's an element of emotional healing when we open up. WFDM hit the nail again when she stated how your blog situation turned into a blessing because so many had a chance to express their appreciation and support to you, plus learn about this disease and it's process. A heartfelt thank you to you. Blessings to you and your family and to others at AR whose life is touched by Cancer. We are all winners when we care.
Jul. 11, 2010 4:31 pm
You know what? I shouldn't probably say this but there is an easy solution for those that don't want to read certain blogs or posts or threads and I learned it from my 4 yr old. I was chiding him one day about picking his nose (UGH GROSS!!! get a kleenix!!!). His 4 yr old reply, "Don't wook ,Mom, if it bothers you!" I still chuckle about his innocent reply but that is an easy solution. Just don't look or read it, if it upsets or unsettles you. Mike, I believe this week is the "big" one so I personally would like to hear how things are going. Sounds like I'm not the only one. Cat
Jul. 11, 2010 5:31 pm
Some people have this over-powering desire to constantly "should" on others. AR is far more than a cooking site. It is a family of people who wouldn't know each other if they fell over them but, somehow we feel connected and are concerned about the others in the "family". I don't want to even guess at the number of members AR has but, if 2 or 3 are displeased with something, let me see, on this side of the scale we have the 2 or 3 and on this other side we have the multitudes of members who find your writings informative. Which side has the most members? These small minded people do not deserve the attention they have received here. My husband said, "Small minds...small hearts." "Closed minds...closed hearts." If you...YOU...want to keep writing then DO IT. And if the naysayers don't like it they can just pass it up or else, they can fold their opinions twice and stick them where the sun...you can finish the sentence. It's your blog, put what you want on in.
Jul. 11, 2010 9:19 pm
Hi Mike, Evidently I missed something along the way and don't really know what was said to generate this post, but...I for one do read your blogs and have commented on many of them. I've been a fan and for intensely personal reasons, I find comfort in your journey. Please continue, I don't think you quite know how many people are supporting you and are behind the scenes. These are the ones that matter.
Jul. 11, 2010 9:21 pm
Mike, everyone has said pretty much what I want to say so I won't repeat it but please know I hope you will keep on blogging. I lost my husband to cancer three years ago and I wish I had found this group before that time so I would have had the support that is freely offered here. We care about each other and learn from each other. I love your blogs and am following your journey with a great deal of interest. I am praying for you and your family. I also pray for the Doctors and their skill and compassion. Keep on keeping on!!!!Ginny
Jul. 11, 2010 10:27 pm
YEA MIKE! So happy to know you are going to continue to blog! You touch so many people. I wish you all the best on the surgery planned for this week. Know (and feel) our thoughts, prayers and positive energy. Please extend these wishes to your wife, nothing harder than being the one sitting and waiting for their loved one. Blessings, Jan
Jul. 11, 2010 11:32 pm
I posted earlier, but I'm going to take a different tack here, having thought about some other stuff. writing, sharing, whatever, is a source of comfort and an outlet when one is going through a troubled time, or just dealing with a normal life. I don't have huge issues (thankfully) but rely on writing my blog as a good stress reliever, affirmations, whatever... I think it is important to you, and you NEED to keep it up!
Jul. 11, 2010 11:55 pm
Your blogs have reached out to soo many of us you can not stop now !!
Jul. 12, 2010 2:37 am
I just read your update Mike, perhaps your wife might post a quick update for us after your surgery on Tuesday.I lost my dad April 2006 to liver failure and my mom 5 months later to lung cancer. The 18 months that preceeded those events were the most difficult in my life and I would have been very grateful to have had a blog like yours to read at those times. My thoughts will be with you and your family on Tuesday Mike.
Jul. 12, 2010 3:45 am
Mike: am thinking of you mate. Blog what you want..and please keep writing...my thoughts are with you here in New Zealand
Jul. 12, 2010 5:00 am
Like someone said earlier, you are paying for this space so ignore the nasty comments and keep on blogging. I am intelligent enough to read what interests me and avoid what doesn't. So I don't care what anyone writes here - I can skip anything I find boring, offensive or just plain stupid! I fell that everyone else can do the same. So you should delete this blog and pretend it never happened...then keep on blogging as usual.
Jul. 12, 2010 6:35 am
Dear Mr. Harvey: I didn't know anything was going on at all until I got an email from a sweet gal who casually mentioned that there were a couple comments about folks posting blogs about "cancer" and/or blogs that are non food related! I wanted to read the posts about baby Kira and that's why I'm here now. Because of my blog, "My Littlest Bestest Friend" I have people all over this whole planet praying for that baby! All over the world. Imagine that. From Austraila to Zimbabwe (pardon the spelling) and all points in between, people are praying. I do not care if it insults ones sensitivities. If my blog bothered someone, it should be likened to a television...don't like the show, turn it off or change the channel! I specifically wanted to seek you out for the comments you made about my bestest bud. I know they came from a man who has walked this same journey; from a man who has seen the pain from this horrible disease. Others who have walked this path made similar commnents and they will always be associated by me to be caring and compassionate people. To them, as well as yourself, I am among those that appreciate greatly, the kind words of inspiration and encouragement. I must add that if there really is a cure for this disease as some believe to be true, and we are deliberately being lied to because of the obscene amounts of money made by doctors, lawyers, pharmaceujticasl houses and government, I hope that God in His infinite wisdom and mercy will provide a special hell just for them! My daughter and I, both, are faced with a similar circumstance but not yet knowing the extent of what may be in our futures. I want you to know in your heart that you have touched with sincerety many of us during our time of need and stress. You, Sir, are a blessing to many of us as you will continue to be. We will walk by your side, we will hold you dear and close, we will cloak you in protectiveness because you have allowed us to capture you as "one of our own"! You are special, indeed. Know that we care. God speed, my friend! Love and hugs, Southerngma (Gail)
Jul. 12, 2010 6:37 am
I can't type when my mind is racing like a locomotive pharmaceuticals. Sorry.
Jul. 12, 2010 6:44 am
Mike, I have been reading your blogs and feel it would be awful for you to stop writing! Many, many people are finding comfort in what you write and I believe you are, too. You have paid to have this blog and have the right to write whatever you desire. If someone doesn't like it, then they have the right to pass it by. I write on quite a few non-food topics and if someone were to comment negatively - so what. Please, continue writing! And - good luck to you tomorrow! I'll be thinking of you all day.
Jul. 12, 2010 6:57 am
Good luck to you, Mike, and I hope you keep blogging. I don't read the blogs regularly, but I do check in from time to time, and I've enjoyed yours. If someone doesn't want a blog that is non-food related, then they don't have to read them! Sending best wishes your way and hope to see you back very soon.
Jul. 12, 2010 7:21 am
You aren't the only one........ I think it is fine to post an OT subject once and a while, but not all the time. : )
Jul. 12, 2010 7:21 am
SouthernGma said it so well. Please reconsider. We just found out yesterday that my father-in-law, (I love this man to pieces), is not well and is having some further tests done today. They believe it is a blockage in the kidneys. Now my birthday is this Wednesday and his is Thursday, I wanted us to share our birthdays together (as we normally do), and have him over for a barbeque and I would prepare his favourite meal. The dinner is on hold until he is up to it. I pray to have good news on Wednesday about you and my father-in-law. That is what I pray for. We all need you to continue on here.
Linda M 
Jul. 12, 2010 7:34 am
Mike, I have not read your blog and do not normally blog but I agree with the others who encouraged you to keep blogging. I too have battled cancer and when I was going through treatment it would have been a Godsend to have someone who had gone through something similar to write to. I certainly do not consider this to be just a food site. I look at this site as friends and neighbors. I am not a professional chef or even a great cook but I do enjoy hearing and learning from the experience of others and at 67 years of age, I know there is still a lot I can learn but not if people like you stop writing. Keep it up.
Jul. 12, 2010 7:41 am
Hi, this is the first blog of yours I've read. I can tell you definitely that gardening is cooking-related; check out the book "Gardener Cook," by Christopher Lloyd. Cooking has bearing on cancer and its survival too; diet and cooking plays a big role in how patients bear up under their treatment. It's interesting to all of us, who might one day have the same experience, either as patients or as family members of patients, how people who are fighting this disease cook and eat. Best of luck to you, Mike, and please keep writing, because what you have to say has a lot of value. We want to know all about the first meal you cook post-hospital.
Jul. 12, 2010 8:06 am
Mike, I have never written a blog completely about food-not that I have written many. Just a bit of advice-we are not all the same, some members are sympathetic, some are cheer leaders, some are blunt, some love to hook people to google sights, some are informative, some root for the underdog and that is the only time you see them post, some have brown/red/blonde hair-you get the idea. What one person considers blunt, I may consider it as forward or honest. So as I understand it, no one has commented in your blog about staying with food related issues...well just like in everyday life we manage to ignore or let some remarks slide. The written word on the internet is no different. The difference is that in life we encircle ourselves with the friends we WANT, we tell different stories to different groups of people. You may discuss different topics with co-workers, family, and weekend friends. On the internet we give our thoughts/opinions and it is read by a multitude of people. Not everyone will agree with us and why must they? You keep blogging, I will keep blogging (if I ever have another topic of interest to write about):)
Jul. 12, 2010 8:55 am
I'm so happy you are going to continue blogging! Wanted to wish you best of luck with your surgery tomorrow!
Jul. 12, 2010 9:51 am
Mike, I am glad you have decided to continue to share your story AND your life with us. Best of luck in your surgury tomorrow. You are in are hearts and our prayers....Susan
Jul. 12, 2010 10:16 am
Just stopped by Mike to wish you luck and prayers on your surgery tomorrow.Take care and Please post after you are feeling better.
Jul. 12, 2010 10:44 am
Mike, Best wishes on your surgery tomorrow. Please know that we are praying for you.
Jul. 12, 2010 4:33 pm
Mike, Please know that I enjoy your blog. Try to ignore the trolls or cranks. We are here to support and to he%% with the rest.
Jul. 12, 2010 4:38 pm
good luck tomorrow...keep us posted.
B L 
Jul. 12, 2010 5:51 pm
Prayers and good thoughts for a perfect surgery and outcome tomorrow. May you be surrounded with healing and may your surgeon's hand be guided by the angels.... God bless.
Jul. 12, 2010 8:16 pm
Good luck to you Mike. Keep us posted - you have a lot of friends here. (Think if you had to make phone calls to let everybody know...)
Jul. 12, 2010 9:51 pm
Dear Mike- I saw on the RE that you updated your blog. Thank you for rethinking the situation. Prayers are offered for a good outcome tomorrow (today?) May your doctor's be wise and talented. God Bless you and your family.
Jul. 14, 2010 2:12 am
Hope things went well for you yesterday. Here's a Facebook site dedicated to those who have or know someone who has or had cancer. There's some great discussions and support on here. This might be something else to include for additional on-line support. Blessings. http://www.facebook.com/find-friends/index.php#!/group.php?gid=115197588500402
Jul. 14, 2010 11:07 pm
Hi there Mike,I do hope your surgery went well. Not sure what happened to your updated blog,I would have been interested in reading it.I am also hoping all the outpouring of concern for you will help you reconsider discontinuing your blogging jouney. There are a lot of people on here that could use your wisdom. God Bless You!
Jul. 15, 2010 8:07 pm
Patty Cakes - his updated blog is immediately under his original submittal, directly underneath his reference to Southern Grandma's sites. (I couldn't find it at first either.) Hope you're doing well Mike!
Jul. 15, 2010 9:24 pm
Hi Mike - just stopping by to let you know I am continuing the prayers and positive thoughts.... I am hoping all went well with the surgery and you are resting comfortably now. Looking forward to hearing how you are.
Jul. 16, 2010 7:59 am
Glad you decided to keep on with the blog. It is greatly appreciated, informative, and entertaining. Hope your surgery went well!
Jul. 16, 2010 11:22 am
I hope you keep blogging as well. I am not very good about always getting to the blog area, but I enjoy reading them no matter the topic.
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At age 16, I began cooking when my mother was injured in an accident that kept her off her feet for five weeks. At first, my repertoire was fried hot dogs with pork and beans, boiled hot dogs with macaroni and cheese or pizza from a box. After a couple weeks of this, my younger brother was the first to protest and demand variety and my dad was quick to support him. That was my first cooking challenge, learning to plan a meal. About that time, mom returned from the hospital and from her bed, began teaching me things like roast beef, fried chicken, stews and all the sides and trimmings. In 1967, I married and my wife designated herself as the cook and this continued until 1999. It was then that I (voluntarily) began cooking again. At some point, I realized that I was having fun and began searching for recipes that were more challenging and interesting. I found AR and used it's recipes for a long time before registering and later becoming an active member.
My favorite things to cook
Soups. How can I go wrong? They are a great way to use up leftovers and those veggies that are approaching the end of their usefulness. They are always an original recipe. Roasts and steaks are favored, also. Getting the right "doneness" and choosing appropriate sides for a tastey and attractive meal is a continuing and always evolving menu.
My favorite family cooking traditions
If creating impulsive menus and recipes is a tradition then, (I guess) we have a tradition. A new tradition is developing. I have a fruitcake recipe that, I believe, is near perfection. I make it just before Thanksgiving so it is aged enough for the Christmas/ New Year holidays.
My cooking triumphs
Without a doubt, my own recipe for a Reuben Sandwich. It has been a demanded item for many years and I shared it in my AR blog. http://allrecipes.com/Cook/13101603/BlogEntry.aspx?postid=204609
My cooking tragedies
Too many. I have been able to throw them out and have something new before my wife gets home. Most of the time, anyway.
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