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Life Without Adela 
Jun. 4, 2012 3:56 pm 
Updated: Jun. 7, 2012 6:06 am
Some of you may had read my blog about "Life with Adela".  Adela was my mother-in-law who had Alzheimer's and lived with us for a while.  Adela died on Friday May 25, 2012.  She was 89.

Adela had slipped into a coma earlier in the week and they had called me on Wednesday to tell me that she was not responding.  We had been at her bedside since then almost around the clock and finally decided that she was getting better so we went home to get some rest.  We had been asleep three hours when they called and said she passed.

Adela was the fourth child of 12 children.  There are 8 surviving siblings and we set the memorial service so that all of them (except one who is too ill to travel) can make the service.  All of the siblings are in there mid 70's to late 80's.  

My house will be bursting to the seams with house guests starting Friday.  I am barely hanging in there as it is as Adela was my mother as well as my mother-in-law and I am having a hard time dealing with my grief.  I am trying to figure out what to make everyone.  Anyone with ideas?

Adela  was a wonderful woman, a great cook in her own right, as she was the food editor for the "New Mexico Magazine" from 1983 to 2006, and a published cook book writer.  I am going to miss her very, very much.

Jun. 4, 2012 4:51 pm
My deepest sympathy Cammy. It is so hard to lose a wonderful & influential loved one. She obviously had a big impact on many cooks including you. What a neat legacy she left with her love of cooking and her writing talents. I have NO ideas for a menu.....just wanted to send my best. Take care kid.
Jun. 4, 2012 5:06 pm
Deepest sympathy to you and your family.
Jun. 4, 2012 6:39 pm
I am so sorry to hear that. I remember you posting about her. I would fix whatever is easiest for you. If you want to do a tribute and make some of her recipes you could. If you are only up to sandwich fixings, I say go with that. I am close to my mother-in-law as well and don't think I will be up to doing much when she dies.
Jun. 4, 2012 6:52 pm
Time for a "calling of the clan", Cammy. Whether you have a pot luck or a planned meal this is a family responsibility, not just yours. Friends included.
Jun. 5, 2012 2:56 am
I am so sorry to hear of your sad news. I tend to agree with Mike above, feeding everyone is not your responsibility - everyone can pitch in and contribute. I think in instances such as this potluck and buffet type meals are easiest.
Jun. 5, 2012 5:11 am
So sorry about your loss. I do remember reading your other blogs about her. I would suggest making a few things in tribute to her that you know were her favorites. There's always people who ask if they can do anything in these situations. Don't be shy to ask for help. Best wishes to you.
Jun. 5, 2012 6:51 am
Cammy- I am so sorry to hear about Adela. Deli trays with lunch meats and cheese are easy. Crockpot meals would be easier on you. Pulled pork in the crock pot is another easy meal. Simple salads that you just throw together; such as Grandma's five cup salad.
Jun. 5, 2012 9:42 am
So sorry about Adela. I agree that if it is easy, make a few dishes of Adela's or ones that she enjoyed of yours. Hugs!!
Jun. 5, 2012 11:18 am
Roast up a turkey or several chickens and you can eat them whatever, reheated or cold, sandwiches or on salads. People can help themselves, buy some storebought pot. salad or mac. salad and baked beans as go withs and have some fresh fruit on hand.
Jun. 5, 2012 11:56 am
My condolences. I too loved my mother in law as a mother. Considering that it may well be very hot I would focus on cold cuts, salads and very light food. I sense you will have many of these folks stay with you and I am sure they will help.
Jun. 6, 2012 8:06 am
My sincerest condolences! I'm tending to agree with Mike... Deal with your grief... this was your loss too! The food will take care of itself!
Jun. 6, 2012 8:34 am
My sincere condolences to you and your husband. I agree with the others.Don't knock yourself out worrying about the food. The food will some how take care of itself. Make it easy on yourself.
Jun. 6, 2012 10:10 pm
May God grant Adela eternal peace and rest. She is finally free from that disease that stole so much from all of you and in heaven she now remembers everything. Especially her special times with you. My deepest sympathy for the great loss your family is feeling. May God's promise comfort you all.
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I am a semi-retired regulatory bank compliance auditor. I own my own auditing company. I retired from the FDIC as an examiner in 2007. I did this so I would not have to travel too much since it is hard to cook in a hotel room. I am involved with a wonderful man and he helps me in the kitchen. He does not mind doing the dishes!! Whatta man!!
My favorite things to cook
I love to bake. You name the baked good and for the most part I have made it sometime in my life. I like making pies, cookies, cakes and quick breads. I also dabble at bread even though my significant other does not like bread that much. Since I am diabetic, I hardly ever eat what I make, but I have a very willing taster in the house.
My favorite family cooking traditions
Thanksgiving and Christmas are my two favorite things to work on. Somewhere between planning the Thanksgiving meal to the last touches on Christmas candy and cookies I love that part of the season. Thanksgiving was always a wonderful holiday when I was growing up as well as Christmas. These were times when my Mom made a big "to-Do" over the holidays. I was always her sous chef at these times.
My cooking triumphs
I would say my biggest triumph was when I was selling my Jumbo Chocolate Chip cookies to two delis here in Albuquerque. At one time I was making 300+ cookies each weekend in my house and taking them to the deli's. Because I was traveling just about every week, I got to the point that the cookies were taking up all of my time on the weekends so I stopped. Now my triumph is making the ten different types of candy and six different types of cookies that I send out as gifts to family, friends, and clients.
My cooking tragedies
I have a plethora of tragedies. The worst ones that I can remember was when I made a quick bread and did not put any sugar in it. It was gross. My worst cooking incident occurred as a new cook when I left the giblets and neck in the turkey and the turkey caught on fire. Needless to say, we have peanut butter and jelly sandwiches that night as the turkey, while smoked :-) was no longer edible.
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