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I've realized... I HATE COOKING!!!

Why can't I make less of a mess? My mess is what causes the stress!! 
 
Mar. 14, 2010 10:08 pm 
Updated: Oct. 27, 2010 5:31 am
I frigged with this for a while.. excuse the repeats.. it doesnt show it in the editing box... grr...  does anyone have suggestions?!
 
 
 
..Carried on from my last blog of making my decision that cooking is no longer on my list of things I like to do.. I thought I'd embarrass myself just a little!



Once upon a time, not long long ago, a little angel was born. Though cute as a button and as good as could be, she left no more time for her mommy you see. Being a stay at home mommy and wife meant there were lots of things to do, but every time she put baby down she cried "Boo Hoo!" Mommy slung baby onto her side, but the cooking still had be done, whether grilled, baked or fried! With a baby on her hips this was no easy task and with a deep breath she reached to her inner pocket and pulled out her shiny flask! (JK!) she pulled out her whisk!!
Once upon a time, not long long ago, a little angel was born. Though cute as a button and as good as could be, she left no more time for her mommy you see. Being a stay at home mommy and wife meant there were lots of things to do, but every time she put baby down she cried "Boo Hoo!" Mommy slung baby onto her side, but the cooking still had be done, whether grilled, baked or fried! With a baby on her hips this was no easy task and with a deep breath she reached to her inner pocket and pulled out her shiny flask! (JK!) she pulled out her whisk!!

Well supper was finally ready and it smelled and looked so good. Finally Momma sat down and quickly ate, but couldn't clean up after like she should. You see babies need a bath after dinner and before bed and after their bath they need to be fed! And before going down for the rest of the night, babies and sleep always tend to put up a good fight....

Well supper was finally ready and it smelled and looked so good. Finally Momma sat down and quickly ate, but couldn't clean up after like she should. You see babies need a bath after dinner and before bed and after their bath they need to be fed! And before going down for the rest of the night, babies and sleep always tend to put up a good fight....

And so the mess built


And so the mess built



and it built





and it built




and it built until Mommy about pulled out her hair... and instead of cleaning the mess when she finally had time she decided to take pictures and share

and it built until Mommy about pulled out her hair... and instead of cleaning the mess when she finally had time she decided to take pictures and share

Eventually, Mommy started to accept the cluttered mess and truely tried to focus on it less. She knew it was a time to cherish and she was so blessed. Babies are only babies just once and your hugs and kisses are fun

but when they become a little older and you try to give them love, they turn around and RUN! ;-P

Eventually, Mommy started to accept the cluttered mess and truely tried to focus on it less. She knew it was a time to cherish and she was so blessed. Babies are only babies just once and your hugs and kisses are fun

but when they become a little older and you try to give them love, they turn around and RUN! ;-P

 
 
Comments
Mar. 14, 2010 11:33 pm
She's a doll!! No worries, my kitchen is a mess and my girls are 14 and 18. I figure I'll have time to clean when they move out. For now, I just want to enjoy them!!
 
Ccatts 
Mar. 15, 2010 5:34 am
Cut your cooking down to doing only 3 things at a time and all have to fit on one plate and use only butter to cook everything in. and salt and pepper and one pan. Pan brown chicken breast in butter salt and pepper. Put on pan in over for 30 min. then in 15 min and in the same pan put 1 cup of chicken stock and 1 cup instant rice, cook 5 min. put that in a bowl to warm up in oven then in same pan wipe out, put some butter and then some veggies and salt and pepper stir for a few minutes until hot and then plate them with the rice and chicken and you have supper cooked in one pan and if you want just before you take the chicken out of the oven put some spaghetti sauce and a slice of mozza cheese on it and you have a great plate. you can use pork chops or steak or veal or fish instead of chicken.
 
Ccatts 
Mar. 15, 2010 5:35 am
Oh and your baby is soooooooooo beautiful!!!
 
Mar. 15, 2010 7:25 am
Awww...she's a cutie pie! You'll get a handle on things soon enough and then there will be other challenges. It's just a part of parenting. I'm looking at it from the other end. My "baby" is almost 18 and will be off to college in August and I can promise you that how much clutter I had in the house when she was a little one doesn't mean a *thing* now. Enjoy her and give her an extra hug today!!
 
Mar. 15, 2010 8:33 am
Thank you! She is my world! Good advice Ccatts!... and I know time will pass too fast gotta cherish each day
 
Alisha 
Mar. 15, 2010 8:44 am
Lol, Lynna definitely has it right. "You'll get a handle on things soon enough and then there will be other challenges." I agree, don't worry about the mess; you'll figure it out soon enough and find a balance you're happy with. She is a beautiful baby! My 'baby' just turned 19 and I miss those days of deciding to clean the kitchen or sneak in a quick nap, lol. The years will pass by like a flash, so enjoy each moment while you can.
 
Daiseyland 
Mar. 15, 2010 12:56 pm
You don't have a big mess, you have a little counterspace. If you don't develop habits you are comfortable with now, when she is walking, it could be much worse on you. Try to keep her on a schedule. That way you will know how much time you have to do stuff like shower, laundry, get the mail. As much fun as bathtime is for mommy, she really only needs to get in and out and dry and dressed for bed. I used to put my baby in the car seat and put the car seat on the dishwasher and run it. It put her right to sleep. That way, I could work in the kitchen and keep an eye on her while I swept the floor, emptied trash and put stuff away. If your baby is waking up when you put her in the bed, put a heating pad in the bed on the lowest setting to keep the bed warm while you feed her at night. The difference between your body warmth and the cold sheets will often wake them up as soon as you put them down. I used to have to bath my twins in the kitchen. Their little tub fit over my sink, the towels were laid out on my only counter space, and I had to be fast or one would fall asleep before the other was done. Later, when they both could be bathed in the tub, one would shiver and shake when she got out of the water, so it was always a race to get her dry and diapered and dressed. But her twin wasn't as strong, and she would topple over more easily. Every time I sat down to eat, someone would cry - not just fuss. I used to get back attacks. The physical strain from bearing and lifting babies, strollers, car seats, leaning over. And the emotional stress of never getting to eat, shower, sleep or go to the bathroom would hit in my lower back. So, put a soapy pan in the sink as you go along to wash things, eat simple meals as suggested, plan leftovers when you cook, so you just need to microwarm some soup for lunch. Get some sleep. When people ask if there is something they can do, say yes - take the baby for a walk so I can vacuum uninterupted. I used to do that for my sister and sister-in-law when I was an older teen. I'm much closer to that niece and nephews, and it was fun for all.
 
Mar. 15, 2010 1:23 pm
She is just beautiful! Great blog!
 
Mar. 15, 2010 1:26 pm
Oh morgan sounds like life :) enjoy it - eventually you'll probably want to go back :) Enjoy that little angel - she's a treasure :) Love from PA - kc
 
Gitano 
Mar. 15, 2010 1:42 pm
Oh Morgan....how I don't envy you! those days are long gone for me now and my house is quiet, peaceful, neat and clean....but just sometimes, I wish I could go back to the chaotic days of babies and toddlers...ok, who am I kidding, I am SO thankful those days are over! LOL But really, try not to stress so much over it, the dishes will get done in due time, enjoy the time with your sweet babe while she still thinks of you as "her world"....how quickly they grow up...
 
Aug. 2, 2010 8:12 pm
Hi, Morgan! I know I am a bit late, but better late than never! I saw the link to you as the featured cook, and came over for a visit. I read both of your blogs, but figured I would consolidate my thoughts into one comment to make your life a little easier. As far as hating cooking, it doesn't seem to me that you actually hate to cook. It looks as if you take pride in cooking and providing for your family in such a manner, but the time and responsibility constraints are just placing stress on you. For those situations, I can definitely relate. I cook for my mother and teenage sister (as I am my mother's caretaker and have been a second mother to my sister since birth), work, and go to school full-time. It got to the point a couple of months ago that I was experiencing serious burnout, but I didn't realize it until my boyfriend pointed it out. I had to take a step back and put my priorities in line. The continual process of figuring out what to cook, what we have in the freezer/pantry that seemed remotely appealing, prepping for meals, and the actual cooking piled on top of life's demands was stressful! So here is what I figured out... Don't try to figure out what everyone else wants every night. An occasional suggestion for inspiration is okay, but trying to please everyone is a struggle. Just work with what you have to best prepare a balanced meal. If the meal is hot (or cold if it is supposed to be), healthy, and on the table for the family to eat in decent time, consider it a success. Make a meal of salads one night if you don't feel like heating up the kitchen. Precook chicken and ground beef. Section it into appropriate amounts for future uses (casseroles, salads, wraps, sandwiches, etc) and pop it in the freezer for later! Sometimes taking an hour at the beginning of the week to prep meats this way will save three or four hours later in the week and keep you from having to stress over what to cook. Daiseyland also had some excellent tips. I have a feeling that www.eatathomecooks.com could help you too. Tiffany king is the author of that blog, and she simplifies meals (with photos) and gives great tips. As far as your little mess above, I find that it is a mind over matter situation. I have a dishwasher, but don't use it 98% of the time. I forget we have it, to be honest. I run some dishwater when I start cooking, and wash as I go. Someone else commented that they washed their hands this way along with getting the dishes out of the way as they go. I do too! I find that I can't eat in peace if I have to think about cleaning afterward. I wash everything I possibly can before I eat, and hurry to wash everything else after the fact. Sometimes, I even fix my mother and sister's plates, wash the dishes and their dishes, fix my plate, put up the leftovers, wash the pots/pans, and THEN eat- which leaves only my plate and fork to wash. I wouldn't expect anyone else to go through that, but I seriously have issues with eating when my kitchen is dirty. But with your photos of the kitchen above, my advice: stack the dishes. I find that counters full of dishes can many times be stacked and take up very little space. It calms your brain into thinking the task of washing those dishes is now feasible. Simple advice, but it works. Sorry to have rambled on so long, but hopefully something I said can help! Beautiful baby girl, by the way! :]
 
Aug. 6, 2010 4:49 pm
Your baby is an absolute beauty! Enjoy every moment with her. I raised 3 children and I can fully relate to your kitchen photos! My mess grew on many occasions! Try not to put too much pressure on yourself. As time goes on, you will develop little ways of making it easier on yourself. Such as: cook once, eat twice. For instance I might cook chicken on night (double the amount needed) and use 1/2 of it for chicken with rice and veggies type dinner and use the other 1/2 to make chicken fajitas, tacos or chicken with pasta. I did that for many years using everything I could think of. It allowed me to still cook something good for my family while cutting down a little on the prep time. That is one of many little things I learned could be helpful to me through the child-rearing years. You, I'm sure will discover many of your own. Good luck and have a wonderful time with your beautiful girl!
 
Aug. 6, 2010 4:52 pm
One more thing: After the birth of our first child, my mother-in-law gave me a needlepointed gift..a framed plaque which read: "Cleaning and scrubbing can wait till tomorrow, for babies grow up, We have learned to our sorrow. So, quiet down cobwebs and dust go to sleep...I am rocking my baby and babies don't keep". That plaque hung where I could read it every evening while rocking my babies to sleep. It was a great little reminder of what's important in life!
 
Oct. 27, 2010 5:31 am
thank you everyone... I know I'm now extremely late but i've reread some comments and read a few others for the first time. I really appreciate you taking the time to come here and give your input.. very helpful!!!! :) ♥
 
 
 
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I have 2 cats that I adore and a more than wonderful husband. Our first anniversary is coming up on June 21st! I quit my bartending job and am now a stay at home wife. I recently found out I'm having a baby! I'm due on Novemeber 17th. So this is wonderful new news. Everyday I have been craving warm gooey choc. chip cookies, but have resisted temptation and I'm trying to eat healthier. Getting plenty of fruits, yogurt, veggies, folic acid and protein. This site has been one of my best finds so far. Even though I waste a lot of time on here, something good comes from it everynight and my Honey gets a full belly from a yummy meal! And I get to share the photos with all of you. It makes supper time a little more rewarding! Though I have to admit I think I look a little silly taking pictures of every meal I make LOL! I am a meat and potatoes kind of girl. I love eating good food so my goal is to always cook a great meal. My biggest challenge everyday is deciding what is for dinner!!
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I enjoy making pizzas, spaghetti, turkey dinners, grilling juicy steaks, lunching on gourmet salads and occasionally having fun buffet appetizer nights. I love my slow cooker!! Set it and forget it!! ;-)
 
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