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My "TaWanda" Moment 
Apr. 19, 2010 6:48 am 
Updated: Apr. 20, 2010 11:47 pm
Well, if you ladies and gents, know what that expression means...I'm clapping! For those that don't. The expression or comment came from the movie "Fried Green Tomatoes" One of my all time favorite movies. I love the part when Kathy Bates character "Evelyn Crouch" is waiting at the Winn Dixie for a parking spot and has been there for quite some time (like at Walmart) and these Young girls come blowing through there in their little car, fast as lightning and steals the spot she sooo waited for. For her to just go bonkers, and just SNAPS!! and bulldoze the tar out of their car, yelling "TaWanda!!!"

Well, just on this subject, for those who haven't seen the movie...It's a must. Some of the best female actress of the time play wonderful and remarkable rolls in this story. Jessica Tandy, Kathy Bates, Mary Stewart Masterson, Mary-Louise Parker, Cicely Tyson. The films release was in late 1991. And based off of a book called "Fried Green Tomatoes at the Whistle Stop Cafe"by Fannie Flagg. I haven't read the book and I am going to. Like all movies, some things are left out. But The story line goes, a bored housewife, Evelyn Crouch (Kathy Bates) meets this elderly lady Ninny Threadgood(Jessica Tandy) while visiting with her husband a family member in a nursing home...soon after that Evelyn sees Ninny a few times after that and befriends her. Ninny tells Evelyn a story about 2 young ladies set back in the Depression-era. These 2 ladies, Imogene "Idgie" Threadgood and Ruth Jamison, also befriended each other threw Idgie's brother Buddy, whom loses his life when he was hit by a train.  So, while Ninny's telling Evelyn the story when visiting her each time in the nursing home, Evelyn's life starts changing, being coming more active in life, getting out and about, getting a grip on life and learning to take charge...she learns valuable lessons and we follow Ninny's story of Idgie and Ruth's life long friendship.

Any way, that's where my "TaWanda" moment comes in. I have felt I was Evelyn Crouch for soo many reasons, and I've taken charge of my life and it feels great. But Since my ex husband is a Royal something or other, and he married my ex-friend, she hasn't seen me in almost a year and a half since I had my gastric bypass and the make-over I had December. She finally sees me yesterday day when my ex and her was dropping off my son from visitation over the weekend. She looked me up and looked me down, wouldn't even say hi, her eyes were as big as cannonballs!!!! I just smiled didn't even walk over to talk to them, I had something better to do, because I was talking to my oldest' father in the driveway and hug my son running to me saying "Oh I missed you!" And my ex-step kids hugging me as well, telling me how "Hot" I looked.....All I could do is smile. Because the ex's wife has let her self go, and is in the same spot I was was married to him. WOW, I'm so glad that I'm not in that position anymore. I so want to tell her, what the heck are ya doing to yourself.....but then she knew the day my ex and I were finalizing our divorce, when I verbally told her what she was getting herself into.

And then my son put the icing on the cake last night, when he says mom you live in the kitchen 24 hours a day like it's your bedroom, telling me I should open up a store or something. So I tell him no, I'm happy right with what I'm doing but that I have other plans I'm working on, but that I totally enjoy being able to make things that my kids haven't tried before and getting them to learn how to eat differently, and he said "Yup! I'm beginning to like what your doing mom." So as he was walking away, I thought gee I have a great kid. So I asked him, does his dad's wife cook, he said yeah, but nothing like you, he told me she goes to the store by the ingredients and makes it....I'm thinking, that's what I do....?? So he says no, she buys mac n cheese in a box and eats chili dogs and pizzas, the stuff is in boxes. So I ask again. Does she not cook cook? He said not really if it isn't in a box then they go to McDonalds or Taco Casa. But she doesn't take the time to make something like out of thin air or follow recipes in a book or get a recipe off the computer.  :) Then he tells me I'm the best because he gets to sit at the bar and watch me make he said it's just fun to watch what he's going to eat  :)  Priceless moment.
Apr. 19, 2010 7:05 am
Isn't it wonderful when Karma/Fate/Whatever just drops you in the right spot at the right time? I love "Fried Green Tomatoes" and I also draw on that movie for my "Tawanda" moments. Thanks for the uplifting moment, and giving me inspiration on a dismal Monday morning. Tawanda!!
Apr. 19, 2010 8:00 am
*giving a standing ovation here* Good for you!! And, I love all of Fannie Flaggs books!! And that's one of my most favorite movies!!
Apr. 19, 2010 9:25 am
Great blog, 'cos it's made me remember all sorts of things, and made me smile and frown and so on. Yes "FGT" was a good movie that even I enjoyed when it first came out ... thanks.
Apr. 19, 2010 10:05 am
Absolutely LOVE it!! Moments like that so make up for the bad ones in our life. Keep on rockin', girl!
Apr. 19, 2010 10:27 am
That is my absolute FAVORITE movie of all time! (I love all Fannie Flaggs books too!) And props to you for being the kind of super mom your kids can be proud of!
Apr. 19, 2010 1:18 pm
What a great son you've got there! Kids know when something is made with love or not. They don't miss the details, I swear!
Apr. 19, 2010 1:41 pm
We all need a TaWanda moment. I'm glad you had yours. Mag
Apr. 19, 2010 5:32 pm
Are you sure your EX is not my EX? I got traded in for a thropy wife but come to find out she was not a frist place winner..."MY KIDS are 27&29....He and the last place winner have a 1&3 yr here is to all my sisters TaWanda...a good read also is the Sweet Potato Queens Book of Love by Jill Coner Brown good ole souther humor and the have a biig blow out every year in Jackson MS...check it out
Apr. 19, 2010 9:57 pm
Oh Melissa, that is PERFECT!! I love when things like that happen too. I also love the name you gave it. I'm going to start using that instead of the "See What Happens" moments that I've always called them. It is truly sweet justice and I too loved that movie. I read the book about 3-4 years before the movie came out and drew so much from it as well. Lots of truth, lots of wisdom, lots of humor. Good for you.
Apr. 20, 2010 7:53 am
Cheers to you TaWanda!!! I always considered myself a Weeza from Steel Magnolias!!!!
Apr. 20, 2010 11:47 pm
Sweet revenge, TaWanda! Go on with your sexy little homecooking self! :)
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