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Nov. 12, 2009 12:15 pm 
Updated: Apr. 3, 2010 5:49 am
          Hello everyone. This is my 1st time so be patient.After 10 years,  I just got out of the Navy in June of this year. My husband is currently still in and is now on recruiting duty out of Tennesse. Well I have been working for quite a bit of time, this is new to me. I couldnt wait to give up the life of a sailor to be an at home mom.................... Rude awaking.
          Well Tennesee is my husbands home state. He also has a daughter here so we came so he can be close to her. I have 2 children of my own. All together we have 4. No problem that is great because they are all a year apart. All of his family is here, and they are great. I can actually say that I love my in-laws. My family is in california, which is okay with me also.
           Now my dilema is, After working for over 10 years and being used to being a bread winner, I have yet gotten accustomed to being the homebody. I am also stressed because I know no one. Even though his family is great, they are still not my friends. Where we lived before, I hads tons of them, for all occasions. Now I come here and I can barely go to the mall to without getting lost. Although I love my family I sometimes want a girls day out and, but I have no girls to do it with. I try not stress my husband out with all this, due to him being the sole provider, this is all he needs is my whining. I am trying very hard to be thankful that we can afford to be on 1 income without any financial problems. But it is gettting harder everyday. Any suggestions on how to help myself get thru this??????????????????????????????  

                 
 
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jen911 
Nov. 12, 2009 12:23 pm
Hey - maybe you could take a cooking class somewhere & meet some new people that have similar interests to you?
 
cocojo 
Nov. 12, 2009 3:20 pm
It's really hard to adjust to new surroundings let alone a new lifestyle...I feel for you. I like the idea of cooking lessons, also here's a few other ideas...Join a Garden Club..I knew nothing of Gardening but these girls have become my best friends...I still don't garden a whole lot ..but i know alot!...if you have a child younger than 1st grade, find a M.O.P.S program in your area churches..that also helped me when my kids were young...another idea also in church is to look for a Bible Study group, I'd suggest looking for one that is doing a Beth Moore study...really interesting..no prior knowledge necessary...my last suggestion, if you're not too shy, put out an invitation to tea at your home in the neighborhood. Hang in there, it takes a while to build new friends.
 
Maggi 
Nov. 13, 2009 4:14 am
I thnk cocojo has some wonderful ideas. It takes effort but you need to force yourself out. Look at this as a new adventure and learn all you can about your new community. You must make your own friends so you have a separate life from your inlaws. Good luck!
 
petey 
Nov. 16, 2009 4:57 pm
When we lived in Ca, we met a lot of really cool people at church. Either that, or someplace doin something that you are passionate about? Good luck! We now live 2 hours from town with our closest neighbor 20 miles away, so I talk to my dog a lot LOL
 
Nov. 25, 2009 6:58 pm
Hi Monique, I moved to the US a few years ago and I had and still have the same problem from time to time. Some other ideas would be to volunteer in a hospital or any place they need help depending on your interests, so that you can meet other people. Some cities offer adult afternoon classes teaching from dance to sewing, to bird watching, see if your city offers any. Also, my current city offers English as a Second Language classes and volunteer teachers are always needed!
 
Apr. 3, 2010 5:49 am
Well, first I have to thank you for your sacrifice for our country. Thank you thank you thank you....To you your husband and your children, because when when there is even one service person in the family, the entire family sacrifices on many levels. My thought would be to join a gym, that way you get to met some new women, make friends, and get some exercise. Your church or religious organization always has lots of women and things to do. I was thinking, if your a mom with girls like my mom did with us, you spend most of your time doing hair, LOL. All the best to you, CrisTina
 
 
 
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