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It's a Selfish World - with Unselfish Heroes 
 
Sep. 11, 2013 5:41 am 
Updated: Sep. 15, 2013 12:00 pm

On a day to day basis, we all see it.  People who are so absorbed with their own lives that they discount the harm they do to other people.  They'll run over another person with a shopping cart to get ahead of them at the register.  They'll stomp on people to get a higher up position in a workplace.  They'll lie, cheat, steal, and manipulate as long as their wants are met.  They cut you off while you're driving and barely miss your car just to get one car ahead.  What's the point of it all?

We are all on this earth for a short period of time.  Yet, so many frustrations are dumped on so many of us due to selfish people who forget what it is to sacrifice even one little moment of his or her life for another person.  There's no compromising and no giving - just taking.  For these people, it's just a "me me" attitude with no room for anyone else's needs or wants.  The only person who exists is the person he or she sees in the mirror every morning.

Then, there are heroes.  The word "hero" is such a strong word.  It implies someone like Superman who has superhuman qualities.  On 9/11, Superman faced his Kryptonite.

The First Responders ran in to help while a building was coming down.  They ran in to help when chaos ensued.  They searched and searched after the towers came down, and knew...they knew....that the air they were breathing, despite anything that was ever said, was NOT safe to breathe.  They knew because they felt it.  Yet, they kept looking for life.   Later, they were looking for bodies.

I am the wife of a retired First Responder.  I remember every day that he came home after 9/11.  He was covered in dust and smelled like a crematorium.  He said, "One day we're all going to die from this...from some strange form of cancer or something.  There's no way that air is safe to breathe."  Regardless, these men and women continued going back to help.  Those who weren't around may not be able to understand the patriotism that everyone felt.  We watched funeral after funeral procession in our small town while others across the country turned the channel because they were sick of hearing about it.  We could never turn the channel because it's permanent in our lives.

Since that time, I watched my husband develop illnesses.  He went from being a healthy and strong person to one who suffers on a daily basis.  I often say that I lost him to that day.  He is now chronically ill.  He was fortunate in that he completed his time on the job no matter how hard it was for him to get to work.  Not everyone was fortunate.

There were many who became ill that were chastised, mocked, ridiculed, and had the screws put to them.  Many were forced off their jobs and told that the illnesses that developed were their own fault somehow.  Some had hardly any time left to retire and were "vested" off - forced to retire with only half their pension and just a couple of years left to go.  They were left without a means to support their families.  They were left with the inability to work again.  They were left in a world full of selfish people who didn't care.

For years, there was denial regarding the 9/11 related illnesses.  Quite a few people banded together in different groups to fight the Powers That Be regarding the denial.  From the beginning, when the World Trade Center Medical Monitoring program was established, a few medical "experts" sat down and decided what they thought they'd see transpire.  From then on, they were the only illnesses that were recognized.  It didn't matter what people were developing.  What mattered is what these people stated from the beginning.  Reality versus The Prediction came into play.  As time went on and more and more were becoming ill with the same illnesses, things were added to the list.  However, it wasn't without determination from those afflicted who took a leap, came forward without fear of repercussion from their jobs for speaking out, and stood up for their rights and the rights of others.  They were heroes in more than the sense of their first heroic efforts.  They were heroes for others who were affected as well.

The battle isn't over.  People are still ill.  Cancers are emerging at a rapid rate.  So many never had the right thing done by them regarding their jobs.  Those who were forced to retire and can no longer work not only struggle on a daily basis, but are left with the anxiety of what the future may hold.  They describe their lives as "sick of being sick" and are tired of going to medical appointments.  Yet, they carry on with determination not wanting to lose the battle because that means the terrorists took more lives.

Next time you get irritated because someone is walking too slow, might get ahead of you in a line, didn't drive fast enough for you....next time you decide to be a selfish jerk and yell and scream at a person because your life and aspirations are so important to you that you think your best method to get what you want is to tear others down, manipulate, and lie....next time you see a retired police officer or firefighter or veteran and make statements like, "It must be nice," or, "Why don't you get a job like the rest of us?"  - maybe you should ask yourself what you did for the good of mankind.  Maybe you should stop, JUST ONCE, and think that the person you're doing this to sacrificed for YOU.

So, today, when you hop into your car and get irritated, when you make a mistake on the road and then flip the person off who honked their horn at you, when you decide to dump your anger and hostility onto a person, when you see someone going to a register and decide you'll make a run for it to get in front, when you consistently manipulate to try to take advantage of people because you feel your needs and wants should take priority in life, try to stop yourself.  Learn how to apologize.  Learn how to sympathize.  Learn how to empathize.  But, most of all, learn how to be giving, gracious, and become like those people that weren't afraid to walk into dangerous situations in order to make the lives of others better.  There are heroes walking among us, and it might just be that person you gave the finger to this morning.

 
Comments
Lela 
Sep. 11, 2013 7:16 am
Hi Donna, it is people like your husband who are the heros who saved many people from losing their lives on 9/11. I salute your husband for his bravery, service and willingness to help others. We owe our gratitude to him trifold! My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.
 
Sep. 11, 2013 8:07 am
"So we raise her up every morning And we bring her down slow every night, We don't let her touch the ground, And we fold her up right. On second thought I *do* like to brag Cause I'm mighty proud of That Ragged Old Flag" I fly our flag proudly in honor of our heros such as your husband. I too suffer from ill effects while serving my country but you know, I would do it all over again.
 
donnam 
Sep. 11, 2013 10:01 am
I have my flag flying too! My father served three tours in Vietnam, and I come from a family of war veterans. Thank you, Lela - they would've done it all over again too.
 
Sep. 11, 2013 12:38 pm
Wow, talk about timing. I just came from a memorial ceremony at the beach The FDNY Lt Ret. who was speaking had to stop because he was too short of breath to continue. So far, my SIL has shown no signs, but with so many people just beginning to show the signs of respiratory failure, we just do not know. I can't begin to understand how Christine Todd Whitman ever got appointed to head the EPA, her only qualification was political a$$ kissing. My heart goes out to your family and those of all who live with the repercussions of that awful day.
 
donnam 
Sep. 11, 2013 1:24 pm
The respiratory problems were immediate. It was very evident within the first year that something happened. It didn't take much time for things to start surfacing, but none of us had ever seen anything like these problems, so it was new. Plus, a lot of people were transferred and put into different locations so they didn't know other people were having the same problems. Not everyone in the FDNY and NYPD were there, so not everyone who was employed there will have the problems. Christine Todd Whitman lied. They all knew it.
 
duboo 
Sep. 11, 2013 8:53 pm
I have no words except to say that you and yours have me utmost respect, gratitude and prayers. Thank you.
 
duboo 
Sep. 11, 2013 8:54 pm
*my not me - cripes I'm not Popeye.
 
Sep. 11, 2013 9:42 pm
Well said! Take care of that hero and yourself.....My love always, Cindy
 
donnam 
Sep. 12, 2013 3:21 am
Thanks to all who posted. It means a lot to me that the thoughts are in your hearts. I don't know if the lack of consideration has become widespread across our nation, but what I've witnessed lately come from a few different states.
 
Sep. 12, 2013 5:35 am
Once again Donnam, I salute your husband and all the other heroes and wish your husband good health. Take care kid.
 
Sep. 12, 2013 7:40 am
My husband is a retired firefighter. He served proudly to save the lives of others for 25 years. (And, has the very banged up and worn out body to prove it!) He has always said of the amazing nature of his profession, "Who runs into burning buildings while everyone else is running out? WE DO!" I say it's the very nature of those who choose professions like Police Officers, Firefighters, First Responders, Nurses and Doctors. I also have a son who was Police Officer and a daughter who is a NICU Nurse. Another daughter who served 15 years on the Mission field and one who spent 4 years on the USS MERCY Hospital Ship in the Navy. We've raised our children to serve, protect and give of themselves whenever and wherever they can. We fly our flag proudly and appreciate the efforts of ALL emergency personnel. I would like to add this to your blog; Not everybody is self centered. There are so many good and king and thoughtful folks out there too. My hat is off to those folks who do understand the sacrifice so many make to keep us safe.
 
Sep. 12, 2013 8:17 am
donnam - You story brought tears to my eyes. Thanks for sharing. I am a writer and write about alternative medicine, so I know that the whole field of Environmental Medicine is highly controversial. In conventional medicine circles, it appears to be forbidden to state the obvious: toxic chemical make you sick. I believe the denial issues are related to insurance policies rather than scientific fact or actually trying to help the people who need help to get help. Here is a link to the website of a world-renowned expert on Environmental Medicine: http://www.ehcd.com/ (Dr. William J. Rea, M.D.). I hope that it may be helpful to you or someone you know.
 
donnam 
Sep. 13, 2013 6:01 am
Thank you all for your kind words. I know all too well that there are unselfish people in this world. I have a houseful of giving people and grew up in a family who allowed people in need to move in with us. It's the example I had set in my life, and no matter how much bad behavior I've seen and been a victim of, I know that I will continue to allow my heart to be open to others. Unfortunately, as of late, I have witnessed the bombarded of people who don't think outside of themselves and never take a moment to realize what their stampeding for their wants does to other people. Most people aren't like this, but it's a shame that some don't stop for a moment and consider what effect their behavior has on others. Mrs. J.- You are so correct. When the illnesses started to strike, we had no clue what was taking place. It was a huge battle to get the illnesses recognized. There was a monetary value placed on the heads of those who were there, but this seems to be the way history seems to be replaying itself...and I would refer to Agent Orange as an example...
 
Sep. 13, 2013 8:04 am
wow..I had no idea this was even happening. GReat Blog donnam.
 
donnam 
Sep. 15, 2013 12:00 pm
TY, CC and all who posted. It's nice to see good people are still out in the world.
 
 
 
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