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One Day, You'll Understand 
Jun. 1, 2013 6:36 am 
Updated: Jun. 13, 2013 6:49 pm


When I was about 17, and “having a moment” with my mother, she made a comment that became permanently etched in my brain.  I said something about marriage that beautifully reflected teen-aged inanity, and she said (emphasizing every word with a jab of her right forefinger into my chest), “You have the REST of your life to be married!”  I’m sure I slammed a door, or flounced off in a high snit, thinking, “What a ridiculous thing to say!” 


Fast-forward about 20 years, with 10 years of marriage and 2 kids under my belt, and guess what?  I understood what she meant.  I understood then that she had married young and felt that she had given up her youth and spontaneity.   I had more time as a single than she did, and I felt I was ready for marriage.  But after a few years of it, I was remembering my carefree days with some degree of wistfulness!  The point of this story is that sometimes you have to live through something to even begin to grasp its meaning.


Another example is having a baby.  To the uninitiated, what could be more mundane?  People have been having babies for ba-jillions of years.  But all it took was one look into that fresh, innocent, messy face—MY baby—and I was hooked.  I thought I knew what love was, but oh, BABY!  Now, I was in love, completely, irrevocably, head over heels.  I had to live through that to fully grasp it, too.


And becoming a grandparent—are you kidding?  Camping out at the hospital for 24 hours with no sleep; fearing for that baby’s life because she had a lazy latch and nearly starved until Mom finally gave her a bottle; having to help move Mom and the baby 1000 miles away so she could be with my son during Air Force training; and then LEAVING that precious package of protoplasm with the two of them so far from help or support—can you imagine?  I was crazy!  Since day one, I have loved that little girl with a love that I can hardly get my mind around.  Now I see her only about twice a year, and it’s hard to know what to do with myself the rest of the time.  Again, I had to live through it to know that I could be just as bonkers over MY grandchild as my friends are over THEIRS!


I know I’m bonkers over my grandchild, and it’s OK.  Every child deserves to know that there is someone in the world who thinks they are WONDERFUL!  That’s why, when she comes to see me, I do everything I can to make her feel welcome and loved.  We do all the things you would expect, like visiting the zoo, park, museum, pool, library--you get the picture.  We also have fun in the kitchen, too.  Of course my granddaughter loves to bake cookies and brownies, yet even her goofy granny knows that she needs to eat something besides sugar when she is visiting!  Her preferences seem to lie with packaged foods (telling!).  She does love fruit though, and most steamed veggies, and cheese.  Cheese, glorious cheese:  Swiss is bliss, but cheddar is better!  She is hardly interested in meat, so, I have created a recipe just for her, incorporating her favorite cheddar and a few things that grown-ups think are necessary:  Cheesy Peasy Lunch in a Cup, served with carrot strips on the side.


This starts out as a pretty basic macaroni and cheese dish, but I add some frozen baby green peas, and bake it in a ham cup.  My granddaughter gets her mac ‘n’ cheese, along with a green veggie and some meat in a little serving that doesn’t overwhelm her, visually.  I think they’re kind of cute, myself! 

I am an AllRecipes Allstar Ambassador, a voluntary position, and I’m not compensated for my work with  I received products from Sargento Foods Inc. as a part of my participation in this campaign.  All thoughts and opinions expressed in this post are my own.  Take a look at my recipe, which Sargento has kindly included in their digital cookbook.<

Cheesy Peasy Lunch in a Cup
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My granddaughter in my garden makes me smile!
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Jun. 1, 2013 6:51 am
Heartwarming story, and what a great way to style up mac and cheese into a delicious, healthy meal.
Jun. 1, 2013 7:02 am
Excellent blog!! A very enjoyable read! I can't wait to make this for my grandson. He'll be three two weeks from today and I, too, try to sneak healthier things into his diet. He's become a picky eater in his "old" age and being a mac and cheese lover, he may just enjoy some meat & veggies, too, if I sneak them in! Gotta try.
Jun. 1, 2013 7:10 am
I love your story! And I know exactly what feelings you are expressing towards your granddaughter! There is no greater love! It is a different love, isn't it!?! Thanks for sharing!
Jun. 1, 2013 7:20 am
Beautiful. I am yearning for grandchildren but pray that my guys are in loving, stable relationships before that happens. Thanks for sharing.
Jun. 1, 2013 7:28 am
Very true words indeed!! That sounds like a keeper recipe for sure! I'm with Marie C. Can't wait for grandbabies to play with in the garden and kitchen but I want the same thing for my son! Great blog!
Jun. 1, 2013 7:56 am
I thought I knew everything at 16 :) Guess we weren't as smart as we thought. Beautiful grandchild and worth her weight in gold!
Jun. 1, 2013 8:05 am
Bibi-I loved reading your blog. Mac and cheese is still my son's favorite side and of course my 5 year old granddaughter's favorite, too. I will have to try the mac and cheese in a muffin tin. Sounds like a kid friendly dish. I only have one granddaughter. She knows she is No. 1 in my heart. Of course she gets spoiled. I am so lucky to take care of her every day while her parents work.
Jun. 1, 2013 8:18 am
Thanks, Lutzflcat! I think you could use small broccoli florets, too. Any smallish, colorful veggie would work.
Jun. 1, 2013 8:19 am
KGora, isn't it amazing how they wind themselves around your heart? Thanks for your comments.
Jun. 1, 2013 8:20 am
Beautiful Marianne, you said it exactly right--"no greater love". Thanks for stopping by!
Jun. 1, 2013 8:22 am
Marie C., amen to the "loving, stable relationships"! A blog about having a daughter-in-law would make an interesting read, too. Thanks for your remarks!
Jun. 1, 2013 8:24 am
Yes, Cat Hill, we want loving homes for our children. Unfortunately, the marriage didn't last, and now as part of the "ex-" family, it's getting complicated.
Jun. 1, 2013 8:28 am
mauigirl, you got it! Life is a good teacher, but sometimes the lessons are hard to understand. Hope your day is filled with love!
Jun. 1, 2013 8:29 am
Lela, you are indeed blessed to see her everyday. I'm jealous, lol!
Jun. 1, 2013 11:09 am
Lovely blog. My sister in law and I often say, "My mother tried to warn me...." Nope - you just have to live it to really understand. I know that love and you are right, every child needs to know that there is someone who is absolutely head over heels, bonkers about them. :)
Jun. 1, 2013 11:13 am
Absolutely, Baking Nana, and if that makes us look silly to some, then so be it! Thanks for sharing your time with me.
Jun. 1, 2013 3:40 pm
Isn't it amazing how those small bundles of infancy can just melt our hearts and mold them into their shape? And it is even truer when it is a grand. Mine do not eat what I would consider well. There is plenty but mostly processed or canned. Sigh! I wish they lived closer. Lovely blog and I know she will look back on her time with you and cherish every second.
Jun. 1, 2013 4:16 pm
What a lovely read, Bibi - I'm somewhat jealous that I don't have those relationships. I do have two of the greatest nephews a girl could ask for though. I know they'd love these Mac 'n cheese cups (though it may just be an excuse to make them for myself, lol)! Thanks for sharing with us.
Jun. 1, 2013 6:03 pm
Yes, BigShotsMom, if you had tried to tell me about all this before I had kids or a grandgirl, I might have tried to laugh it off. Going through it though, melted my heart, just as yours. Thanks for coming over tonight!
Jun. 1, 2013 6:08 pm
Staci, adults can learn a lot by listening to kids. Their openness and unique perspective can stir to the core. So happy you are able to lavish some love on your nephews! My favorite aunt passed away this year, and I will always remember her in a special way. They are lucky to have you. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me!
Jun. 1, 2013 6:56 pm
Bibi, I do not have grandchildren, but I have 2 full grown daughters, maybe someday. Loved reading this.
Jun. 2, 2013 1:48 am
How sweet, manella! Thanks for your comment.
Deb C 
Jun. 2, 2013 1:55 am
I absolutely loved your blog. What a fabulous way to start my day. Thanks Bibi!
Jun. 2, 2013 2:13 am
Bibi: Ah, your mother's wisdom is so much clearer with some experience behind you. Your granddaughter is lovely. And who doesn't love food in individual portions?
Jun. 2, 2013 8:13 am
Funny, I too, understand my mom so much more than I did when I was younger. I only see my grandkids once a year too and its so hard. I'm sorry yours are so far away, as are mine. I read about all the things they get to do with their other Gma and sometimes it hurts, but I am so glad they have her!
Jun. 2, 2013 11:01 am
Awww, thanks, Deb C! How kind of you to say that. Thank YOU for looking!
Jun. 2, 2013 11:03 am
bikerfamily, you are right about experience. I learned to appreciate many things about Mom and Dad when it was actually too late to tell them so. Thanks for taking a look at my blog!
Jun. 2, 2013 11:06 am
Yes, petey, distance robs us of lots of memory making, doesn't it? I'll bet your grandkids will always remember coming to your place. With your guardian angels, they are free to roam like nowhere else. What magnificent experiences they must have with you. Even though the "other" grandma lives near my DGD, I don't think she is very involved. Sad.
Jun. 3, 2013 4:57 am
Heart touching blog. I never lived close to my grandmother since my Dad was military, but I do fondly remember and cherish the times I was with her. My best memories were in the kitchen and garden with her, you brought back those memories for me, and I thank you Bibi.
Jun. 3, 2013 5:06 am
That's so sweet, Sherri! It breaks my heart, if I let myself think about it, that she is so far. I'll bet your dear grandmother felt the same way!
Jun. 3, 2013 8:10 am
Bibi...I first read your Blog on the weekend...I came back today and read it again. I didn't comment earlier because I have so many emotions about my Grandparents and what a positive effect they had on my life that I felt I couldn't articulate them adequately. So instead of trying, I just want to say how much I enjoyed reading your Blog...and if I could tell my Grandparents today...just how much I love and appreciated them..I would do anything for the chance..... Enjoy your time with your me...she won't forget your love...
Jun. 3, 2013 9:36 am
Hi Bibi - Your blog is near and dear to my heart, as I am a very lucky grandma whose one and only granddaughter lives with me. I know it sounds so selfish, but I'm dreading the day she moves away!! Your comment to Staci, above, is right on!! Adults CAN learn a lot by listening to kids!! And another thing (lol) I don't SPOIL my granddaughter, I just LOVE her! There IS a difference! Oh my goodness, I agree with Staci, too, I want to make your recipe.....for ME!! :D
Jun. 3, 2013 10:09 am
I enjoyed your blog Bibi... so nice to hear that there are others as foolishly in love with their grands as I am. Right now I'm a 3 hour drive away but next year we move and I'll be an 18 hour drive away. Boo-hoo! I have cherished every moment so far and it sounds like you do too!
Jun. 3, 2013 11:50 am
Oh, Ellie, love is the point, isn't it? Treasure the memories, and pay it forward. Give what was given to you. Thanks for your comment!
Jun. 3, 2013 11:52 am
Hi, Mi! I totally understand the difference between loving and spoiling, and I appreciate your sharing your time with me. Thanks!
Jun. 3, 2013 11:55 am
Rhonda, my DGD lived in the same town as I do for about two years. I gave up a lot in order to spend time with her, and I'm sure you can relate! Treasure every moment. I'm so happy we were able to share our "foolishness", lol!
Jun. 3, 2013 7:04 pm
What a lovely blog! I know how much you love that granddaughter.
Jun. 3, 2013 7:20 pm
Yep. Sure-shootin', I do! Love you too, MB!
Jun. 5, 2013 4:58 am
I agree with your mom! lol Though I wanted to marry young I waited until I was 32 and I'm very thankful for that!
Jun. 5, 2013 9:02 am
I love being a Mom but I am crazy about being a Grandma! You are so right about not knowing until you've been there. I remember being told by my really smart Mama, who was trying to convey to me just how much I DIDN'T know, "you don't know what you don't know." She was right. There were so many many things I had no idea about. Like how much our hearts can love. Especially those Grandkids. Love your blog Bibi!
Jun. 5, 2013 8:13 pm
RBC, of course you and she were right! Teenagers think they know more than their parents. Mine did, too! Thanks for dropping by!
Jun. 5, 2013 8:15 pm
Oh, Candice, I've also told my kids that, too, lol! Do you think they listened? Just like me, they knew "everything". Isn't it funny how the heart stretches to hold more love? I had no idea, either!
Jun. 5, 2013 9:53 pm
I sure wish my kids could appreciate my experience, rather than having to take the hard road to understanding themselves! Just breaks my heart, sometimes!
Jun. 6, 2013 2:06 am
Hi, Barb! I think maybe that by the time kids are making the "big" decisions, they have learned to tune us out some. Nothing hurts me like my kids or my granddaughter being hurt, especially when it could have been avoided (and I'm picking up the pieces)!
Jun. 13, 2013 1:21 pm
Bibi, I have a great grandaughter that I have joint custody with her father. He resents the courts giving me grandparent rights and lets me know it every chance he gets. Now he is threatening to move 4 hrs away. He thinks that would be too far for me to get her. Wrong!!!! I will see her just as much as the court papers says I can. I love her so much and it just breaks my heart her father is the way he is. She is 11 now and just biding her time until she can decide for herself where she lives.
Jun. 13, 2013 6:49 pm
char, you bet I can understand what you are feeling! Hang in there, for your and for your DGD's sake!
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My cooking experiences began in the 4th grade Conservation Club. Cooking and Sewing were classes for girls, and my mom agreed to teach them for me and a couple of friends. We began with a blond brownie sort of dessert. After I made it a few times, I began to experiment with the recipe. Mom was a no-recipe cook, and I do that, too, but I usually follow a new recipe the first time. Most of the time, I can tell by looking if we will like it. I have a husband, 2 sons, 1 granddaughter, and one ex-daughter-in-law. I was chosen to be an AllRecipes Allstar Ambassador in 2012, and I am so excited! I am an Allrecipes Allstar Brand Ambassador (a voluntary position) and I’m not compensated for my work with Products received from advertisers are only used for experienced-based reviews on my blog, "Sweet & Savory". The reviews, content and opinions expressed in this blog are purely the sole opinions of me, Bibi.
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