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Stressed is Desserts Spelled Backwards 
May 18, 2011 6:15 pm 
Updated: May 25, 2011 6:26 pm

Stressed is desserts spelled backwards for

good reason.  When I'm stressed I like to eat

desserts, note the plural.  I'm a stress eater

and have been since sometime in high

school.  When things are tough and I feel

powerless to change them I turn to food.  I

know that this is not healthy but knowing

doesn't change a thing.  It honestly doesn't

matter what the food is, I'll eat just about

anything until I'm full and then eat some

more, but sweet is better.  I suppose it takes

my mind off of whatever it is that I'm

worried about but it doesn't last and the

total loss of self control is hard on my self




Something that adds to my problem is that I

love to bake.  Baking is soothing for me so

I'll toss together a cake and eat half of it in

my stressed out state.  The kids have been

thrilled with all of these desserts this week

but my poor hips can't take much more and

the increased sugar intake is getting to me. 

I know that this too shall pass.  I know I can

get through this, I survived a year with

three two year olds in the house so I can do

anything.  I'd just like to do it without

gaining twenty pounds.  Something's gotta

give, right?



I'm looking for some better ways of coping

than what I have traditionally done.  I'd

love to say that excersize works for me but it

hasn't.  It helps some, and is great when

I'm feeling depressed, but I've been outside

doing very physical yard work for hours

every day this week and it isn't helping with

my stress eating at all.


What do you do to cope with stress?

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May 18, 2011 7:14 pm
Oh Honey, I wish I had magic words for you:( I am 45 1/2 yo and do not. I am not a stress eater, I just LOVE food!LOL It tastes Great! I do too try and exercise, I have a part time job that keeps me on my feet for a couple hours a day, running miles in a cafeteria and I love to go to Curves. I walk when I feel like it,I can walk circles around my kids, I am no runner, Hate it! I must be doing something wrong, I don't have a lot of stress. When I do, it mostly comes from my M I l. I vent to her son or go to Curves and sweat it away. I am a chocolate lover, nothing like a piece of chocolate Anything, to chase the stress/blues away:) Have you seem the single shots of desserts at Chilies? They probably have them elsewhere too. It is the Perfect size of any dessert but in a Shot glass! It's Ingenious & FUN!! They are delish. Maybe you could get some glasses and make a special night for dessert. Like my Carlos and I did/do with Survivor, our dessert night. He works nights but usually on Friday takes off. We catch up with the shows we have missed throughout the week and have a yummy treat to boot!.Hot baths are another good way. I like to play music while I wash dishes, yea, by hand:( I have a Nano and just plug it in and wash and sing, who cares that I can't carry a tune across the street or that the dogs start Baying in response! BBBAAAHHAAA Sometimes I go to Curves and start yapping andthey listen, then I feel better:) I hope by blogging, your finding a way to relieve your stress a bit healthier. Hugs to you:) Take care! ? Patty
May 18, 2011 8:31 pm
I do the same thing you do. I, too, know it isn't healthy, but it just happens. I retired 2 years ago because my job was so stressful, my health was seriously in jeopardy. I know if I had not left then, it truly would have killed me. I love to bake, also. It has always been a form of therapy for me. There is a start to baking, a mid point and then a finish. It is an accomplishment. Unfortunately, it is also so darn good!! I wish I could exercise more, but my knees are so bad. So it becomes a vicious circle. I will be watching the responses to see what others tell you!! I always enjoy your blogs!
May 19, 2011 4:04 am
Girlfriend, you are NOT alone!! You're a better woman than me what with all your young one's running about as well. I suppose we turn to food, sweets, or drink because it's easier to just pop something into our mouths to distract rather than gearing up and getting outside for a walk. I've been in both extremes where I was super-active and eating healthily and that, by itself, helped control both my stress levels and my hip-size. Now, I'm back to distracting myself just with food and that's not helping my hip-size OR my stress. I do long for the days when I was so active (and by active I just mean an early morning 60 minute walk around the neighborhood and occasionally another 30 minutes in the evening IF I felt like it)because I felt like I could conquer the world. Amazing what a few endorphins can do for a gal...soooo, it's the classic struggle for us...sigh. From a more serious, pyschological viewpoint though, I found Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) worked wonders for my stress and anxiety. I practiced that and started doing Tai Chi (yoga standing up) and was blown away by the results. I don't really suffer stress and anxiety the way I used to at all. There's still bits of it here or there but I've trained my mind how to think and to control how stressed I allow myself to become. These two things are not easy to do, but they are simple. Part of their appeal to me personally...I guess the thing that's really tough about all this is that each of us, within ourselves, are the only one's who can make the decision for change. No one can do it for us. ! LOL...
May 19, 2011 7:04 am
Thanks Patty Cakes, I have this great image in my head of you rocking out in the kitchen and passers by giving you odd looks through a window! Bathing is a good one for me, now to find the time to lay in a tub of hot water without all 4 kids coming in to ask me what I'm doing, when I'll be done, what they should do, if they can have x y or z, sigh.
May 19, 2011 7:06 am
Thank-you ChrisK. Keeping busy sometimes helps me the issue with that is that I run out of energy eventually and as soon as I sit down to take a break I want to eat. Maybe I should take up knitting or something to keep my hands busy.
May 19, 2011 7:09 am
Thanks Irish Cattle Woman. I do yoga from time to time and have, like you, been way on the other side of the spectrum. I'm going to start running again in the mornings before it gets too hot and while my husband is still home to keep an eye on the littles for me. Even if it doesn't stop the stress eating it'll at least burn off some of those extra calories right? I guess I've just gotta work on my willpower. Letting it out in a public forum like this one is helping. I'm bad at sharing personal stuff usually so this is a big step for me :).
May 19, 2011 7:24 am
Food. It is our favorite tool for celebration, depression, boredom, stress..... Eat because you feel bad > feel bad because you did it > then eat some more because you feel worse. You will get way better advice than this but I sometimes simply get out of the comfy clothes that we all love and put on a pair of jeans that have gotten a little too small as a form of "discipline". The discomfort reminds me of the true effect of using that tool for anything other than nourishment.
May 19, 2011 8:04 am
Hi Sarah-May. I am totally not a stress eater. When I am stressed or depressed I rarely eat at all. The way I deal with stress is music. I like to take a short drive in the car with some favorite music cranked up and sometimes just scream as loud as I can. Deep breathing and meditation also works for me.
May 19, 2011 8:09 am
Thanks for educating me to the fun fact that stressed is desserts backswards. I can say I'd never noticed! You are not alone. I try desperately to exercise everyday although that little devil on my shoulder convinces me sometimes that I'd much rather be lazy, stay on the computer and eat something delicious. One thing that I recently started was having a glass of ice water with me at all times. I've never been an ice water drinker but had to give up caffeine completely recently for health reasons and I'm really left with nothing but water to drink. If I feel the urge to go get something to eat, I drink the glass of water first. That usually will help. Unfortunately I've now hit the wall of age that means I can exercise everyday and still not lose weight. Ugh. That's depressing.
May 19, 2011 8:35 am
stressed = desserts, did that one for a few years. Since we moved out of the city, I have learned to cope with things differently. KISS-keep it simple silly, and knowing that stress is what you make of it or hoarding feelings inside can cause major disorders. Now I enjoy yoga to relax, I sub green tea when I feel I am drinking too much coffee, I love to play/work/enjoy the outdoors. We eat a lot of baked goods and sweets, in moderation but something is always kicking around on the counter. I also put on the tight jeans or skirt and heels when I go to the city, makes me feel good, and helps me remember to maintain my temple. Gitano's motivational quotes keep me going as well.
May 19, 2011 8:36 am
some of these things may be harder to do with little ones, be patient and persistent and release your anxieties, LOL keep your stick on the ice, we are all rooting for you---could not help but quote Red Green
May 19, 2011 9:43 am
Oh,Sarah,how timely this blog is! Just yesterday a colleague asked me,"Lisa, do bake when you're stressed?" because it was the second time this week that I brought chocolate-chocolate something to the office. Like you, I tend to eat most of what I bake. I haven't figured out the key to eliminating the stress that leads to the consumption, but I do limit the consumption by giving away a lot of my goodies. For me, when the stress takes over, I also find it helpful to just stop what I'm doing and breathe. Yoga techniques also relieve some of my tension. Making time for yourself is essential, even if it's only twenty-minutes. If the little ones nap at the same time, do something for yourself while they are down. Don't clean or cook or whatever you think "needs" to be done. Just sit down in a quiet spot, close your eyes, and breathe. God doesn't give us anything we aren't prepared to handle and all strength comes from Him; or from whatever higher power you believe in:) And, remember, too, you've got AR family to lean on as well:) BTW, I make myself feel better (rightly or wrongly) by using oatmeal or wheat flour in my stressed/desserts; I tell myself they are healthier that way. I'm working up to decreasing the amount of sugar in the recipes--baby steps:-)
May 19, 2011 10:03 am
Hi Sarah-May! I tweeted your blog post! Are you on twitter? I'd love to follow you there! Cheers, Allrecipes Stephanie Twitter @AR_Stephanie
May 19, 2011 10:23 am
Thanks Linda2d, dressing up is a good idea, if nothing else it makes me feel special, now if I just had somewhere to go....
May 19, 2011 10:25 am
Thanks Nuggets, good suggestion on the meditation. It might help to just slow down for even 10 minutes.
May 19, 2011 10:26 am
Thanks Maridele, the water is a good suggestion, I think I'll take it a step further and make homemade sugar free iced tea so I feel like I'm getting a treat but I'm really not :).
May 19, 2011 10:28 am
lol Gramma, today I feel like I could use a little ice, it's going up to 27 today! No complaints just cold drinks and time spend in the shade. I love yoga but it is hard to do with all the kids kicking around. This fall one goes off to school and next fall the other three, then maybe I'll find more time to breathe. I'll probably be complaining about boredom eating ;).
May 19, 2011 10:32 am
Thanks Mangel, I really should start giving more of it away. Yesterday I took a loaf of zucchini bread to my MIL, but kept two and ate most of one, the kids had the other one. I too add things that are healthy to make myself feel better about treats. Oats, flax, applesauce, zucchini, doesn't change the fact that I'm eating too much of it though. I think you probably hit the nail on the head. I don't take time for myself and when the kids are occupied I tend to do things that need to be done instead of taking time to do what I want. Gotta change that.
May 19, 2011 10:34 am
Thank-you Stephanie! I'm not on twitter but am a die-hard facebooker, if you've got it feel free to add me Sarah McDonald. (There are lots of us but my profile picture is me and my husband, I'm in a red dress and he's in a kilt, that oughta help ;).
May 19, 2011 11:12 am
I'm not a stress eater per se, but I am a stress sugar-fiend. I'll drink sodas, have candies ect.- and it doesn't help that the caffiene makes me feel happy! I've got a new hobby though recently- gardening...digging, smashing stuff around, not being very gentle with the soil and tools..anything I can kick, punch or throw makes me feel good too, so outside I go now or to a room I need to clean out. That helps me, and it helps me more since that's one less annoying thing I have to get done later :)
May 19, 2011 11:16 am
Too funny ... I'm a stress eater too. More so when it's stress from work. I need to chew and crunch so I look for something that isn't going to wallop me with calories. Popcorn works well or I bake. Baking takes up alot of time to get to the end product. By the time I prep, bake, clean up and finally get a taste it's late so I have a taste wrap it up and bring it to work the next day. By then the mood has changed and I no longer want what I made which is good.
May 19, 2011 11:17 am
On another note some years ago I did do a few hypnosis sessions and they worked very well.
May 19, 2011 12:40 pm
Huh... all these years, and I never realized 'stressed' is 'desserts' backwards! That should prove that it's still possible to learn something new after 50, lol. I don't expect to ever really 'eat right.' Not gonna happen, with me. BUT -- I do find that I like certain flavors and/or textures enough that, if I eat or drink them, I will be content enough to lay off the sugar and starch for a while. For one thing, apple cider vinegar has a flavor that will linger and is said to kill a sugar craving. I sometimes bake with it (or use it in a salad dressing or whatever, but I prefer baking with it) and it does seem to tame the craving. (Of course, I get some sugar and whatever from the baked good for starters, but that's okay.) Another help is to add flavors or whatever to sparkling water. I have a carbonator, the Sodastream Penguin, so I can make my own and add whatever -- but buying cans of it is fine, too. Add something that will leave a satisfying taste in the mouth. I just bought some Propel lemon-flavored powdered drink mix, haven't tried it yet, but that's next!
May 19, 2011 4:31 pm
I started making homemade soap. Finally something I could do in the kitchen that wouldnt make me FAT! Might be hard to do with small kids around though! We have triplets here on the ranch, not sure how their mom survived because she had 5 kids under 5 yr old 110 miles from town! It gets better tho, hang in there!
May 19, 2011 4:32 pm
btw...your pics are great, I think I put on 5 lbs just lookin at em!
May 20, 2011 4:19 am
Love how the stressed=desserts. Love the photos of your desserts. I wish mine were that pretty. I'm with you right now with the stress. Mine is in part due to my one and only child preparing to leave home. I wish when he was growing up I would have known how much I was going to miss him. Then I wouldn't have worried about the housework or all that other stuff that doesn't matter now and played with him more. I stress bake too but now that I have the puppy I make him treats. He is such a dear to bake for. I get to have fun in the kitchen and don't pack on the pounds. This too shall pass my dear.
May 20, 2011 6:27 am
Hi Sarah-May, I have two kids too, one that was just diagnosed with aspergers/autism so I tend to have a lot of stress. I also tend to eat and crave sugar when I am stressed out. Darn chocolate! A couple things that have helped me- I cut out almost all grains. I've found that when I eat them I feel awful and crave sugar. I feel so much better now and sugar cravings are under control. I also always keep lots of yummy fruit around for when I just have to have something sweet. Fruit is very filling and satisfying but low cal. I also try to start my day with prayer and bible reading. It helps me stay sane and centered the rest of the day. Oh, I love to bake too... but I just don't anymore. Unless I am taking the dessert to a funtion or something. I know I just can't have it in the house or I will inevitably eat way too much! I keep junk food out of my house. I hope it helps! God bless :)
May 20, 2011 7:28 am
lol Sarah, I believe boredom eating is worse than stress eating. Get the kids to try yoga with you, never know, they may enjoy tying themselves up like pretzels. They are so limber and loose
May 20, 2011 7:30 am
how is your rhubarb doing? I picked enough to add to a strawberry dessert yesterday, yummm and it was not stress eating, it was eating for the taste buds:)
May 20, 2011 10:07 am
It's so nice to find kindred souls. I'm on the journey to lose the 25 lbs of stress I gained over the past 5 years. I have gone back to some old tricks to satisfy my need for sweet (and ice cream is my nemesis so I go for cold and sweet). I mix frozen blueberries, nonfat plain or blueberry yogurt and a sprinkling of Grape Nuts for crunch plus artificial sweetener -- enough to make it satisfying for my sweet tooth. Now if I could just find a substitute for peanuts....
May 20, 2011 11:11 am
I'm the same way! I bake to relieve the stress, and then I give it away to all my neighbors so that I don't end up eating it! Nor does the Hubby... He has the biggest sweet tooth I know. Wish I could be more help.
May 20, 2011 11:40 am
Oh Crunchy, how I wish I was a stress cleaner, it would make my whole life less stressful if that was how I coped but when I'm feeling super stressed cleaning is the last thing on my mind :).
May 20, 2011 11:42 am
Thanks for dropping in Linda (LMT) I'm a popcorn gnasher from way back :). I need to get some heathy snacks on hand I guess to keep my from mixing peanut butter with sugar and going to it.
May 20, 2011 11:43 am
Thanks WendyWS I've just started keeping lightly sweetened iced tea in the fridge with a splash of lemon or lime juice in it, it helps a great deal. Good advice!
May 20, 2011 11:44 am
Thanks Petey! It's gotten much easier already, that first six months was the very hardest, that and the whole potty training thing were so far the worst times. Not that it's really easy now just not as hard :).
May 20, 2011 11:45 am
Thanks Cat Hill, I'm way at the opposite end of the kid thing Cat Hill. I love them but am looking forward to them starting school and having a little more independence.
May 20, 2011 11:48 am
Thanks CiciShwartz. I can't imagine cutting out grains but I could probably cut out any that aren't whole and be just fine :). I've got four kids but so far all are normal and healthy, although I think my son may have ADHD, time will tell. good luck to you!
May 20, 2011 11:49 am
lol Gramma, my rhubarb is ready for a picking. I've got about 1/2 cup of frozen left that I'll put in a smoothie tomorrow and then I'll get into the fresh stuff. When it cools down a bit up here I'm going to try a yeast coffee cake with it.
May 20, 2011 11:51 am
Thanks wdwnwfinad! I almost forgot about that one. Look up five minute ice cream on this site. The recipe uses frozen berries, sugar and heavy cream but could easily be made with sweetener and yogurt or low fat milk. It's my favorite low cal ice cream fix :).
May 20, 2011 11:52 am
That's okay Terri Tripp, just knowing that there are other people dealing with the same sort of food issues helps :). Thank-you for taking the time to comment.
May 20, 2011 12:34 pm
How much does your blog read like my life? Lots! I resisted the idea for a long time but just yesterday started a food diary. I've always know I'm a stress eater-any kind of stress. But typing it out, searching online databases for calorie counts, reading nutrition info. Ye gads, it's all so real when recorded. Anyway, at least for the last two days, the busywork and reality checks from filling in my diary is helping - for today the guilt and shame are the motivators. Whatever works :-) Thankfully it's Spring and there are fresh fruit and veggy alternatives to the cr@p food we adore.
May 20, 2011 1:22 pm
Hi Sarah, A co-worker encouraged me to try Zumba. Not that this always works for me, but I try to find substitutes for the "bad" stuff.I am sure you have a few ideas. One is making smoothies. I fell in love with the AR "Raspberry Lemon Smoothie" What a treat. This morning, it was a variation: Triple Berry Smoothie. If you put in the whole lemon minus peel and seeds :) it has a really indulgent texture to it. I have had success with drinking tea at night instead of a sweet treat...but ya gotta treat yourself, right? I have a hard time getting motivated to exercise too. I used to run x-country! Enjoy the outdoors Sarah
May 21, 2011 1:59 pm
Cry; that's pretty much it. When I'm stressed out, I get very emotional. But when I'm at the movies, I eat when I get nervous. That and chew my nails :)
May 23, 2011 6:19 am
Thanks Wendie! It's good to know I'm not alone :). I finally got ahold of myself yesterday by keeping very busy now just to keep my face out of the fridge and I'll get past it.
May 23, 2011 6:33 am
Thanks Maureen :). My garden is helping quite a bit, there's always something to do out there. I've started running again and it HURTS. It will get better the more I do it though.
May 23, 2011 6:45 am
Thanks Kitty Cookie, a good cry sometimes helps, I just hate everyone else's reaction when I cry. I try to do it in private and it helps some, not immediatley but within a few hours.
May 24, 2011 6:26 am
Hi! I have six children, all under the age of sixteen, so do I know about stress!!!! I also love to bake, and have lots of takers, so its really to bad when I eat it all!!! I find sometimes it helps to bake bread, it does have a little less suger....Just don't eat it all lol!
May 24, 2011 6:29 am
Hi! another thing that helps for stress eating is making food that you absolutely detest! The only problem is hopefully its something your family loves!
May 24, 2011 6:54 pm
May 24, 2011 6:55 pm
I just stumbled accross this today. Maybe this will help me. I actually got up to running at least 1 mile last summer! It feels great when it is meant to be.
May 25, 2011 7:52 am
I feel ya! I love baking and eating and I'm less likely to exercise my will power when I am very stressed out. I hate exercising, but it helps me feel better about myself, so I set a goal to do it at least 3 times per week (you have to work up to it right?!?) I still like baking and making desserts, but when my pants let me know they can't take the strain, I try to cut back. When I can't cut back on the baking, I give stuff away. The people at work never complain when I show up with a cake with just a couple of pieces missing (ONE for me and a couple for my hubby or whoever else is around). Plus, when I give stuff away, people are always so complientary about my food and that makes me feel good too. Forcing myself to laugh and venting to friends/family who understand that I am just venting helps too. Laughter really is good medicine. I noticed that when I go outside and force myself to laugh (laughing at nothing is weird, but it still triggers the release of endorphins), that the gereatric german shepherd who lives in the yard takes that as a sign to be in a good mood and he acts more playful and happy. Weird huh, but laughter (even forced) is a good thing not just for us, but those around us. Even more important than laughter, I say a prayer and tell God that I'm stressed and would appreciate a good dose of peace and assistance.
May 25, 2011 6:24 pm
Thanks Rita, I wish there was a food I detested that every else was into but no such thing exists :).
May 25, 2011 6:25 pm
Thanks Maureen, I do about 3-4 km when I run with two brief walking breaks. I hate every moment after the first km is done but I love how I feel afterwards so I keep doing it.
May 25, 2011 6:26 pm
Thanks Stang98lx, I can just picture the dog with a puzzled look and a wagging tail!
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