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Angry Cookin' Yucky Cookin' 
 
Oct. 23, 2012 9:44 am 
Updated: Oct. 24, 2012 3:39 pm


This is a copy of my blog posting for my personal blog.  Check it out if you like.   


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Sometimes, I just am not in the mood to cook. I resent the fact that everyone in the house looks to me for dinner. I have a 16 year old daughter. I'd be more than happy for her to try her hand at cooking. I have probably 75 cookbooks. Have at it! Honestly sometimes I just don't know what to make, or I have no taste for anything. When I ask them what they might want they never have an opinion, I give them 3 or 4 choices to chose from (unless it's something I like and they don't)  I make a lot of dishes I don't like, or even eat because the hubby and daughter love them.   Sometimes I am on the go ALL day and I just want a break. Sometimes, there just doesn't seem to be enough time in the day.  Sometimes, I just want a break. Why am I the keeper of the fork? Who designated me the Queen of the pots and pans? I know that I am not feeling any different that anyone else. 


What ends up happening is what the hubby calls Angry Cookin'. I can make a recipe that I always make and it tastes bad according to him. Apparently my frustration seeps into the ingredients and taints the dish.  Now, my husband doesn't normally make comments on any of the dishes I make. (he knows where his next meal is coming from) but I can tell by the way he pushes the food around on his plate, and always seems to be "not as hungry as he thought" that he didn't like it.  Which just seems to be one more thing that makes me and upset, fed up cook! 


We don't eat fast food or take out. I don't understand what's wrong with a bowl of cereal! Or a night of breakfast for dinner! Or fend for yourself!  Then with those sad puppy dog eyes on me, I feel guilty. Grrr.  Pots and pans.. some days I am tired of looking at them! 


Let me say this, my husband will cook. He will offer to cook. The problem here is that there is NOT one dish he makes that I WANT to eat. I don't care for garlic, he uses enormous amounts of it. I don't like ginger, he has to put it in EVERYTHING. I find Chinese 5 spice absolutely disgusting. I have a delicate nose, and ever more delicate stomach. I do not like things that have strong smelling spices, I don't like the tastes. And I definitely do NOT like anything that will eventually work its way out of your system through the pores in your skin.   He is one of those people that will smell like garlic (strongly) for days, sometimes a week. I even looked it up. Garlic is one of those things that really does come through the pores of the skin and even after you brush your teeth you will still smell like it. YUCK!


 I understand many ethnic dishes of other countries depend on their spices. I understand. It is personal choice to not eat these things. and I abhor when he blatantly disregards my feelings and my taste buds and makes a dish he knows I will not eat. I have to retreat to the basement so the smells don't make me gag. I can't be around him for days until the smells work its way out of his skin.  He thinks its funny. 


There are a lot of dishes I love that I do not make because neither he nor my daughter will eat. I've decided I am not going to cheat myself any longer.  I'm not going to be the one eating a bowl of cereal for dinner because he cooked. 


I defend my right to be an Angry Cook! 


* I read a posting on the Allrecipes Recipe Buzz from someone calling themselves an angry cook. (my blog has nothing to do what that post is about but I thought it was funny) I immediately thought of myself and my angry cooking. So this post is my vent and admission that I cook while angry. 


Do you cook while angry? Can you taste a difference? Do others complain?

 
Comments
Oct. 23, 2012 10:34 am
I have cooked while angry but I am not angry because I am the one cooking. Choosing to marry and have children made me keeper of the fork and I love the position. Have you cooked with your 16 year old in the past? Cooking together is great, even cooking with the hubs can be fun. Finding a common ground on food would be important. I believe that after many years of marriage and motherhood, I have trained my guys to enjoy and appreciate what I cook/bake. I will not try to say that I know what you are going through, but could this be a slump in your season of life? Could it be more to do with how you feel and perceive things rather than how you feel you are treated? Talk calmly with your family and let them know how you feel. Cooking may not be a chore that everyone loves but it should be fun. To answer the rest of you questions, yes, I can taste a difference in my food when I am not in the mood to cook, but no one else seems to notice, or they are too caring to say anything. You say in your profile that your daughter is learning to cook, don't give up, keep at it.
 
Oct. 23, 2012 10:56 am
Redneck gramma, thank you for your input. I do cook with my daughter, though she is more interested in baking goodies. I am trying to steer her toward cooking other types of food as well. I've known my husband for 25 years and it is just frustrating at times for me to be the head chef. He is a bit sexist and thinks that cooking is a womans job. That when I married him, I somehow applied for the job. Just like me doing the "skirt work". He is a student right now and has been doing to college for the last 4 years and I do take care of the entire household. It is just sometimes the weight of it all is too much, and I am tired. I do love being the main cook of the house 99% of the time. As you probably know, being a wife and mother doesn't lend you the convenience of having a day "off". And perhaps I expressed my frustration inappropriately in the blog. There are a lot more factors to the angry cooking that I did not include in the blog. I know that it is extremely hard to know the tone or context of someones words on a computer screen, and I am sorry if I came across as a whiner.
 
Oct. 23, 2012 10:58 am
And I have no idea why my text came out so large!
 
Oct. 23, 2012 11:11 am
I don't always "love" cooking, but I do the dinner every night-lots of times it's left-overs & hubby will eat whatever I put on his plate.He loves that I'm very adventerous w/spices & I can make food taste different depending on what spices/herbs I change when serving them. If you are tired of cooking, bring home some take-out,get a rotisserie chicken, or try some crock-pot meals-that's good for a teen-ager to try. Give yourself a break & I think breakfast for dinner is very cool. Keep experimenting.
 
Oct. 23, 2012 11:14 am
I did not take you as whiney and I hope you did not take me as critical. I know there are days we may all feel a little unappreciated, and it is good to vent. If the feeling persists or it is more than our hormones, I would suggest chatting with the family. They may not realize how they are making you feel. Good Luck
 
Oct. 23, 2012 12:10 pm
I know where you are coming from! I can think of 3 blogs that I did with those same feelings in mind. "Excuse me, on what aisle can I find Whatever?". "Totally Torqued Tuesday" and "Eureka...." I think RNG has some good words of advice. I believe Mike Harvey's blog to me explaining how to interpret my family seeming lack of appreciation was the best. It gave me my sense of humor back. Good luck!
 
Oct. 23, 2012 5:33 pm
One of the best things about having a blog is it give you a safe place to vent. I would guess that the chief cook in every home get to feel this way on occasion, especially if the eaters critique but don't offer solutions. Perhaps you could schedule a night off each week, let DH cook and you eat something you like and have saved from an earlier meal? But don't let the anger keep eating at you. Good Luck!
 
Oct. 23, 2012 6:16 pm
I don't do this my self, but if I were you. I would buy a big freezer (I have one). I would then fill it with frozen dinners. the next time someone asks you whats for dinner, hand them a paper that lists everything in the freezer that is a microwave meal. I on the other hand get home from work most days at 8:45pm and then I have to cook dinner for my wife. I sometimes spend 1 1/2 hours in the kitchen making dinner after I get home.
 
Lela 
Oct. 24, 2012 7:43 am
Cook in a half-I vote for a day off for you. At my house that would mean I am eating out or we are having soup and sandwiches for supper. What's the family to do? They eat the soup and sandwiches. My heart goes out to you.
 
Oct. 24, 2012 8:26 am
Referring to King Sparta's comment, my first thought was he was going to tell you to stuff em all in dat freezer Ahhh ha ha ha! Or on the other hand you might wanna have a contest to see which one of them cooks the best dinner! Make the prize something they each want. This will give you a day off each week.
 
Oct. 24, 2012 11:44 am
my boyfriend wont cook because he says i chef him. ha. i'm okay with that. i love cooking, and even after cooking and cleaning all day long at work, i love coming home to make him dinner. sometimes we cook together, but i will normally just have him stir or mix things ;). something we are trying out is cooking big batches of food and freezing what we arent planning on eating in aluminum pans. (or plastic freezer bags for soups etc.) depending on what were cooking it seems to turn out well. (casseroles are unbaked and noodle dishes are par cooked, etc.) that way, when we don't want to cook or go out for dinner, we just have to put a pan of lasagna in the oven, or thaw out some soup! better than fast food or angry cooking, and doesnt take any longer than cooking 1 meal.
 
Oct. 24, 2012 11:55 am
Thank you Lela! Sunnyfish, I thought he was going to say the same thing! Alegra, thank you for the suggestions. I may just have to try that. Sounds like an easy solution to not wanting to cook and not wanting to eat his cooking.
 
Oct. 24, 2012 3:39 pm
sunnyfish, LOL
 
 
 
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