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Best Thanksgiving ever 
 
Nov. 30, 2012 6:54 pm 
Updated: May 3, 2013 6:06 am
One of the activities for November is to write a blog about the Best Thanksgiving Ever. I've waited to the last possible moment to write this. I really had to take the time to think about this. For the past 10 years holidays have been celebrated with just myself, my husband and my daughter.  I grew up in a family that always had 20-25 people sitting around the table. I am still not quite used to it just being the three of us. I have a hard time with trying to make the holidays special, it just feels pointless to go through all the trouble for just us. I know that's not fair to my daughter and I really do try my best to keep a light and fun attitude. I go through the "motions" and decorate and cook even though I struggle with making too much food.  

I asked my husband what he was thankful for on Thanksgiving. He didn't even skip a beat when he said "I am thankful for my family". Erg. I rolled my eyes. Really? How lame. I asked him to explain it more. He said again he was thankful for his family and that we have our health.  I really thought about that. In the past year I have had 2 uncles die, one from throat cancer. One of the reasons that we have celebrated alone the last 10 years is because I've lost 9 relatives, almost all of them from health issues and a couple from horrific accidents. My family pretty much fell to separate ways after these loses. My husband has no family. He really made me think and I came to realize that something as simple as "our health" really is a significant thing to be thankful for.

Perhaps this Thanksgiving, that I was originally thinking was lonely and sad because we have no family to share it with.. is the best Thanksgiving ever because I found a reason to be really Thankful! 
 
Comments
Nov. 30, 2012 7:28 pm
I'm very happy that you came to realize that,it is not the amount of family you have,but what you make of it.(iam in the same boat)so i know where your comming from.Enjoy what you have.
 
Dec. 1, 2012 9:20 am
I don't normally find it hard to put feelings or ideas to words. This is different because I really understand how you feel. And I am guilty of not trying hard enough to make the most of it for my kids. When key members of a family die, it seems that there isn't always an heir apparent to take over the duties of family lynchpin. I haven't seen anyone from my dad's side of the family since the last time I went to see them. The distance is prohibitive in getting together often. I see my mom's side of the family with more frequency since my mom is alive and the matriarch, though living in a care center now. I'm not sure what will happen when she dies. Will I not see this side of my family anymore? I wonder how this affects my daughter's views of what an extended family is like? Do they really understand how we are connected? You've given me a lot to think about. Thank you for that. I'm glad to see that you have found thankfulness in your life. I agree with manella that it isn't the size of the family that matters, rather the amount of love that comes out of that family.
 
Dec. 1, 2012 1:41 pm
Thank you both Manella and Doc. You both got me all teary eyed reading your responses and I appreciate you reading and sharing. It's nice to know I am not alone in how I feel (even though it sucks).
 
Bink 
Dec. 11, 2012 1:33 pm
Thanks for writing about this - I also came from the large family dinners during holidays, and struggled with both the loss of most of those relatives and how to continue the holiday spirit. I have tried focusing on creating new traditions for just us, including a creative menu that incorporates dishes my Grandmother wouldn't have considered for a crowd. Last year we had broiled lobster tail for Christmas Eve, with some traditional family recipe the next day. We are also free to eliminate the "not so favorite " dishes (not really fans of yams or jello salad!) We each buy a tree ornament that represents a special happening during the year. Have fun with it, and blessings to your family
 
sunnysouth 
May 3, 2013 6:06 am
Holiday celebrations sometimes continually change. We have a blended family (2nd marriage). We have married adult children who have to split their time between "his" and "her" families making it a constant challeng to have holiday meals together. One thing you can do to keep the Thanksgiving meal tradition going is to invite someone who might otherwise be all alone to join you (a widow, for instance who maybe doesn't have other family or whose family does not live near by). It would probably end up being a very special day for all involved.
 
 
 
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