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WHERE DID THIS SUMMER GO?? 
 
Jul. 24, 2013 7:57 pm 
Updated: Oct. 11, 2014 9:52 pm

     I ask myself where the past two months have gone?  As spring approached this year, I had made so many plans to start riding my bike every day to get more exercise and to lose some weight.  Along with my own "diet and dash," I had made plans to include my little Schnauzer Pickles who could definitely stand to lose about five pounds too.  Unfortunately, God threw me a huge curve ball this spring as at the beginning of May my 90 year old sister became ill, was admitted to the hospital in ICU and eventually passed on the 23rd of May.  OMG, what a total shock.  My sister would have these systemic infections about every six months to a year.  The normal course was that she would become extremely ill in a very short time, need to go to the hospital for IV antibiotics and then come home again in about a week.  When she would be admitted to the hospital she would appear as at "deaths door."  However, about a day and a half of antibiotics and some fluid replacement she would astonish the doctor's and all the staff with how fast she would rebound back to health.  Her first three days in the hospital were very good as far as the treatment she received.  Because she was "septic" upon admission and needed medications to keep her blood pressure from dropping she was admitted to the Intensive Care Unit.  The care and treatment was fabulous as was the first ICU Dr we encountered for the first two days.  On the third day, Monday a new ICU Dr was assigned to her case as their rotation would end after seven days on.  This Dr basically ended up murdering my sister.  She felt that Toni had too many medical problems and that her "quality of life" was totally absent?  She diminished her treatment by discontinuing two of the three antibiotics Toni was on.  The third antibiotic was changed to an "every other day dose" which I do not believe was often enough to fight off the infection.  I also believe that with different bacteria, the other two antibiotics were necessary for her to improve and get well. This Dr knew better than her family and knew better than my sister's own Family Physician.  She led my sister down the path to her death without a second thought!  She said my sister would be gone in two days.  Unfortunately I had to watch my sisters painful death which took actually two weeks.  It was one of the two most awful experiences I have had in my entire life.

     What did I learn by going through this?  First, don't ever have an "Advance Directive, or Living Will."  This Dr. took what I thought was a very emphatic and clear directive and interpreted it totally different than it was intended.  She took an "infection" and turned it into a "terminally ill condition with no chance of recovery."  In that case my sister had written that she did not want to be on a respirator, or have CPR.  Only those two issues were addressed and only if there was absolutely no chance of recovery. This Dr interpreted that as to pull away almost all treatment for this infection and any complications of it;  that was even after my sister started to recover on the second day in hospital.

     I realize there isn't much here about cooking, or a recipe.  I am posting this as a "Life's Lesson" on what can happen if your Living Will falls into the wrong hands.
 
Comments
Jul. 25, 2013 9:36 am
So deeply sorry for your loss. I have a neighbor who has DNR tattooed by her heart.
 
Jul. 25, 2013 7:44 pm
It is always hard to deal with death and letting go, something I am not an expert with, and don't care to be, but one day soon I will have the same issues with letting go with both my mom and dad who are closing in on there 90's. My dad has Alzheimer's and my mom has a bit of dementia.
 
maggie 
Jul. 26, 2013 9:39 pm
So sorry for your loss.
 
Jul. 27, 2013 8:41 am
You have my condolences. I, too, just buried M’Lady, after 33 years, so I have some idea of what you’re going through.
 
Oct. 11, 2014 9:52 pm
I'm new to blogs, so, finding myself with some time, & having found & enjoyed this one, I went into previous blogs. I am SO sorry to learn of your loss. I can't imagine what you're going through! Please know that even this long after, I'm praying for you're regaining the peace Heavenly Father wants for you. I must say, it makes me want to re-think my own DNR!!! My sincere condolences.
 
 
 
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Wausau, Wisconsin, USA
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Coon Rapids, Minnesota, USA

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Baking, Grilling & BBQ, Frying, Stir Frying, Asian, Mexican, Indian, Italian, Southern, Nouvelle, Middle Eastern, Mediterranean, Dessert, Gourmet

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About Me
I am a non-working Registered Nurse. I have loved to cook ever since childhood. I love the outdoors and warm weather. Living in Minnesota and being from Wisconsin you would think I would enjoy cold weather and activities associated with, WRONG! I hate the cold and stay indoors almost the entire winter until Spring "breaks." What do you do in the winter? Cook, of course. I love experimenting with new, complicated food dishes and of course I love the taste of my own cooking. I love animals and have a Minature Schnauzer, "Pickles." She is a total joy!
My favorite things to cook
I love to make different Italian dishes. I tend to like spice so I am intrigued by India, Mexico, Thai and anything made with a "bite." Being of German descent, I have some favorite all time recipes that were my mom and dad's. Kliska is one of my families favorites. It is potato dumplings that are browned with bacon and pork pieces until the dumplings are crisped on the edges. Along with the pork pieces and bacon you have alot of chopped onion and a pinch of nutmeg; very tasty, but loaded with cholesterol.
My favorite family cooking traditions
As aforementioned I love to make Kliska. One of my best friends who is Swedish, makes a similar Klub which is a large potato dumpling filled with diced pork, onion, salt, pepper and a pinch of nutmeg. She wraps the dumplings which are coated with butter in aluminum foil and then dropped into boiling water for about 30 minutes. Being German, I do like the 'ol standbys of sauerkraut and pork ribs, sauerkraut and weiner's, sauerkraut and whatever. Sauerbraten, red cabbage and potatoes are a nice combination too.
My cooking triumphs
I just recently watched a cute "date" movie for about the 15th time with Lauren Hutton called Sweet Treats. She's a chef who combines with the male lead to form a team contesting in a cooking contest. In that movie they make a Torta Barozzi which is a very chocolate, non-flour torte. Was a rather complicated recipe, but I made it and it turned out "wonderful." It is a chocolate lovers dream.
My cooking tragedies
I never remember those cooking tragedies. I just never make them again and "move on" to greater things. I will say, I never serve a recipe that I have not made previously! Also when cooking meat, don't over cook and "always" use a meat thermometer!
 
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