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Baby Steps 
Jun. 12, 2009 9:45 pm 
Updated: Jun. 17, 2009 7:23 am
my heart breaks for all the similar stories posted on my earlier one lives in a vacuum. i pray for each and all of you to hopefully have a positive result to the misfortunes placed before you. we are so fortunate to have the support of such a terrific, diverse group of caring indiviuals on this site. i count myself very lucky, indeed! wife had  surgery to relieve the pressure , the neurosegeon removed  a portion of her scalp to remove the clotted blood and clean up the burst blood vessel as best as possible. he then stapled the scalp back in place. he said to be cautious with our optisim, but felt considering all things we could consider the surgery succesful.. we all left elated! 4 hours later, a call comes, tremendous pressure has developed on her brain  (41+). get here asap. i have 2 minutes to decide what to do... gator and moose are with me., the ma-in-law and sisters-in-law frantically trying to get back. ok...very long story short. they remove the scalp again, sew into abodmen (to keep alive and replace later) and relieve the pressure. we have that  assurance of "48 hours" will tell the story. that ended today. ok baby steps---- i love  these baby steps , (i consider this terrific news!)----one of her doctors (she has half a dozen i think) has decreased the oxygen in the ventillator, added a feeding tube, decreased the sedative, and will not allow us to sleep in her room. oh, i almost forgot....her nurse when she administered a shot for pain said "Claire this may sting.;"  i don't know why that made me feel good................yeah i do, here's why (my twisted judgement, but i need to believe!)-----ya can't sleep here because she's no longer in immediate danger. the nurse talking to her---she, the nurse, acknowledgeed that my wife was alive, and not a pin-cushion or a sack of potatos...she talked to her as she would my shot-scared wussy self..   btw  to anyone wishing to send card to her please send to  :columbus medical center, 702 center st. columbus,ga. 31902...claire derr, the cooking-challenged wife/ blushing-bride. i truly appreciate all the prayers, love, concern. she is the love of my life. thanks again.
Jun. 12, 2009 10:06 pm
Thanks for the update. I will continue to keep all of you in my prayers. Hang tough.
Jun. 12, 2009 10:16 pm
Thanks for updating, gderr. You all have quite a road ahead, but we're all here for you as best we can be - the whole world over! Please don't forget to take care of yourself. Claire is in good hands. It sounds like the hospital staff is wonderful! My best to all of you!
Jun. 12, 2009 10:20 pm
You keep up that positive thinking... as I was reading I was feeling the same. Continuing to pray here.
Jun. 12, 2009 10:20 pm
I just know it'll be all "up" from here! Thanks for the address and get a biggggg basket ready to hold the cards.
Jun. 12, 2009 10:36 pm
Looking at the photo of you TWO on your profile and praying for many more happy years together!
Jun. 12, 2009 10:37 pm
"Now, my God, may your eyes be open and your ears attentive to the prayers offered in this place." ~ 2 Chronicles 6:40
Jun. 12, 2009 10:42 pm
I thought about your family all last night (China time). I wondered if there would be an update and so glad you let us know. I am tremendously pleased about the positive energy that the nurse brought into your wife's room. Please continue with your hope and just know we will continue to pray for your remarkable wife.
Jun. 12, 2009 10:46 pm
Bless YOU and your sweet family, gderr! Thanks for taking the time to update, I hope in some small way, updating us helps you to cope, and feel the love shared here! Best Wishes fro the road ahead!
Jun. 12, 2009 10:47 pm
No matter what happens God sits on the throne.
Jun. 12, 2009 11:24 pm
Thank you for updating again (I know we all keep saying it, but it means a lot that you have taken the time with everything you've got going on). Continued warm thoughts of hope and healing to you and your family from me and mine. ♥
Jun. 12, 2009 11:32 pm
thank you for the update on Claire. Prayers and hoping for the best for you, Claire and your family. God Bless and God speed to you and to Claire, and I pray God keeps her in his arm and holds and comforts her and you until Claire is able to do it herself. God Bless Gderr, Annie
Jun. 12, 2009 11:58 pm
Thanks so much for the update. It sounds as if things are certainly going better today. I will keep thinking good thoughts for you and Clair and also Moose and Gator. Take care of yourself gderr. We miss you.
Jun. 13, 2009 12:32 am
We are all praying for Clair. Take care of the girls, and yourself . Love ya ♥
Jun. 13, 2009 2:08 am
I wish all nurses and therapists were like the wonderful the nurse Claire has! You need to also take care of yourself, Gderr, so that you can be there for Claire. May God continue to bless and comfort the both of you and your family!
Jun. 13, 2009 3:46 am
i so agree with all the above heart is so with u and your family...and it is hope and faith in the Dear Lord...that will get us all through...and i always find it amazing how our support systems work so well too!!! so...take care and be good to yourself and family...hugs to Claire and your family...
Jun. 13, 2009 4:15 am
We really needed to hear the update and to let you know none of us have forgotten either of you! The nurse is so on target when she said Claire is not a pin cushion. Just another way to let you know that Claire can still hear and feel. That's a mighty positive statement she made! Both of you are still in our prayer circle. Question. What does the "G" stand for? Love and hugs, Gma
Jun. 13, 2009 4:26 am
Thanks for the update!! LOTS of prayers still going up for you and your family! God Bless you all!
Jun. 13, 2009 4:57 am
Thank You for taking the time to update your AR family! It's wonderful that she has a nurse who is so optimistic! Hang in there Gderr things will get better soon!
Jun. 13, 2009 5:22 am
Prayers and God's love continue to hold you all.
Jun. 13, 2009 5:45 am
We are still praying for a totally successful recovery - your cards on the way! Take care of yourself, too. She'll need you well later on!
Jun. 13, 2009 5:56 am
Still thinking and praying for Claire, you, and the girls. Stay strong. Everything will work out. Take care. ♥
Jun. 13, 2009 5:59 am
gderr, I'm so glad that you posted the address for the hospital. If we had not heard from you soon, I was going to try the hospitals in the Columbus/Phoenix City area for a "DERR". These situations are so very difficult. However, as a Christian, I have been told many times, that God never puts more on you than you can bear. So, gderr, you must be very strong. It is so wonderful to so how so very much that you care for your wife. Waiting to hear more good news.
Jun. 13, 2009 6:08 am
Still praying and sending love from WI.
Jun. 13, 2009 6:15 am
Thank you for the update. You are both in my prayers. hugs!
Jun. 13, 2009 6:19 am
You are in our thoughts and prayers. May Claire continue to make progress and be better soon.
Jun. 13, 2009 6:22 am
Still sending you all the positive wishes and prayers we can! My family is even involved in this effort now.
Jun. 13, 2009 7:04 am
Thank you for taking the time to update us, Gderr. I hope it is somewhat therapeutic for you to write your feelings out, as well. Thinking of Claire, your girls, and you... sending my best thoughts. Hugs. ♥
Jun. 13, 2009 7:29 am
Said a prayer this morning for Claire, you and your family. Thanks for the update.
Jun. 13, 2009 7:33 am
Thanks so much for the update. We will continue to pray!!!
Jun. 13, 2009 8:18 am
Bless your heart. Prayers and support is what counts. I'm happy for the great news. If you get time, keep us updated please. prayers and love to you and your family. yaba
Jun. 13, 2009 8:29 am
I came on here just now with the one purpose of finding an update from you and found pretty fast thanks to a poster on the exchange. You and your family have been in my thoughts and I continue to send warm, positive thoughts your way. I'm glad she is recieving such good treatment. Take care of yourself and your girls! ((hugs)) Cara
Jun. 13, 2009 8:46 am
Thank you for the update. I will continue to prayer for your wife and your family. Take care of yourself so you can take care of that lovely wife.
Jun. 13, 2009 8:50 am
Thank you for taking the time to keep us updated Gderr. I continue to pray for Claire, you and your daughters. Take care of yourself. God Bless You and your family!
Jun. 13, 2009 9:10 am
I just became a supporting member and read this blog and my total thoughts and prayers go out to you. My hopes are high that God will give you strength and comfort and see you through this. We don't know why things happen and want to blame something but God does work in mysterious ways and definitely has a plan. His healing powers are greater than anything we could ever imagine and miracles do happen. I am so glad for the baby steps for they continue to grow. My prayers continue for you. Thanks so much for sharing!
Jun. 13, 2009 9:19 am
Thanks for keeping us posted, we know you have your hands full but do appreciate you taking the time to keep us updated. We're all praying for the best outcome. She's a real fighter that Claire. Please let us know it there's anything we can do to help. I have a lot of family in GA and would not mind asking them to get involved if needed. Just let me know. Again, we are all continuing to pray for a speedy recovery! Hugs to all of you.
Jun. 13, 2009 9:48 am
Continuing to pray for your family. I love looking at that picture of you and Claire. I used to think that I would never find "Mr. Right" but I did and we were married this past January. I hope some day, many years from now, we will be able to look back on a picture just like that. I pary that you and Claire will continue to be able to look back at yours as well. Baby steps are important, they will lead to bigger and bigger steps. Stay strong GDerr and know we are all here pulling for you and Claire.
Jun. 13, 2009 11:36 am
Thanks for updating us gderr, You and Claire will remain in my thoughts and prayers.
Jun. 13, 2009 11:42 am
"The Lord is near to all who call upon Him, To all who call upon Him in truth. He will fulfill the desire of those who fear Him; He also will hear their cry and save them." (Psalm 145.18-19) Dear Sir, Please look to the Lord for your strength during this time and know that many of His children are praying for you and your wife Claire. I also pray that God will draw you close to Himself during this time of uncertainty and that you will feel His supreme love for you and your family. ~ In Jesus, Christy T.
Jun. 13, 2009 12:11 pm
Praying for Claire & your whole family. You're exactly right...small steps are terrific news. God Bless you & Claire & your whole family. My family & I will keep you in our daily prayers.
Jun. 13, 2009 1:43 pm
thanks for the update gderr. one day, one step at a time. your family remains in my thoughts and prayers. take care, and god bless.
Jun. 13, 2009 2:10 pm
I will keep your family in my prayers...AND the medical staff who are treating your wife...know that many people are keeping you close in their thoughts..
Jun. 13, 2009 3:07 pm
Thanks for the update! I am still praying. God bless you and your family.
Jun. 13, 2009 3:13 pm
Wow!!!!!! What a huge response!!!!!I will pray for Claire and the doctors!!!
Jun. 13, 2009 3:24 pm
God is with you and yours, he feels all you are going thru and he loves you all very much. I pray you can feel this right now and know that he is just a whisper away. lean on him.
Jun. 13, 2009 3:46 pm
Thank you for taking the time to keep us informed. You , Claire, and your girls are in my thoughts and prayers.
Jun. 13, 2009 3:50 pm
You and your family are in our hearts and prayers.
Jun. 13, 2009 5:41 pm
Im sending all my prayers to god and my love to you and your family. Your a strong man. please take care of yourself. Claire is going to need you when she comes home.
Jun. 13, 2009 7:46 pm
Thank you for the update - your family has been in my thoughts often. Hang in there....
Jun. 13, 2009 7:46 pm
Sending well wishes!!!!!
Jun. 13, 2009 8:55 pm
May you and yours have an inexplicable peace from God's own throne throughout this time. He holds you; he holds Claire and His grip is good. Praying for you and yours.
Jun. 13, 2009 9:03 pm
Hey Gderr, still thinking and praying for you, Claire your girls and family. Hang in there, one day a time!!
Jun. 13, 2009 9:07 pm
Many Blessings to you and Claire. I will continue to keep you both in my prayers.
Jun. 13, 2009 10:46 pm
Thank you for the update! You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Jun. 14, 2009 4:47 am
Thank you for the update. We are continuing to pray for you, Claire, your girls, and the rest of your family.
Jun. 14, 2009 7:48 am
gderr, I only found out last night about all that is going on for you and your family. Please know that my husband and I are praying for Claire, as well as you and the girls, and the rest of the family. You are right, baby steps is how to take it right now. But, as many have said here, be assured that our God is faithful, and able, to do just what is needed. Thank you for asking us to pray! You must be exhausted, hope you get some rest. If you are able, please do update us. Lord bless your family, G. ♥ from WA state.
Jun. 14, 2009 8:02 am
Thank you for the update, gderr! I am continuing to pray for Claire, you, and your beautiful daughters. Cling to your faith. I know it's difficult, but remember to "Let go, Let God". If we relinquish control to Him, He can do amazing things! Hang in there, luv. Claire and your family are surrounded by prayers from all over the world. Oh...and God bless that nurse for acknowledging that Claire is a living, breathing, FEELING person! I wish more medical professionals had that level of compassion.
Jun. 14, 2009 8:34 am
Sending prayers and love from Utah.
Jun. 14, 2009 9:42 am
Still praying for the claire and your family. Thank you for your thoughtfulness in keeping us updated.
Jun. 14, 2009 12:37 pm
Baby steps are good. She is alive and not a pin cushion, and I hope with all my heart that you continue to have positive outcomes. Claire is lucky to have you.
Jun. 14, 2009 1:35 pm
I'm just getting caught up again after being out for a while to nurse DH after his hip replacement - my thoughts and prayers to Claire, you, the girls and the many fine nurses and doctors seeing to her care. I pray each day will be filled with many more baby steps and giant leaps towards getting your Claire back home where she belongs.
Jun. 14, 2009 1:51 pm
Christy: your scripture was in my Sunday School lesson this morning. It was one of King david's prayers, at a very bad time in his life.We have a soverign God , who has a perfect plan for each one of our lives, even if some of it is hard to handle, so we must trust him for the perfect outcome...Dear GDerr..I could write a book or maybe two or three on how the Lord takes care of those who love him.. stay close to him, hang tight..he will carry you thru the toughest times...think of the "footprints" story
Jun. 14, 2009 2:35 pm
You are in our prayers and thoughts. I sincerely hope that everything goes well for you and your family.
Jun. 14, 2009 4:37 pm
Hi gderr. It IS such an encouragement to see that there are so many people with a passion for cooking who also have compassion and have lifted up Claire in prayer. I am here to encourage you to NOT give up hope. The Lord Jesus has heard the prayers of you, your family, and countless other believers on this site. The Lord will lift her up and heal her, AMEN. We must believe that the Lord is able to do ALL things. Your wife should be opening her eyes by now, seeing you, her beloved, standing in front of her. She will return to you - I am confident of that, with no brain damage or scarring. I dont see an update past Friday. Please share the good news with us. In Jesus name, AMEN!!
Jun. 14, 2009 6:09 pm
God bless you, gderr, and your dear family! I will pray for you when God brings you to mind.
Jun. 14, 2009 6:46 pm
Please know that you are in our prayers here in Magdalena, New Mexico as well. My father had two strokes. The second (his fault for not following doctor advice) left him with mobility issues on his left. My mother was a stern task master and insisted he do as much as possible. He lived to age 87 when his heart finally gave out. I tell you this to emphasize how important it can be to follow the doctor's recommendation once Claire recovers from her present crisis. Medical technology is wonderful but God's grace and mercy can accomplish so much more. Rely on Him. We do not know His ways. All we can do is to trust Him. No matter what happens. Trust Him. "This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it." - Psalm 118:24
Jun. 14, 2009 7:25 pm
(((((((Gderr, Claire & family)))))) thanks for an update :) Trusting God to bless you with His peace & rest in this situation. Praying for her doctors to know the best care. Continuing to pray for you....
Jun. 14, 2009 8:35 pm
Thanks so much for keeping us updated. Prayers & healing thoughts to Claire, yourself, the girls & all the family. Sounds like the hospital is a good one & the staff caring. Claire sounds like a wonderful person & I do hope the 2 of you will have many more happy years together. baby steps for now & just take it one day at a time. Hope we hear more positive things as time goes on.
Jun. 14, 2009 8:46 pm
Gderr, so much love and attentiveness from this community and beyond. Know that the love and prayers offered are for all of you and the medical staff caring for this angel on earth. Please take care of yourself, she will need you more than you can know now. Hugs from Oregon.
Jun. 14, 2009 9:23 pm
gderr, Please know we are all praying for your darling Claire and for you and two daughters too. It is so hard to see someone you love so ill. May you feel God's arms around you all and our prayers like a blanket!
Jun. 14, 2009 9:45 pm
gderr, God be with all of you. Keep talking to Claire. She hears and knows you are with her. God is going to keep your lovely family together. I know and feel it!! Love you all!!
Jan's Kitchen 
Jun. 15, 2009 4:25 am
Thank you so much for the update, I think of you and your family and the road ahead for you. When Claire is able to come back home, I'm sure you will show her how caring the world truly is as evidenced by the wonderful people on this site. You are all truly incredible.
Jun. 15, 2009 6:01 am
May God release His miracle power right now in the Name of Jesus and may He bring her entire body, mind, soul and spirit into perfect Kingdom alignment. I pray that His peace, perfect in every way, will guard your hearts and minds as you watch to see what He will do. May total healing and complete restoration come quickly, Lord! Amen! Blessings from Arizona.
Jun. 15, 2009 6:08 am
Thank you for the update - I hope the news keeps getting better! Good thoughts and prayers from Massachusetts.
Jun. 15, 2009 6:39 am
Keep up your spirits. The prayers and good thoughts continue for Claire, you and your family and her medical team!Please, please continue your posts on AR, this is such a caring community. A site set up especially for families in crisis is We have used it several times. It may be a way for you to communicate with a wider group of loved ones in addition to your friends at AR.
Jun. 15, 2009 9:38 am
Gderr, thanks for the update,looking forward to more positive news. We will continue to pray, stay strong.
Jun. 15, 2009 9:46 am
I was away all weekend, but you and Claire weren't far from my thoughts and prayers. Thanks for the good news...we look forward to hearing more. Take one baby step at a time Gderr!
Jun. 15, 2009 10:08 am
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this extremely difficult time. I try to live one day at a time, but there are many times when it seems we must live minute to minute cause that is all we can handle. My children give me a hard time abt talking to myself but I think it comes from 35ys of working in healthcare. The very first nurse that trained me stressed the importance of never talking negatively in front of a patient and not talking as if they are not there. She also taught me to always talk to them as if they can hear and understand you because even if they are not able to respond to you, you must always assume that they can hear you. My handicapped daughter died at the age of 8 1/2 (sixteen yrs ago). The prognosis was not good from the day she was born. If I learned anything from that it was to NEVER GIVE UP HOPE! I believe that all things happen in God's time. Pray, believe, and cherish everything, even the tough days. I hope that you have much love and family support and that Claire makes a full recovery.
Jun. 15, 2009 11:40 am
I hope she continues to do well. My thoughts are with you.
Jun. 15, 2009 11:45 am
Again, Thank-you for taking the time to update us here on AR. Continued love, thoughts and prayers from Arizona, hon. Stay positive and strong. Here's to many more baby steps in the near future. (((HUGS)))
Jun. 15, 2009 12:37 pm
thank you for the update. hopefully, the progress will continue. you and your famiy are in my thoughts.
Jun. 15, 2009 12:47 pm
Thank you for letting us how Claire is getting along. That is great to hear her nurse is taking the time to talk with her. Touches and voices can be so soothing. I am keeping Claire and you in prayer along with your family and the medical staff. God bless you all and keep you in His care.
Jun. 15, 2009 1:09 pm
I grew up in Columbus & my parents still live there. I will be praying for your wife & family. God always has a good reason for the things He brings into our lives, and I pray that He will show Himself to you and comfort & encourage you all during this time.
Jun. 15, 2009 1:11 pm
Baby steps are little miracles!! What you said about Claire's nurse gave me goosebumps. When my father had his stroke he too had surgery like Claire's, was sedated and put on a feeding tube for a number of days. Upon waking one of the first things he said to my sisters and I was "Thank you girls for staying with me and talking to me." Turns out that even while so heavily sedated, he heard us and felt us touching him. So Claire heard that nurse and she can hear you! Stay strong. I'll continue to think about and pray for you and all your girls.
Jun. 15, 2009 1:15 pm
Just read your previous blog and the update, and my thoughts and prayers go out to you, Claire, and the whole family. I would also have been encouraged by the way the nurse was talking to her. You have to keep believing, hoping, and praying, and we will continue to do the same for your family and all of the medical personnel that are working with Claire.
Jun. 15, 2009 1:40 pm
Baby steps are still steps, so we will all continue to hold you in our thoughts and in our hearts. Thanks for the update!
Jun. 15, 2009 4:16 pm
Thoughts and Prayers are with you and your family. Mag
Jun. 15, 2009 4:21 pm
Thank you for taking the time to share your positive news. Prayers continue for you and your family. God Bless.
kitty's kitchen 
Jun. 15, 2009 4:26 pm
She's going to make all wishes coming your way!
Jun. 15, 2009 4:36 pm
God Bless, and positive thoughts your way.
Jun. 15, 2009 6:15 pm
Best wishes gderr, can't wait for the next update, when you tell us she is awake and talking!
Jun. 15, 2009 6:52 pm
I've always enjoyed reading your posts. You've been through so much these past few days. Your optimism and positive outlook is exactly what you and your family need to get through this. I'm in awe of how strong you are. Sending my warmest thoughts are prayers to you and your family.
Jun. 15, 2009 7:07 pm
Special prayers to you and your family 24/7. The Lord is your rock and strength. Lean on Him.
Jun. 16, 2009 5:16 am
You brought tears to my eyes.It's amazing how the hospital staff can be. My sister told me when my mom was sick[ many, many years ago] she had to go for tests. [cancer] She was scared. And there was a nurse that held her hand through the tests. I can't even tell you how much that meant to my mom. And to us. Just a simple hand holding. So what that nurse did for your wife must have really touched you.:) I'm so sorry for all the pain your family is going through. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Jun. 16, 2009 5:26 am
Gderr thank you for the update, as I know with everything going on , things are hectic. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family still, and especially praying for Claire. The smallest bit of positive news is wonderful, because it will continue, just as you said with baby steps. But it's all in the right direction, road to recovery. You are all in my thoughts and prayers..bless all of you..Love---Cyndi
Jun. 16, 2009 9:44 am
My thoughts are with you and your family and I wish your wife a speedy recovery and good health in the future!
Jun. 17, 2009 3:20 am
I'll add my continued prayers to the many that are flowing your way!
Jun. 17, 2009 7:23 am
Thanks for keeping us posted. You all are in my prayers.
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i enjoy cooking. the wife considers it a chore. i hate yard work. she loves it. we mesh. i love bass fishing, reading, music, baseball, college football and my family.
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i love vegetables, soups, and italian cusine.
My favorite family cooking traditions
holidays are a big deal! christmas is my time to shine. i try to add a new recipe each year, but the family demands pretty much the same menu. kinda frustrating!
My cooking triumphs
i cared for my mother in law about 3 months when she had shattered her shoulder. i didn't work, so money was tight. we survived on only wife's paycheck during that time. ma-n-law had diet restrictions. it was difficult to make cheap, nutritious meals everyone would eat. we prospered as a family and learned alot about each other's strenghths and weaknesses.
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a stove top fire. i explained that one already. the grill falling over was another one...oops grill season is here! i love the tragedies...those are the ones that i'll always remember!
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