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Mother's Day Cards 
Apr. 23, 2013 2:38 pm 
Updated: Apr. 27, 2013 7:37 pm
I was in the new Target store here in Albuquerque, when it occurred to me that I needed to buy some birthday cards for all of the birthdays in May.  It seems like just about everyone I know is born in either May or September.  So as I selected a card for each person on my list, I was heading out of the birthday card area and on the end cap were Mother's Day cards.

I felt my eyes tear up as I realized that I should select what will be my mom's last Mother's Day card.  My mom, like so many other people's moms, has Alzheimer's.  She is in the final stages of the disease.  

My mom does not know me when I go to Illinois and visit her.  She sometimes shies away from my contact.  She has not known for the longest time that I am her daughter or even that she had a daughter.    The doctor told my dad at his last visit, that there is not much time left for her to live.  

I thought about all of those years where purchasing a Mother's Day card was more of a requirement.  You know the drill, if you do not get the card there in time, you are in deep trouble.  So, I would cavalierly pick out a card for my mother from her daughter, see if it was basically acceptable, and  mailed it without much additional forethought.  I was so busy, that I did not have time to pick out the perfect card that described what she meant to me.

Today, I put a lot of thought into my selection.  I could hardly see as the tears and my mascara made their way down my cheeks.  I thought about getting her a card that told her exactly how I felt, but she would not understand.  I thought about getting her a card and telling her she was the best mother, but she does not care.  So, I settled on a card with a brightly colored front page and a simple text that told her simply that "I love you".

I know I am not the only person who is either in my shoes, or has been in my shoes.  We lost my Armando's mom last May 25th to Alzheimer's so not getting her a card this year was equally hard.  

Both Armando and I would give anything to have our mother's arms giving us a good hard hug, and a kiss from their lips.  It is an impossibility for either mother.  So, today, I get my card ready to be sent to my mom's lovely nursing home in Illinois from me in New Mexico.  I know someone will read the card to her and then place it next to her on her small dresser with the bright front facing her.  

So to all of you who read this, who are in our shoes, my prayers go out to you this Mother's Day.  If you are not in my shoes, give good consideration to the type of card that you send your mother.  Make sure that it conveys the love and gratitude that you have for her.  Mothers do not last forever and one day you will be buying your last Mother's Day card as well.  I hope you are not in much pain over the procedure.  

God Bless everyone who reads this, and if you can, please give your mom an extra hug from me.  I pray that she can return the favor.  Savor those hugs and kisses from your mom as they are only available for a limited time.  Happy Mother's Day.
Apr. 23, 2013 5:34 pm
Cammy K, I'm so sorry for your situation! I am one of those very fortunate people; my mother is still alive and well. I really never thought much about there ever being a time without her here,until she was diagnosed with breast cancer. Thankfully, she responded well to her treatment and has been cancer free for the past 2-1/2 years. I agree with you 100% - our moms (and dads) are only here for a very limited time. Bless you and your mother.
Apr. 23, 2013 6:42 pm
Ever since I can remember,i bought mushy cards for my mom.The ones that say how much her love and appericate her.My mom died in 1984,she was only 59 years old.To this day I still want to pick up the phone and call her. .I miss her very much.
Apr. 23, 2013 6:43 pm
Should say how much I love and appericate her.
Apr. 23, 2013 7:13 pm
I think my dad also is in his final year, with Alzheimer's. the last time I called home last week mom said dad had no Idea where he was. He has been having more bad days than good days.
Apr. 23, 2013 11:20 pm
Cammy, I can't imagine how hard this is for you, especially after losing Armando's mother last year. While she is unable to process the information, I'd like to believe that somewhere deep inside she feels your love.
Apr. 24, 2013 10:57 am
I have already had my last mothers day with my Mom. She died several years ago. However, every year I still miss her so much on Mothers Day as well as every other day in my life. She was 96 when she died, but I was still not ready to let her go.
Apr. 26, 2013 8:14 am
Cammy, I know exactly what you're going through and my heart goes out to you! I lost my Dear Mother in 2004 to that awful disease. I miss her every single day. Spend what time you can with her. I believe with all my heart she feels your presence and the words of love you speak to her. I am so sorry you have to go through this. It is very hard and very heart breaking.
Apr. 27, 2013 7:37 pm
Cammy, so sorry you are missing your MIL and also for your Mom's condition. When my Dad was too ill to get cards for my Mom, I took it upon myself to pick up Mother's Day cards, as well as all the other important holiday occasion cards, to quietly slip into his hands when Mom wasn't looking. Since I was picking them out on his behalf, I had to pick out the mushiest, most sentimental cards possible, you know the kind, the ones along the top row. To this day I have a hard time looking at the top row of cards.
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I am a semi-retired regulatory bank compliance auditor. I own my own auditing company. I retired from the FDIC as an examiner in 2007. I did this so I would not have to travel too much since it is hard to cook in a hotel room. I am involved with a wonderful man and he helps me in the kitchen. He does not mind doing the dishes!! Whatta man!!
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I love to bake. You name the baked good and for the most part I have made it sometime in my life. I like making pies, cookies, cakes and quick breads. I also dabble at bread even though my significant other does not like bread that much. Since I am diabetic, I hardly ever eat what I make, but I have a very willing taster in the house.
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Thanksgiving and Christmas are my two favorite things to work on. Somewhere between planning the Thanksgiving meal to the last touches on Christmas candy and cookies I love that part of the season. Thanksgiving was always a wonderful holiday when I was growing up as well as Christmas. These were times when my Mom made a big "to-Do" over the holidays. I was always her sous chef at these times.
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I would say my biggest triumph was when I was selling my Jumbo Chocolate Chip cookies to two delis here in Albuquerque. At one time I was making 300+ cookies each weekend in my house and taking them to the deli's. Because I was traveling just about every week, I got to the point that the cookies were taking up all of my time on the weekends so I stopped. Now my triumph is making the ten different types of candy and six different types of cookies that I send out as gifts to family, friends, and clients.
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I have a plethora of tragedies. The worst ones that I can remember was when I made a quick bread and did not put any sugar in it. It was gross. My worst cooking incident occurred as a new cook when I left the giblets and neck in the turkey and the turkey caught on fire. Needless to say, we have peanut butter and jelly sandwiches that night as the turkey, while smoked :-) was no longer edible.
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