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The Quick and The Wed 
Sep. 5, 2010 11:40 pm 
Updated: Sep. 8, 2010 2:30 pm
I did 3 unplanned things on Friday. I got home from my night shift, grabbed a shower and went to a government office to get a wedding license.  I then went shopping bought luggage, a purple paisley dress, two beautiful serving platters and a wedding ring. I went to the nail salon; I got my usual deluxe mani/pedi and decided to try out eyelash extensions. I went home washed my dress, grabbed another shower got dressed. I had three friends meet me and my boyfriend at the magistrates office and proceeded to get married. Afterwards we jumped in rickshaws and ended up in a swanky tapas bar called Humble Pie.

Ok, the three unplanned things were 1) getting married 2) getting lash extensions and 3) rickshawing it to an unknown restaurant. Only two of these were good ideas.

 Never, let me say this again NEVER let someone glue fake lashes to your real lashes. They looked great. It felt like my eyes were filled with uncooked grits by the second day. They last 4 weeks. They do NOT wash out with warm water, as the salon owner suggested or come off with olive oil, as the internet suggested. I went back to the salon and was informed they don't do removals. I went to Sallys Beauty Supply and got the remover which states on the package "Do not get eyelash remover into eyes, if it get in your eyes immediately flush eyes with cool water." It took an hour of eye burning hell to get those things off of my eyes and I lost a good amount of real lashes. It also removed my nail polish. Anyway, you are probably more interested in the married part.

To put this in context, my now husband asked me to marry him more than 5 years ago. I gave a tepid "yes" and have put off the wedding at every turn. I have been married before and was gun shy. Some time last week it just occurred to me that I was being really selfish. I was unwilling to give a complete commitment to the man that I share a mortgage with and have lived with for near 6 years. It was keeping an escape hatch open. My husband is a really good man. We've been through a lot together. When I was in intensive care/hospital for nearly a month, he was there near every time I woke up. He's still opens my car door, all of these years after courting. He loves everything I cook. We love each other. It's amazing how the nature of our relationship changed when we got that piece of paper.

Now the rickshaw, I know it doesn't sound like much but I've watched them tooling around downtown for two years. I've always wanted to ride in one. The same thing with tapas; I've heard about them and never been out for it. It was like I woke up out of the daze and decided to do instead of wish. The whole night was magical. I'm happy ... we're happy. We've got our luggage and are planning a trip to Paris in November. I blogged previously about wanting a small town with no hustle and bustle. At this moment, nothing sounds better than sitting beneath the Eiffel Tower with the man I love, sharing a bottle of wine, a hunk of cheese and a crusty warm baguette.
Sep. 6, 2010 4:07 am
Oh my goodness! Congratulations! The lash warning aside, even the tapas recommend. I'm talking about marrying that man of yours ( and the rickshaw is a very nice addition, of course). Next stop Eiffel Tower? Why ever not, now that your "eyes are open"!
Sep. 6, 2010 4:25 am
Congratulations! Have a wonderful trip in November and many happy years with your man!
Sep. 6, 2010 5:52 am
Congratulations! It is amazing how a relationship changes when you have that piece of paper. Showing the world that you are committed to only each other is huge. I hope that you have a wonderful life with this man and that your life together is filled with all the blessings it can hold!
Sep. 6, 2010 6:06 am
Congradulations to you! Hope you have fun and may many years lie ahead of you with your husband!
Sep. 6, 2010 9:03 am
How wonderful. I love the part about him opening the car door for....Sparkky still does and as a matter of fact I love men & women with old fashioned manners:) Congrats on this wonderful commitment. I think you were SO SMART for doing a quick and simple wedding. 39 years ago, we had the big formal thing and I would never recommend it to anyone. I have found that simple is better as I age. Have a blast in is my favorite city in the world. I will picture you two hand in hand exploring the romance of Paris. PS Thanks for the tip on the eyelash extensions....I almost did them once, but now NOT>
Sep. 6, 2010 9:34 am
Congratulations, you were very descriptive and I can picture your story in my head. Are you a writer????? Have a wonderful trip.
Sep. 6, 2010 10:51 am
I love when someone has the guts to tell something funny on themselves. The eyelash extension story is so funny. Can't imagine "grits" in my eyeballs. I'm have blind as it is for pity sakes! A great big CONGRATULATIONS on getting married to the man you adore! And, I just can't wait to hear about your trip to Paris! I'm a tad bit jealous!
Sep. 6, 2010 11:28 am
Oh PB&JG, How Wonderful!!Not the eyelash part,that really sounded painful and I hardly have any. I promise not to try it. You are a lovely young lady and the eyelashes the good Lord gave you are just fine!! I am soo happy you decided to make your guy, YOUR MAN!! An escape hatch is a perfect way of putting it. The fact that you were willing to go out of your comfort zone,shows a maturity that is something to be Proud of! You have done a really fine job. I too envy you of Paris but I will get there before the END:) The rickshaw sounds fun! Great blog and hope you have a nice week!
Sep. 6, 2010 12:27 pm
Congratulations! Sorry about the eyelashes, but live & learn!
Sep. 6, 2010 12:55 pm
What a lovely blog!!!!!! Except for the eyelashes that didn't sound so great. Congrats! Wow and he knows which side of the car you get in on, now that is something! :)
Sep. 7, 2010 2:08 am
Lovely blog...made me smile and giggle, a wishes,PB&JGirl!!!
Sep. 7, 2010 6:55 am
Congratulations! What a wonderful romance to be living. I pray it simply doesn't end for you, both! how exciting and awesome!
Sep. 7, 2010 11:58 am
Congratulations on your marriage! Lash extensions are scarey and the qualification of the person applying them on you is even scarier! Go to a nice spa and get a product like MaxoLash or RevitaLash. They are lash conditioners and I was amazed at the results when I used them. Wish money wasn't so tight now and I'd still be using it.
Sep. 7, 2010 8:14 pm
How cool!!! Except for the lashes. Congrats!!
Sep. 8, 2010 2:30 pm
The eyelash story stirred memories of my one and only bikini wax. I still get chills thinking of it.
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