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To my husband.....thank you! 
Nov. 10, 2011 8:39 am 
Updated: Nov. 18, 2011 7:10 am
He sits at his computer, with his back turned on everyone. Not because he's always mad or hates everyone.
He sits in his room alone starring out the window and is zoned, not necessarily because of how pretty it is out side.
His space free of clutter and very organized but his life maybe to caoctic to deal with.
He stops talking and shuns people away and becomes anti-social and for ever reason, you've feel like, you've done something wrong. And analyz yourself on what you could have done.
He passes you with with his head down, barely looks your way with maybe a glimpse of a soft smile. But the look on his face so sad.
He on days comes alive, saying it's a good day, laughs and smiles and speaks and you see the glimmer in his eyes, until something really minor stops him in his tracks and that happy face turns into a stone expressionless look, eyes afixed and lost in space and suddenly forgets what he was doing or saying and starts stuttering. And for what ever reason of your own rationality, nothing that happened made any sense.
On a good day, where nothing seems to be the matter and a loud boom noise goes off, and he's jumping up grabbing you and ducking for cover.
On a good day, taking a stroll on gorgeous day, and conversation is light and a soft noise of a twig gets broken and he stops, your hand gets squeeze a little tighter and he peers off looking in other directions, to nothing around other then it might have been a small animal. It sets off panic.
On a day, where he's dealing with nothing and walks in a room always shaking for no apparent reason, forgets how to speak, and the fear and confusion in his eyes reads, I can't remember what I was thinking, I can't get the words out......
Every morning like clock work, he's up at the crack of dawn. Because he's done that for 23 years 4 months and 22 days and doesn't know how to not sleep in.
Every night when he sleeps, shakes, twitches, jerks and hardly makes a sound but wakes up every morning not remember he did any of it. And you've had a hard night of constantly waking up with every move. When all you want to do is cuddle in bed with the man you love and it comes to getting up, grabbing your pillow and sleeping in another room.
No one understands, what a wife(or husband) of a wounded warrior goes threw. What kind of strength we indure for the love we have for our husbands or wives. We can't explain, the hardships we feel or lock away but do what we can to maintain peace but yet try to live a normal life as everyone else. No one understands, why we don't celebrate the fireworks on the 4th of July, or why we avoid crowded places with no room to walk about or why we only chose certain activities with our families for the fear of a good fun experience turns into the wounded soldier looking for a place to hide. No one understands, unless they've been threw it themselves.
Not one normal person can understand what it is that a soldier goes threw, or understands what is locked up inside the minds of these brave men...and women. That stand up and signs their lives over to serve in the United States Military. To help fight for freedom, for their families, friends and loved ones and for people they don't know. They gave a blank check to the military for the duties they serve, for the moral and honor of doing something for a country they love. The compassion and strength of each soldier is above and beyond what we do on a daily basis.
My husband Robert Eugene Goff, gave his life to his country and for 23 years 4 months and 22 days, he's EARNED every bit of serenity, peace, and above all respect. It wasn't an easy choice for him to make, but he made it on the good of his family. He did it to support the people he loved the most. Did what he had to do and WILL never regret the choice he made. He is my soldier, he is my husband, he is the father of my children. And no matter what for the years we've been together, I don't regret being his wife. I am honored above all to have him in my life and beside me every step of the way. Because above all...the days he can't talk, he holds my hand and I know, he loves me.
It's not easy to say the least, being the wife of a wounded soldier or vet. But You Gotta DO what You Gotta DO. Because somewhere, in there. I see my husband, the man I married. He really is a genuine man, with a heart of gold. He loves his family very much and he makes me very happy. Frustrated at times, Confused at times, but now that he's out of the Army, A lot less stress.
I am also a proud woman, I am love my soldier. It amazes me in the 6 years we were stationed at Fort Sill, OK. How soldiers would seek out my husband and shake his hand and tell him "thank you" for something, he never say about and would look at me and say, "it's an honor ma'am". Not really knowing what the honor was exactly. But I have since understood. But what I could see, was these soldiers respected my husband, because he respected them.
I love my RETIRED Wouded VET, and being that November 11th, is Veteran's Day, do the honor, pat the back of a soldier or a vet....that gives them thanks for the job they did or is doing. That's how you pay it forward.
I was born and raised military. My father was 25 years in active service and 5 years retired reserve in the Navy as a Seabee. I salute my father, my hero among with my husband and countless others, that have given and lost their lives to protect us. Support our Veterans, buy a poppy flower..... And give thanks to them for their years of service, for their duty to their country and above all. Thank them for returning home.
Nov. 10, 2011 8:53 am
I give a heartfelt salute to your husband and tell him thank you for his service. If your husband is nearby show him by blog.
Nov. 10, 2011 9:04 am
Thank you, bd I appreciate the blog. I told my hubbers and he says that's great and he's honored and for most, says thank you for getting that out there and off your chest ;-)
Nov. 10, 2011 9:05 am
very moving...I'm the mom of a coastie, my heart goes out to your family.
Nov. 10, 2011 9:09 am
I'll join bd with that salute. Also, we'll salute you. What you have done is an act of immeasurable courage, too. Your warrior is fortunate to have you with him.
Nov. 10, 2011 9:15 am
I personally will thank each person that posts on my blog. GAHSMOM...thank you and thank you for what you do for your coastie son ;-) And heart thanks you deeply for your kind words too.
Nov. 10, 2011 9:20 am
I thank your husband and all the other vets today and everyday. I also thank you and the other families for the sacrifices you have made so I and my family can be safe.
Nov. 10, 2011 9:42 am
Love sent to you and yours and profound thank you.
Nov. 10, 2011 9:43 am
I welled up reading this. All my gratitude to your husband and you and your children, and the many others like you and him who give so much. May we never forget the enormity of such sacrifice, and appreciate the courage you've all shown on Veterans' Day and every day!
Nov. 10, 2011 9:44 am
I also wish to thank your husband, and all our service men & women for their sacrifices! It's sincerely appreciated! Also I want to thank the families and spouses as well for their support and sacrifice as well!! Your blog helped to see how the choice to serve this country affects the whole family, thank you for sharing!
Nov. 10, 2011 9:54 am
Covergirl, thank you very much. redly, I also thank you. JAM...well that made tears. Thank you very much. & Jodi ;-) thank you. I never understood what if anything, who strong my momma was for the years of service she gave to the Navy on behalf of a Naval Spouse, until I became an Army Spouse. Many of times I've leaned on my parents for reasons I couldn't understand or explain. As I have to thank my parents for helping me learn, but if not trying to understand what it truely means. I have to give them thanks for that moral support too when trying to explain to my extended family. It's not always easy but I think they understand too.
Nov. 10, 2011 10:10 am
I know the feeling, i waken every morning at 4:30, no alarms, no rooster, it is the same time I woke up for the past 36 years from when I went into the army. I have from time to time known to sleep in till 6am
Nov. 10, 2011 10:22 am
I am reading this through tears because I DO know what it is like. My DH was a Vietnam vet and we went through a lot of the same issues. I thank your husband for his service, and I also thank you for continuing to support him. I firmly believe the families sacrifice as much and sometimes more than the service person. This is a beautiful blog and I know he can feel your love, no matter how withdrawn he may be. God Bless!
Nov. 10, 2011 12:01 pm
KingSparta, thank you for your years of Service. My head bows to your direction as most appreicated thanks. BSM, you know I love you! And thank you for the shared tears. I thank you for your kind words and sharing the same lifestyle of sacrifice you too have made for your family and supporting your husband and I thank your husband for his time served and all he has done for your family and many others. Prayers.
Nov. 10, 2011 1:26 pm
as you may know i live next door to ft. benning. it is a whopper of a military base and i do Mean a WHOPPER! i see young ( and older soldiers) here extrememly often. many wounded veterans call our aea home. my brother who passed away in late june was a shell-shocked vietnam vet. it was extremely hard to see how he lived/ surived. he spent the last 22 years living with us. i KNOW he's your husband, but you need to be commended as well as your husband...ya both have been to hell. i appreciate each and every veteran. we have the REAL sgt. from the movie we were soldiers...he comes into a bar here. he was the leader of the platoon that got isolated. he NEVER talks about the war. we just buy him a beer and tell him dirty jokes. a true your husband and my brother.
Nov. 10, 2011 2:17 pm
Please thank your husband for me, and thank you as well!
Nov. 10, 2011 2:29 pm
again gderr.. you have my heart. I appreciate your words, and your thoughts and I commend you for helping your brother. I sorry for your loss that he's now gone but I do know what your talking about. There is still a lot I don't know but have been told. I see his scars daily, not just the physical ones on his chest or on the side of his head, but I see the emotional scars like many others do, when they too are at a loss at times on what to do. I bet you know what I'm talking about. When a spouse goes threw years of service along side their husband or wife, they are too retired out of the military as well. I dropped when I got my certificate and haven't been able to pull it out and hang it up yet. Still to fresh. When you visit your brothers grave. Please Please, tell him thank you from me and my husband....I hope that doesn't sound out of line, because when I visit my nana's grave, I talk to her. Don't really care if anyone is listen that is watching. But I hope you understand what I meant. Thank you for supporting your brother for the time he was alive. And you tell that Real SGT, that my husband says thanks. My husband's drill sgt hat will be on display next week at the Vet Center in Grants Pass. It's a nice honor. And thank you. hugs!
Nov. 10, 2011 2:29 pm
Mother Ann...thank you very much.
Nov. 10, 2011 3:12 pm
First of all, thank him for me for keeping our country free. Second, look for an email from me! Third, give him a hug and let him know how special he is!
Old 'N' Still Cookin' 
Nov. 10, 2011 5:21 pm
As I walked around the grocery store and Sam's club today, as I have many times through the last few years, I felt all those averted eyes as they observed my cap displaying my service. It was as if people thought they might have to perform some sort of ritual recognition thing if they looked in your eyes. When I retired from the military after Viet Nam, I, as so many others of us, had to endure the hateful gauntlet of derisive comments of those who lined the walls of what ever airports we traveled through to make our way home. Today I read things like are written here today and think why can't people show it to each other with a little smile or a nod. Nothing more is required. As I left Sams club today, the man who checks you out at the door touched me on the shoulder and said thank you for your service. I think he really meant it!!
Nov. 10, 2011 5:24 pm
Very sweet and tender mis7up. I thank your husband for his service and I thank you for your support ot your husband. You be good people. Great Blog honey!
Nov. 10, 2011 5:25 pm
All I can say is 'whew'. You are some special gal. So understanding . I thank both you and your DH for all you've given.
Nov. 10, 2011 5:46 pm
sueb...I got your email...ty for thinking of Rob when you sent that to me. I read it and sent you an email back. ;-) I so want to continue the convo on that. "Old 'N' Still Cookin'", you know I'm honored you are here...Thank you for all you did and your years of service. And I think my daddy might have a similar hat. If ever I spot someone that dawns some sort of hat, shirt, a button. I smile and say thank you. No words or emotions can ever be stronger then to know in someone's eyes and a simple little gesture so small can have such a huge impact, that they mattered. TY because of you, people like you matter to me. And Candice...I love you, TY for your words too. I wished I could have seen you and Christine with Avon's visit and wasn't Magnolia Blossom there too. I sure could hug her neck as well. Linnie. Thank you. I do what I have to do. I'm a lucky person to have him.
Nov. 10, 2011 7:06 pm
My flag will be raised in honor of all veterans - but tomorrow it will be raised especially in honor of Robert Eugene Goff - - thank you for your service to our country - and thank you mis7up for your service also.
Nov. 10, 2011 7:28 pm
Amazing words! YOU BRING IT HOME SHARING WHAT A SOLDIER'S LIFE IS REALLY LIKE, SCARS AND ALL! My daughter is a palliative care RN at the Vets Hospital, in Indy. She sees a lot of pain. My oldest brother was headed for the Korean War as a Navy jet pilot. His engine had a flame-out while doing carrier training over San Diego Bay. He died doing what he absolutely loved. When my nephew came back from Iraq, he was on "visual scanning mode" for months. His CO said he saved his life by his alertness. We could go on and on about the sacrifices and life-altering experiences our guys and gals go through. You are to be commended for being a "stand by your man" kind of gal! Thank you both!! Prayers and respect go your way!
Nov. 10, 2011 7:29 pm
mis7up, I'm embarrassed to say I forgot to also salute you for standing by you husbands side.
Nov. 10, 2011 7:29 pm
l2c...thank you very much. We have our flag up....ty for your thoughts
Nov. 10, 2011 7:32 pm, thank you for sharing your story abot your daughter, I salute her too. And your brother for his sacrifice he made, when he didn't have to and to your nephew for what he did for some one else! All should be honored. Ty
Nov. 10, 2011 7:33 pm
bd, I think you did salute me by honoring a blog with the vets...TY for posting and sharing your thoughts. And thank you very much ;-)
Nov. 10, 2011 10:39 pm
Missy..I could not even read the whole blog. I just can't knowing what you all go through every day. I have no words other than to thank Rob for his service to our Country and to thank you for standing by his side and trying to understand. Without you all, there would be no America. Much love and God's Blessings...
Nov. 10, 2011 11:01 pm
Anissa. Thanks, I totally understand you can't. I just has Rob sit down and read my blog and all he could do was smile, and when I went in to talk to him, he said he was amazed at the comments. And said that was wonderful. And that's about as much as he could say. And thank you Anissa, because not a lot of people know what you do for a living and your support for helping the vets work threw to get the benefits and help they need. I salute you to girlie ;-)
Nov. 10, 2011 11:16 pm
Your blog has really touched my heart. It is so great to see your love and support for your husband. Too many people these days don't stand up for what is right and don't stick around when things change. I'm so proud of you and your husband. Please thank him for his service. Both of my grandfather's were veterans. They are no longer living but it amazes me what these men and women go through. We all owe them so much. I hope your blog helps people realize just how giving the vets and their families are.
Nov. 10, 2011 11:45 pm
thank you iceemama! I thank your grandfather's that did their duties and their service. Thank you for your kind words.
Nov. 11, 2011 3:53 am
Freedom doesn't come free...your husband, my father, my husbands father, his grandmother lost her only son in combat...and the many other men and women and their families that sacrifice every day so we can live in freedom...Remembering each and every one of them today and FLAG flies for all of them and their families...I for one will never forget...God bless them all. God bless your husband and thank him for me.
Nov. 11, 2011 5:48 am
Thank you for this wonderful blog. We appreciate the service of all our men and women and their spouses. My daughter is marrying a Marine in December and we hope and pray that she will be a strong military wife.
Nov. 11, 2011 6:29 am
We have no idea what happens to these fine men and women. Hats off to all of them who serve our country.
Nov. 11, 2011 6:46 am
My brother was in WWII. He came home shell shocked also. He is 86 years old now. I never heard him talk about what he went through until just a few years ago and not much then. Come to fine out he was in the first wave on Omaha Beach. That is all he said about it.I think after all these years it is still to difficult for him to talk about. Thank you for this wonderful blog and tribute to your wonderful husband.As others have said you are pretty darn awesome yourself.
Nov. 11, 2011 7:58 am
Mis7up - Thank you for your service - to your husband - to your family and to this country. I salute both you and your warrior husband. God Bless.
Nov. 11, 2011 7:58 am
Thank You for everything you have done for this country, and the unconditional love that you have shown in this tribute is so admirable Mis7up. I salute all the good men and women and families for all you have endured. God Bless you all!
Nov. 11, 2011 8:20 am
*Sherri* Thank you very much, and I thank your families as well. It is a tough road to and for freedom. Especially today in the present time. Luvs ;-) thank you as well, thank your daughter and her hubby for all what they do. Marianne, TY for your support, wished I could have seen you recently at that little mini get together. Hugs. Char, Thank you and please pat your siblings back today if you see him and tell him there is a southern gal that has a place in her heart for what he did and the support he's given this great nation. Baking Nana' Thank you to for your kind words...even after a life with the army, he's still my warrior ;-) Love you! And Janet. Thank you as well for your kind words and thoughts. Today my flag is up, my Army Wife T-Shirt is on and I'm proud to be right here next to Rob's side.
Nov. 11, 2011 6:28 pm
Old 'N' Still Cookin', I never did understand that, I missed vietnam by the skin on my teeth. I think it was a few bad issues at the time, as you know. soldiers were over there just trying to do there jobs, and trying to stay alive at the same time, and a few incidents made everyone baby killers. war is never good but in some situations it must be done to protect our freedom, and the lives of the people we are there to protect.
Nov. 11, 2011 7:58 pm
I do wish I could pass you a hug or two thanks. I can only say I do understand. We now have a secound bedroom I can go to now so I don't have to sleep on the floor next to our bed on the ruff nights. Brused ribs,& shins are still worth knowing he would do it all again for the counry his loves. Bless you and yours.
Nov. 12, 2011 12:05 am
WOW grandma. I have a friend that indures the same with her hubby from time to time. He's tooo proud to admit there's anything wrong. I honor you, with what you go through. Ty
Nov. 12, 2011 4:43 am
I loved reading your blog. It touched my heart. I had a grandfather who was in the army or marines (can't remember) I was 8 years old then. My FIL served in the army. Wow! 23 years is a long time. Tell your hubby "Thank you" for his service from me. God bless ALL the troops who are now serving
Nov. 12, 2011 2:21 pm
God bless you and your family, as well as all those others who serve and have served.
Nov. 12, 2011 3:07 pm
Luv2cook...thank you and your family for serving. Petey, thank you too ;-)
Nov. 12, 2011 8:03 pm
Thanks to you and your husband i have a papaw and an uncle that have served also and it takes the whole familys dedication not just theirs altho they are the ones that pay the price of safety and pain you at home have the worry that your loved one won't come back or how they will come back so to me the whole family served thanks for being willing to keep us safe
Nov. 12, 2011 8:06 pm
thank you KS, and I will agree, that the whole family should be honored for the vigual and support they give their family who has dedicated their life to the service. TY for pointing that out. Much thanks
Nov. 12, 2011 8:12 pm
Thank Rob for doing what he had to do to serve our country & thank you for staying with him through it all. It sounds like you both met your matches in each other. I hope he finds comfort & peace on this earth to soothe his soul & psyche.
Nov. 13, 2011 2:38 am
Aww you are too sweet VM, thank you. I totally adore my husband...the Mr. Magoo that he is. ;-) Sometime I wonder how he puts up with me. But we do alright. We have such a good support system. TY
Nov. 13, 2011 4:29 am
Thanks you mis7up for reminding us how thankful we should be not only on Veterans Day, but everyday throughout the year. We should thank our Veterans throughout the year and remember without their service we would not have the freedom we have today. Thank you for reminding me that I should be thanking Veterans and our service men & woman when I see them. May God Bless you and your husband and our Vets and troops everywhere---may God Bless America!
Nov. 13, 2011 7:10 am
Deepest thanks to Rob, you and your entire family. We civilians need to be reminded of the sacrifices you all make. Hopefully we will see the day when the government takes better care of all of our Veterans. God bless you all, Melissa. Give Rob a special hug from Michigan.
Nov. 13, 2011 11:59 am
Daisy Mae. Thank you and all that support our troops and families. HUGS! And Maggi ;-) thank you too, I shall give Rob a big hug as well. Thank you for your kind words.
Nov. 13, 2011 1:44 pm
Thank you for writing such a tribute to your husband and all the men & women who bravely serve for us all. I salute them & pray for them everyday. My father was a WWII vet, my 2 brothers served in Vietnam, and my nephew in Iraq. I have so much respect for them.
Nov. 13, 2011 1:47 pm
I have recently started working with homeless veterans and am coming to understand so many of the issues our returning vets face. We have over 600 homeless, both men and women, here in Brevard County, Florida. Few understand PTSD and other disorders veterans acquired by virtue of their service. More than that, most don't know that all though many veterans benefits exist,access is difficult and often not accessible. My heart and thoughts go out to you and your husband. There is much work to be done to improve the quality of life for those who have served our country.
Nov. 13, 2011 4:56 pm
Beautiful blog Melissa. Tell that soldier thanks from Las Vegas. He sounds like a keeper who snagged a cute little keeper himself XO
Nov. 13, 2011 7:34 pm
Chefswife63. Thank you soo much for supporting your family and praying for them. I appreciate your post. Bunchie62, TY you for what your doing to help those that need it. Your support and learning the difficult roads these men and women have faced there in Florida, I totally agree with you much work needs to be done! And maui maui maui...I love you girl. Ty you for what you do and being vidulant with your support of our soldiers and I totally will tell Rob....and tell him that he's a lucky guy....Can't wait to hug your neck again ;-)
Nov. 13, 2011 9:18 pm
What a beautiful blog mis7up. Thank your dear husband for his service and give him a hug from me. Thank you for serving along with him all these years in support and love. You both are blessed to have each other. My husband was a Korean War Vet and I have the utmost love and respect for all who serve in what ever service. I don't think we can say "Thank You" enough.....Ginny
Nov. 13, 2011 9:23 pm
Ginny!!! TY, and TY for your your kind thoughts and words. And thank you for the support of your husband too.
Nov. 14, 2011 6:21 am
Milton says--they also serve who only stand and wait! Isn't that true of all military families? Even if they never leave our shores, they still serve. May we never forgot that.
Nov. 14, 2011 11:06 am
Amen! magee...thank you for that comment. It is important for us all to remember that. ;-)
Nov. 14, 2011 1:49 pm
The love and respect I have for our military is beyond words. I always make a point of thanking any military person I see and always tell Vietnam Vets, welcome home. I am so proud. My niece, a Marine, served two tours in Iraq and my nephew, also a Marine, did his two in Afganastan. My brother was in the Army stationed in Berlin, Germany; His job was as a guard on the West Berlin side of the Berlin Wall at Check Point Charlie. When we entered WWII my husband said he did everything he could think of to get into the Army. At the time he was working for the Railroad. They wouldn't take him because he worked on the Railroad. The Recruiter said without the Railroad nothing would move in the United States and he was as needed here just as much as people were needed for the armed forces. My husband told them he would quit the Railroad job if that was all that was keeping him out of the Army. The Recruiter said if he quit the Railroad just so he could join the Army, then the Army didn't want him because he wasn't reliable. Regretted not being able to enlist his whole life. But as the Recruiter said, at the time everything military moved around the United States by Railroad. Without the Railroad the military would be stopped in it's tracks. He stayed with the railroad his entire life; loved jumping on and off moving train cars and loved walking on top of a train car as it went down the tracks. I think he felt he finally had the train set he had always wanted as a kid. As WWII progressed he did come to understand how important the Railroad was to the war effort, still wanted to join the Army, but understood. God bless you and your husband and God bless all our men and women in and out of uniform.
Nov. 14, 2011 8:17 pm
Kitten...TY you for sharing that. That is too important not to remember. And that it helps understand about everyone who has done what they can to offer support in more ways then one. TY Hugs to you and your family. I'm honored.
Nov. 15, 2011 8:48 am
Nov. 15, 2011 10:08 am
My 1st blog comment: I am still wiping the tears from my eyes because as a daughter of a Vietnam Vet I know all too well the effect of war, etc on the veteran and on their entire family. All these years later and we are all still affected. His PTSD has been hard on all of us. He sleeps a lot and is not really plugged in, but deep down I know we are loved even if he cannot express it. When you wake up in the middle of the night often and think you have blood on your hands that needs washing off, I guess it does pretty much rule your life. Thanks to your husband, and thank you for reminding me that my mom must be a strong, loving woman to have supported him all these years. I could say more but I will end here.
Nov. 15, 2011 10:16 am
thank you JJMarsh. AND gh, me to....ty you, tears are here and my heart goes out to you and your family. I can imagine how you have to hold it together on the servarity of your father. I do understand. My husband is such a wonderful man and with all the other stuff aside. I'm here. And will be. I thank your mom, yourself and your dad for the support that is given to him and what he did for his country and his family. TY
Nov. 15, 2011 10:26 am
The love, adoration and respect for your husband is so evident in your heartfelt words. Thank you for sharing this, and giving us a glimpse into his life, his pain. May God bless both of you.
Nov. 15, 2011 10:30 am
Aww thank you Wyattdogster ;-) God Bless you too.
Nov. 15, 2011 8:13 pm
Hey lady, I was catching up on some blogs and can't believe I missed this. Wonderful tribute to the DH, and you're right no one else can imagine what it's like until they gone through it. What a guy! And you would have had a blast with us in Portland (we helped keep Portland weird, you know.)
Nov. 15, 2011 8:25 pm
This is absolutely amazing! My Daddy is a Marine and Vietnam Vet, and it was astounding to read your post, for so it's as though you're describing him. The life of a Vet is not easy....and I agree that the the spouses of Vets endure so much as well. I must say, as the child of a Vet - it's not easy to see your Dad go through such battles everyday, and to see the strain it can put on your parents' relationship. I'm just glad that soldiers are honored and respected more today than when my Daddy was in Vietnam.
Nov. 15, 2011 8:55 pm
Thank you so much for this post. You just opened my eyes. My hubster was in intelligence during Vietnam war, so I never thought much about his aversion to public places, going to dinner, anything social. But the twitching and jerking in his sleep is exactly what you describe. All I know is he was given an early out a year before his tour of duty was to end. Thanks for letting me see what's really been going on all these years. Like others have said too, he has never spoken about it.
Nov. 15, 2011 11:13 pm
Magnolia Blossom...I totally miss you! And thank you. I am blessed to have him home, in more ways then one. I'm blessed more so this year then any before. And I have heard about Portland....some parents of my SIL's den was telling me in April about license to ride your bicycle naked...blew me out of the water. I do plan to make a trip up because my SIL leaves in Battle Ground and of course WW lives in Longview. But I totally want to hug your neck soon!
Nov. 15, 2011 11:17 pm
Katie. ty you for your kind words and TY you for supporting your dad as a child growing up with watching your father struggle. My dad to is a Vet from Nam. I didn't see a lot of things but one thing I did see was everything had to be in order. I always thought my dad was a marine the way everything had to be ship~shaped. But as a wife of a vet, I can see certain things, I really never realized until now. But thank you too for your support and your family's support of your dad.
Nov. 15, 2011 11:21 pm
Joan, TY you for posting. Isn't it just soo, when you never realize certain things until you read it threw someone else's eyes? I have done that many times and it takes me back and I understand. I've read stories of others and reading their words hits so close to home. I am honored by your husband and his duty and service. Thank him for me for what he did or had to do. And thank you for your support and standing beside him threw the years. Your job as many others is a hard one. And I commend you. TY.
Nov. 16, 2011 5:55 am
mis7up, I thank both you and your husband. It takes special people to serve and special people to support the family while their warrior serves. Great blog. Hugs sweet lady! Well done!
Nov. 17, 2011 11:33 am
Ladysparkle... ;-) you make me smile. Thank you for your sweet post. Bless you and here's a long stretch for a >~~~hug~~~
Nov. 17, 2011 5:09 pm
I'm not a military wife. I don't come from a military family. And I always hope and pray on some level that ppl like me can show your family and others like you the respect they deserve. "Thank you" does not express my gratitude for making the sacrifices it takes for me and my family to sleep peacefully each night.
Nov. 17, 2011 7:31 pm
WOW!! jcrystal82...ty very very much, your words really mead a lot. I appreciate it. Thank you.
Nov. 18, 2011 2:19 am
Mis7up, what a wonderful tribute to the love of your life! I am humbled and thankful there are brave people like (you and) your husband. We all thank you for your sacrafice and pray for solitude and comfort in Roberts thoughts knowing we appreciate him with our hearts.
Nov. 18, 2011 7:10 am
Mickdee, I soo thank you very much, the out pouring support and thanks has just been totally amazing from everyone is just amazing. We are totally blessed. I soo thank everyone. Thank you.
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I'm an active mom of 4 and married the love of my life. I'm a full~time certified care giver, part~time food blogger @ , avid & obsessed novice photographer. I love allrecipes and pretty much an addict. I'm also a new member to Banana Belt Photography Club that's local to my community, and an Allrecipes Allstar Brand Ambassador. And have stamped allrecipes on me for life. The site has opened up my eyes to so much more then just recipes. I'm proud to be a member of this site and my love, passion & learning other recipes from other valued members has really broaden my horizens.
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Asian, Mexican, Multi-cultured foods, Low-fat, Low-sugar, Stews, casseroles, slow cooker meals and baking......Everything!!
My favorite family cooking traditions
Funny but true: Cooking traditions men sit in the recliner and women in the My family is always in the kitchen. My sister and her family, my parents and my family celebrate Christmas in January. Due to distance and work related jobs. Every year we plan what we are having ahead of time. Our tradition is usually food we've had abroad growing up overseas. Normally with Asia influences. It's always a special treat when we normally don't make the dishes often throughout the year.
My cooking triumphs
Unknown to me when I came up with a chicken and dumpling recipe of my own, my father was floored & delighted and told me it tasted just like his mother's.......My mom dropped her jaw because it was better then her's. It's a staple with my husband and kids.
My cooking tragedies
I had found a recipe for a Pretzel Pie(like Pecan Pie), thought it looked good and I didn't follow the recipe when it said unsalted pretzels. I just grabbed the normal stuff with the salt on it, made the pie, and my dad and husband were painting with thrist. And making weird pickle sour expressions, when I realized the pie was over salted. Oopppss! I never made it again.
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