Allergies/Birthdays/And Family Grrrrr. . .
Aug. 21, 2011 11:07 pm
Updated: Aug. 24, 2011 11:46 am
In todays world so many our discovering that they are allergic to one or more foods. If not allergic they may be intolerant to the point that they can't eat it. As a parent of one child who has been blessed with allergies (dairy,egg, and nuts) being
the big ones nearly two years ago I've had to adapt myself so many times from breakfast, lunch, dinner, eating out, etc. Here in lies my dillema and the cause of my rant; I have a close extended family who all lives within 25 miles of one another. There
are 11 cousins and my kids are invited to all of their parties as well as to my kids. My sister, brothers, and parents are well aware of the fact that my son has allergies -- they've seen him react -- they've seen the panic on my face as I'm calling to find
a doctor available to get my son breathing right on a Sunday afternoon. Yet, just tonight I attended another family Birthday where not a single treat was provided for my son. There was the regular, "Oh yeah I thought about him, but just forgot. I'm sorry."
The rest of the kids all had big cupcakes, and drumstick ice cream bars. And I was told that it was not the time to bring up my disappointment by my brother. My brother did eventually take pity on my son and went and found him an otter pop at his home. (He
was not the host of the party) I can't tell you how many parties I have been to where I had to hunt through cupboards to give my son some cereal or saltine instead of a piece of cake.
I mean how many times can you tell a little guy that he's the only one not getting a treat like the other kids? I've been patient but even my own mother is guilty. I know I'm the one expected to do the providing -- It almost feels like the thought process
is it's to difficult to change a recipe, leave milk out of frosting, not make a mayonaise based salad -- etc. Well since I'm sure the parties aren't stopping I guess I'm going to have to be the one to make sure my son isn't left out. I will make him his
own batch of cupcakes and freeze them, pull them out on party days. I did expect to have to do this with school or neighborhood friends, but with my own family I feel really let down. It's really not that hard to find him his own special treat -- like a
Anyone else have obstacles when approaching their own food problems with friends and family? Please share because I feel like I'm in this boat full of people and the only one rowing right now.
People keep denying me cupcakes. Meanies.