The Silver Lining
May 6, 2013 5:01 am
Updated: May 14, 2013 2:12 pm
This is not a happy blog - but because I believe that life is for the living I can write about the sadness in my heart, where I found there is a "silver lining". Jon's father had been diagnosed with cancer back in October; however he chose not to continue
anymore testing and/or treatments. He was ready to go home and spend the rest of his days waiting for his time with the Lord. Hospice was set up and they, along with Jon's younger brother, helped to make the rest of his time as comfortable as possible.
It is indeed a painful thing to watch a loved one suffer. I don't like that feeling of helplessness. I want to be able to "put a bandaid on the 'boo-boo'; give it a kiss and make it all better". Jon's dad passed away on April 27th, peacefully at home, with
his beloved beagle at his side. Roger was a man consumed with many emotional and mental troubles. It wasn't often that you would spend time with him where he was truly happy and laughing - seeing the beauty in life. I know, though, that he was a man that
loved his family and animals, and appreciated the beauty in nature; he just wasn't able to express that and let that joy guide him through life on a much happier journey than he made.
As we began making calls to family and friends, we had to wait until later in the evening to call Steve. He's in South Dakota, two hours behind us, and he works on Saturday's. Finally it was 6:30 pm and I knew he'd be finished working. His Grandpa's passing
was not unexpected, but that doesn't make it any easier to accept. Immediately he said he needed/wanted to come home. Seeing Steve would be our "silver lining" in this situation. Discussions began about what day he could fly in and how long he could stay.
Steve has been planning a visit home in July and I have been anxiously awaiting for July to get here. I haven't seen my son since March 2, 2012. That's like a lifetime to me! Plane tickets aren't cheap from Rapid City to Ohio - the cheapest one we found
was $1,073 round-trip. Then, I started really searching and found hotwire.com - where they offer a "special deal". You have no idea of the flight details; only that you have a true ticket (not standby) and you will arrive at your destination the same day
you left home. Once you actually book your flight you then receive the details. Since that ticket would be half the cost of the others, we took it. Steve would be flying in on Thursday and leaving on Tuesday. His flight details included 2 stops - Minneapolis
For anyone that read my blog on his journey out to South Dakota - you may remember how poor Steve spent days on a greyhound bus and saw more of the country than he had bargained for. This sounded like a breeze compared to that trip! He was happy to see he
would be avoiding Chicago. He's traveled by bus and by plane and both times he went to Chicago he was stuck there for hours on end. Spending the night at the Chicago greyhound bus station was just a part of the adventure to Steve; until he then spent a night
in the Fargo, ND bus station as well a day later. Anyways - this trip would not include those cities!
His trip home was only a mere 15 minutes late. We had all day Friday to just spend time with Steve. Kristal finished her school year on Wednesday and so she was not working and able to go with us to see my parents and spend some time there. Friday nights
we spend at the restaurant so we all went. Federico was excited to see Steve as well.
Saturday was Roger's service. It was a beautiful day and a beautiful service. Jon's family has lived in this area forever and many people came to pay their respects and share stories about times they had spent with Roger. After the pastor had said his final
prayer at the gravesite; a family friend, who is a Native American, said a final prayer in his native custom. It was very moving and very interesting. This man is from the Lakota Sioux nation in South Dakota - so there was a connection for my side of the
family as my dad grew up in S.D. and my sister and son both live there now. The fellowship time at the church was a wonderful closure. I feel Roger would have been pleased with how things went; nothing fancy, just people gathering for food and spending time
remembering stories. When Roger was having a good day - he was a funny man with a quick wit. He loved a good story.
Yesterday was a day spent at home with family. We grilled bratwursts and hotdogs, boiled some corn on the cob and completed the meal with watermelon, strawberries, macaroni salad and double chocolate chip cookies. My brother, who lives in Columbus, was here
staying with my parents so he was here as well. Our "adopted" family came to spend time with us also. Since yesterday was May 5th; which in Mexico is "Cinco de Mayo" - that meant the restaurant was a busy place. Federico and Marisela managed to sneak away
for a couple hours - just enough time to eat and relax a few minutes. Then Federico received a call that the restaurant got really busy and they needed their help! We talked them in to letting the kids stay with us so they could spend time with Steve. That
also gave us the excuse to go for ice cream when we took the children back to their parents. :)
Today is the last day with Steve here - his plane leaves at 10:15 am tomorrow. He is meeting his best friend from high school for breakfast; Matt works nights so this was the only chance for them to get together. Tonight will be a quiet night at home and
tomorrow we will take him to the airport. I know, though, I will be seeing him very soon. July is just around the corner!