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Grandma who was never a mother

My Best Thanksgiving Ever 
 
Nov. 22, 2012 12:32 pm 
Updated: Nov. 26, 2012 7:06 pm
The pies and are baked and chilled, the turkey spent the night in Citrus Turkey Brine and is in the oven and potatoes, Shredded Brussels Sprouts and stuffing will be finished soon. I am really looking forward to Thanksgiving dinner and am thankful that I have the means and the ability to put a wonderful dinner together.

But what I am really thankful for is that this Thanksgiving I will be celebrating with my girls, Hailie and Emily, and this year for the first time they are mine. After a long and unpleasant court battle I was given custody of these two gentle, beautiful spirits last month. 

I have always been part of Hailie and Emily's lives. They have spent weekends and many other times with me their entire lives. But I am not related so, for the most part, I was an outsider watching them being exposed to violence, abuse and situations that no child should be subjected to. At the end of our weekends together my heart would break when they would become hysterical when I took them back to their mother, crying and clutching at the car and me and begging me not to make them go home. Finally last fall, at age six, Emily simply refused to pay any attention to her mother and eventually refused to eat anything her mother tried to feed her.

Virtually everyone who was familiar with the family court process warned me that it is nearly impossible for a non-relative to wrest custody from a natural parent. But last month Hailie, Emily and I were successful and I was awarded primary physical custody. I don't have to worry about what abuse they are being subjected to and when that abuse will escalate to a point where they will be permanently scarred. The girls exhibit symptoms of PTSD but together, in a loving, stable, predictable environment, they are thriving.

My Best Thanksgiving Ever? Right here, right now, with the loving family I chose to create. Simply the best. Thank God.
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Comments
Paula 
Nov. 22, 2012 12:40 pm
What a heart-warming story! I'm so happy these little girls have a chance now for a wonderful life. They are blessed that you were there for them, and I bet you feel blessed that they are with you now.
 
Nov. 22, 2012 1:08 pm
What a fantastic day for you! Those are two lucky girls.
 
Bibi 
Nov. 22, 2012 1:31 pm
You and the girls are all winners! How wonderful that you are able to provide them with a loving home. I wish you many memorable holidays!
 
Nov. 22, 2012 3:42 pm
LOVE the pic of your girls!!!!! Happy Day to you all!
 
Nov. 22, 2012 4:25 pm
Congrats to all of you. Nothing is more powerful than love and I'm so happy for you all to have that and that the courts had the sense to do the right thing. Happy Thanksgiving.
 
Nov. 22, 2012 6:15 pm
Beautiful girls! So glad you were able to get custody. Happy Thanksgiving!
 
Nov. 22, 2012 7:32 pm
What a truly wonderful Thanksgiving story. You do, indeed, have very much to be thankful for.... and the girls will be thankful their entire lives for what you have done. Bless you!!
 
Nov. 23, 2012 5:23 am
I see the top of your pumpkin pie cracked, mine did too. I am wondering what can be done to fix this, maybe A water bath like is done with cheese cake?
 
Nov. 23, 2012 6:37 am
King Sparta, I suspect that my pumpkin pie should have been removed from the oven a few minutes sooner. However, since I served it with whipped cream and since I don't like it anyway, I didn't let it bother me. I think probably about 5 minutes less baking time would have been enough.
 
Nov. 23, 2012 11:05 am
Beautiful, janet,so very happ for you.
 
Nov. 23, 2012 11:51 am
What could be better Janet? Pumpkin Pie, Pecan pie and two beautiful cutie pies ")
 
Lela 
Nov. 24, 2012 12:59 pm
Janet, how lucky these two girls have you, you are truly blessed.
 
Nov. 26, 2012 1:25 pm
Thank you everyone for sharing my Thanksgiving. Families are special, no matter how they are formed.
 
 
 
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About Me
A few years ago I had the opportunity to go to culinary school and loved every minute of it. So after nearly 20 years working as a paralegal, I took the plunge and changed careers. I was the baker at a "corporate dining" facility feeding the construction workers who are building a microchip manufacturing plant. I earned much less but I loved every minute of it - even though those minutes started at 5 AM! Now I am back to work as a paralegal albeit only part-time but I have also taken custody of two little angels who were in a violent and abusive home. I also volunteer by cooking at a small local hospice. I wish I could foster a new career for myself and others as a "Food Therapist". My efforts will not cure these people but I have found that I can provide enjoyment and the boost that a meal can bring. At the same time, the enjoyment I get is at least equal to their enjoyment of my efforts.
My favorite things to cook
I love to cook anything but baking is my passion.
My favorite family cooking traditions
Holiday meals with ALL the extras. Too much food for anyone to eat everything. I can't wait to pass the holiday traditions on to my granddaughters who are already Grandma's best helpers!
My cooking triumphs
I love the fact that even though our mother was a good cook and my five sisters are all good cooks, everytime I bring somethng new to family get-togethers, I am always asked to bring it again!
My cooking tragedies
My mother did a lot of cooking without recipes so I thought that's just what you did. One time when I was about 12, I was home alone and decided to make a pie. The crust was really not edible. Decades later, I still remember that pie!
 
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