I'm in a mood....laugh, cry, giggle...ya name it.
Sep. 8, 2010 7:54 am
Updated: Sep. 15, 2010 7:07 am
Well, I wake up 4:30am...head back to bed, I'm not making morning breakfast today....the kids can eat cereal. All week, I have no idea how time has slipped by, I guess on pins and needles in distraction in wating of my Uncle Marvin's passing...I'm cool
now, sad. But I got a call (on Friday)that he was in ICU for COPD, an hour later, I find out he had a massive stroke and is brain dead. So that was hard to swallow. But they have to wait 48 hours to take him off life support. That was suppose to be on Sunday.
Things have changed and 2 doctors say he's got a lung infection and can't pull the tubes out or his lungs will colapse....okay?? I know I'm thinking, if they are going to take him off life support, then why worry about his lungs? I do not understand. But they
said, wait for the neurologist to read the last CT scan and that we'd hear something on Tuesday...well Tuesday came and now I hear that 2 physicians have to sign off on them taking him off life support. My uncle Marvin signed a DNR, so if he codes...then they
can't touch him. Granted he's a gem of a person. I love him dearly. I've come to terms with his choice, and I'm going to celebrate the man I know and love. I will say, I don't and wish not to be in the position my aunt and her son's are in to have to make
the decision to pull a plug. It seems harsh and abrasive but then again I work in a hospital and there are times when there are choices you have to make.
Any my Uncle Marvin, was disabled due to a gas fire as a kid. He was wearing a robe and walked by one of those gas radiator space heater things he had in his home, and it caught his robe on fire. needless to say, he should have died from his injuries and the
burns were so bad, it's hard to describe with out referring to some food. So bare with me. His back looked like the underside of a slab of ribs. There I said it. I'm not ashamed either for saying it that way. My uncles growth got stunted due to the accident,
but even if he was in pain and discomfort, I never saw it. He had married into my family, had 2 good looking boys, that are quite successful and I feel it was him that did that, his perserverance, his love for life and for the fact he never treated anyone
as if they were a stranger.
My family would go and visit quite offen because due to the injuries, he couldn't travel very well, and it's been 5 years since I've seen him again. He was able to travel to my wedding thanks to my aunt for buying a motor home and I cried something like a big
baby when I saw him. It made my day. But when my sister Mendi and I would visit, he just spoil us. Candy, treats, money, gifts. He didn't have girls and he soo wanted a little girl of his own. We were his little slice of heaven he told us. Easter was always
fun, because he'd buy us the largest basket money could make and it was like Christmas every year we spent with him.
I don't want anyone to feel sad for me and my family for our loss, or impending loss of my Uncle. I more or less what to celebrate who he was and how much he means to me. And because of him, I think it gives me a lot of strength to see the inter beauty of people
with disabilities. And I think of him offen when I see me with my special girls, well not just my girls but all 4 of my children. For me to help them strive and be successful with how they are and what they can accomplish....SO this blog is for others as well.
So feel free to add about some one special that has touched your life. I'll keep a tissue box close by. I'd like to laugh, cry and giggle with each and everyone that wants to share.
Here's a cute thing...My daughters Aliena and Emily and I were taking Aliena to her new school for enrollment, when we were pointing out a lot of the features and scenery on the way there. Because it was not close to our house, due to Aliena's special needs
for school. And we saw beautiful little man made lakes and ponds. And I happen to hear Emily say, I don't like that pond, it's mucky. So I tell her that the rain had rained so much that it spilled over, she said well I don't like the seaweed on the bottom
the slimy stuff, I said that's alagae, she's like oooh okay. Then Aliena chimes in and says MOM, is alagae the stuff that makes you have allgies...? Ya know I have allgies and I'm allergic to that stuff. I'm like huh? Then I'm like what? And Emily is laughing
to beat 50 in the back seat, when she says mom...alagaes...al-er-gies...get it mom? And I realized how innocent, Aliena's concerns were...it was really funny. We all 3 laughed because it was totally funny and totally cute.
A funny Blueberry Muffin