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A Word to the Wise 
Apr. 22, 2012 10:43 am 
Updated: Aug. 9, 2012 11:25 am

I spend a good deal of time perusing the internet. There is a wealth of information out there to be had, as well as communities of people with common interests. There is just about every kind of community, or “board” you can imagine. Faith, Fashion, Food, Health, Animals, Lifestyles, Sports, Humor, Education etc. There are folks who flock to these forums to share both their needs and their experience. Being 5 hours from town isn’t a hardship to me, because by nature, I have always been pretty much a loner. My life experience has found an awful lot of people who just aren’t very nice and my own company, or the company of my animals is a lot more edifying. My circle of friends is rather small, both in person and on the internet. Those whom I do consider friends I think very highly of, regardless of their age, gender, or location. I have met some great folks that use their access to the internet well and wisely, being positive, supporting others and providing good fellowship, advice and enjoyable interactions.
Then there are the self proclaimed experts, who are certain that no one else is capable of accumulating the amount of knowledge, experience or good sense they themselves own, and consider every other person, forum or idea on the web to be a threat. Then there is the odd one who, for reasons I cannot fathom, choose to use their words to wound, accuse and/or condemn. One would think that, because the relationship is long distance, superficial and only through the computer, that a verbal attack or flaming by someone shouldn’t affect us, or that we can just click them off. That’s all true, but I find it’s not all that simple.
James spoke about the power of the tongue, how it can tear down and destroy, or build up. Bruises heal and are no longer seen, but words sink deep into the heart or psyche and they scar much more easily. I would like to say, we should always be careful how we speak, that we don’t use our words as weapons to injure another. But on the internet, I think we need to be doubly cautious. Without the facial and audible cues of how something is being delivered, our words can often be misunderstood. In addition to this, unlike the spoken word, what is written is right there in black and white, powerful and public. It can be devastating to the recipient. 

We don’t know why any given person is on our forum, or chat room, or wherever it is you might congregate, perhaps they are alone and desperately need to reach out to someone. Maybe they are ill and could use some comfort. Perhaps it is someone who needs to be needed and a rebuff can send them into a tail spin and you wouldn’t even know it. We can be floating along in our own lives, poisoning others, merely by being careless.

 I implore you, to choose your words wisely. Better yet, read James 3. I couldn’t agree with anything more, or say it any better.

You have my word on it.
Apr. 22, 2012 10:50 am
Excellent blog, Petey! We can all benefit from choosing our words, oral or written, with care. Be well, my friend.
Apr. 22, 2012 10:52 am
Thanks BSM, you too!
Apr. 22, 2012 11:50 am
I often wonder how many people post a comment and, when they read it, wish for that button marked "Take It Back". I know I have. Fortunately, the writers of the blogs took my comments with little or no offense. I had a post right here on AR where the commenters were attacking each other and I deleted the post to stop the viciousness. Sensitivity and tolerance seem to be lacking in too many people and careful wording and editing are lacking in others. When the opposites meet there will be sparks.
Apr. 22, 2012 12:01 pm
Very well said, Petey!
Apr. 22, 2012 12:33 pm
Loved this blog Petey. Everything you said just seems to go back to The Golden Rule. I have always tried to live my life by The Golden Rule and it sounds like you have also.
Apr. 22, 2012 1:52 pm
Petey, beautiful blog full of Godly wisdom and truth. I love James - oh if the tongue could be tamed, what a wonderful world this would be!
Apr. 22, 2012 3:11 pm
A word to the wise is sufficient. Isn't there more to that saying? It has been soooo long since my grandma gave me that kit with that saying to be embroidered. I still can't sew but I do so try and read thru what I type 3 times so it says what I meant. I see some sometimes go gonzo on other's written words and wonder why they waste their energy. A very well written blog with a good message. Oh, if animals could speak I wonder how and what they would say to us :)
Apr. 22, 2012 6:58 pm
Nice blog, petey. Thank you for sharing this important message.
Apr. 22, 2012 7:29 pm
Excellent blog, petey! I doubt it could have been said any better. As one who has been deeply scarred by words multiple times in my life, I appreciate those who advocate for kinder words expressed with a little more tact.
Apr. 22, 2012 10:19 pm
How rerefreshing petey: Words spoken in due season. :)
Apr. 22, 2012 10:21 pm
Sorry one too many re on that lol.
Apr. 23, 2012 4:34 am
Well said, Petey. But I have to ask when you find the time to spend a good deal of time browsing the internet with all you do?? Do you have an extra 12 hours in your day or something? :)
Apr. 23, 2012 7:20 am
LOL! That's funny Alex! I do take several short breaks throughout the day because of my RA. I can't keep going like i used to do, but I'm one of those people who likes to be outside and can't sit still for long! :)
Apr. 23, 2012 9:07 am
Truer words were never spoken. Thanks for writing this blog.As mostly a lurker here on AR I have seen some things posted that were so unnecessary.Why would anyone say unkind things to someone that they don't know. Imagine what they say to the people they do know!!!Keep these blogs coming, I enjoy everyone of them.
Apr. 23, 2012 9:39 am
Amen, Petey, Amen. :)
Apr. 24, 2012 5:36 am
Oh, yes, petey. How many times do I wish I could retract what I'd written or said! Thanks for the reminder!
J. Dub 
Aug. 9, 2012 11:25 am
Well spoken, Petey.
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