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Dinner for a Friend 
 
Aug. 12, 2009 9:18 am 
Updated: Oct. 6, 2009 8:38 pm
A very dear friend of mine has a rare genetic Liver disease and is on the transplant list. She has known for several years that it would eventually come to this but she has declined rapidly in the past 6 months. She was recently given a 30% survival rate for the next year. She becomes tired simply walking from one room to the next or sitting chopping vegetables and yet she is an on the go single Mom to three of the most well manner and amazing children. Her strength and courage is incredible. As she becomes increasingly ill there are things she can no longer do. One of them is cook. With three children, one of them being a 13yo boy, cooking dinner is quite a feat. One of her friends found a resource called the Care Calender. It's an online calender that allows her friends and familiy to reserve a night to cook dinner for them. Tonight is my night! I was a bit stumped as to what kids eat. Well, I know they eat food but recalling how picky I was as a child I was nervous I'd end up staring at looks of utter disgust. So, I set out one afternoon in search of kid friendly, liver disease friendly, and healthy recipes. 

First, I decided on green beans and red potatoes because I could get them fresh from the Farmer's Market. I tossed them with marjoram, dill, thyme, black pepper, and oregano and roasted them in the oven at 400 for 30 minutes. MmmMmm! 

For the main course I decided on baked chicken after recalling my Mom's herb breaded baked chicken that I used to beg my brother to give me his crispy herb breadcrumb coating. Ha! I found a recipe on Allrecipes that loong perfect.  http://allrecipes.com/Recipe/Baked-Garlic-Parmesan-Chicken/Detail.aspx<

I plan on cooking the chicken this evening so that I can deliver it hot and fresh from the oven. I'm sure I don't have to mention that I thawed out extra for myself!

I decided to skip on dessert for several reasons.
1) I'm a terrible baker. I burn several batches of cookies everytime I bake.
2) I don't like sweets so I find it hard/boring to make sweet dishes.
3) Kids eat waaay too much sugar these days.
4) I didn't want to have to make the fire department come to my apartment.
5) I had one too many glasses of wine last night to summon the energy.

So, tonight I will deliver the meal, pray that they enjoy it, and hopefully make her life just a tiny bit easier.

A bit of a side note with a touch of a rant. I work for Child Protective Services. I see the worst of the worst in regards to Mothers. Honestly, the things I've seen Moms do and say to their own children would disgust most of you. Here is my friend, who has been a source of support during my pregnancy, provided advice during Oliver's first year, and been my greatest role model as a Mom and she is facing death and leaving behind her children. She is, without any doubt, the most devoted, creative, impartial, inspiring, and fun Mom I've ever met and she will most likely not see her youngest daughter turn 7. I believe that there is a reason for everything and that life isn't fair but those children and the world deserve a women like my friend in their lives. It doesn't seem just.

Don't forget...Today is the first day of the rest of your life...
 
Comments
Aug. 12, 2009 9:35 am
This Blog of yours touched my heart. Could you provide more info on the "online" Care calendar? I'd love to know more. Such a wonderful idea!
 
Aug. 12, 2009 9:42 am
http://www.carecalendar.org/ You can also set up a schedule for house cleaning. It's a very neat idea. A great way to organize all the people that ask if there is anything they can do to help.
 
Aug. 12, 2009 10:26 am
It's very nice to hear that this Mom has "real" friends like you, specially in such a difficut time. I hope she can get a liver donor soon.
 
Aug. 12, 2009 12:46 pm
k861084; sometimes it just isn't fair is it? Like Dee Dee, this really touched me too. I have had friends as well as family members die wayyyyy to young and leave people and kids behind. I love this idea of the Care Calendar and am going to save this entire web link for the next time I know of or hear of anyone facing a tough time. Thanks for posting.
 
Aug. 12, 2009 4:23 pm
Too often we make empty offers because we really do not know what needs to be done. This is such a wonderful idea. I am also saving this thread and I'll keep your friend in my rayers.
 
Aug. 13, 2009 9:12 pm
You are a good friend. It is obvious you care, and sometimes that is all we can do.
 
Aug. 14, 2009 11:24 pm
My friends and I will take turns organizing meals to be delivered to eachother house during the first few weeks after a new baby arrives home from the hospital. Many of these friends I also freezer cook with. Thanks for taking the time to be kind. My website talks about cooking with friends. www.dinnercoach.com
 
Aug. 15, 2009 5:01 am
How great of you to help out in this way! BigShotsMom is right - people do make "empty offers" - "let me know if I can help..." etc. It makes more sense to say - "I'd like to help. Can I bring a meal? Would Tuesday be okay?"
 
Aug. 15, 2009 11:00 am
You are a true blessing to your friend and her family. You have made a difference in someones life and may God bless you for it and may God help your sweet friend to get the needed transplant soon.
 
Aug. 15, 2009 11:42 am
Rare genetic liver disorder - that wouldn't be an Alpha One Deficiency, would it? So sorry your friend is suffering.
 
Linda 
Aug. 15, 2009 2:13 pm
You are doing a wonderful thing for your friend. Has your friend's family checked into the possibility of one of her family members donating a portion of their liver to her? The liver is a regenerative organ, and this is possible as I understand.
 
Aug. 15, 2009 7:41 pm
You are a true friend. Your friend & her children are very fortunate to have you in thier lives. Love the care calendar, a great idea.
 
Aug. 16, 2009 8:45 am
He disease is called Primary Biliary Cirrhosis and it caused the bile ducts to eventually become damaged and to disappear. Texas doesn't allow live liver donation so she's out of luck in that regard. Apparently there have been too many donor deaths.
 
Aug. 16, 2009 9:37 am
So sorry to hear that. Well, you are a good friend and I'm sure you will be a comfort and help to your friend for as long as she needs you.
 
Aug. 16, 2009 2:33 pm
So very sorry for your friend. You are a blessing for her for sure. Thank you so much for the link to CareCalendar. My niece who has just had a new baby is going thru some hardships of her own with her mom who has cancer. Trips to Chemo, caring for baby ect. This will be a wonderful venue in time to come. I will organize this for her very soon. Thank you again and God Bless you.
 
Aug. 16, 2009 3:06 pm
Wow, here I am making cookies with my two year old and I decided to read a few blogs while a batch was baking. I had no idea yours would bring tears to my eyes. My prayers are with your friend and her children. What a wonderful group of friends she has. :)
 
summo 
Aug. 16, 2009 3:32 pm
Wow You are a great friend ,wish you were mine. Be strong and all the best for your friend and those precious children . My prayers are with you all.
 
Aug. 16, 2009 10:29 pm
On Thursday nights I cook for a family in my neighborhood. They have 3 little girls and one of them is battling cancer. Life for them revolves around her treatments. Providing a weekly meal is one small way that I can help. I have seen firsthand how much of a help a meal can be, so am thankful for your link to the care calendar. I hope that others reading your blog will be inspired to reach out to someone they know going through a difficult time in life.
 
Aug. 17, 2009 7:58 am
Your story has touched the hearts of many people. I don't know anyone ill right now, but I do have a neighbor that has 3 children and works all day. I know the beginning of the school year is a hectic time for her. The children are on a special diet for health reasons. You have inspired me to look up their diet and take a meal to them. I know she could use a break. Thanks for sharing. You and your friend are added to my prayer list.
 
Aug. 17, 2009 11:55 am
My heart and prayers are with your friend. These days, we all hear so much about the evils of other people, and how so many bad things are happening in our world. How wonderful to be reminded that, when it comes right down to it, the beauty of one human being caring, really caring, for another human being is what really matters. I'm so sorry about your friend. You're a doll, and I'm so glad she has such a good support system. Thanks so much for sharing.
 
rebecca 
Aug. 19, 2009 2:17 pm
I am proud you are my daughter. A rosary for your friend this Thursday. Wish you were here. But it would appear that you are exactly where you should be. God's blessings dearie.
 
pc 
Oct. 6, 2009 8:38 pm
the recipe for the herb breaded chicken is similar to one we first had on a cruise ship. i tend to use a lot of fresh parsley instead of italian spices, and i make a large amount at one time in the Cuisinart. When you want to use it for pork chops or chicken with/without bones, just pull out what you want. I like to mix dijon mustard and garlic with the olive oil but for kiddos might not spice it as much. you and your friends are quite the inspiration. our JL chapter prepares/serves lunch at a school for the homeless routinely. so gratifying to help others. prayers for your friend.
 
 
 
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