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A random act of love? 
Jul. 31, 2009 8:06 pm 
Updated: Oct. 17, 2009 11:34 am
   I've been with the claire since sunday, pretty much 24-7 for the past 6 days. it's been an amazing discovery of self-discovery...for her and myself. she has progressed and somewhat taken a step backward. it always seems that way. i want her HERE now. the shepherd center is incredible! everyone here is so supportive, just unbelievable compassion. i hope if you have a loved one that they are admitted here. good news: she can now walk, have cognitive thoughts, and talk. bad news, always bad news i hate bad news! her cuminden level is still elevated (they will not remove her feeding stick until levels are satisfactory), her trach had been capped since monday but now re-inserted then replaced with the plug....she can speak again. she was very discouraged...she believed it was a step backward. in my heart i thought so too. she can speak again, in her "own" voice. her mind is very interesting, she can answer almost any jeopardy question (as normal pre-stroke) but says she cannot do simple addition, subtraction, etc. she has changed---she no longer eats sweets and has a sense of humor. strange behavior. she seems like she is searching inside herself. i know she is, i give her time. it's depressing to me to watch her "search", i know what is happening but it's still frustrating to watch. i try not to help her. she is an amazing woman...such determination and grit! i'm in awe of her. so strong! i;ve seen horrible/ incredible things here. i've seen a 16 year old kid here directing his wheelchair by blowing in a tube. i've seen a girl maybe 35  coming back in a motorized wheelchair, with elderly parents, coming back in to give thanks and bring cookies to her care-givers (gosh i hate elevators,)  everyday i was there a volunteer, usually in a wheelchair, came by claire's room to see if they could help with feeding my wife. i made sure claire was fed and then went down , if i could, to the lunchroom to eat. one day, i think tuesday, i counted 19 wheelchairs there. all younger folks than claire. i felt i had entered a place that i did not belong. i walked in. i ate , cried, thought of the people in their wheelchairs and imagined stories of what life is like for them on the outside. i cried some more then left. my wife will walk out of there! she does not remember her first 5 weeks after the stroke. she is doing great. life has dealt us an opportunity to help others and i intend to use the chance to try and make a difference in my community . please help others , a random act of kindness perhaps...or more you decide what you can do. hug your loved ones!
Jul. 31, 2009 8:36 pm
GAry, so much good news but sorry about the cumiden level not coming down yet. I am sure that will happen in time. Praise God that Claire is walking and talking now. There will be many more improvements in the days to come I am sure. Just keep believing and loving Claire for all of us! We are all loving you and praying for you both. Ginny
Jul. 31, 2009 8:58 pm
gderr, glad to hear from you. Cindy Lepp in particular was getting antsy about you and Claire. Things are looking up and we'll all be looking for more and more "better" days.
Jul. 31, 2009 9:10 pm
gderr, life is funny, how after tragedy we celebrate little progessions. I am so glad things are going so much better for you, and am confident they will continue to due so because of your love and belief in your wife. Best wishes!
Jul. 31, 2009 9:12 pm
How far this miracle named Claire has come! I'm sorry there are still obstacles but prayers have certainly been answered here. Stay strong and thank you for sharing your incredible story of faith, hope and love.
Jul. 31, 2009 9:15 pm
Good to hear from you again Gary! I had been checking your blog every day for the past two or three days and was hoping to see more good news any time now. God is good indeed. We must remember to praise him for the bad as well as the good.. it all happens for a reason. He's shown you so many good things... so many blessings. I keep you and Claire in my prayers and thoughts.
Jul. 31, 2009 9:33 pm
Gary- That is (mostly) wonderful news! There are always ups and downs in recoveries like this. I'm sorry about the cumiden level, but the walking and talking- all good! It is good that you let her do the "search". When I was doing speech therapy, the patients said that they hated it when people finished their sentences. God has truly blessed you, and although things may end up differently, know that He can make them turn out even better. Still praying for you. God bless. -Ellen
Jul. 31, 2009 9:38 pm
A new persepective and appreciation for life and the fragility of these bodies... Gosh we can take so much for granted (speaking for myself) I do whine sometimes like I mentioned today on Stacy's post; she asked us to write one thing we were thankful for and I have so much! Sometimes we just need reminders like that! Also reminders to go hug someone!.. Thanks, I will! God bless you both!.. :)
Jul. 31, 2009 10:16 pm
Gary, it seems there's always some bad news sandwiched in the good, isn't there? But your news sounds so encouraging! Hopefully they'll get those levels straightened out soon. Claire's bound to be a little discouraged after all she's been through. She's lucky to have you there for her! HUGS!
Aug. 1, 2009 12:45 am
Hang in there Gderr, one day at at time!! You and Claire are doing great, keep up the good work, it just takes time!!
Aug. 1, 2009 5:10 am
Gary, Thanks for taking time to update us on your family's journey.I think of your family every day and so do my friends. Claire is getting better, slow but sure and you know thats how its suppose to be. Claire and you are examples to us all in love and faith. Thank you Gary for helping me be a better person and looking at life in a different way. Mag
Aug. 1, 2009 5:25 am
Hang in there, Gary and tell Claire to do the same. You all are in my thoughts and prayers. Just take things one day at a time. Things WILL get better for your beautiful Tater! Give her lots of hugs from me and some to you too! ♥
Aug. 1, 2009 6:09 am
Hugs and prayers continue from Michigan. Your blogs leave me grateful, yet speechless. May God's love continue to help you along on this journey.
Aug. 1, 2009 6:39 am
Your life has been changed forever and not all negatively. To go to the lunchroom and see the young people there I feel with help you to appreciate all that has transpired in your family with a better out look. This is hard to express in words but I feel you know what I am trying to say. This past week we lost a young person out in our mapuche mission work. He was 29 yrs. old and had a 4 yr. old son that was just recently burned by a fire. The man thought he had the flu and when we said good bye to him we though he did too. Well, a few days later he passed away. It seems he had a rupured appendice sp? We live 5 hours in the Andes mountains from the city hospital and it was just too late by the time he sought help. Sad, so sad... I am ever so thankful Clarie has received good medical treatment and excellent rehab. as well. I will continue to pray for you and Claire and hopefully soon her meds. will work properly. Love & Hugs ♥
Aug. 1, 2009 8:37 am
Hey Big Guy! Good to hear from you. Progress is made in itty bitty steps, some forward, some backward but progress nevertheless. Sometimes our expectations are greater than what reality gives us and swallowing that concept can be difficult. I bet if all those kids in wheelchairs were asked about the choice of the wheelchair or the alternatives, they'd choose the wheelchair everytime. Life's lessons come in many shapes and forms. To use those lessons to reach out to others is one of the blessings that has been passed on to you. You will use it wisely and the rewards are too many to count. you, Claire and family remain in our thoughts and prayers. God bless!!
Aug. 1, 2009 9:04 am
Hi Gary. It's always good hearing your good report; and I trust that all things will work out over time - both, the coumadin and Claire's memory. Don't be discouraged; rejoice in and focus on each victory. Gradual increments of success will take care of the negative. Over time, what seems to be a step backward is always just one more step forward for both of you. Grace and peace to you all. kdstreet
Aug. 1, 2009 9:58 am
My Mom has been gone some years now, but back in 1989, she had colon surgery. The day she was to be released from the hospital, one of the nurses went to check on her and found her slumped over in her bed, clinically dead after having suffered a cardiac arrest. After surgery her potassium levels had declined (I've heard that's fairly common), causing her heart to stop. They were able to resuscitate her, but she was comatose for three days. When she did wake up, we wondered how much she was going to come back, and at first it was like trying to clear a fog bank with a leaf blower. We'd explain what happened to her and she'd be flabbergasted, "I did?" and then the seriousness would strike her and she'd cry, and 20 minutes later, she'd forgotten and we had to tell her all over again. But that passed. And she came back. There were some differences; she didn't enjoy reading as much, partly because she just couldn't concentrate on it as well, and her short term memory was a little wonky sometimes, but not bad. The important thing is, SHE came back. She was still Mom. She still had HER personality, her memories, her life. She could do the things she could do before, and she was still herself. And Gary, I know that's how it will be with Claire. It's one step at a time, but you are getting your Claire back, and I am so happy for you and for every one who loves her. I check your blog daily for news - don't worry, we all know you're not able to update it that often, I just don't want to miss any. I'm keeping you all in my thoughts daily. Take care, and update as you have time.
Aug. 1, 2009 10:08 am
Your (and Claire's) story is awe inspiring!! Unbelievable how life's perspective can change so so much. It is also unbelievable how far Claire has come (from where she was at the beginning of this) and I know in my heart she will make it back to you all the way. Thank you for your weekly updates, they are very inspiring and so kind. As always, I wish you and your family all the very best. Sue xo
Aug. 1, 2009 10:45 am
Hi Gderr, so glad to here from you. We were all wondering what was happening. I'm so very happy to see that Claire is walking and talking. She has comes so very far in such a short time. Take care of yourself and give Claire big (((hugs))) from Oregon.
Aug. 1, 2009 11:16 am
Hi Gary, happy to hear the mostly positive update. Continuing baby steps, Claire has come so far already! Stay strong, have faith, & know that all of you are in our prayers.Sending healing vibes from CA!
Aug. 1, 2009 12:57 pm
wow gderr, looks like claire has made alot of progress. I cant even imagine what it is like for you to have her back, but not 100%. Like electricity said, give it time.. she is a fighter :)
Aug. 1, 2009 2:27 pm
Hi Gary, Thank you for updating us. It is amazing how much she has regained already and she will regain even more as her therapies train different arts of her mind. I am so glad you are able to be with her through all this. We keep you, Claire and your girls in our prayers. God Bless You All, Chris
Aug. 1, 2009 3:50 pm
Hi gderr, there may be depressing moments, but keep looking UP!!!--you are each other's strength. Praying that God will sustain your hope, love & continue to heal Claire physically, mentally & emotionally. May He bless your rest each night. Thanks for sharing updates with us. --God bless your family.
Aug. 1, 2009 3:59 pm
Claire is so blessed to have such a loving husband. Random acts of kindness are what we are supposed to do. I can tell you have such an incredible heart. I pray for you both daily and especially that God will give you the strength to face each day. I know it must SO hard at times. God bless you and Claire.
Aug. 1, 2009 4:45 pm
So glad to hear Claire is fighting her way back!Your story touches all of us. I'll continue to pray for you, Claire, and the rest of the people at the center. God bless and keep you!
Aug. 1, 2009 7:49 pm
OMG Im crying! God bless you, I will continue to pray for you! Sometimes we are dealt a hand of cards to change us and maybe that was God's intention. I just read 90 minutes in Heaven by Don Piper (a great read btw) and I am changed. Things happen for a reason, I pray your reason gets healthier and stronger every day. I feel she will Gary! Hugs and kisses! Sally
Aug. 1, 2009 8:05 pm
Gary, what is your address? I want to send you this book. Sally
Aug. 2, 2009 3:25 am
Thank you for posting. I hope continue finding the heart level wonder of God's provision even in (maybe more recognized in) these hard times. Thankful for you both and the beauty of your devotion. Blessings.
Aug. 2, 2009 6:00 am
Oh, great to hear from you...I was wondering what was going on since we hadn't heard from you in a while. I guess with all the good news you are bound to have a few setbacks evry now and then. Don't let it get you down, you need to help keep Claire's spirits high to get her home in the next few weeks! I'm hoping once you get her home maybe it will help with her memory, just being in a familiar place. Keep on keeping on...you are doing a great job, and give your strong rock of a Tater a big hug for us! Big Hugs from KY!
Aug. 2, 2009 6:47 am
Thanks, Gary, for the update. Still you have a long way to go, but just look where you have been. Thanks for your inspiration.
Aug. 2, 2009 2:27 pm
thanks for the update gderr. baby steps remember. it's amazing the progress she has made so far. my continued prayers and good thoughts your way, everyday. god bless and take care.
Aug. 3, 2009 12:57 pm
Gary thanks for the update, I have been wondering how Claire was doing, I pray for her and you often. We are not forgetting you. Remember God's time and our time are not the same. He does things in His own time. Footsteps in the sand,is when God carries us because we cannot do it on our own. God bless and keep you
Aug. 3, 2009 7:09 pm
Thanks for letting know how the two of you are doing. You and Claire continue to be in my thoughts and prayers as you work with her and the Rehab team to discover what adjustments will need to be made to get her home with you, family and friends as soon as possible.
Aug. 6, 2009 12:38 pm
Gderr, I am new to this site, but I am a phlebotomist(vampire)and I go to different assisted living homes and draw blood from many different people, and my partner suffered a stroke two years ago,as well and I am fortinate that she has no lasting impairments or brain damage. I understand all that you are going thru and I want you to know that there is light at the end of that long tunnel and claire will come through this with flying colors. My prayers are with you and claire.
Oct. 17, 2009 11:34 am
thank u for keeping us informed .i have prayed for all of your family .and we know prayers are all heard by our lord and savior.i pray he continues to poor his blessings on your family ,thank you again for letting us all share claire's miracle . keep up the lord's work, that is what he wants and expects us to do.share god's word and u will be so blessed.every chance u get tell of you and claires miracle, God bless you my dear ones and keep the faith .
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i cared for my mother in law about 3 months when she had shattered her shoulder. i didn't work, so money was tight. we survived on only wife's paycheck during that time. ma-n-law had diet restrictions. it was difficult to make cheap, nutritious meals everyone would eat. we prospered as a family and learned alot about each other's strenghths and weaknesses.
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